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How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 12:26am On Aug 15, 2015
My relationship used to be fun and lively but thing have changed.

I need tips on how to spice it up again, pls help before it's too late.
(I know u will say I should do those things I used to do, trust me, I ve even done more than I used to)
I think Bae is seeing sm1 else (I ve my reasons) but I don't wnt to loose him.

Please mature advice on how to win him back

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by sladimeji(m): 12:29am On Aug 15, 2015
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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 12:31am On Aug 15, 2015
There are just two things you can use on him.
If they fail, then forget him!
1. Sex , sex sex - I mean mind blowing sex
2. Envy, envy , envy - let him get jealous
Then, look inwards and change something about yourself you know is killing that relationship. Adieu!

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 12:39am On Aug 15, 2015
shocked
Sabrwahaqqo:
There are just two things you can use on him.
If they fail, then forget him!
1. Sex , sex sex - I mean mind blowing sex
2. Envy, envy , envy - let him get jealous
Then, look inwards and change something about yourself you know is killing that relationship. Adieu!

Thanks,
1. He claim our sex life is ok. No issue with it
2. I've done dat but it yielded no result. Instead he is the one making me jealous, he neva stop chatting with oda gals. He uses diff gals as dp but doesn't use mine and wen I complain, he will say "because I'm dating u, I shouldn't have female frnds?"

I've asked him several times if there is anytin I'm doing dat is not ok wt him but he always has noting to say.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 12:56am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:
shocked

Thanks,
1. He claim our sex life is ok. No issue with it
2. I've done dat but it yielded no result. Instead he is the one making me jealous, he neva stop chatting with oda gals. He uses diff gals as dp but doesn't use mine and wen I complain, he will say "because I'm dating u, I shouldn't have female frnds?"

I've asked him several times if there is anytin I'm doing dat is not ok wt him but he always has noting to say.
I then say let him be and just flow with Him and his gimmicks( @ least for the mean time)
So, what do you do in the mean time?
Make new great male Friends
Use them as your dp overtime
Develop new habits (He is the centre of yo world now I guess, so, shift and invest more of yo time on other things)
And make sure yo having fun.
(Those will make him jealous)
With these you will be in the position He is now and you can now take charge and redefine yo relationship.
BTW, Are you guys for real ( probably heading for the altar)?

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 1:05am On Aug 15, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:

I then say let him be and just flow with Him and his gimmicks( @ least for the mean time)
So, what do you do in the mean time?
Make new great male Friends
Use them as your dp overtime
Develop new habits (He is the centre of yo world now I guess, so, shift and invest more of yo time on other things)
And make sure yo having fun.
(Those will make him jealous)
With these you will be in the position He is now and you can now take charge and redefine yo relationship.
BTW, Are you guys for real ( probably heading for the altar)?

I ve few male Friends I used to knw b4 him but I dnt communicate with dem like I used to, even on their bday, if I use use their pix on my dp n write hbd on pm, we will have have issue. If I decide to let him be. N stop communicating for sometime, he will be accusing me of cheating but wen I try to chat.With him, his responds are always cold. He finds it hard to communicate wt me both on calls and social netwrks.
Heading to the alter, I really can't say yes or no cos d ways tinx are going, I dnt knw whr I stand with him.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 1:16am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:


I ve few male Friends I used to knw b4 him but I dnt communicate with dem like I used to, even on their bday, if I use use their pix on my dp n write hbd on pm, we will have have issue. If I decide to let him be. N stop communicating for sometime, he will be accusing me of cheating but wen I try to chat.With him, his responds are always cold. He finds it hard to communicate wt me both on calls and social netwrks.
Heading to the alter, I really can't say yes or no cos d ways tinx are going, I dnt knw whr I stand with him.
Lolx, This is the type of game I play.
He knows u love him so much. So, just fake it and behave like you don't give a f*ck too showing him yo nasty side. Don't be his cheap whorl'ol . You deserve not to be treated like a piece af sh*t. Give yoself some rizpekt by making him feel jealous if you really can't lego #Adieu.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 1:19am On Aug 15, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:

Lolx, This is the type of game I play.
He knows u love him so much. So, just fake it and behave like you don't give a f*ck too showing him yo nasty side. Don't be his cheap whorl'ol . You deserve not to be treated like a piece af sh*t. Give yoself some rizpekt by making him feel jealous if you really can't lego #Adieu.

Thanks.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 1:22am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:

Thanks.
tutto bene

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 1:29am On Aug 15, 2015
Don't just assume bae is seeing someone else, but find out when, where, how and why things suddenly went wrong . Trust me without knowing these then you may not find a solution. I wish you all the best.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 5:22am On Aug 15, 2015
If he's tired of you and looking for a way to leave, there is nothing u can do about it, u just have to prepare ur mind for the worst.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:31am On Aug 15, 2015
If he's no longer interested even a 100 tankers of gasoline can't rekindle nothing. I know how difficult it may be but your best bet is giving him space no matter how difficult it may be. Use that time in building yourself and gaining your own emotional independence. Just a case of a guy messing with you because he knows you are really into him. You just need to show him your world can revolve around anyone you choose

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by CHM11: 8:24am On Aug 15, 2015
firstEVA:
If he's tired of you and looking for a way to leave, there is nothing u can do about it, u just have to prepare ur mind for the worst.
Mzflexydeeva:
If he's no longer interested even a 100 tankers of gasoline can't rekindle nothing. I know how difficult it may be but your best bet is giving him space no matter how difficult it may be. Use that time in building yourself and gaining your own emotional independence. Just a case of a guy messing with you because he knows you are really into him. You just need to show him your world can revolve around anyone you choose

Nice one girls.

Jvgal if he is not so into you anymore, there's nothing you can do. To be sure about the real situation, here's my advice, its harsh but its the best way out.

BREAK UP WITH HIM...but keep an open mind incase he comes begging. If he does come begging, don't accept easily without letting him know how hurt and neglected you feel then tell him all his flaws that you aint cool with. Guys dread break up with girls they love.

If he doesn't come begging, then that's good riddance.....don't be scared of losing him....If you lose him because of this, then he was never worth it.


Live your life and trust in your qualities as a girl from intellect to beauty...... A good man loves a good woman.



Talking from experience, I was once like him- immature and flirty......got this angel who was all I wanted in a woman but because I knew she was damn into me, I just kept her in one corner with the mindset that when its time to marry, I will just marry her but lemme flex other girls, so I neglected her. She complained and complained but I wasn't moved. Then came the almighty break up....she broke up with me, at first it seemed like she was joking but she became serious....that's when I knew I had not been a good bf. Took a few weeks before she accepted back with tears in her eyes that I had changed and I didn't really care about her...... Since then its been a beautiful relationship to be cemented in a few months.

Good wife materials are scarce these days, guys know this,...so we won't want to lose the ones we have....only dumbb underage or immature guys won't care if they lose a good girl.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 9:55am On Aug 15, 2015
CHM11:


Nice one girls.

Jvgal if he is not so into you anymore, there's nothing you can do. To be sure about the real situation, here's my advice, its harsh but its the best way out.

BREAK UP WITH HIM...but keep an open mind incase he comes begging. If he does come begging, don't accept easily without letting him know how hurt and neglected you feel then tell him all his flaws that you aint cool with. Guys dread break up with girls they love.

If he doesn't come begging, then that's good riddance.....don't be scared of losing him....If you lose him because of this, then he was never worth it.


Live your life and trust in your qualities as a girl from intellect to beauty...... A good man loves a good woman.



Talking from experience, I was once like him- immature and flirty......got this angel who was all I wanted in a woman but because I knew she was damn into me, I just kept her in one corner with the mindset that when its time to marry, I will just marry her but lemme flex other girls, so I neglected her. She complained and complained but I wasn't moved. Then came the almighty break up....she broke up with me, at first it seemed like she was joking but she became serious....that's when I knew I had not been a good bf. Took a few weeks before she accepted back with tears in her eyes that I had changed and I didn't really care about her...... Since then its been a beautiful relationship to be cemented in a few months.

Good wife materials are scarce these days, guys know this,...so we won't want to lose the ones we have....only dumbb underage or immature guys won't care if they lose a good girl.
nice one
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 10:27am On Aug 15, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
If he's no longer interested even a 100 tankers of gasoline can't rekindle nothing. I know how difficult it may be but your best bet is giving him space no matter how difficult it may be. Use that time in building yourself and gaining your own emotional independence. Just a case of a guy messing with you because he knows you are really into him. You just need to show him your world can revolve around anyone you choose

Thnks,
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 10:31am On Aug 15, 2015
firstEVA:
If he's tired of you and looking for a way to leave, there is nothing u can do about it, u just have to prepare ur mind for the worst.

My dear, he is tired n looking for a way to leave, dat I knw. I just wnted to try once more, I felt there is smtin. I can do to make him stay but notin is working. Seems it's time I take a bow
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Gurgle(f): 10:33am On Aug 15, 2015
I think you should leave him, hes taking you for a ride and you have made a lot of effort to find out whats wrong

Please go, its annoying me even reading it. When you said he fights you for using other guys' photo as dp, now hes using his female friends own as dp and he doesn't care

Whats the meaning of that
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 10:37am On Aug 15, 2015
CHM11:


Nice one girls.

Jvgal if he is not so into you anymore, there's nothing you can do. To be sure about the real situation, here's my advice, its harsh but its the best way out.

BREAK UP WITH HIM...but keep an open mind incase he comes begging. If he does come begging, don't accept easily without letting him know how hurt and neglected you feel then tell him all his flaws that you aint cool with. Guys dread break up with girls they love.

If he doesn't come begging, then that's good riddance.....don't be scared of losing him....If you lose him because of this, then he was never worth it.


Live your life and trust in your qualities as a girl from intellect to beauty...... A good man loves a good woman.



Talking from experience, I was once like him- immature and flirty......got this angel who was all I wanted in a woman but because I knew she was damn into me, I just kept her in one corner with the mindset that when its time to marry, I will just marry her but lemme flex other girls, so I neglected her. She complained and complained but I wasn't moved. Then came the almighty break up....she broke up with me, at first it seemed like she was joking but she became serious....that's when I knew I had not been a good bf. Took a few weeks before she accepted back with tears in her eyes that I had changed and I didn't really care about her...... Since then its been a beautiful relationship to be cemented in a few months.

Good wife materials are scarce these days, guys know this,...so we won't want to lose the ones we have....only dumbb underage or immature guys won't care if they lose a good girl.

Nice one, just as u said only "dumbb underage or immature guys won't care if they lose a good" . He is not moved by breakup. I ve tried dat but. It didn't shake him.
Well, thanks. I tik I knw wht to do. Life is full of many options
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:


My dear, he is tired n looking for a way to leave, dat I knw. I just wnted to try once more, I felt there is smtin. I can do to make him stay but notin is working. Seems it's time I take a bow
dear, I have an idea of how u feel right now, like I have said, there is nothing u can do right now to change his mind. If u had a fight I would have asked u to apologise, change ur ways and all that, but since u've done nothing to deserve his change of attitude, it's time u walk away, it hard but for the sake of your heart, pls do. Ur man is out there, it may not be him.
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 10:41am On Aug 15, 2015
Gurgle:
I think you should leave him, hes taking you for a ride and you have made a lot of effort to find out whats wrong

Please go, its annoying me even reading it. When you said he fights you for using other guys' photo as dp, now hes using his female friends own as dp and he doesn't care

Whats the meaning of that

Babe! The thing is annoying, he feel he has. Right to do whateva he like but I dnt.
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 10:54am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:
My relationship used to be fun and lively but thing have changed.

I need tips on how to spice it up again, pls help before it's too late.
(I know u will say I should do those things I used to do, trust me, I ve even done more than I used to)
I think Bae is seeing sm1 else (I ve my reasons) but I don't wnt to loose him.

Please mature advice on how to win him back
...kindly check my dp and click on the topic.. "Must read for every ladies;10 points to keep your man"..you will be glad you did...
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by mrkay101(m): 11:06am On Aug 15, 2015
Have u tried talking to him.. the key to a good relationship is communication.

Tell him all you've mentioned here and see he's reaction. If it doesn't Change then u know where u stand.

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Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by wiringdpt(m): 11:09am On Aug 15, 2015
Start with communicating, it's very important and it will reveal lots of things
JVgal:
My relationship used to be fun and lively but thing have changed.

I need tips on how to spice it up again, pls help before it's too late.
(I know u will say I should do those things I used to do, trust me, I ve even done more than I used to)
I think Bae is seeing sm1 else (I ve my reasons) but I don't wnt to loose him.

Please mature advice on how to win him back
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 11:13am On Aug 15, 2015
Gurgle:
I think you should leave him, hes taking you for a ride and you have made a lot of effort to find out whats wrong

Please go, its annoying me even reading it. When you said he fights you for using other guys' photo as dp, now hes using his female friends own as dp and he doesn't care

Whats the meaning of that
..not that possible if shes deep in love..theres still chance for redemption..
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Gurgle(f): 11:17am On Aug 15, 2015
Randyhot:
..not that possible if shes deep in love..theres still chance for redemption..

Maybe; what do you suggest?
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Gurgle(f): 11:19am On Aug 15, 2015
JVgal:


Babe! The thing is annoying, he feel he has. Right to do whateva he like but I dnt.

Its not ok but maybe you need to change your approach to it
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by JVgal(f): 11:20am On Aug 15, 2015
mrkay101:
Have u tried talking to him.. the key to a good relationship is communication.

Tell him all you've mentioned here and see he's reaction. If it doesn't Change then u know where u stand.


Communication?
Dis is d beginning of the problem, anytime I wnt use to talk about wht is happening, he will say I nag too much dat I always complain about him. Last time, he said d relationship is becoming cos off d distant, but d distant has bn there from d onset. Ok, I left all I hv to do n travel to meet him, d few days I stayed, he ws constantly giving me attitude. If I'm in d sitting room, he will b in bedroom, if I'm in d bedroom, he will b in d sitting room playing games or Chating on fone.
If I wnt to bring up discussion about us, he will say dis is d reason he is getting tired of me.
Pls hw else do I communicate?
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 11:21am On Aug 15, 2015
Gurgle:


Maybe; what do you suggest?
..i have it all outlined in my topic.."Must read for every lady; Ten points to keep your man"..she should check it out..
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Gurgle(f): 11:23am On Aug 15, 2015
Randyhot:
..i have it all outlined in my topic.."Must read for every lady; Ten points to keep your man"..she should check it out..

Ok maybe that's it
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Ariani: 11:24am On Aug 15, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:
There are just two things you can use on him.
If they fail, then forget him!
1. Sex , sex sex - I mean mind blowing sex
2. Envy, envy , envy - let him get jealous
Then, look inwards and change something about yourself you know is killing that relationship. Adieu!

must evrytin be sex?
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 11:26am On Aug 15, 2015
Gurgle:

Ok maybe that's it
Re: How Do I Rekindle My Dying Relationship? by Nobody: 12:23pm On Aug 15, 2015
dear, i feel so bad you're going through this,believe me you're not the only one that has experienced/is experiencing such my advice to you is that you move on,else you'll never be happy, ignore those talks of engaging in more sex with him or keeping mute, the more you try to please him the lower you drop before him and the more your self esteem suffers you can never change a man who dosen't want to,and please do not make the mistake of pleading with him to be more committed or to open up to you because he's going to think you're crying wolf. if you're still at his house,go back home without complaining about his attitude and don't bother calling him again,don't allow anyone treat you like you're irrelevant , you should be treated like the queen that you are, take care.

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