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Aminat508:
How do you react when you have a young child that steals? You've talked to him/her several times, told him/her everything that has to be said about the consequences of pilfering. You do ALL you can to provide his needs and wants. But he keeps 'doing it'. How do you help or stop such a child? A reader sent this in yesterday:

Hello,

My son steals from me, my husband, my mother, his grandparents, his friends, everybody!! Please, let's discuss this here because I'm sure I'm not the only mother having this problem. If it's not money, it's things as small as tiny toys and games from neighbors. Sincerely, it's gotten so bad I don't know what to do with him anymore. My husband and I now have locks on our bedroom door to keep him out.

Problem started when he was 11 and got into boarding school. He is 13 now. I've threatened him that next time he steals, I would have the police involved. Of course I don't want to or plan to do that but I don't know what else to do.


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hmmmmm! Dis is terrible and sum how ooh. U better take him 2 deliverance center now ooh b4 he turn 2 dis......

Keep praying for him. He will grow pass the stage.

Aminat508:
How do you react when you have a young child that steals? You've talked to him/her several times, told him/her everything that has to be said about the consequences of pilfering. You do ALL you can to provide his needs and wants. But he keeps 'doing it'. How do you help or stop such a child? A reader sent this in yesterday:

Hello,

My son steals from me, my husband, my mother, his grandparents, his friends, everybody!! Please, let's discuss this here because I'm sure I'm not the only mother having this problem. If it's not money, it's things as small as tiny toys and games from neighbors. Sincerely, it's gotten so bad I don't know what to do with him anymore. My husband and I now have locks on our bedroom door to keep him out.

Problem started when he was 11 and got into boarding school. He is 13 now. I've threatened him that next time he steals, I would have the police involved. Of course I don't want to or plan to do that but I don't know what else to do.


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@OP stealing runs in your bloodline... either you or d father.. go figure

Kleptomania? Na wa 2 u oo! Na sanko tins na.

Prayer, Spiritual, Teaching, Watching, Nurturing, Monitoring... All have to be tried.

At this teenage, you have to be experimental, since you may not know why he do steel, in fact if he get caught himself may feel bad about it. I remember I myself do steal from my Mum a lot when was 9-11 (never from outsider) but getting to teenage I just develop hate for stealing because i dont feel comfortable doing it, mine should be miracle.

You have to be experimental on him, but dont be harsh on him. try to engage him in some activities, like house chores, let him do his assignment by himself in fact add more to his activities but not overwhelming.

If he doesnt lie then his case is just psychological and if he was engaged in some productive activities stealing habit may leave him soon. You yourself need to monitor him, ask him a lot of question that will bring him close to you, and be ready to provide the answer as well. try as much as possible to get close to you so he would be able to open his mind to you.

Pray for Him and teach him how to pray

Let me stop here

Beat craze from the pikin body , then talk to him. assure him he wud receive twice the beating if he steals again. spare the rod, spoli the child.
I remember when i stole biscuit from our gatemans kiosk and i was caught, the beating my dad gave me, stills plays in my head clearly... deadly beating.

Show him videos of people that were burnt for stealing..

No child starts stealing at age 11, he probably started taking things not his at a very young age. By age 5, if a kid takes what is not his or hers without asking, they should be punished and counselled.

If he is a kleptomaniac, it is more psychological and you should try to find out when this kid probably crave your attention and support and you were not there.

The healing process is long but you have to start by getting closer to him and giving him responsibilities that requires trust. Open up the locked rooms or put the valuables there in his care. By passing the guilty verdict on him, he will definitely play the role of ''catch me if u can by revolting ''. Also, during holidays, ensure he is fully occupied in productive activities including sports. And you can teach him a skill that can earn him small change or let him develop one he is passionate about.

The process will be gradual and you should not feel depressed if he goes back to his old habits even when u think progress has been made. He is still young and the father needs to play a critical role in all of this. It is not all thieves that steal because of needs, sometimes it is a way for very smart kids to show us sometimes they can get away with it. You need to analyse properly to know which one is the reason for your kids stealing because same approach won't work for both.

The old ways of corporal punishment sometimes work, if the kid has genuine love and respect for your feelings. Because most kids do not like disappointing their parents. If you are not so sure of this, don't try corporal punishment as it will backfire big time.

Best of luck as I sincerely believe at his age, it is still not a lost cause.

REFER HIM TO THE SCHOOL COUNSELLORS-CONFIDENTIAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL APPROACHES.

Take him to SCOAN prayer line.

Take him to sharia state where his hands will be cut off if he steals. Remember what the bible says,if your right hand will make you steal,cut it off. Its better for him to live without hands than to disgrace you or tarnish your image

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away. (Proverbs 22:15)

13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die.
14 Punish them with the rod and save them from death. (Proverbs 23: 13-14)

Ask your hubby when he stopped stealing during his time; it will help you wait till ur son stops.

No child starts stealing at age 11, he probably started taking things not his at a very young age. By age 5, if he a kid takes what is not his or hers without asking, they should be punished and counselled.

If he is a kleptomaniac, it is more psychological and you should try to find out when this kids probably crave your attention and support and you were not there.

The healing process is long but you have to start by getting closer to him and giving him responsibilities that requires trust. Open up the locked rooms or put the valuables there in his care. By passing the guilty verdict on him, by denying him access to the rooms, he will definitely play the role of ''catch me if u can by revolting ''. Also, during holidays, ensure his is fully occupied in productive activities including sports. You also teach him a skill that can earn him small change or let him develop one he is passionate about.

The process should be gradual and you should not feel depressed if he goes back to his old habits even when u think progress has been made. He is still young and the father needs to play a critical role in all of this. It is not all thieves that steal because of needs, sometimes it is a way of very smart kids to show us sometimes they can get away with it. You need to analyse properly to know which one is the reason for your kids reason for stealing because same approach won't work for both.

The old ways of corporal punishment sometimes work, if the kid has genuine love and respect your feelings. Because most kids do not like disappointing their parents. If you are not so sure about this, don't try corporal punishment as it will backfire big time.

Best of luck as I sincerely believe at his age, it is still not a lost cause.

I see a Tinubu in the making, please rejoice cs Tinubu has reincarnated in your child

Aminat508:
How do you react when you have a young child that steals? You've talked to him/her several times, told him/her everything that has to be said about the consequences of pilfering. You do ALL you can to provide his needs and wants. But he keeps 'doing it'. How do you help or stop such a child? A reader sent this in yesterday:

Hello,

My son steals from me, my husband, my mother, his grandparents, his friends, everybody!! Please, let's discuss this here because I'm sure I'm not the only mother having this problem. If it's not money, it's things as small as tiny toys and games from neighbors. Sincerely, it's gotten so bad I don't know what to do with him anymore. My husband and I now have locks on our bedroom door to keep him out.

Problem started when he was 11 and got into boarding school. He is 13 now. I've threatened him that next time he steals, I would have the police involved. Of course I don't want to or plan to do that but I don't know what else to do.


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he will stop on his own, when your parents are self sufficient, but a child still steals, its most likely a phase, an adventurous rebellious phase, he question all and trying to find his way, letting his curiosity and whim lead him, right now his operating under the whip of his teenage stage, wisdom is not developed by words or in a day, genuie wisdom is the product of genuine contemplation,, give him time, he would out grow it, just keep scolding, teaching, pointing out whats right and do not waver in your resolve, hammer it into his head that his a good child, a good person, he will realize his falling short of his own expectations NOT YOURZ.
HIS LISTENING BUT NOT PAYING NOT PAYING ATTENTION, HE KNOWS WHAT IS RIGHT, THE WILL / REASON TO DO IS WHAT H3 LACKS.

IN OTHER TO GAIN CONTROL, YOU MUST HAVE LOST IT AT ONE POINT IN YOUR LIFE.

SOME SOULS ARE NATURA WONDERERS, NATURAL TROUBLED, VEXED, CURIOUS, SEEKERS ETC everyone is not the same, but end we all find our way.

I also went through that phase too, men i gave my parents tough time,and funny thing my dad was a soldier then, no punishment i did not do, down to been locked in guild room, i still gave them tough time, down to scaling fence, running away from home to sleep outside under bridge, roaming in the dead of the night, when i stole there money and am done spending when time for retribution comes i run out, spend weeks outside like one homeless child, but ma parents were more than capable parents, it still dnt stop me, but eventually i out grew it, i found a reason to stop, not stop stealing, stealing was never ma problem, desiring, curiosity, foolishness, lavishing lifestyle was ma problem, the word for it is i was stupid and lacked wisdom/sense. Am natural not a conformist,independent and stubborn yet curious and intelligent "thats when am not skipping school" and yet i'll still cum match untop all there heads and still cum out amongst top 10 in class, but keeping me in school was a problem, i get bored with routines, and following a definite methodology.

MsBliss:
Carry am go Army school or report him to one soldier then leave him in the soldier's care for just one day.Go back in the evening to pick up your changed son.

D man in u has spoken.

Aminat508:
How do you react when you have a young child that steals? You've talked to him/her several times, told him/her everything that has to be said about the consequences of pilfering. You do ALL you can to provide his needs and wants. But he keeps 'doing it'. How do you help or stop such a child? A reader sent this in yesterday:

Hello,

My son steals from me, my husband, my mother, his grandparents, his friends, everybody!! Please, let's discuss this here because I'm sure I'm not the only mother having this problem. If it's not money, it's things as small as tiny toys and games from neighbors. Sincerely, it's gotten so bad I don't know what to do with him anymore. My husband and I now have locks on our bedroom door to keep him out.

Problem started when he was 11 and got into boarding school. He is 13 now. I've threatened him that next time he steals, I would have the police involved. Of course I don't want to or plan to do that but I don't know what else to do.
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sell him

Cutehector:
Only Jesus can save him

so dey should leave him alone.....jesus would help him if his mummy finds smtin tangible to do abt it...if nah me....nah to find beta cain flog hin head...i rembrd my time...afta some time it sinked in....i stopped

demmy0325:
.. That doesnt look normal to me anymre.. Involve God.. Go seek Ur pastor...

involve pastor!!!!!!.the woman go get pregnant in 2weeks period!

I am occupied and can't go into detail on the hint I will give u below but u can send ur number through my email (chimaj541@gmail.com) so that I can give ur a call by 7:30 tomorrow.
This are the hints:
first: The both parent background
second: The friends of child and
Thirdly: The school the child attends.

The best way to secure a child's future is to bring the child up in the way of the lord. For the lady i will advice you is to take that boy for prayers and counseling i guess is in the age of accountability (knows between good and bad).thank

Maybe he belongs Everybody and belongs to Nobody

Please let him go for Deliverance. Continuing Pray for him. He is Destiny Child that why Enemy want to kill him before
his time. Special child always confront a lot of Battle. His that will say no to the Devil.

Am trying to guess where he got dat gene from, his mum or dad? All doz stealing una dey do, including stealin biro, pencil, ppls notebook nd handout, pants, giraffin, stealin meat from ur mother's pot, dere is alwys a payday... Remind urself how u stopped nd bliev he wud stop... Dnt be afraid

GB Or JJ is what I will recommend for him.

General Beating or Jungle Justice.

Na Joke O! Just turn to God.

kaorama:
Ask ur Mum what she did when she was in the same situation.

that's harsh bro... You know some of these behaviours, it's not as if maybe the parents must have lived such lives...

Best remedy so far is to jail him.........lol

Take him to church for deliverance. It is an arrow from the enemy. Don't mind whatever is your believe, just do that to save his future. If you are doing fetish, it will only expand the problem.

Yhu have to find out the type of person he is, his character might not be a recessive one, dominant character and personality type usually equals stubborn and independent people, if you the parents do not possess the character he posses that might be a problem, cause you can not see things the way he sees them, he might feel misplaced "i did". Balancing personality, identity in the world today is not as easy as it sounds, for someone with a sense of identity or a natural conformity its easy but for a natural seeker, wonderer, independent, intelligent person it is not easy, its a bit more complex.

-i wasnt taught to steal by anyone, truth of the matter is i had no friends.
-when my parents up their game, i up main resourceful smart for the sack of been smart, i also believe there is a way. The way i analysis ma parents activities like calculator back then.

Point is i was questioning, exercising what i did not understand but had within me. Its not enough to say a child is intelligent, a child can be crafty too, attention to details, resourceful etc but like everything in life skill are mostly tested negatively first until realization sets in.