UjSizzle:
Nice post, Miz. Read the (1st?) edition on your blog. Decided to come see the comments here but... well, family section happened after the second page.

I agree with you on this one-- self-love is the very foundation of love itself. You can only project what you give yourself.

And Enoquin, nice one about serving oneself At least I know am not queer when I 'over set' the table and carry my food in a tray

We all should learn to be kind to ourself.

edwife:


Chilli and who are the one typing i am a feminist impressing?

Is there a reward to that? Do they pay people or write your name somewhere ?

Chillis:


Their is no better reward believing in something and sticking to it.

I don't have a problem with non feminist.
I have a problem with those that enjoy the reward by the fight of some of these activist , those that preach the same thing the activist are fighting for then turn around and say..

"Pls oh ,I'm not a feminist'

What a joke

Chillis:


Their is no better reward believing in something and sticking to it.

I don't have a problem with non feminist.
I have a problem with those that enjoy the reward by the fight of some of these activist , those that preach the same thing the activist are fighting for then turn around and say..

"Pls oh ,I'm not a feminist '

What a joke

edwife:


We have activist for every human right,enjoying the reward is not the problem,the problem here is must i be tagged?

If some of their beliefs or ideologies don't stick with me should i just accept it because they fought for me?

My mother has been working before i even know what feminism is all about and have done well for her and her family without being tagged a feminist,why should I?

Chillis:


You are not a feminist. Simply. I don't know there is a tag for feminist.

My dad is a feminist because of his beliefs but I don't go around calling him a feminist . He doesn't g around too saying I'm a feminist.

His actions shows it.
Non feminist should give themselves another name and leave our feminist name for us abeg.

MizMyColi:


Well, personally I think Love is who we are.
It's not something that is learned.
It's a default state of being.

But somehow, we have deviated to practicing everything that love is not.
And we are so cool with it, it has become a norm!

3rdlegxxx:

babe you just killed it here! thumbs up and a high 5.

Thank you!

MizMyColi:
Crackhaus,
How are you able to make so much sense?

I envy you

pickabeau1:
crackhaus..


I don't want no free bleeders

Free the Nip - ples.. seems ok

SUGARBEE:


How sweet thanks... People see love and relationships more like a science which requires studying, guidelines and tutoring whereby I see love and relationships as an art

An art where you flow with the tides of an interpersonal feeling, a feeling of curiosity to know and unravel everything about another person.. Love really is mysterious

crackhaus:

Lol, no leave them be o. . let em' be freeing everything free-able if it makes them fulfilled.
It's really not my business if some so-called 21st century numbskulls decide to be so dirty and repulsive by allowing their blood flow freely down their crotch without pads or tampons.


These NL stock of feminists should just align with one movement and stick to it FFS... I bet even the married ones here answer their husband's surname with the prefix Mrs. so gloriously attached to it.
And here I thought Miss Chimamanda Adichie their Messiah knew it all, I wonder why they haven't followed her in towing her path with the 'I-am-a-strong-educated-woman-who's-worth-cannot-be-measured-by-the-man-I-married' horsesh!t.

Waoh! Beautiful piece.

Very deep, very insightful.

Chillis:


There is no better reward believing in something and sticking to it.

I don't have a problem with non feminist.
I have a problem with those that enjoy the reward by the fight of some of these activist , those that preach the same thing the activist are fighting for then turn around and say..

"Pls oh ,I'm not a feminist '

What a joke

crackhaus:
You sit in the comfort of your struggled-to-acquire cubicle in the west and scream to high heavens about how you're a feminist, yet your neighbour's daughter back home in Nigeria still wakes up in the morning to hawk banana and groundnut just to make ends meet while her peers are in a classroom somewhere learning.
You have not made a difference in the life of one underprivileged young girl or woman in the village you come from by affecting her outcome and future, yet you're a bloody feminist.

The ones (probably related to you) that you've even managed to buy sewing machine for, you only did because you enjoy the idea of someone running to you calling you 'Aunty' and kissing your feet whenever they see you.

Charity organization, you can't start.
Organize grassroot rallies for your cause, you no fit.
Change the situation of some random young girl/woman on the streets, you don't even have the resources for it.

All y'all know how to do is sit behind your phones and laptops all day (probably jobless or earning meager wages) and scream I am a feminist without anything to show for it, except to claim the successes of your forbearers like y'all had anything to do with that - do you think they achieved what you say you're now enjoying by sitting behind technology, practising lazy feminism, and hating on anyone who refuses to be tagged as a feminist?

At least you people should join the free-the-tips campaign or the free-blood-flow campaign of some feminists so you can at least be seen as practising some form of what you preach, instead of being everywhere and nowhere.
Lawd knows I got no problem with freeing-the-tips, one can never see enough of b00bs...so please, go for it.

francizy:


I actually wanted to read thru this thread and move on as it mostly is meant for the ladies but the bolded caught my attention. You deserve a hug and a handshake.

Now lemme comment in line with the bolded, I've noticed that it seems like a norm for ladies out there to always expect the guy she's dating to do things like her ex. You know, the things he did in the past that made her smile. Even if the guy is trying in his own ways to make her smile, women can't always refrain from comparing a guy with their exs and I ask, if the ex was so perfect and she was so into him, then why did they break up?

I guess a man is supposed to pen down all the things that a lady's ex did and then read it as a manual in order to be able to have a smooth relationship.

There's this ex of mine that complained bitterly and said I wasn't romantic just because I wouldn't carry her hand bag and her past bfs carried her hand bag for her. So my question to her was "you called them your exs but am not your ex, so why tell me to do things your exs did? To her, I was to do it since her exs did it bearing in mind that I hated such with passion. I can help my woman carry anything other than a female handbag cuz am not a gay dude for crying out loud. Well that's the past by the way. Although she wasn't the only girl that compared me with exs.

Sometimes women get mad at a guy for doing things they usually did and the guy overlooked it. This is probably because they feel we men are supernatural beings and can handle being hurt while women should never be hurt. They nag at every opportunity and at anything not giving a hoot if the said guy can take such for so long.

Women complain a lot about men but when they finally meet one who wants to stay true to them, they disappoint such person then why won't they eventually end up with the wrong man.

Like Miz said, women should do a soul searching and know what they really want, then do that thing that makes them happy. If they wanna date a man, they should go ahead, if they feel five at a go will make them happy, then they should consider that. The fact is, at the very end, one shouldn't expect to receive what one didn't give.

crackhaus:

Lol, no leave them be o. . let em' be freeing everything free-able if it makes them fulfilled.
It's really not my business if some so-called 21st century numbskulls decide to be so dirty and repulsive by allowing their blood flow freely down their crotch without pads or tampons.


These NL stock of feminists should just align with one movement and stick to it FFS... I bet even the married ones here answer their husband's surname with the prefix Mrs. so gloriously attached to it.
And here I thought Miss Chimamanda Adichie their Messiah knew it all, I wonder why they haven't followed her in towing her path with the 'I-am-a-strong-educated-woman-who's-worth-cannot-be-measured-by-the-man-I-married' horsesh!t.

damiso:


I don't even know what to say type again.....

See me defending us on another post . You people don fall my hand o


Na wa for NL.

@ OP nice original post by the way.

Chillis:


You are not a feminist. Simply. I don't know there is a tag for feminist.

My dad is a feminist because of his beliefs but I don't go around calling him a feminist . He doesn't g around too saying I'm a feminist.

His actions shows it.
Non feminist should give themselves another name and leave our feminist name for us abeg.

Chillis:


I guess its because she was on contract. One man(private) company is usually the worst.

They have ruined America yet they use all their savings to get a tiny visit visa and start hiding like refugees in the ruined country

kaboninc:
Put too many women in a cage, none will be left alive.


What a troublesome set of individuals even among their clan.

If women were to rule this world, I would be walking around NAKEDDD and still latch onto my mother's bossomm. Even asking her to strap me on her back.

Thank God for men....at least their is orderliness....

MizMyColi:



I have been subconsciously waiting for you.


Usually, the guy does all the chasing, gives the girl she's the "best thing since butter was introduced to sliced bread treatment", and then the moment he notices that bae is falling hard, he balls out, either gradually, or completely.
Woe betide that girl if she gives in to sex too early and is the kind who prefers connecting emotionally to material connections.
O ba je ti ti ti.

I will not rule out the fact that some ladies too nuh dey try, and the fact that we tend to go lax when the guy shows too much care and attention, but that's a topic for another day.

I believe, like my friend opined, that...A relationship consisting of two self aware people is one to be desired.

freecocoa:
Two or more women fighting here doesn't/shouldn't change anything.

Can you count how many men on here sagamite, coogar, davidlyn, Dayokanu, shymex etc, have beef with?

kaboninc:


Brother, this is an animal KingTom

We do not share things here. We fight for it.

There are many sweeries that should catch your fancy. MizMyColi, is definitely out of your reach.

But you are welcome into the fold though...like I said.

Here we'll teach you how to read someone insulting you and you laugh and grow a tough skin. You get to argue with goats and sheep and worms all in the shape of a human body.

Oh...we're derailing...and I promised Miz that I wouldn't derail her thread....

I trust her to forgive me.