Kachisbarbie:


c'mon...na you dey talk this thing?

A lot of girls have asked their male besties very silly questions at some point and vice-versa. 'Are you gay?' after an unadventurous night together is very common and should be taken lightly pls_ more as a compliment, than an insult or invitation for more.

chocolateme:
Its not too late, call her back now and grant her the desires of her heart since she is so blinded to observe the respect you accorded her.
Tomorrow they will say that guys don't have levels of self control.
Mtschrwww!!

FTC

chocolateme:
Its not too late, call her back now and grant her the desires of her heart since she is so blinded to observe the respect you accorded her.
Tomorrow they will say that guys don't have levels of self control.
Mtschrwww!!

FTC

Truckpusher:
Of course I said that friends can always talk about everything .

Na the Op get all that grammar joor.

Truckpusher:
Well, self control is subjective here .

freecocoa:
Pray tell, how?

Kachisbarbie:


c'mon...na you dey talk this thing?

A lot of girls have asked their male besties very silly questions at some point and vice-versa. 'Are you gay?' after an unadventurous night together is very common and should be taken lightly pls_ more as a compliment, than an insult or invitation for more.

Kachisbarbie:


Na the Op get all that grammar joor.

Truckpusher:
Na from my mouth you wan hear say na Hausa get army work?

freecocoa:
I strongly disagree, why are you asking if he is gay when you aren't interested?why would you expect adventure(I take it as some intimacy)with a guy you aren't romantically interested in or involved with? You shouldn't discuss sex in suggestive manners with a guy, if you are not interested, doing so is definitely an invite for more.

freecocoa:
I strongly disagree, why are you asking if he is gay when you aren't interested?why would you expect adventure(I take it as some intimacy)with a guy you aren't romantically interested in or involved with? You shouldn't discuss sex in suggestive manners with a guy, if you are not interested, doing so is definitely an invite for more.

Kachisbarbie:


Opposite sex friends talk a lot of trashy things together_ that doesn't make it right neither does it always make their intent wrong.

Some guys understand the above, some don't.

freecocoa:
I understand trashy talk and do it with a lot of my friends, but the tone, context, body language etc matter alot, remember you said "after an unadventurous night" that's the part I have a problem with, why expect any adventure from a friend you aren't involved with? Let's say you even expect it because you don't trust 'men' and it didn't happen, shouldn't that be a big relief and not to be talked about?

Well except you never really saw him as just a friend to start with.

Unadventurous night here is an adjective_ nothing more. Yes, a lot of girls don't trust guys, even their very close male friends, till nights like this come and go.

Some would let it slide, others in that playful tone would ask those silly questions. It doesn't reduce the friendship mode in any way as long as both parties are mature about it.

There was no body language here, the OP said she called. So, I wouldn't know how he saw her body, let alone its language.

Truckpusher:
Honestly speaking some friends can talk all the trash in the world even in a suggestive manner and even engage in physical play that are sexual in nature towards their besties that can be classified as 'offensive' by a neutral fellow - It does happen.
Some people are just down to earth that way.

freecocoa:
If you say self control is subjective, you should let us know how because I believe it's not, it is even beyond absolute.

I can understand if you say that some, don't have it.

freecocoa:
The part that got my attention is the part of the unadventurous night, do you expect some you see as just a friend to start touching you intimately when in a room with them? I also don't agree that it's okay to go touching your friends inappropriately all in the name of "play"

I am what most people call 'too liberal' for a Nigerian girl', so trust me it's not about being a prude or uptight, it's about knowing where to draw the lines, while I believe in self control, I believe also in not pushing or testing people.

Kachisbarbie:


Unadventurous night here is an adjective_ nothing more. Yes, a lot of girls don't trust guys, even their very close male friends, till nights like this come and go.

Some would let it slide, others in that playful mode would ask those silly questions. It doesn't reduce the friendship mode in any way as long as both parties are mature about it.

There was no body language here, the OP said she called. So, I wouldn't know how he saw her body, let alone its language.

freecocoa:
It's is not just an adjective from your post(didn't come off as that)might be your intent though.

I guess am wondering why you would be friends with a guy you don't trust,, that's being very careless the way I see it, someone I considered a friend had tried the nonsense with me, even to the point he wanted to be forceful and that was the end of that friendship, I think am beginning to understand why many men blame victims of r*pe.

ceeethru:
Guy you bam!

Kachisbarbie:


I TRUST only two people in this world.
One is myself_ the other ain't my friend.

ceeethru:
Guy you bam!

Truckpusher:
I can relate sha but people react differently to different situations.

Me go dun fail the test sha fail the correction join
Na joke I dey o.

Truckpusher:
You're aware that different folks react differently if they find themselves in a compromised position with the opposite sex and it's not a gender thing . Some folks would always reject sexual advances even when they had come around with the intent to have sex but the moment you have access to a particular member of their organ they just give up - so, I still maintain that self control is subjective under a lot of circumstances.
I hope you're aware that some people can't control their sexual urge if under the influence of alcohol and it happens to both gender.

freecocoa:
[size=8pt][/size]And a large part of me will not blame you for failing, the other part will only blame you for not being careful and thinking what you are about to do through, to make sure it was the right thing to do.

Demmzy15:

That's was then sha, so how today na?

We are struggling to be good brah! We ain't perfect.

We all are seeking HIS mercy

freecocoa:
My dear, whoever gives in because you touched a particular spot, did so because they already decided to do so before coming or because what to do if such comes, was undecided before coming and their the side for giving in, won the battle.

Even under the influence of alcohol(except to the point of unconsciousness), people can still make decisions.