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Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 1:00am On Aug 25, 2015 |
kandiikane:another one gets it wrong. Polygamy in Marriage is what we're talking about not prostitution 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 1:11am On Aug 25, 2015 |
jmoore:because like homosexuality, it's alien to us. 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 1:13am On Aug 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Another One bites the dust |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by GAZZUZZ(m): 7:29am On Aug 25, 2015 |
Just read thru the thread EHERBAL!!!! [img]http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQaBQQrs6gXjujgp-_vhDcNqmDt04M4zqno237x59JnUvEVV_xSfQ[/img] 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by jashar(f): 8:42am On Aug 25, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Ahn Ahn naaaa.... why you come mess for here? come pack am joor I'm yet to understand the OPs' train of thoughts. It's distorted... 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by kandiikane(m): 8:49am On Aug 25, 2015 |
eherbal:Stop talking shyt! 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 8:55am On Aug 25, 2015 |
kandiikane:stop faking shyt 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 8:57am On Aug 25, 2015 |
GAZZUZZ:nkwale weed |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by bukatyne(f): 1:34pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
eherbal: If you will mind becoming husband no 2 |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 2:04pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
bukatyne:my request is valid. Yours is unheard of. Come onboard dear.husband no2will never cross ur mind. Just become my second wife like play like play 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by bukatyne(f): 2:14pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
eherbal: Second husband unheard of ke? You need to wake up sharp sharp and move from herbal to modern medicine 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 2:54pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
bukatyne:its not recognized In Africa, talk less Nigeria. Come see my mum so we can work out The modalities. You don't have to be shy bout things like this. |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by SAMBARRY: 6:32am On Aug 26, 2015 |
jashar:exactly why I farted on the thread and mind you I've eaten beans and indomie so do the needful |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by EfemenaXY: 8:05am On Aug 31, 2015 |
eherbal: Not everyone is religious. Let's say for the sake of this argument I haven't got any religious convictions. How would you sell polgyny to me? Why shouldn't a woman have multiple husbands if she so wishes? Is that not a better option for her to keep them all under the same roof and on her matrimonial home, to avoid her committing adultery? And isn't it better she comes out clean with this with fear of getting reprimanded by society? |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by EfemenaXY: 8:08am On Aug 31, 2015 |
eherbal: What's the difference? A man whipping out his dd.ic.k to service multiple women isn't prostitution but it suddenly becomes prostitution if the woman follows suit? eherbal: Really? You saying there aren't any Nigerian homosexuals living in Nigeria? Pls get serious. 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 10:01am On Aug 31, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:homosexuality ,is illegal. By the way ,where in The World have you heard of a woman marrying two nigggas ?it's a man's World. Accept that |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by EfemenaXY: 2:14pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
[quote author=eherbal post=37518898][/quote] Go look up polyandry. It's not a new concept. I haven't got the time or interest to explain that to you. But you might want to look up the Zimbabwean case. |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by Nobody: 5:48pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Aside religion. Let me answer your question. This does not mean I support or oppose polyandry. Consider a woman getting pregnant in such a situation. Who would claim the paternity of the baby? I know you would call for DNA testing but who would cater for the needs of the mother and baby till she delivers and is ripe for a test. The confusion and complications is enough to cause big problems for such relationship. We can all argue about equal rights or not. But the fact is we were created differently and you can't always reverse roles and find such befitting to hear of. It is that simple. What is good for the goose, doesn't necessarily mean it would be good for the gander. He may he eat and choke on it. Polygamy in marital setting can be practical but polyandry would definitely cause issues when child rearing and other things is broached on. A lady can be in an open relationship with numerous partners but in an "ideal marital situation", it would be simply impractical or hard to pull off naturally. You guys just argue like secondary school kids. Positing points without facing reality. Polygamy is a form of marriage recognised by virtually almost all cultures of the world. I don't know of the other but it would be a case of you burying your head in a heap of sand by equating polygamy to prostitution. If a woman can find two men who would agree to polyandry. Then, all fine and good. I guess if you guys had your way in all these "silly equality talks" ( I support equal recognition of both genders strengths and weakness based on confined physical and emotional structures but the borderline anything a man can do , a woman should be given rights to do such) you would soon advocate for corrective surgeries to give guys wombs so they can also start carrying babies like women do. Equal rights innit? 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by innervoice(m): 6:32pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
author=johnny1980 post=37533029] The one who slept with her in the week when she was fertile. |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by Nobody: 6:42pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
innervoice: What happens if she had multiple sex with both partners in the space of days not even hours? Let us even assume they did it weekly. how do you count exactly what week the sex that fertilized her in to know exactly who did it giving some women are 2 months pregnant and are even oblivious of the fact? 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by innervoice(m): 6:50pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
johnny1980: |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by innervoice(m): 6:50pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
johnny1980: |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by innervoice(m): 6:51pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
johnny1980: It is called natural family planning method. The parties involved decide who the woman is going to get pregnant for and the to-be-father is the only one who sleeps with her during her fertile period. The other one uses condoms until she is pregnant. Just an example. |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by Nobody: 8:54pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
innervoice: And the other man has to wait till another year before she gets pregnant for him? How bleeped up does this sound to you? And what benefits does the lady even enjoy? 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by EfemenaXY: 10:07pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
johnny1980: You're hardly in a position point fingers and name call when your ill-informed post is no better than a primary school kid's. Go on google and research Polyandry. You'll get a lot of information on where it's practiced - in the past and present (modern day). 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by Nobody: 7:39am On Sep 01, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: ill informed? Why don't you bring your informed counter theories instead of the "polygamy is prostitution " and what not you were yapping about earlier instead of pointing to Google? Let me enlighten you. You as a woman would even cringe at earlier practices of polyandry. Small pockets of places in India and Himalayas that used to practice it in the past was even to the detriment of the woman. She had no say. Or how would imagine the Eldest brother in a family getting married to a woman and sharing the woman with his younger brothers, all of them taking turns to have sex with her? Such Incest and barbarism is what you would cite as equality for women? Fact is, the cases of polyandry we had in the past was never in favour of the women and can never be, they were never the deciders just pawns in the scheme of things. Nature can't be cheated. They owned her like a family motor to be ridden by any of the male family members with a di.ck. Sounds progressive for women I guess as long as she does what a man can do. Until you people realise the genders were created differently and each have their defined roles. Trying to find equality amongst them in virtually everything would be useless. 2 Likes |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by innervoice(m): 2:11pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
johnny1980: First of all, not all people marry ALL their spouses simultaneously. In fact, many people marry the second spouse several years into the first marriage so when the second husband / wife comes, the first already has a kid or two or three. Secondly, why can't the second husband wait? |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 1:24pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
bukatyne:the herbal in my name is weed. I'll forever choose weed over Modern Day medicine, which has done nothing but enslave peeps. Weed liberate, just as old School polygamy 1 Like |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by eherbal(m): 1:27pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Bukatyne dear................. |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by kandiikane(m): 9:14pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
[quote author=eherbal post=37518898][/quote] You never heard of women marrying two men? Read a book or two? |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by Adaeze003(f): 12:36am On Sep 03, 2015 |
johnny1980: Pretty sure you pulled out those "facts" from your arse... Polyandry was a thing of pride in some cultures. Women actually made moves to marry another man. Some even mocked others that didn't marry more. So, before you come here and tell us about your "assifacts", do your research... You now making the whole concept look ugly because deep down, you can't imagine sharing yo wife but somehow, gals should be okay sharing husbands afterall we are different, we have different roles, yadi yadi yadi, bla bla bla... |
Re: The Agony Of Monogamy- By Tola Adeniyi by limamintruth: 1:32am On Sep 03, 2015 |
eherbal: Well personally, I believe what matters most is not the type of marriage agreement one enters into but one's ability to achieve and maintain a healthy, happy & successful marriage life with his or her spouse(s). Secondly, one must be truthful & open to the person he/she intends to marry, with regards to the type of marriage he/she wishes to practise. E.g, a man who fancies polygamy should be open to his intending wife-to-be about his desires and the possibility of him becoming polygamous in future. This is basically to avoid deceit & so that no one will feel cheated at the later end. Secondly, every responsible individual (whether married or single) should only elect to become a member of organisations/bodies/religious groups e.t.c that he or she entirely agrees with their doctrines, rules & rites. Meaning, why become a christian when you do not wholly agree with all or some contents of the Bible? That is to say, if you dislike the Bible's concept of marriage et al, simply join the religion that best suits your ideas and views rather than forcing yourself on a religion that contradicts your conviction about the issues of life. Fourthly, all categories of marriage (be it monogamy, polygamy, polyandry, gay marriage e.t.c) have their merits and demerits whichever way you wish to look at them. And comparing each to the other will only lead to unending debates and unhealthy arguments. Hence, my advice is that every individual should practise what he/she feels is right for him/her and stop trying to force his or her beliefs on others who do not share same opinion. B.T.W, I totally have no problem with the practise of polygamy in anyway. However, I sincerely do have a problem with the way some people keep asserting that polygamy is here to rescue the numerous single women around from the terrible arms of spinsterhood. These myopic people forget that societies where polygamy is widely practised are usually the societies with the highest rate of divorced women(sent back to spinsterhood ). So you'l realise that the women have not been actually helped; rather, their situation only gets worsened with time. My2cents. |
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