We live in a society that tells a woman

" You are nothing if you aren't married"
"Get all the degrees you want, climb to the highest ladder of your career, be a name to be reckoned with in the world!!! You are absolutely Nothing, if you have no Mans name
attached to yours"

Yesterday, I had a conversation with a male friend and it bothered on relationship and marriage. He asked me why I haven't walked down the aisle and I told him it will happen under the right settings and condition.
He perused me again and blurted..'never go marry ooo, dey here they talk u hear"
At this point, I told him I have lots of things to do, lots of lives to impact, plenty of mulla to make, the life of my head to enjoy and a destiny to chase. If marriage happens along the line....Halleluyah

Then he said "wetin you come this world come do?.. No be to marry, born pikin, dey man house?"
At this point I died inside..Words failed me, I just picked up my bag, bade him goodbye and left.
It is this same society that will tell a woman..."You don't have a church oooo, infact, you are just wasting your time going to your church, a man will still marry you.off to his church"
It is sad that we are reduced to nothing without a man by our side
It is sad that we are made to believe that our greatest achievement will be Marriage
..but heck!! who follows societal rules by the way?


I am Somebody...I will not accept the tag of being a minority
I have a voice, I refuse to be seen only. I will be seen, heard and my opinions taken seriously
I will not let society place a tag on my happiness.
I make my own route and follow them as long as it makes me happy First. Yes! I am selfish
I have said it before and will say it again.
Society do not bloody care
You will be remembered by the impact you made and not by marital status.

So...single ladies, Live Your Dreams
Walk your Dreams
Breathe your Dreams
And if marriage is part of your Dreams, It shall come to you.

www.vivienadaeze..com

Sure, they know........

if any single ladies is a successful with her career , she rules her own world, she spend her own cash, she is independent…then marriage will juz her bonus...
Am proud to be Single

KashyBaby:
if any single ladies is a successful with her career , she rules her own world, she spend her own cash, she is independent…then marriage will juz her bonus...
Am proud to be Single

You gat the gist Kashybaby

At what age will u still be proud to be single

KashyBaby:
if any single ladies is a successful with her career , she rules her own world, she spend her own cash, she is independent…then marriage will juz her bonus...
Am proud to be Single

Marriage truly is for everybody that's y God made Eve, to be Adam's companion. Now civilization is turning things around, drifting away from on of the major reasons we are created.

castroevans:
At what age will u still be proud to be single

i dunno…I'm happy now, i dnt worry much about tomorrow

castroevans:
Marriage truly is for everybody that's y God made Eve, to be Adam's companion. Now civilization is turning things around, drifting away from on of the major reasons we are created.

I beg to disagree sir, marriage is not for everybody and your analogy is groundless as Adam and Eve themselves never got married. Or if you have any biblical reference that said they had nuptials let's have it.

KashyBaby:


i dunno…I'm happy now, i dnt worry much about tomorrow

Good response to that dumb question. You don't need marriage to be happy. Happiness is the most important thing in life and even if you're to stay single and happy forever without marriage doesn't make you any less of who you are. Fxck social norms, societal stereotypes and it rules.

Good for y'all.. what you wish comes to you. ..

For me, I have always desired a successful career and a wonderful family of my own. Not for the society but for my own fulfillment..

I remember before my marriage when I was telling my mum how I was going to miss her and how I wished I could stay longer. She said No, I needed to build my own family too that I was enjoying the family built by she and my dad.....

You can say the right man/woman hasn't come along instead of saying marriage doesn't matter to you et al... Through marriage you were conceived and through marriage we can be able to answer God's call which is "Go into the world and multiply"...
Your wish, your life though!

However, I don't agree with the saying that women are nothing without men because I know I had my own voice before marriage and made some achievements too.....
Also, I don't like the way some people go about it, as if marriage should matter to women alone.. For eg, that your male friend

Bottomline: I think marriage should matter to both men and women because you can't keep enjoying what your parents built without attempting to build yours......

Lolz... well I wish u thebest

KashyBaby:


i dunno…I'm happy now, i dnt worry much about tomorrow

KashyBaby:

i dunno…I'm happy now, i dnt worry much about tomorrow

I'm so loving.you... Answers.on spot!!!

Very well said bae

ronald4lif:


Good response to that dumb question. You don't need marriage to be happy. Happiness is the most important thing in life and even if you're to stay single and happy forever without marriage doesn't make you any less of who you are. Fxck social norms, societal stereotypes and it rules.

castroevans:
Lolz... well I wish u thebest

Thank u...likewise

If some women would try and possess some good attitudes, mehn forget the rest, attracting a husband wont be an issue.
There bad attitude has continually been keeping them in the dark towards knowing and accepting the realities of life.

@ OP, nice one. Following...

LoL! Girls don't wanna get married...sweet! very soon...Guys are Gonna practically be on their kneels begging to get married...#WorldTransformation2! proud #Feminists! ;DLoL!

Tick tick tick tock!!!!


Do you hear that sound? The biological clock is ticking.
So wake up fast.
Of what use is money and fame if you can't share it with husband and children.
The greatest joy of being a woman is that after being the boss outside and making an impact you come home to your husband and kid's
A husband and children are the most valuable treasures.

Without a husband you are buying the foot mat without having a house Same advice for the men.

I definitely want children(the thing I'm sure of/want most in life)I don't have kids yet because I'm not as financially secured as I think reasonable enough to raise kids, now if marriage happens along the line, then fine but if not, I'll have my kids anyways.

It should be different for everyone really, don't let society decide for you, just do what will make you happy.

I don't believe everyone is meant/built for marriage(as we know it).

mutter:
Tick tick tick tock!!!!


Do you hear that sound? The biological clock is ticking.
So wake up fast.
Of what use is money and fame if you can't share it with husband and children.
The greatest joy of being a woman is that after being the boss outside and making an impact you come home to your husband and kid's
A husband and children are the most valuable treasures.

Without a husband you are buying the foot mat without having a house Same advice for the men.

Read the post again! we get the gist about Marriage and all...Buh it shouldn't be a priority.. of what use is Having a Husband and Kids and u still not happy?? still being miserable? the bottom line is Just BE HAPPY!!! if Marriage would make u happy..then, Hell! i'd say go for it! And My Greatest joy would always be MY HAPPINESS!!!

MarvellousGod:
Good for y'all.. what you wish comes to you. ..

For me, I have always desired a successful career and a wonderful family of my own. Not for the society but for my own fulfillment..

I remember before my marriage when I was telling my mum how I was going to miss her and how I wished I could stay longer. She said No, I needed to build my own family too that I was enjoying the family built by she and my dad.....

You can say the right man/woman hasn't come along instead of saying marriage doesn't matter to you et al... Through marriage you were conceived and through marriage we can be able to answer God's call which is "Go into the world and multiply"...
Your wish, your life though!

However, I don't agree with the saying that women are nothing without men because I know I had my own voice before marriage and made some achievements too.....
Also, I don't like the way some people go about it, as if marriage should matter to women alone.. For eg, that your male friend

Bottomline: I think marriage should matter to both men and women because you can't keep enjoying what your parents built without attempting to build yours......

The thing is marriage should be redefined because even according to the said bible which is the precedent for marriage today, Adam and eve were not married, so...

If a person finds someone they are happy with, then why can't they just be happy together without marriage?

When you say "enjoying what your parents built" what do you mean exactly?

Another useless topic .....how can marriage be a bonus to you? Smh

freecocoa:
The thing is marriage should be redefined because even according to the said bible which is the precedent for marriage today, Adam and eve were not married, so...

If a person finds someone they are happy with, then why can't they just be happy together without marriage?

When you say "enjoying what your parents built" what do you mean exactly?

Sorry, I believe in marriage ceremony. . Can't cohabit..

Whichever way though, I believe man and woman should desire to come together. ..

Without your parents coming together, would you have been in this world? You should desire to build your own world/family too just like your parents. ..

MarvellousGod:
Sorry, I believe in marriage ceremony. . Can't cohabit..

Whichever way though, I believe man and woman should desire to come together. ..

Without your parents coming together, would you have been in this world? You should desire to build your own world/family too just like your parents. ..

Ofcourse I advocate that men and women should come together too, and it's okay that you believe in marriage ceremony, but the point I'm trying to make is that, that ceremonial part of cohabiting recognised by the world, shouldn't be standard for how people should lead their lives, it shouldn't mean sh1t, as that is just another idea by humans, people shouldn't be judged for not wanting to be a part of it.

My parents were married alright but I still would have been here if they weren't, all they needed was just their sperm and egg, not marriage, people can build/ be whatever they want without it.

mutter:
Tick tick tick tock!!!!


Do you hear that sound? The biological clock is ticking.
So wake up fast.
Of what use is money and fame if you can't share it with husband and children.
The greatest joy of being a woman is that after being the boss outside and making an impact you come home to your husband and kid's
A husband and children are the most valuable treasures.

Without a husband you are buying the foot mat without having a house Same advice for the men.

Would you say Mother Teresa was not fulfilled?
What about Apostle Paul (in the Bible)?

MarvellousGod:
Good for y'all.. what you wish comes to you. ..

For me, I have always desired a successful career and a wonderful family of my own. Not for the society but for my own fulfillment..

I remember before my marriage when I was telling my mum how I was going to miss her and how I wished I could stay longer. She said No, I needed to build my own family too that I was enjoying the family built by she and my dad.....

You can say the right man/woman hasn't come along instead of saying marriage doesn't matter to you et al... Through marriage you were conceived and through marriage we can be able to answer God's call which is "Go into the world and multiply"...
Your wish, your life though!

However, I don't agree with the saying that women are nothing without men because I know I had my own voice before marriage and made some achievements too.....
Also, I don't like the way some people go about it, as if marriage should matter to women alone.. For eg, that your male friend

Bottomline: I think marriage should matter to both men and women because you can't keep enjoying what your parents built without attempting to build yours......

While I agree that some men/women say marriage doesn't matter to them because they have not found the right people, some people are not interested in marriage because they are not interested.

Nice post

MarvellousGod:
Sorry, I believe in marriage ceremony. . Can't cohabit..

Whichever way though, I believe man and woman should desire to come together. ..

Without your parents coming together, would you have been in this world? You should desire to build your own world/family too just like your parents. ..

The difference between a married couple and a cohabitating couple is the marriage cert, a piece of paper which doesn't determine the success or failure of the union. One can build a family and live happily too without nuptials. That you can't cohabitate doesn't make your decision the better one to those who does. The keyword is happiness. Not what society and organized doctrines believes to be right or wrong.

I think I'm at the right club! Barman! Let's get them bottles popping ok!

bukatyne:


Would you say Mother Teresa was not fulfilled?
What about Apostle Paul (in the Bible)?

Married to the Lord.. No comparison.

mutter:


Married to the Lord.. No comparison.

LOL!

But they did not have a 'physical' family they came home to daily.

I have nothing against marriage (I am married), however, I feel it is wrong to 'pressure' people to do so.

Trust me, when the person needs the companionship, no Jupiter will stop them.