NICOGRAVITY:
I don't believe in dating, because it can outdate you.

EPIC

Youngpo413:
yeah,most ladies deserves to be choped and clean mouth.

And this is a woman's son

ladyF:
Interesting

welcome back...we miss u ROBOT

[quote author=Toks2008 post=37330262]When a man shows interest in a lady and tells her that he would love to know her better,most times in his heart this is exactly what he is saying: "Hi lady, can i get to have a taste of your goody-bag and have the feel of your body to know if you are good enough in bed and decide if i should keep you for long or dump your ass in a jiffy because i don't really care whether we end up together or not".

I honestly don't believe in dating and even as courtship sounds more reasonable,it is still not really necessary and i will try to list logical reasons why ladies should avoid this lie from the pits of hell called dating or courtship and i hope you learn a great deal from this.


1. A man usually knows if there is a huge possibility of marrying you or just want to use you to pass time the very first day he sets his eyes on you and a man who is really interested in a purposeful affair with you will give you the sign almost immediately with the body language except you refuse to be vigilant.

2. Many Men use dating and courtship as a means of exploring you sexually and probably after he realizes that your bosoms are not as firm as he wants them to be or your sex performance is below what he wants or after he has really used you to his satisfaction then he tells you it can't work out because his mum does not want him to marry from your tribe or just brings up any lame excuse and decides to walk away to get another lady to "date"

3. An Angel can turn to a demon: Many people have argued that dating period is a period where you will know the type of person you have but this assertion is very funny because a good person can turn terrible and most times even if the person seems bad many ladies will still go on and marry him with the hope of changing him.

4.Dating and courtship is a disguised miniature marriage because in many cases when a guy starts dating or courting you,you will be doing some stuffs that wives do and i keep wondering why they still see the union as dating or courting when he is practically having all the benefits he should get from a wife hence the need to continue dating and courting and dating and.. until you suddenly realized you have spent your honey years married unofficially to a man who will probably dump you to marry another lady still in the name of dating.

5.A thousand years of courtship is no guaranty that you will know the man and until you two stay under the same roof as man and wife,you will never come closer to knowing who he really is so why waste your years dating and courting.

6.Most of the marriages of our parents are great examples as most of our parents hardly knew each other before getting married yet many of them had a lasting and loving union but these days despite the celebrated dating and courting culture,many marriages hit the rock.

7.A good union is not hinged on the number of years both of you spend sleeping with each other in the name of dating or courtship but its in learning to love whoever you choose to marry and making up your mind to be with him against all odds.

8. I believe that for a man to ever propose an affair to you then he must have found you good enough to have to himself and for a decent lady to agree to an affair with a man then she is definitely ready to be with the man except she is a slut so why waste time fooling around with each other all in the name of getting to sleep with each other in the name of dating and courtship?

9. A sexless date or courtship is the ideal form of courting where both of you try to know just a peripheral detail about yourselves hence once sex comes in then its no longer dating but unofficial marital union.

10.The responsible and matured guys at heart knows the type of woman they want and do not get involved in baseless dating but simply go for the lady of their choice and marry her.

If you are not ready to marry a lady,don't make advances towards her just to waste her years sampling her and if you are a lady,stop fooling yourself thinking you are dating him whereas you are just giving him your body to be used and probably dumped and understand that dating and courtship are just facade from the pits of hell aimed at destroying the lives of ladies by becoming single unmarried mothers,losing their lives through abortions and many have contracted deadly diseases all in the name of dating.

Lets face it,a year of sexless courtship should be enough and one year is not too much to deprive yourself of sex in order to know that guy better and if a man does not start the process of marrying you within a year then it means you are either dating a small boy for the sake of having sex or you are probably with a man who is not sure he wants you.

I know that all the sermons in the world will not bring sanity to the facade of dating and courtship and if any lady sees this piece and shoves it aside


guy...u dey Bleep up..

Toks2008:


The longer a lady courts a man or visavis the lesser the enthusiasm and passion. This is the fact in most cases so its better you seal it of when the enthusiasm and passion is still very high.

ok. what if the guy is financially handicapped to consummate the relationship. what then

Some people's make comment here as if didn't have have mother and sister

I was expecting to see concrete points

All I saw was "He will sleep with you and get tired" "He will sleep with you and get tired"
Can't she sleep with him and get tired too?

He even called a woman who engages in such a "slut."

Smh.

I dated n courted with ma woman for 13yrs before we finally got married n we r doin fyn wit our kids, but d point is dat, we started d journey n accumulated of wealth togeda so Datz d kind of lady men r opt for, not just invite one useless lady to eat already cooked soup where she can't even hv saying in d aoz about his spouse wealth.... but truly marriage and courtship r not in anyway related to each other. I'm talkin from experiences.

MzNelly:
I was expecting to see concrete points

All I saw was "He will sleep with you and get tired" "He will sleep with you and get tired"
Can't she sleep with him and get tired too?

He even called a woman who engages in such a "slut."

Smh.

Your point is?

The problem is not being in a long courtship, the issue is how well they get to know each other within the time frame of the relationship before marriage. Getting to know another human being entirely is a life long experience that can never be fully accomplished, our experiences in life shape us along the way and our priorities change after certain periods of time. I'lld rather contend that the bone-of-contention here shouldn't be the length(quantity) of the relationship, rather the richness(quality) of their experiences together in the relationship.

Haven't you met people who you've only known for a month and you feel like you've known them a lifetime? Haven't you seen relationships that last 8 years and the couples had only seen each other perhaps 4 times a year due to long distance or career situations?

I'll leave with this example. (more like a cliché):
Even though the titanic movie was based on a scripted page inspired by a tragic event, most people think Jack and Rose would have made a perfect couple in a life-long marriage. Well interestingly, they both didn't date that long on the ship, but the quality of what they went through together would serve them a lifetime.

So bottom line: If the value (quality) of your experiences together in a relationship don't look like one that would last a lifetime after a considerable amount of time, focusing entirely on extending the length (quantity) of the relationship would be less likely to improve the quality.

I wish my girl could read this. She said we date for at least a year before we marry.

Freemanan:


Your point is?

My point is beyond your mental reach.

MzNelly:

My point is beyond your mental reach.

Punchline!

MzNelly:

My point is beyond your mental reach.

Punchline!

ladyF:
Interesting....let's hope ladies will learn to move on when they see that the relationship isn't heading anywhere instead of hoping for change.

Its [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

Same applies for guys

MzNelly:


My point is beyond your mental reach.

Haba! I Don't think I deserve that. You girls should be polite at least.

You can't be ugly, shapeless, dull, cold AND impolite nau.... You make it look too easy for the witches in your village.

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Freemanan:


Your point is?

not only guys use women..some ladies use and dump too. some not even interested in marriage.

as u call a lady a slut..u are a slut too.

I agree with her!

kosplateau:

not only guys use women..some ladies use and dump too. some not even interested in marriage.

as u call a lady a slut..u are a slut too.

I agree with her!

Easy lioness. I just wanted to get her clearly... No need for the claws.

toks u spoke well undeniably bt u spoke wrong its ur opinion and am so sure i will giv mre reason y dere shud be courtship........ if u truly understand dat d world today aint d same as our fore father's.dey say we are in d computer age nd out eyes ar so open,dere is nothing like a show spoiler dere is nothing u say here dat will change anything bt its gud dough u speak out so as fr pple to be cautious of wat dey do.it takes A MINUTE to like someone nd hrs to fall in love bt it takes forever to know someone.courtship builds a foundation for two pple to learn hw to tolerate one anoda nd liv unda one roof y wud u wanna condem it.yea pple abuse it pple also make use of it fr gud purpose. jus try nd advice dem nd make dem use it wisely dan condemn courtship

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Freemanan:

Haba! I Don't think I deserve that. You girls should be polite at least.

You can't be ugly, shapeless, dull, cold AND impolite nau.... You make it look too easy for the witches in your village.

Lol

Front Page after weeks, Mod, are u sleeping since den or wht? Mind u Op, not every one date to mate.

damton:
ok. what if the guy is financially handicapped to consummate the relationship. what then

Financially handcaped but not sexually handicaped.

Marriage and marriage celebrations are two different thing.

Even if you dont have money you can go for introduction and registry as long as you have a roof over ur head even if its one room.

If money rolls in then you can go ahead and do big time wedding.

But if the lady is ok getting screwd yet not ready to marry u as suggested then its her call.

...Coming from a guy, I'm totally wowed

MzNelly:
I was expecting to see concrete points

All I saw was "He will sleep with you and get tired" "He will sleep with you and get tired"
Can't she sleep with him and get tired too?

He even called a woman who engages in such a "slut."

Smh.

Im sorry to point this out but with due respect,this your comment is one hell of a slutty one.

Op abeg receive sense....even the ladies understand that dating and courtship is a polite term for straffing...you wan form gud guy abeg clear road......!!!bar man nack me one more bottle....

damn..... Unemployment is eating deep into our youths.... Check the first 3 posters.... They are on the same timing.

ladyF:
Interesting....let's hope ladies will learn to move on when they see that the relationship isn't heading anywhere instead of hoping for change.

Its [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

You must be ugly as fuk....

deavicky:
I wish my girl could read this. She said we date for at least a year before we marry.

Ofcourse a year of quality courtship is cool.

See in those days our parents do the courting of 8 years in less than a month.

they ask questions about the person,his or her past,allergies,fears,addictions,hereditory anomallies and so on before ever conceeding to give a daughter or allow a son to go ahead in marriage but these days we depend on flimsy long courtship yet all comes in packaging.

You made a very good point for those who would listen. But i want to correct an impression. The paramount role of courtship cannot be overemphasised in a relationship. It gives you the opportunity to know ur partner's attitude, character, values and lifestyle. Otherwise how would you know if ur patner is a chain smoker or alcohol addict without courting along. Marriage is a lifetime union and any mistake can ruin ones entire life or shorten ones lifespan. Thats why one needs to carefully carryout a thorough background check to avert making a lifetime mistake. That's when courtship comes in. Courtship doesnt necessarily mean having a carnal knowledge of each other but in my own understanding, sex enhances relationship and builds affection and at the same time could ruin ones relationship when its been abused. It depends on the individual. Courtship can last up to 2 years or more years.