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It will work. Where there's a will there's a way.
if their marriage is built on love, it will work perfectly. All they need is understanding, proper planning and implementations.
she can cook on Saturdays and keep in freezer, all they nis to microwave.
She can start child bearing immediately if that's what they want, after all, she has up to one year leave. Let them employ wash man to wash and iron, and a very good house helper for the children.
Never say never. It's possible.

the best is let them nt rush into child bearing, den later d wife cn sacrifice her job for d upbringing of the children later in their journey. it wld b beta for her to get a personal busines she can easily manage within the space of time and have tim for the family too. let d man fetch more for the family

Aitee1:
They should marry then employ me as nanny

Yes, it will work if they want it to.

Aitee1:
They should marry then employ me as nanny

employ u indeed. dear,dat is suicidal

It can work as long as they get a nanny. But banking profession has a slightly low job security and much stress which could directly affect children's upkeep and limit parental attention. Notwithstanding, their marriage can work as long as they love and understand each other and also get a nanny.

Adesiji77:


Your topic is misleading; I initially thought your concern was about the fact that they work in different banks.

Anyway, outside Lagos, I have seen more than a few couples who are in that situation and whose marriages are working out well.

As for Lagos, hmmm...it is going to be very challenging, especially when they start having children. Which business units (BU) are they? Operations/"Back Office"? Business Development a.k.a "Marketing"?

They need to sit down and fine-tune this discussion very well BEFORE the marriage, highlighting their priorities. One party MAY consider changing profession, especially when both work in BUs that are time-consuming and rigorous.

Life is more than just making money...my opinion though

That the guy has second thoughts means he can clearly foresee the challenges ahead. He would have already discussed the matter with his fiancee without any conclusion.
If they have and can allow a close relative like the lady's mum to live with them, ok. After kids start coming.

Otherwise they should work for a few years without kids first. Save enough money to buy/build a small house. Then one should resign. Ideally the lady upon completing maternity leave. Part of the remaining savings should go into private business. That way they'll have own house in case the one still working gets sacked. With no rent to pay, a private business going and kids well-catered for, the family will be more secure and happier.

Y not? With good planning, op both of you won't end your careers there, yours is to start solution will follow.

softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

This doesn't make any sense.
What has working in the bank got to do with marrying the lady?
Won't the lady also leave in the morning if she was working with a non-bank company?
He doesn't want to marry a career woman?
Does he want her to be a stay-home wife?

The guy is just looking for a flimsy excuse to dump her.

[quote author=saintkel post=37882923]Ofcos it will wrk just dat they both will eat outside [what we're saying is beyond the food.]

Communication is a major factor here

Xano:
It is not humanly feasible. To talk/discuss is easier than when it gets real. With Lagos traffic, there's less time for relationship. They both will be unhappy with each other when they come home from work every 9pm or 10pm thereabout. Home chores with its challenges. Saturdays will be for chores and rest. Limited social life and fun play(sight seeing) among the couples. If when each come home with no electric light under a very warm evening - a little anger may set in. Among others.
All these without the kids yet.
Don't marry because of sentiment. Marriage is for decades.

Who told you they live in lagos??

neeyor88:
the best is let them nt rush into child bearing, den later d wife cn sacrifice her job for d upbringing of the children later in their journey. it wld b beta for her to get a personal busines she can easily manage within the space of time and have tim for the family too. let d man fetch more for the family

Must it always be the wife? What if she is not business inclined? Can't the man do go into a business?

Did he not know she was a banker before courting her. They should sig down and pla. Their lives together and stop making excuses.

ireneidiva:

Who told you they live in lagos??

Interesting. Re-read the topic. Don't be too fast to type.

softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

My Oga and his wife re bankers and they are role models for marriage

All they need is "PLAN".

softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

Who will care for the kids when they come. ?

Thats where i feel concerned.

IF YOU SAY YOU CAN THEN YOU CAN
IF YOU SAY YOU CAN'T THEN, YOU ARE RIGHT

Yes with long-time planning even before they are married and mutual compromise and understanding.

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softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

some people can think anyhow o this thinking wey na free,so someone that you love and have been in a relationship with since you just realized you work in different banks so you wana leave her

If truly they want to raise children dey ‘know' then one person must quit else dey can go ahead n marry pursuing their careers n wonder how dem kids got em strange characters..from experience I can say that no matter how professional a nanny is she can never fill d place of a mum in a childs life especially at d early stages n God help u,u hv a daughter like mine who will turn d house upside down if she can't smell her mum 30km around her within 20mins..my daughter wakes up like 12:30am to play till like 2am n d mum has to be awake.I am not against career women but truth be told how productive do u think she would be n don't u think such a lady would age fast wen 4m dusk till dawn u a constantly drained..? and for those thinking y should women quit n not d man..? last time I checked d umbilical cord was connected 4m d mum to d child so d child's want 4 mum is simply unexplainable..thank God my wife understood n agreed small as her biznes may be compared to her job,we are happy n facing life challenges as dey come. so its up to them cos on both decisions there are sacrifices n prices to be paid.

It will have beneficial to give practical examples of how u manage this challenge


child care

cooking/domestic stuff


etc

Tobiegal:
It depends largely on both parties... No profession is easy...

Hubby and I work in different banks and yea,we have two boys doing very well.

What they both need is to understand and respect each other... Communication is always key, and this can be done with the several means of we have nowadays...bbm, fone calls. Emails and the likes.

Kids would be fine regardless of how you look at them... Not everyone had their moms at their beck and call growing up and have turned out just fine... So why should yours be any different.

At the end of the day... It's their cross to bear... If he's having second thoughts after knowing fully well that what she does... He shd let her be... Men like them would have trust issues...even when they would continue to admire their own female colleagues in the same office.

To each their own jere

It is not adviseable for both of them to be bankers and get married. It is not. One of u had better live the banking job or d woman should save up a lot so she can be on her own. Anybody building a future on a bank job is on a long thing. The moment u get a job in the bank start preparing for your retirement. It's very important. God forbid both of u get sacked at the same time.

my uncle and his wife were both bankers when they married. now they have 3 kids.

softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

Majority of you guys always mention banks as if it is the only institutions where staff works late: until you get employed in any private organizations in VI, you may not realize that some private organizations work late than bankers.

Yes, it can. IF THEY WANT IT TO[color=#770077][/color]

It can work, they might need to redefine thier goals, one of them can take on a less demanding Job.

Yes it can work. I am a banker although still single but I know a number of colleagues who got married to bankers in other banks and 're living happily. It's all about planning