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Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Toks2008(m): 8:20am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Hybrid01: Long courtship ofcourse Whats my business preaching no sex before marriage as if that will stop it. My point is if every lady wants to know if that guy is really interested in just knowing her in the so called long courtship let her deny him sex and see if he will maintain a status quo. Most Guys who are against my write up are either players or unserious because any serious minded guy will understand that long courtship are for players while men who know what they want dont waste time. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Lovechyld101(m): 8:33am On Sep 11, 2015 |
With the bunch of ladies out there now 10 yrs courtship is not enough to ascertain whether to marry or not. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by peculiarabacus(m): 8:36am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Okay sir |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Iamsolslim(m): 8:53am On Sep 11, 2015 |
My dear ops, To my own point of view, I will like to say d idea u are trying to initiate should b determine base on personal interest, let me tell u one thing unless u don't wanna b real bout it. U can't compare the way men think with the way women think, both work in an opposite direction. When male sight a lady for d first time what will first signal his brain is/was something related to SEX , b4 any other thing can b think of, that is how God made us even same thing applicable those forming saint.( that's y Muslim use to say it's allow to sight female once, but that moment u revisit ur eyes toward her direction, its become SIN. so they prefer to allow their female body to be cover not to allow such thing). Now let that to the matter, I want u to use my story to judge ur post( I swear to Almighty Allah I'm telling u a true story that happen to me). I have/had one girl that we av been dating since my SS2 days, tho we use to see each other once in awhile cos my school is a boarding school & after secondary school. I got an admission same year, but she was still at home tho she use to travel & come back. Anytime I'm at home I use to go 2 her mummy shop & she use to come to my house too. During that time I knew what sex mean but I use to afraid of telling her something related to that cos I'm afraid she won't like d idea & also she will look cheap to me. So I dont bother her about it. If she ask me anything, I use try my possible best to get it for her even it's my last penny. But one thing I use to notice is that she use to call & received call like MTNhelp centre. On one faithful day she told me that her mum sent her an errand and she want to call that person b4 going there. that day both of us don't av credit,so we stroll to one phone booth to make call, to my notice the number of person she want to call is/was on that person phone, save with one particular name, to me I don't care about it. she made d call and she said the person is at home. so I paid for call charges then I gave her TP money for tro&fro. so I told her that I will wait 4 her at that phonebooth, & she agreed. So after some moment, d guy ask me do u know that girl?, if u know her my guy sharpaly nack her ooo coz d girl nah pussy philanthropist, she use to dash her pussy anyhow. Even d person wey she call now nah one her guy & he mention d guy name to me and describe him, funny enough d guy is one of my friend. After some hours I called her that it's already late I'm still waiting coz d guy av close his shop, she told me to go home that she will come to my house next day. Next day when she will came to my house, I didn't ask her anything or showing it to her that I knew something bout her. I just stay cool and face my life, so after some moment I kiss her then we started romancing which I quickly unhook her bra & started playing with her Breast (and that is my first time of seen d colour of her bra), so after some times. she ask me if I av any blue film on my laptop and I said no, after hearing this she feel somehow. But I grab her back and started my thing, so I'm about to put off her pant, my conscience now doing me somehow somehow after some moment I just stood up & told her to dress up and she do so then we went out. After 3 days she told me that, she want to travel, since then we have not see each other, not untill I saw her introduction marriage picture on Facebook. Now she's bless with a daughter. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by lushious(f): 8:57am On Sep 11, 2015 |
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Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Pidggin(f): 8:58am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Toks2008: Nice one, it shows you love your sisters and you'll make a perfect father to a lucky girl one day. My close friend dated a guy for eight years, I think they met while she was still in secondary school. She gave her whole life to him, but he left her and got married to someone else. She never recovered, looked years older than her actual age due to stress, developed HBP @ a young age, and died shortly after. Any wise lady reading male comments here should be able to discern the plans most of them have for you, beauty without brains is like a pig wearing a nose ring. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:08am On Sep 11, 2015 |
possibilita: LadyF is a man? |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by AdeniyiA(m): 9:17am On Sep 11, 2015 |
cindykaey: dem be lord of the ring ni? |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:19am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Long courtship is as pointless as P in Psychology. So much to lose than gain anything more than 3 years without knowing where you guys stand is a waste of time. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Omotayor123(f): 9:23am On Sep 11, 2015 |
AreaFada2:You are very right. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Toks2008(m): 9:23am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Pidggin: GOD HAVE MERCY. And the guy is still alive bleeping another lady as if nothing happened. Well the irony is that im not writing these to gain admiration or any form of attention from ladies because trust me at 40 i have passed the age of lies,fantasies and wishful thinking. I have been in the marriage institution and there is always room to learn more but my advice to every lady is to read every thread i created as regards relationship issues and take every letter to heart. Its a wicked world of men and any lady seconding the contrary assertions of guys towards this thread does so at her own peril. A guy knows if you are the type he can marry the very first time he sees you and it will do you good to maintain proper decorum and watch him closely. As i have written, this write up is not about sexually loosed teenagers who are still seeking sexual fantasies but its about a disciplined young lady who does not want to be taking advantaged of. I married the lady i made a woman and even if we are no more,she can never say i wasted her years so reasonable ladies should brace up and don't allow any guy turn you into unofficial wife in the name of courtship but if you want to remain foolish then please ride on. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by choicelynk(m): 9:26am On Sep 11, 2015 |
The sense of humour of a lady got lost the moment she sleep with her guy, especially when you barely know each other. Distrust is inevitable in such marriage. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by omoikea(m): 9:30am On Sep 11, 2015 |
am actually not shocked that am the only one who doesn't find this post interesting or useful... why i even click this click sef? |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Dolcilicious(f): 9:32am On Sep 11, 2015 |
jesussaves22: Wish all guys would be like that.But for d duration of time u guys dated u guys dint touch each other?How were u releasing your sexual urges? |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:35am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Pidggin: which is why i hate long courtship, then again am not sure i can ever be that devotional 100% to someone because of risks like that, what if she dumps me, then again maybe not devoting myself to that person 100% can cause the dumping to take place which could further drive me to not devote myself 100%. now am confused 1 Like |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:39am On Sep 11, 2015 |
omoikea: you know what to do |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by tolulope855(m): 9:39am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Op.. It's like u live in a different world...long time relationship are not always clouded with sex (because from all I see in your right up, u are definitely up against sex before marriage..and not long time courtship.... don't even try to deny it, it's there all over your write up). So where do u put true love... And this True love could be found when someone it's still in his/her tender age or better still in uni, when one still have a long way to go hence the need for a long time relationship.... I know people like no longer believe in true love....so I won't take any offence if u object.... Marriage within short period is a deadly evil especially when u don't know each other before the period.... Brother get your fact right.... Bless up |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Toks2008(m): 9:43am On Sep 11, 2015 |
jesussaves22: This is exactly what i ask people. Show me one man who divorces a wife he disvirgined except she left on her own or she is caught in adultery and i will show you a mentally unstable man. Sexual chastity is the bedrock of any woman who wants respect and adoration from her man. Yes remaining a virgin till marriage is no longer in vogue as tyhey say but that is the silent wish of most men,to be the one who disvirgined their wife. My ex stil remains valuable to me and i still hold her in high esteem despite her funny nature because for me, sexual decency ranks highest in what i seek for in a woman and i can overlook most imperfections of a sexually decent lady. But when you keep opening your legs in the name of dating and shortly after meeting a guy you open up your legs and he gets in then you need to start praying from that moment that he respects you because to most guys,dating ladies is like a sexual conquest and its a usually a case of one down and many more to go. So if you must date a man and allow him eat you as he wants at least be more reasonable not to linger for too long because even after marriage many guys believe they cant be with a aldy all their life howbeit you that is not yet his wife,your case wil just be another statistics of his sexcapades. Ladies hould wise up. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Foxie: 9:46am On Sep 11, 2015 |
adefund:please I'm interested in the emboldened. I like to share from your ocean of experience. Thanks. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Ojemedad: 9:49am On Sep 11, 2015 |
udysweet:I'm sorry for that, never meant to judge you or something else, just a comment and I'm sorry the negative thought |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:55am On Sep 11, 2015 |
SmartMugu: Lol.... Em.. Username. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Missmossy(f): 9:56am On Sep 11, 2015 |
True talk!!!! People know the truth, both sexes to be precise but some would rather live in deceit and keep on hoping for the best. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Nobody: 9:56am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Youngpo413: So once you promise a lady marriage, she spreads her leg for you. Can you hear yourself? That made sense to your myopic mind? |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by ewizard1: 10:08am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Lmfao... I can see OP is feeling himself. One word bro... All men are not the same. Every man has a different thing he's looking for in a wife. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by Toks2008(m): 10:09am On Sep 11, 2015 |
udysweet: Thanks dear. Sometimes i just want to refrain from writing some deep srticles on nairaland but then i usually tell myself."i love writing so muc so why not just share your insight so that some will learn from it" Nevertheless many will still castigate and write very annoying stuffs but as i always say,thats the fun. The fact remains that they usually blame it on finance and i kept wondering why your manhood cant also go flat and not do the thing because a broke guy who is not ready for marriage should not do the things married people do but then this will be seen as a dumb assertion yet the lady wil never think about settling with this same guy in that one room they have been doing what married people do and this shows the role many ladies also play in their own misfortune. I dated the lady i married for 6years and when she was 25years she wil be ringing it to my ears that she has no time again and that many suitors are after her so i just had to cement it because trust me if not for her cries and the fact that i truly cherish her i will not go ahead to have any form of wedding because i was just cool the way things were,free sex,she cooks for me,does my laundry and infact always with me as we lived close to each other. How many ladies reading this are already live in lovers? and how many have been dating a guy for years yet the guy is just silent and you are still there because of mumu love.Sorry is your second name. As long as the guy has a room over his head and he sc*ws you in that room and you also pass nights in that room then let him freaking go to your parents and start the process,let him do introduction and then go to registry and become lawfully wedded then when money starts coming in go and do your super flamboyant wedding and if possible do white,blue gren and purple wedding join. The fact that a man does not have money yet for a wedding ceremony does not mean he is not ready for a wedding because marital union is different from marriage ceremony. She who has eyes should read and take action or continue to be free wife in teh name of courtship. You are on your own. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by joeyemi: 10:10am On Sep 11, 2015 |
bros ur number 7 and 10 summarizes everything if ladies only understand they won't be falling into the hands of irresponsible guyz |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by passionate88: 10:17am On Sep 11, 2015 |
IamLEGEND1:Simple. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by loswhite(m): 10:20am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Toks2008:Actual your post is very foolish,no offense. This is 2015. Women like sex, so some of them use and dumb guys even if the guy wants to get married to them. Your post makes it looks like the decision of marriage rest solely on the guys and like men are the only ones interested in sex. Back date your post to 1960. |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by possibilita(m): 10:20am On Sep 11, 2015 |
babafemi1000:read her comment she said "if the ladies" no lady would use that insted they wud use"if we ladies"or "if my fellow ladies" |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by stan241(m): 10:22am On Sep 11, 2015 |
Bla bla bla and s3x is what i could deduce from this write up and thank heavens its just your opinion because the reality out there is much different Men look for different things in ladies and vice-versa, no two persons are the same so are our wants and needs and the comparison to what our grandparents did or didn't do in your write up further faults your write up Yea you did make some "strong" points but on summary, its all just bla bla bla why? Well because no one person knows it all when it comes to courtship and dating e.t.c different strokes for different folks Do what you feel comfortable in your skin doing be it a half month courtship or a 9yr courtship, we all heading to the same destination but taking different routes, the one you take might spoil my car while mine might not |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by stan241(m): 10:24am On Sep 11, 2015 |
loswhite: Exactly the op writes stuff that are at a loss with current realities of life |
Re: 10 Reasons Why Long Courtship Should Be Avoided By Ladies. by JoeCutie(m): 10:27am On Sep 11, 2015 |
MzNelly:Well, she could spread her leg for a nice shave; couldn't she? |
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