aim5:


Hmm interesting question. I personally feel that the guy either views the girl as a just an emergency phuck and talks to her only if he has no other option , or maybe the girl he actually wanted isn't interested in him, so he's trying to resume things with this girl .. you never know. Because me, I would let a girl know if I'm interested in her and I don't sugarcoat things in that department at all.

I thought the same thing too, that maybe the one he actually wants maybe she's not interested. But the confusing part is that he has absolutely nothing to gain by speaking to the girl. They live in different continents. So it's not like there's hot sex waiting for him. I just don't get the mind games.

KlaireKlement:
6.One syllabic chats with words like kk etc.....

Now that's grossly annoying

I don't like when she does that.

We men gotta grow thick skin for u ladies

Good write up for the babies who are into relationship.

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PunkyVeer:
I have an issue with #4. So what if you feel like you're the one doing all the reaching out 1st? Is it so terrible to let your grievance known? I'm not the type to swallow even when it's bitter, so I rather he gets turned off than for me to sit on something that bothers me. I believe in free communication & if that's nagging then oh well, oh hell.

Haha....u neva reach 30 years be dat.

CHUKSKALIDONN:

Haha....u neva reach 30 years be dat.

Nah, just very limited experience.

Cameleon72:
Good write up for the babies who are into relationship.

No wonda

Ppl lik us wil loose intrst wen she refuse givin us sex

Ppl lik us wil loose intrst wen she refuse givin me sex

Wounderful thread coming from a woman , guess ü should write a Book.
I also knw that so many girls knw all this and advice pple likewise but when the Chips are down with them, their emotions take hold of them and their reaction becomes Very und irrational.
God help women.

PunkyVeer:


Nah, just very limited experience.

Oh...I should av known.

**fact*** **fact***

CHUKSKALIDONN:

Oh...I shouls av known.

So, you shouldn't voice your opinion at all? It sounds unjust.

millionboi:
Ppl lik us wil loose intrst wen she refuse givin me sex

Bros cool down....small small. The thread just dey start.

Sexycleopatra:
ThIS is a very lenghty post, please read only at your free time. Read in between lines, as you will find some things very useful





Relationships these days just get all dried up because the 'spark' is no longer there. You like a guy, a guy likes you, you two get off on a sweeet note, u share your happy moments together, you are always happy wen u see their texts, or calls.. The relationship gets all rosy and at a point, it all begins to die down slowly. You all begin to wonder why he or she develops this cold attitude towards you. You start feeling insecure, a lot of things begin to run through ur mind.. "Is he in love with me anymore, or does he still have those feelings for me? Whichever the case maybe, there has to be a problem somewhere. Let us look at those "little" things we all do that scares or makes him slowly lose interest in the relationship.


1. you stalk his every move Most of us ladies, if not all, are guilty of this. Especially in social media, we tend to check out their online activities like whose picture the complimented, their comments relating to posts, their conversations with the opposite sex. And when we do all these, we confront them about what they said or ddnt say and use it as a tool against them. He feels freaked out and begins to wonder if he fell in love with a detective. Slowly, he loses interests in u, because he feels choked up.
Remedy to this: stop stalking him, stop it. Learn rather to trust him and mind ur own business, it will save ur relationship a lot of stress.

2: telling him "I love you" just to knw his reaction now, it takes different times for people to fall in love with someone. For some, it might take a moment, some a day, while some are months or even years. Yes, you love the guy.. Ok.. But the question is, does he love you yet? You tell him you love him just to knw what he feels abt you is so so wrong. He may not fall in love with you easily but with time, he gets to see how amazing you are and falls in love with you. So when next you wana tell someone u really love dem, pls be sure that they do love you bak, if not, hold it.. Until you are sure. Never ever make the grave mistake of telling him you love him just to find out if he loves u back, or else, it may backfire and ur feelings get hurt.
Remedy: give him time, be patient.. Don't force him to love u.

3: being too serious now this is another killer of relationships. The reason why ur relationship is gradually loosing its spark is because we ladies tend to act too seriously. Now what do I mean by too seriously,

We aren't playful, we don't have good sense of humor, we tend to read stupid meanings to his words, we always think if he is silent, dat means he doesn't love us anymore.


Nooooooooooo! When ur chatting with ur guy, try to be at ease, cmon, be funny.. Say silly things, be free with him, yab him, tell him his nose looks like that of an elephant when he uploads a new pic or if he yabs u, laff it off.. You two shouldn't all be too serious abt evrythn.. This makes both of you to be selective of words and before you knw it, he becomes tired of you and tends to stick wit that hilarious babe. The next time you have a chat with him, pls try to have an open mind.... Be free.

4: who texts or calls first ok, so he didn't say hi to u early in d morning, or he didn't send u any texts or call, u begin to nag.. U are like "baby u ddnt text me today, or u ddnt call me.." And things like that. Wtf! If he ddnt call u, den call him... If he ddnt text u, den text him. Don't wait for him to do that first and u begin to create problems where there shouldn't. Dats not nice, you are being too needy... If he is at work, ask him when will he be free, so both of u can chat or call. Dnt just text or call him every minute or hour to knw watsup.. Its not funny.. Have smth doing tooo.. He will call you if he misses u and wants to hear your voice. U just dnt have to force everythn.


5: understanding him some ladies still don't understand their guy.. Now there are some guys who prefer chatting to calling, some prefer calling to chatting, while some do well in both. But whichever the case maybe, try to knw what makes him confortable. If he loves to chat, den dnt get worried abt him not calling u, you are only creatin unnecesarry issues.. Somepeople are so lively wen calling, while some aren't lively, they just ask u normal questions and befor u knw it, d call ends.. Pls be patient, if u notice he isn't good at talkin on d fone den make him talk, ask him questions tooo, make him laff, yab him too, befor u knw it, the call may hav lasted for up to 5minutes. Don't be like, oh he is d one dat called me so he should only do the talkn while I answer... He justs seems like the whole thing is crashing down and he quits calling you.. Please try to loosen him up.. Some of dem r shy too u knw. Lol






I would have loved to write more and more, but I will stop here for now... Please feel free wheneva ur with your guy and dnt take things too seriously...

Number four is spot on

Op Get sense.

Nice one.

Bibors:
Wounderful thread coming from a woman , guess ü should write a Book.
I also knw that so many girls knw all this and advice pple likewise but when the Chips are down with them, their emotions take hold of them and their reaction becomes Very und irrational.
God help women.

Dnt be so elated...its not her write up.

PunkyVeer:

So, you shouldn't voice your opinion at all? It sounds unjust.

It is very different from what she meant...

When a guy reaches out to you only after he realises you stopped keeping in touch then its high time you go check the dictionary for the meaning of 'butty call'.
Am sure the relationship will never be the same after then.

CHUKSKALIDONN:

It is very different from what she meant...

Hmmm

PunkyVeer:

Hmmm

Patience is d key...I think that's what the post is all about.

Good post. Calling my friend's wife to read this....

babe u get sense oooo neva tot i can c ladies wiyh brains in NL cs some get cow brains like DAURA OF ASO ROCK DAT SAID HE AS LOST HIS WAY IN PALACE

CHUKSKALIDONN:

Patience is d key...I think that's what the post is all about.

Yeah, not my strongest point, unfortunately but we learn new things every day.

CHUKSKALIDONN:

Bros cool down....small small. The thread just dey start.

op no won talk true na

The little one that surprise me the most was when they were dating and in an occasion or function, both hits the dance floor.

As soon as the ring was presented, and that kinda occasion happens again, the man will be begging if she can dance with him. Most times the lady will be forming "dignitary " and the man will be forced to sit and be looking sheepishly. Because he can't dance with the other ladies with the watchful eye of the wife.

I have seen this alot in Nigeria end of year party / others

Why is body odour not on the list ?

PunkyVeer:


And what if it's a rinse & repeat thing? Like you take the break, he gets in touch & then it goes back to the same thing again.

And then tells you 'I just want to know if you will call'

9c one, if ladies do things they way u stated , there will be no problem in relationship. I applaud u oo love ur post

2dice:
Lovely Post...Op hope you Pratice what yo Preach ?

Lolz...a tok na do