Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

lovely points

true talk

Wait... Lemme ask my gf!

Abeg repost am make dem read am well8)

Tobadein:
Abeg repost am make dem read am well8)

Repost ke?

Chai... My guy is here with Another.! Which kind answer all these questions require if not No
Make I dey observe on top my ugwu tree first..

Omotayor123:
Chai... My guy is here with Another.! Make I dey observe on top my ugwu tree first..

Just enjoying myself jare.

Our girls nor dey hear dis ones. Wen dey bcom 28-30, dey start running from one pastor to anoda. After dey'v screwd up earlier

That no. 5 point sef.....



It has some connection with Paedophilia, Yerima and Aisha Buhari.



Women have suffered. Their ultimate success seem to be the ability to hook down a guy into marriage. No chance of self-determination.


Till their brains get an upgrade, and the heavy reliance upon the male-folk disappears.......It's a man's world.

Toks2008:


Repost ke?

No mind me jare, na as I take see am I yarn am

Toks2008:


Just enjoying myself jare.

Honestly speaking, most ladies tend to say No to those questions. We want it Big at once But life is not a bed of roses!
You have to loose something to gain something!

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have sen many visit many prayer houses just to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it becomes for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"do you work in the ministry of employment?" maybe you just might help him get a job so that he will have a regular source of income to take care of you.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not face hardship? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling face.


3.Can you have a very low budget marriage?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage with N50,000 budget where you pay the bride price and proceed to the registry and when the money starts coming in you can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

.....kudos jhur! u av done a excellent research.

Omotayor123:

Honestly speaking, most ladies tend to say No to those questions. We want it Big at once But life is not a bed of roses!
You have to loose something to gain something!

And that is why most ladies will continue to be used and dumped and when they keep wasting time running from pillar to post to get a husband, they should be reminded that they are there own bane.

In dj khalid's voice***another one**!! i say No to all what u wrote up there op

Toks2008:


And that is why most ladies will continue to be used and dumped and when they keep wasting time running from pillar to post to get a husband, they should be reminded that they are there own bane.

May God help female folks!

prettythicksme:
In dj khalid's voice***another one**!! i sat No to ur all what u wrote up there op

Good evening madam, long time.

Abeg if you have a daughter remind her that Dangote once sold sugar and salt in small quantity o.
Remind her that Donjazzy once fried akara and buns at a popular bus-top to survive and remind her that some millionaires today were once squatters and not even a proud owner of a room apartment.

prettythicksme:
In dj khalid's voice***another one**!! i sat No to ur all what u wrote up there op

Me too.. Is that why we are still Single

In summary - Rome was not built in a day
He(she) dat has ears should hear!!!

Toks2008:


Good evening madam, long time.

Abeg if you have a daughter remind her that Dangote once sold sugar and salt in small quantity o.
Remind her that Donjazzy once fried akara and buns at a popular bus-top to survive and remind her that some millionaires today were once squatters and not even a proud owner of a room apartment.

I wont remind her! some pple r born into wealth from day 1!.not all rich men goes through hard time.

Omotayor123:

Me too.. Is that why we are still Single

Nah,i am not single

Toks2008:


Good evening madam, long time.

Abeg if you have a daughter remind her that Dangote once sold sugar and salt in small quantity o.
Remind her that Donjazzy once fried akara and buns at a popular bus-top to survive and remind her that some millionaires today were once squatters and not even a proud owner of a room apartment.

True.. But suffering with a guy doesn't guarantee your future or Anything.. Tell me, where are the ladies that suffer with Don jazzy How come Olamide is skeptical about marrying the woman that suffer with him even after she bore his child
That's why I don't blame ladies who had refused to suffer with any guy.

prettythicksme:
Nah,i am not single

Stop lying joor

Omotayor123:

Stop lying joor

i am married!

Nicely written. I agree with your post but I have a reservation with the number 2 point. Here's an excerpt from the said point;

"Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not face hardship? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling face."

Like I said while I agree with what you said I feel indifferent about the embolden. Quite true a rich fellow might face challenges and financial setbacks but the possibility of this happening is way less likely than a struggling fellow having a breakthrough to success. I keep hearing this saying all the time that what's the possibility a rich won't get broke? Yes true, but such occurrence is not as possible like that of a not-to-do well hitting landmines of riches. This saying is as if 'prospect' guarantees 'riches'.

Also, let's put ourselves in ladies shoes for a moment. Shall we? You have two guys who are showing interest in you and you have some form of attraction towards the both of them. One is rich and the other struggling but he's got prospect all the same. Who would you go for among the two? If your daughter or sister is saddled between these two choices of men who would you recommend for her?

Honest response with reasons please. And while at it be reminded that prospect doesn't always result to success. Not everyone with noticeable prospect becomes rich.

prettythicksme:
i am married!

To OP I guess

prettythicksme:
I wont remind her! some pple r born into wealth from day 1!.not all rich men goes through hard time.

Then she better starts scouting for a rich man and when she sees one she better walks up to hiim and say please marry me.

Omotayor123:

True.. But suffering with a guy doesn't guarantee your future or Anything.. Tell me, where are the ladies that suffer with Don jazzy How come Olamide is skeptical about marrying the woman that suffer with him even after she bore his child
That's why I don't blame ladies who had refused to suffer with any guy.

This mindset is even more demeaning for a lady to hinge her perseverance with a struggling man on leveraging on his possible success in life.

Is it that our ladies are so hopeless and parasitic that they believe loving a struggling guy is a favour that must be reciprocated.

Abeg if any girl is not willing to be with a man for the right reason then let her start scouting for a rich guy to purchase her.

Toks2008:


This mindset is even more demeaning for a lady to hinge her perseverance with a struggling man on leveraging on his possible success in life.

Is it that our ladies are so hopeless and parasitic that they believe loving a struggling guy is a favour that must be reciprocated.

Abeg if any girl is not willing to be with a man for the right reason then let her start scouting for a rich guy to purchase her.

So it shouldn't be reciprocated .. They say marriage is come rain come shine, And so should be relationship. You think it's a bad idea or greedy for a mouth that eat bone to eat meat when it's readily available
What is the essence of staying in the rain with some one who wouldn't allow you stay with him when the Sun shines

ronald4lif:
Nicely written. I agree with your post but I have a reservation with the number 2 point. Here's an excerpt from the said point;

"Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not face hardship? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling face."

Like I said while I agree with what you said I feel indifferent about the embolden. Quite true a rich fellow might face challenges and financial setbacks but the possibility of this happening is way less likely than a struggling fellow having a breakthrough to success. I keep hearing this saying all the time that what's the possibility a rich won't get broke? Yes true, but such occurrence is not as possible like that of a not-to-do well hitting landmines of riches. This saying is as if 'prospect' guarantees 'riches'.

Beside, let's put ourselves in ladies shoes for a moment. Shall we? You have two guys who are showing interest in you and you have some form of attraction towards the both of them. One is rich and the other struggling but he's got prospect all the same. Who would you go for among the two? If your daughter or sister is saddled between these two choices of men who would you recommend for her?

Honest response with reasons please. And while at it be reminded that prospect doesn't always result to success. Not everyone with noticeable prospect becomes rich.

I love your excellent opinionated stands.

If im to advice my daughter i would ask her to follow her heart.

Nevertheless i will also let her understand that she can also be fin independent and must never use a man wealth as a yardstick to choosing a spouse.

A guy that has a job or in business sure have an edge but when a lady loves for the right reasons,wealth becomes inconsequential.

so yes a vision driven man is berrer than a man who is fortunate to have a job or thriving business because take away that job or business and he may nver recover but a man of vision always bounces back.

Nevertheless,the ideology of a bird in hand will always make one settle for a rich guy over an aspiring one but as i wrote,if our ladies can love for the right reason marriages will be more fun and rewarding.

Omotayor123:

So it shouldn't be reciprocated .. They say marriage is come rain come shine, And so should be relationship. You think it's a bad idea or greedy for a mouth that eat bone to eat meat when it's readily available
What is the essence of staying in the rain with some one who wouldn't allow you stay with him when the Sun shines

Very simple

Its about choice based on feelings without affiliations to his potential future fortune.

Thats the point.

When a lady stays with a struggling guy with hope that he makes it someday FOR HER TO START ENJOYING HIS WEALTH then that is parasitic,foolish and totally unreasonable.

If u wanna stay with a struggling guy do so because u love him and not because u are expecting a payback like its a service u are rendering.

i just hope u catch the drift.