bisifoundation:
My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks(handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up. Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

bisifoundation:
My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.
Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing thru, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.
This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep.

goldenruby:
Hmmmmm. Looks to me like there's really no rule that governs the marriage institution.
Well for me, A man's physical Beauty is absolutely irrelevant! Give me a 'gorilla-looking' man if he's got the most handsome heart and ready to lay down for his family, I'd be ready to compliment his looks

Nitefury:


ah ruby... I'm gorilla looking... But I've got a handsome heart... Will you compliment my looks?

Nitefury:
Bisi is hurting.

Reminds me of a thread asking why Nigerian men shy away from responsibilities once they know their wives are capable and willing.

You're husband is just being very selfish. He understands you wouldn't slack paying your kids tuition or take up his responsibilities so he just relaxes. Trust me Bisi, you hubby understands what he's doing perfectly well. His thinking is after all, you got his ass covered even when you dated, so why should you stop when you're now married? If you ask me, i think he also understood earlier on you wanted him for his looks and at the end of the day, he settled with you knowing your (family's) financial capabilities.

No be only women dey dig gold sha. Your hubby just do fine-boy fine-boy catch you.

Things like this drive women away from their partners emotionally.

goldenruby:
And You ignored the 2nd spec.. Chai You have been disqualified.

EfemenaXY:


Absolutely spot on!

And I really do feel for her. Poor girl.

Nitefury:


Ah.. Ruby Ruby.. I wasn't with my glasses when i read that initially na. Not fair o.. I'm a 110% ready to lay down for my family. The extra 10% is for you specially. Date nights, Vacation to Obudu at the peak of every rainy season, be sending you the good old school love text messages, I'll bake for ya etc.. I'll be the direct opposite of the man in this story...

Nitefury:


Yes o... This kind of Husbands would be quick to start threads on how their wives are no longer interested in love making.. Forgetting how their habits are frustrating life outta their wives..

No mind dem

Aitee1:
Hmmmmmmmm...timely piece!

Experience they say is the best teacher, guess it time to reason someone's matter!

jabojafa:
lolz wich person mata?

KanwuliaJara:
Where are the NL "men"?

EfemenaXY:


Lol! KJ's on a "mission" tonight!

Howdy babes? Happy weekend.

tpiander:
ok, what are we supposed to do or say now?

I don't understand what exactly the op wants.

emekachimek:
This is really heartbreaking! First of all, I commend your doggedness even when your husband is not fulfilling his responsibility to his family. Even the scriptures say that a man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel; I may not want to use that word for your husband but the bible has said so. Secondly, the bible also says that a wise woman builds her home while the foolish tears it apart. You are a wise woman and have built your home, don't tear it apart. Keep loving and praying for him. Whatever a man sows, that he shall reap. He will regret all he's doing much later in life when your children are grown and you shall reap the fruit of your hard work. Lastly, you are among the few that understand what to be a wife means. PLS DON'T REGRET MARRYING HIM, keep praying for for him

emekachimek:
This is really heartbreaking! First of all, I commend your doggedness even when your husband is not fulfilling his responsibility to his family. Even the scriptures say that a man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel; I may not want to use that word for your husband but the bible has said so. Secondly, the bible also says that a wise woman builds her home while the foolish tears it apart. You are a wise woman and have built your home, don't tear it apart. Keep loving and praying for him. Whatever a man sows, that he shall reap. He will regret all he's doing much later in life when your children are grown and you shall reap the fruit of your hard work. Lastly, you are among the few that understand what to be a wife means. PLS DON'T REGRET MARRYING HIM, keep praying for for him