Hmmmm

Interesting.

Na handsome face u go chop??

K

MoltenMagma:

Sometimes, infact most times your fingers run faster than your brain.

If you don't understand what the op wants then read the post again and stop the crap.

Super story!

Kimoni:
Not sure I can blame your husband here.

You were feeding him 3 square meals before marriage After marriage, he would squander your money and depend on yours for survival. Till date, you are 100% responsible for the family upkeep.

So what has changed? Why should he suddenly change from the norm? Or why are you suddenly expecting something different?

I honestly don't get. Anyways, you've learnt your lesson, pass it on to your kids.

#Neverbeanenabler

Good one!

I also don't get this post.It is rather too late for her or maybe she is trying to teach the younger ones not to follow her footsteps.

Too bad... I can't live that kind of life.. Even if the love is still dere.. U have to do sth to bring out the man in him..

That is me, i am a gorilla and hardworking

goldenruby:
Hmmmmm. Looks to me like there's really no rule that governs the marriage institution.
Well for me, A man's physical Beauty is absolutely irrelevant! Give me a 'gorilla-looking' man if he's got the most handsome heart and ready to lay down for his family, I'd be ready to compliment his looks

Some guys no get shame sha. I wonder how it will feel like depending a woman for livelihood. I'd rather starve or push barrow if it comes to that than depend on a woman, wife or not. Geez!

hmm

thorpido:
Handsomeness is one of the least reasons to marry a man.You have definitely learnt that by now.
Unfortunately,there are still many young girls who make decisions on who to marry by these poor reasons.

Tell them o.. Girls b lykin mundane tins since garden of eden

bisifoundation:
I lived a very religious life in campus, and was not in any relationship at all. After school , I met this young handsome guy in 2006. Sincerely, I felt I didn’t not merit him because he is very handsome, while I am on the average beauty wise. The only thing that attracted me to him was the look. He was an hustler and lived a low income life. Throughout our courtship of 18months, He never gave me a dime. I came from a financially buoyant famiy, I therefore saw no need in asking him for anything, rather I was feeding him with three square meal. We got wedded in the year 2007, and I gave him the flower of my womanhood (virginity) but I was not really excited for just no reason.

My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.

I got a job before he did, but one thing I discover is that my husband spends his money without thinking about tomorrow and always depend on my salary to survive the family. In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I was running a masters degree program, doing many businesses, and still raising kids. I travelled every week in a bid to keep the family running. Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing through, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.

This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep. Every biz you introduce to my husband is downgrading to him. I am currently on my PHd degree, I am nursing a set of triplet, and still work hard to survive my family.

It is now that I realize that I married my husband because of his handsomeness, and that he is mentally very shallow. My husband thinks like a child and has virtually no plan for his family.

My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks (handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up.

Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

To married men and women there, did you make some mistakes when choosing? Pls share with intending husbands and wives to help them make informed decision.

How does posting this on Nairaland help your marriage weather the storm? instead of you to post your problems to God you are posting it here, were you told that God visits Nairaland ni?

dis write up just gives hope to worwor nairalanders

I'm still marrying a handsome man though.

Seriously though, who marries a person simply because of looks? Looks can be the attracting factor but c'mon, he/she has to have something upstairs.

1. He was handsome.
2. It is PhD not PHd
3. Is he still handsome after 8years?
4. Do you plan on increasing the family size beyond 5pax.
5. Employ a maid at home so that your husband can get another job. Try this. It would work.

Op you were not looking after three kids. They are four.

And the fourth one hmmmmm. .... lord have mercy..

Ioannes:


How does posting this on Nairaland help your marriage weather the storm? instead of you to post your problems to God you are posting it here, were you told that God visits Nairaland ni?

She didn't post her problem on nairaland... Rather it was an advise.. Can't you read and understand?

GOOD ONE, MY FRIEND YOU HAVE TRIED BUT PRAY TO GOD TO CHANGE HIS HEART, AM SURE HE WILL TURN A NEW LEAVE.
KEEP IT UP, SO MANY ARE IN YOUR SHOE BUT IT A MATTER OF TIME.

goldenruby:
Hmmmmm. Looks to me like there's really no rule that governs the marriage institution.
Well for me, A man's physical Beauty is absolutely irrelevant! Give me a 'gorilla-looking' man if he's got the most handsome heart and ready to lay down for his family, I'd be ready to compliment his looks

. Lady u ar jst talkin.

mmmm

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Take heart dear.. If nobody will God will reward you. Don't look it from dat perperstive, just take it in such a way dat ur like a caddle dat shine in d darkness of this life... Dat such a profund act

Oh trust me, this generation is a lot wiser now, they practically worship money.

raayah:


Madam just keep living! It will get easier. Your children will grow and take care of you.
You are working, taking care of triplets and doing a p.h.d?? You are super woman !

It will get better!


You are not a Lazy woman. A good man will be appreciate you!

This is a good advice but biko OP dont take it o, look for alternatives. Your kids are just four, how many more years before they start taking care of you? Which means you will continue to be 100% responsible for the family upkeep for at least 15 more years.

PLEASE DON'T TRY AND GO OUT OF THE MARRIAGE, I BELIEVE THINGS WILL BE OK, WHAT EVER IS HAPPENING GOD KNOW TO IT, BELIEVE ME BOTH OF YOU ARE MADE FOR EACH OTHER IF NOT GOD WILL NOT BLESS YOU WITH A SECT OF TRIPLET.

MY ADVISE FOR YOU, IS TO KEEP PRAYING FOR HIM, TELL GOD TO PROVIDE A GOOD JOB OR BUSINESS THAT WILL MAKE HIM DO AS HUSBAND IN YOUR HOME.

YOUR PRAYERS IS VERY IMPORTANT IN HIS LIFE RIGHT NOW.

Ooops lazy men sucks... And they nag like die, they can't do a bit out of what they want others 2 do for them

Hmmm...dis marriage thing sef...It is a complex relationship. My heart goes out to all women who are taken advantaged by lazy men who Shamelessly feed fat on their women's wealth without contributing nothing. HOWEVER; LOVE is the foundation of marriage! Women, don't marry a man you don't love no matter how much he begs you-because your love for him is going to be tested seriouisly when u wed. If a woman truly loves a man, she will be willing to endure with him no matter the storm and see they cross the storm. Not d kind of bread and buitter marriages we got today where women marry men for funny reasons. How can the OP marry a man just for his looks its is laughable

bisifoundation:
I lived a very religious life in campus, and was not in any relationship at all. After school , I met this young handsome guy in 2006. Sincerely, I felt I didn’t not merit him because he is very handsome, while I am on the average beauty wise. The only thing that attracted me to him was the look. He was an hustler and lived a low income life. Throughout our courtship of 18months, He never gave me a dime. I came from a financially buoyant famiy, I therefore saw no need in asking him for anything, rather I was feeding him with three square meal. We got wedded in the year 2007, and I gave him the flower of my womanhood (virginity) but I was not really excited for just no reason.

My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.

I got a job before he did, but one thing I discover is that my husband spends his money without thinking about tomorrow and always depend on my salary to survive the family. In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I was running a masters degree program, doing many businesses, and still raising kids. I travelled every week in a bid to keep the family running. Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing through, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.

This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep. Every biz you introduce to my husband is downgrading to him. I am currently on my PHd degree, I am nursing a set of triplet, and still work hard to survive my family.

It is now that I realize that I married my husband because of his handsomeness, and that he is mentally very shallow. My husband thinks like a child and has virtually no plan for his family.

My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks (handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up.

Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

To married men and women there, did you make some mistakes when choosing? Pls share with intending husbands and wives to help them make informed decision.

Wow...

edwife:


Good one!

I also don't get this post.It is rather too late for her or maybe she is trying to teach the younger ones not to follow her footsteps.

I don't get it too! Its like the op has given up or something? She has accepted it as her fate.