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Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Aitee1: 2:18pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
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Re: Lessons From My Marriage by JesusDWay(m): 2:19pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: Best and balanced comment I've read so far. I don't think there's much problem at all, provided the man is someone who is open to correction and is willing to change. People should however know that sometimes, money doesn't answer to hustling and really, it's not all jack of trades that he will want to do even in his state. Some of the time, women don't other to learn men psychology. Thing is, men and women usually view things differently. I watched a Mt Zion movie in which the man was out of job and was trying to find something to do, he later went to all these roadside brick making outfit and was told he'll be paid 5k per month(I think he had worked in a company before and was living comfortably) but as far as he's concerned, it was too little cuz it can solve next to nothing considering their predicament but guess what, the wife said he should have taken it. As far as the man is concerned, 5k can't do nothing but for the woman, it represents husband going out and not being lazy. She did say he single-handedly took care of them for 4years and they did it together initially but it's now that she has been doing it and so, that doesn't show to me that he really doesn't want to work infact, I'm almost almost certain he's going through psychological issues as well. He should however be told he needs to change his attitude and not give a body language that he doesn't care, while also trying to see if there's something he can do. Marriage sometimes doesn't go the way many plan it so, singles out there had better be prepared. I pray the best for us all |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by ruphytelecom(m): 2:19pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I think what the man needs is a good job and things will turn around for good, don't paint him black completely. 4 Likes |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Nobody: 2:20pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Forwetinnah:take care of urself first... babymama sure pass. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Oduduwaboy(m): 2:22pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Sorry that your husband is the perfect example of those yoruba call FAWORAJA ( someone who used his beauty to marry à wife but is actually à ne'er-do-well ). Why did God burden you with à set of triplet for such à uséless man ? I was going to advise you to divorce him but 3 children are just too many to raise alone ...so just carry your cross & be happy ! |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Forwetinnah: 2:25pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
kosplateau: I'm comfortably single. ..i can't thank God enough, I'm doing great on my own. Baby Mama ko..i cant stoop that low, Danke! |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by akyus(m): 2:31pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Wow! But just wish I could hear from her spouse. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by FRANKOXY(m): 2:34pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Shymm3x: 2:34pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
What's the correlation between being irresponsible/lazy and physical-qualities/outward-appearance? There are loads of irresponsible ugly mofos out there with unnecessary pride...so it has nothing to do with how he looks. Ol'boy is just lazy. This is reminiscent of how some chics attach the "play boy" tag to any guy that's good looking. Just stop feeding the lazy mofo - when he's hungry and homeless, he'll get his bummy arse up and go fend for himself and his kids. 3 Likes |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Odunharry(m): 2:39pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
thorpido:true.. many will still keep making the mistake.. not all handsome guys are nice |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Odunharry(m): 2:41pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Shymm3x:true this.. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by bomasek(m): 2:42pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
goldenruby:Nne am a silver back gorilla looking man,u up for grabs? |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Crowny11(f): 2:48pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
goldenruby: I support that. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Tamakay(m): 2:49pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Both of u have shallow minds but d guy in my view still has an escape route. One,u said u guys courted for 18mnths. As a graduate u should've read some books about marriage to know beyond d reason u give for marrying him. My dear, ur husband is just frustrated because he has no job.A man with pride will never be happy when d wife plays d man of d house. Thank God u attest to d fact that he was once supportive.pls pray to God to give ur husband a better job and u will see him be d husband u once loved. Personally, dis is d reason why I don't allow women to spend for me. 1 Like |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by chiomilisa(f): 2:50pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
baby girl. see, not always juicy. I discover these days that some men are just obiageli (come and eat) and obianuju coming to meet and enjoy wealth.. so unfortunate is not suppose to be so. just keep on doing things you know u can do. partially I'm passing through same. but u know when u get to the hospital, women kept dieing of bp and so many others and the men kept on saying we bother too much that is why the illness kept coming. but I leant one thing now, which is doing d ones you can do and leave the rest, tank you. kindly advice, I almost lost my memory cos of stress of life. just take it easy. bye |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Nobody: 2:50pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
bisifoundation:And the cycle continues. Glad you've realized your mistakes. To all the men out there, please take it easy on your woman. So, so, so sorry OP. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by mikolo80: 2:51pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Nitefury:when she de find fine boy to marry we no here all this grammar o 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by iamwrong(m): 2:52pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Aitee1: No ma'aam Observation is the best teacher. from the Op writeup, before she got married to him there are three red flags (i am sure there are other traits she noticed before they got married) that should have told her the kinda marriage she was getting herself into. 1. He was a hustler and low income earner: That should should have given you clues on his efforts and current plans on how he intends to improve his situation/lot as at then and in the long run. Examples could be going for further studies, adding a new skill/professional qualifications/courses, entrepreneurial drive etc etc. Besides by observation/instincts you would know if he was hardworking, ambitious or just content with his fate as this affects your marriage/kids/family in the long run. 2. He never gave a dime: whereas you where doing the giving/spending: Here that's another red flag especially when it bothers on marriage, there you would have known his sense of responsibilities to an extent. And from what the Op wrote, seems to me she was the man in the relationship before they got married. 3. Feeding Him 3 times daily: And i am sure so many questions where running through your head full of doubts concerning the hubby to be during the courting period. If he cant feed himself that alone should tell you how he's gonna feed and care for you and the kids etc when married. Here through Observations, she could have sat down and meditated, learnt some lessons, consult with married folks and elders (as they will guide/advise you, tell you their own observations etc. based on the information you supplied concerning your partner to be) that will to lead good and informed decisions/actions as well as saving you a lifetime of internal sorrow, poverty, scars etc that have multiplier effects, except shes ready to face the consequences by ignoring these observations. Whereas Experience can make or mar you depending on the choices you make. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by kandiikane(m): 2:53pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
goldenruby: Lol.... my ovaries just died. I personally look for someone who is beautiful all round and hard working with the determination to succeed in life. I do not want my children to lack in any area at all but good on you. @topic, I have nothing to say about your predicament oshh, but atleast you have beautiful kids. Right? Console yourself with that and get on with your life seems like you are doing well for yourself, unless you want to leave him? |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by mikolo80: 2:54pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
bisifoundation:classic example of fish brain |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by itzdopekid(m): 2:54pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Nobody: 3:01pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Forwetinnah:It is for me...tell that to Mikel. That way allows many men to be alive today. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by AOHMOTORS: 3:07pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
When is part 2 of this Bollywood movie coming out |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Nobody: 3:07pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Yeye Nlanders. 'pray for him'. That's the stupiid advice yall morons can give. Madam, i compliment you for ur doggedness. Don't let the lazy azz niggga make you regret the typa girl u are. Most men would die to have u. Unfortunately, u fell into wrong hands. Divorce his lazy ass. It will make him see ur importance, and change. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Elevation(m): 3:08pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Bisifoundation is your husband genuinely bornagain? if yes pray for his character, Jesus can change any humanbeing at anytime ,i'm sure you know this and if No go on your knees and intercede for his soul to get genuinely saved, Go on your knees. God is the Almighty He can do all things believe in him, Education informs, religious people create reforms but only Jesus transforms.Go to Him |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Edusouls(m): 3:10pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
be doing it,it is not a sin and an abomination that u re contributrng heavily to ur own household, it is for ur own good and ur husband's, when he get to his feets am sure he will take on from where u stopped, women are naturaly born so selfish that when contributing to building ur own home, still u people dont do that with a good heart,u grudge when doing ur own thing, sorry the harsh reality nowadays is that family raising is now 50, 50, and men die at an alarming rate nowadays,so even treat him well,cos if u dont if he dies, then u will see double wahala, that time u will solely be responsible for ur kids up bringing till they grow and wont complain again. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by zinaunreal(m): 3:16pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by nobeku: 3:16pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Xplicit1:Hmm..someone comes here and gives a "story" that non of us are witnesses to, and nairalanders start to judge without hearing the other side of the story.. What do you expect the woman to say? That she's not hard working or understanding? funny.. this story is not complete. Any person married with kids for years, that wants to uphold the truth, will tell you so.. Most guys/chics on this thread are obviously single.. |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by zinaunreal(m): 3:16pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
So because you were feeding him we won't hear word again. That's the thing about women, anytime they take a man's responsibility they go public and disgrace their men. Ingrate 2 Likes |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by nobeku: 3:18pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
AheadMarket:You obviously a very young lady.. You are not married.. You have no business giving advice.. Besides the lady or op might be giving us half truths.. Be Wise! |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by wilcox(m): 3:19pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
uote author=goldenruby post=38170944]Hmmmmm. Looks to me like there's really no rule that governs the marriage institution. Well for me, A man's physical Beauty is absolutely irrelevant! Give me a 'gorilla-looking' man if he's got the most handsome heart and ready to lay down for his family, I'd be ready to compliment his looks [/quote] You sound like a wife material. But who knows, because it easier said than done |
Re: Lessons From My Marriage by Nobody: 3:24pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
goldenruby:you right. Looks don't matter. Money as well. I've heard of rich guys turturing their wives. What matters is the heart |
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