Toks2008:


The question now is what if you see a serious guy who for some reason is not buoyant enough to get that tuxedo suit or that imagined wedding gown,can you say yes and still marry him in the most simplistic way imagined while you plan for a bigger one when the funds are available?

Why i asked this question is because to a typical Naija girl,if a man is not ready for a flamboyant wedding ceremony then he is not ready for marriage and many ladies now focus more on the glamour of wedding ceremony rather than the main marriage so the guy simply keeps mum and continues to bleep da hell outta you and when he is indeed ready for the wedding ceremony,he dumps your overused ass for a new younger babe and then you begin to cry that someone in your village is after you.

Every lady must understand that in as much as that opulence of a day's celebration is important,it must never cloud the psyche of any lady to settle for a dog or pig in the name of a man because he has the money to organize that wedding ceremony and leaving a struggling guy who loves you like kilode just because he has not made enough dough to give you that dream wedding.

@toks sweetheart am so sorry for what happened to you but I don't think it was rape anymore cos you enjoyed it for that was why you ejaculated. So stop telling people you were raped cos you weren't sweetheart.

Youngpo413:
hahahahaha,I'm not a lady,they are the only ones who lie about their age

ok you re cute but you can see, you are not qualified to be here darling[center][/center]

Toks2008:


That is the 100% truth.

A lady wants a tall,cute,Rich,God fearing,Romantic*takes a breath* caring,non aggressive...... and on and on the endless list continues yet look at these ladies and you wil be shocked that their lives are totally not worthy of even a bad guy but the worse guy they can ever imagine to have.

I beg guys or ladies as teh case may be and im writing out of experience,don't believe what any lady or guy tells you about an ex...if you want to risk it please go ahead and do that BUT DO NOT TAKE THEIR WORD. This is why i quickly ask any lady who asks me about my ex if she will not mind having her number to ask her what went down.

If it were possible;e to chat up the ex of any lady i want to date i would be glad and even if the guy try to paint her bad,at least i will have an idea of the personality of the lady im planning to settle down with and this also concerns ladies in respect to teh guy they want to date.

You don't set out attributes as a criteria for the type of man you ant when you do not even have one solid attribute any man can boast of.

Work on yourself and if you are done working on yourself, you will inadvertently attract the right suitors.

toks please stop this. This is double standard. I saw the post where you out listed what you want in a woman so why wouldn't a woman outline what she wants in a man too? Stop nah

fairlyisabel:
@toks sweetheart am so sorry for what happened to you but I don't think it was rape anymore cos you enjoyed it for that was why you ejaculated. So stop telling people you were raped cos you weren't sweetheart.

LOL! IN the English world,been molested is never the same as rape and there was no where i used the word rape but MOLEST.

Now even when it comes to rApe cases are you not aware that orgasm sometimes occur and this does not still change the fact that it was a case of rape.

fairlyisabel:
toks please stop this. This is double standard. I saw the post where you out listed what you want in a woman so why wouldn't a woman outline what she wants in a man too? Stop nah

My sister abeg go read again..

E no pass 3

Good cook

Pleasing to the eyes

GOD fearing

shikenah..no long list

Melish:




Twenty year olds marry every day all over the world so no be tory...


I'm here cause I'm really passionate about this matter..many a time ladies are pulling things the wrong way expecting things to turn out right.... I'm here to tell ladies where they're missing it so as to readjust and get to the promised land ... I've had little experience myself but have learned extensively in this area both from people's experiences and from other materials .. So that I won't waste my time in relationships and end up devastated at the end due to ignorance of the facts ...

Melish! You are a darling!! Wow!!!

halexito:

Melish! You are a darling!! Wow!!!

This your darling is an unserious 20year old lady who comes here to write theory and i actually teased her to know if she was really ready to settle down as she has turned mario on this thread.But when she made her response i just concluded that she is even more confused than i think.

Says she is not ready to marry till she is 25 and even more annoying is her stands that she can never marry any man she meets online so please ask her why did she come here to give us theoretic advice? let her go and give the offline people who she may end up with.Iranu

tbaby123:


Do u speak owo?, or say you from owo town...
I really get excited wen I meet people from my hometown

I be Igbo man o, but understand when its spoken

Toks2008:


This your darling is an unserious 20year old lady who comes here to write theory and i actually teased her to know if she was really ready to settle down as she has turned mario on this thread.But when she made her response i just concluded that she is even more confused than i think.

Says she is not ready to marry till she is 25 and even more annoying is her stands that she can never marry any man she meets online so please ask her why did she come here to give us theoretic advice? let her go and give the offline people who she may end up with.Iranu

@Toks2008, she mentioned some points I agree with. No harm in that. But judging from her last post, I think she's arrogant and very immature. She believed she'd seen and READ about EVERYTHING.
So she believes she's an authority to give advice AND NOT TAKE. A very big mistake. If you're reading this Melish, you've still got a whole lot to learn.

pucci:

I be Igbo man o, but understand when its spoken

O yea That is nice o

Toks2008:


LOL! IN the English world,been molested is never the same as rape and there was no where i used the word rape but MOLEST.

Now even when it comes to rApe cases are you not aware that orgasm sometimes occur and this does not still change the fact that it was a case of rape.

I don't really get what you mean. But to me, so long you ejaculated, it means you enjoyed it. Sorry for the past.

Toks2008, fairlyisabel, udysweet, tbaby, our dear Op and others....Goodevening everyone.

Hope you all had a good day?

For me, it was a very long day but good all the same.

Toks2008:


My sister abeg go read again..

E no pass 3

Good cook

Pleasing to the eyes

GOD fearing

shikenah..no long list

it doesn't matter the number of qualities you want. Be it 5,6,1 for the fact that there are what you look out for in a partner, it's ok. Born-agains don't even envisage or outline qualities they want rather they go to God in prayers seeking for direction on the person to go for. So my dear it doesn't really matter how many qualities you listed. It's your decision.

gratefulme40:
Toks2008, fairlyisabel, udysweet, tbaby, our dear Op and others....Goodevening everyone.

Hope you all had a good day?

For me, it was a very long day but good all the same.

goodevening dear. Welcome back. Hope you had a very beautiful day! Joe should come and welcome you

@ torrque, where art thou?

halexito:

@Toks2008, she mentioned some points I agree with. No harm in that. But judging from her last post, I think she's arrogant and very immature. She believed she'd seen and READ about EVERYTHING.
So she believes she's an authority to give advice AND NOT TAKE. A very big mistake. If you're reading this Melish, you've still got a whole lot to learn.

why should you talk about people in that manner? That's very wrong. Why not talk to her directly than saying it the way you just did. Too bad.

Since I don't qualify 100%, I've remained at the sidelines, but I read some things that I will like to address, if you will permit.

1. Melish in very simple words, what Toks2008 etc have been telling you nicely is - GERRARAHERE! You won't understand why at this age, but when you're 30+, you will know that your 'words on marble' won't work.

2. Fairyisabel, I've read your comments on love etc and I can relate to the fact that you are speaking from experience. My prayer is that you experience love in its truest and purest form and I know you will sing a different song.

Having an orgasm is a reflex action dear. Rape is not defined by the presence or absence of an orgasm, but by the absence of voluntary consent. Thus, if Toks2008 did not consent to the liaison, it is still rape even if he had a thousand orgasms in a row.

3. Finally, born again Christians should have a list of what they want in a life partner. The Bible talks about 'he who finds a wife', how will you find if you don't have expectations of what you want to see? Whilst your list should not be unrealistic (which is what Toks2008 is trying to say), it is only proper you have a list of desirables. remember, if you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything!

Back to my VIP corner on the sidelines

fairlyisabel:
goodevening dear. Welcome back. Hope you had a very beautiful day! Joe should come and welcome you

Lol....no mind Joe. Where has he been hiding sef? I have not seen his comment here lately.

Thanks jare. My day was good except the rain. I dont like rains at all.

Hope yours was good too

DIVFAVOR:


Mbanu, No I disagree, EggvinMma with this your fine name why will you go for a serial cheat, see be it serial cheat or physical abuser non is good. what if the serial cheat infects you, how will you react? Just pray for a man that will respect you.

Respect could mean a lot if things to a lot of happen. Well I pray for both, but you know life, shiite happens

Sparkles003:

pardon me but why would you even consider a serial cheat

I'm going for the lesser demon .
A lot of men cheat, at some point.Truth is we may never catch them

The true purpose of this thread has been defeated. Where is the op?

@everyone
Gdeven folks, I just logged on ooo. Tiring day. Pls give me a few mins to read thru. Then I'll comment.
Thanks and God bless.

EggovinMma:


Respect could mean a lot if things to a lot of happen. Well I pray for both, but you know life, shiite happens

My dear always go for the best ok, though it takes time and seems difficult, life has thought me to go for the best.

DIVFAVOR:


My dear always go for the best ok, though it takes time and seems difficult, life has thought me to go for the best.

Life ain't a perfect place.your best may be others' "rest".I will definitely not expect too much, but will choose a man that I can handle. Believe me there are other things worst than cheating. I have seen very bad attitudes of some men.

@everyone
Ok, I've read thru.
First, I want to greet everyone who went to work on this first monday of the month. As u know five speaks of grace (unmerited favour), so october is a month of double grace (do the math urself pls).
This month, I pray for double blessings, double favour, double open doors for everyone of us. Wherever u tendered an application, receive double favour. Wherever u ere stressed, receive double for ur trouble in Jesus name.
And now, my cane is out. I must say, am truly disappointed to read some posts here. I won't mention names but am really cut to the bone.I am so embarassed to read some stuff here. Perhaps uve all forgotten what was so attractive abt this thread, that made u join.
Now people are running their mouth unbridled, disrepecting each other. Too bad.
If life has hit u like a trailer, don't use this thread to vent.
If ur carrying baggage or u have a chip on ur shoulder bcs someone hurt u, don't use this thread to vent.
If u don't believe in love, well, why are u on this thread. Get out before I stand on ur head.
If ur under 30, what part of Don't talk' don't u understand?
If sarcasm is ur middle name, stay out of this thread.
If ur mama beat u when u were a baby, this is not a Human Rights forum, and I am not an activist, so stay out of this thread.
If ur looking for a sugar mummy, stay out!
Get back on track pls. Stop posting. Take a deep breath. Then start talking sense. Or else....stay out of this thread!!!
The truth is, I like all...well, almost all...of u. Pls don't make me change my mind.
If u want to test me, write trash, and I'll be in ur house before the week is out. If ur sim is registered, then my buddies in mtn, etisalat, etc will send me ur add, and I'll be in ur place with my pankere.
Such a shame. And ur 30 plus! I wonder what the younger people think of us.
I know u are all wonderful people. And now...let the posting continue.
Thanks and God bless.

Hmm... I'm still learning o.. Never said I don learn finish...
GOD Bless you all

Toks2008:

Another ghost mode waiting for deactivation.

What?!!! Deacti-kini? If na play stop am, lol.
Just wanted to observe before getting involved in the thread. Naturally cautious.

So what are we talking about?

Melish:
Hmm... I'm still learning o.. Never said I don learn finish...

GOD Bless you all

Lol omo oran ni omo yii lmkmd chai...i dey laugh comot water for eye....

You leave all the threads on nland come turn mario for here...chai wahala dey.

I am glad everyone has calmed down. The torrent of strange posts that appeared before, has abated. Pls remember, 9000plus people are viewing ur posts. Write responsibly, write intelligently, write respectfully, write with basic common sense.
Nairalanders are wonderful people.
God bless u and remain on top.
As I said before, may u move from counting Azikiwe (naira), to counting Mama Charles (pounds sterling)....

Please o if you are 30plus lady and single lets mingle o...no be for hook up matter,lets just discuss generally.

Even if you are as hot as fire just come lets discuss intelligently.

All of us here are equally hot in our own ways and we are more keen in having mature discussion above any other reason for being here.

Se ti gbo?