We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Put ur foot on the ground man. Simple.

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Whats the point being with a woman for 4years if you know you are likely not to marry her because of her unbearable personality? You are on a long thing man. Wey you for drop am like hot yam.

Talk to her

Same Topic I was discussing with ma Bro today

That selfishness is a really big issue and I believe any Lady who vehemently refuses to consider your stand should be dropped on a long run especially if you can't Endure it any longer.

misspicy:
Talk to her

Talking to her won't work.....Am very sure of that

Yeah
Love is always never Enough when it comes to Marriage

Slimzjoe:

Talking to her won't work.....Am very sure of that

It can help tho...

My advice; copy ur post and paste it on ur whatsapp message to her...
If dat doesn't work I don't knw what will... Maybe u shud watch "50 shades of grey" or jus find anoda girl

misspicy:
It can help tho...

For only a short while..... she will surely go back to her Real self

misspicy:
Talk to her

I have overheard this platitude from nairalanders, and it's now becoming repulsive and nauseating, please if u don't have ideas why not stay Clear? And u think he hasn't talked to her before coming here to post This? (Smh for all these kids here)

My brother, see read my comment and read it very well. Be reasonable with your self, love doesn't fall from heaven, u have to quit acting nollywood (I believe u watch too many) u DO NOT marry out of "LOVE" you marry out of compatibility . you DO NOT "love" for NO REASON (that is juvenile infatuations) ,you should see reasons to love someone....

This is what you young ones have failed to learn, and keep on making us see too many short marriages.... you are obviously INCOMPATIBLE with that woman, the best time to call it off, is 2 years ago; but all hope ain't lost, it's better late than never...... start another search Bro..... you can thnk me later...


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Lolz Op.
I have experience that too I knew how you feel.
But mine is of two months,I care for her a lot but nothing to show for it.
Some times it seems ur begging some one who claim to love you to show u for once that she likes you.It looks desperate to me but I did all that then, but at last the case still remain the xame.
(Am too emotional so I let her go in our third month old of the #relationship)

It hurts so much Op all the gurls out there are just dxame .

#Am afraid if what you see rigth now#

misspicy:
Talk to her

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

I op she is nt tired of yu. Som girls cn do anytin jst 2 end d relationship.

Raymondenyi:
I have overheard this platitude from nairalanders, and it's now becoming repulsive and nauseating, please if u don't have ideas why not stay Clear? And u think he hasn't talked to her before coming here to post This? (Smh for all these kids here)

My brother, see read my comment and read it very well. Be reasonable with your self, love doesn't fall from heaven, u have to quit acting nollywood (I believe u watch too many) u DO NOT marry out of "LOVE" you marry out of compatibility . you DO NOT "love" for NO REASON (that is juvenile infatuations) you should see reasons that should make you love someone....

This is what you young ones have failed to learn, and keep on making us see too many short marriages.... you are obviously INCOMPATIBLE with that woman, the best time to call it off, is 2 years ago; but all hope ain't lost, it's better late than never...... start another search Bro..... you can thnk me later...

I really appreciate this in no small quantity. It's not as if I don't have girls on my radar, to be honest I know I have what it takes to attract any reasonable lady, but what's the essence of bn with someone you aren't attracted to? I'm still with her because I doubt if i can love any other girl like her. Perhaps this is a final conviction to call this thing off. But I've really given so much, I mean so so much

CountDracula:
My advice; copy ur post and paste it on ur whatsapp message to her...
If dat doesn't work I don't knw what will... Maybe u shud watch "50 shades of grey" or jus find anoda girl

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

tosyne2much:
As I no know nothing about ladies, lemme call on Ronald4lif and Wristbangle to bail us out


OP, I throway salute oooo

Lol, I've always been observing ur topics and posts on Nairaland you are a cool guy. I salute you too.

Just here to read peoples advice !!!

I wonder why most ladies think and behave like their guy can never find someone like them or better than them, mostly the one u truly love , I don't know who they will put the blame on if at the age of 30somhing they're still single...by then u will be seeing them in every weekend church programmes claiming to be holy and submissive whereas dem don bcom LONDON USED

It's obvious u love her and U've shown it to her too much that shez nw taking it all for granted.... Y nt try the I don't care attitude some time,make her realise ur life doesn't depend on the relationship(even if it does)let her knw u av so many options.

Harbosede02:
It's obvious u love her and U've shown it to her too much that shez nw taking it all for granted.... Y nt try the I don't care attitude some time,make her realise ur life doesn't depend on the relationship(even if it does)let her knw u av so many options.

I've tried, I've held myself for a whole week without any form of communication with her, but that was d highest I could go, we settled and she promised to adjust, as it is now I perceive she's incorrigible, it's either i accept her that way, or I take a walk. But I'm also scared of her falling into the wrong hands....

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

This is real weakness, did u offend her?
Is she your first love?
How old are u?
U sound too soft.

johnson232:

This is real weakness, did u offend her?
Is she your first love?
How old are u?
U sound too soft.

Admittedly I emotionally weak, but is that a crime? I mean, I didn't create myself that way. As for my age I'm in my early 20s she's my first love actually. Thanks

wasak:

I've tried, I've held myself for a whole week without any form of communication with her, but that was d highest I could go, we settled and she promised to adjust, as it is now I perceive she's incorrigible, it's either i accept her that way, or I take a walk. But I'm also scared of her falling into the wrong hands....

@bolded, u are a weak guy...

Honestly am very very stubborn Midolian can say better

BT I no reach that one wey Op dey talk oooooooo

wasak:

Admittedly I emotionally weak, but is that a crime? I mean, I didn't create myself that way. As for my age I'm in my early 20s she's my first love actually. Thanks

Lol... It is a challenge u need to overcome if u really wanna enjoy any relationship with a girl, most especially nigerian girls. Since this is your first love, it's natural for u to act this way. But I employ u to call the relationship a quit, it will seem painful for a while, but will make u a better person in the long run. Sooner or later she will still dump u for a more hardened nigga, why not save yourself some respect and let b!tch go....
U don't need any hoe to live happily as a nigga....

Aminat508:
Honestly am very very stubborn Midolian can say better

BT I no reach that one wey Op dey talk oooooooo

your stubborness still better na.

I'd probably go get a cane to whip dis OP. You're showing too much weakness for a man, grow up!

midolian:
your stubborness still better na.

I gentle nah

You both are not compatible and i suggest you talk to her about it and the need for a break-up.
Its important to let her know that you're not breaking up because she has a bad character but because you feel you're not capable of appreciating her 'unique' character.