Women sometimes act very selfish at times but it all depends on how you handle your woman. There were times I had no liver to be stubborn towards them, always the good guy with no problem whatsoever, but with time full of lessons learnt, I became a BitterHoney.

O boy u try o, u use a whole one year toast babe ... ... God knows I go don give up taay taay

And from your post it shows you ve showed her too much respect, dats y she is misbehaving. Sit her down and talk to her frankly

Thanks to everyone who has his /her time to reply to my post. I feel better now, most of the suggestions here are to the effect that I should call off the relationship. I've thought about that severally, I'm wary of taking a decision like this while I still feel hurt, sometimes I feel like I'm seeing all these faults because I'm angry, who gets my drift here? So I think I'll allow myself cool off, when all things are equal and my head is cleared, I'll take a rational decision. More suggestions are actually welcome

she knws u r emotionally weak, she ix usin it to hurt u or lemme say to put u under control. Tank God 4 my lyf, i cnt take dt trash

tosyne2much:
As I know nothing about ladies, lemme call on Ronald4lif and Wristbangle to bail us out


OP, I throway salute oooo

Heheheh. Abeg tell ronald4lif biko!

very confused beings (girls) ,they don't know what they want.. I show u care, love and u don't give a bull crap bout me, girl u re deleted from my life. what does she want again, uve showed her love, bought her a phone and yet she acts like u don't exist, reason y I don't care or think bout having a gf, they even think I'm a playa. I'm cool with that op. just talk to other girls, make her know she isn't the only girl, act like she doesn't exist

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

@ Bolded

There...your solution is in your problem.

Those times she's being 'stubborn', she really, deeply, desires that your 'stubbornness' overwhelms her own.

She wants your 'craze' to cure her 'craze'...

So be a firm man, with strong boundaries.

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In addition, I'll just add this beautiful, powerful and sublime passage, from The Way of The Superior Man:


“Every moment of your life is either a test or a celebration. The same is true about every moment with your woman, only doubly so. Not only is her simple existence a test for you, but one of her deepest pleasures in intimacy is testing you, and then feeling you are not moved off course by her challenge.

The most erotic moment for a woman is feeling that you are Shiva, the divine masculine: unperturbable, totally loving, fully present, and all-pervading. She cannot move you, because you already are what you are, with or without her. She cannot scare you away, because you already penetrate her in fearless love, pervading her heart and body. She cannot distract you, because your one-pointed commitment to truth will not bend to her wiles. Feeling this hugeness of love and freedom in you, she can trust you, utterly, and surrender her testing in celebration of love.

Until she wants to feel you as Shiva again. And then the testing will begin anew. In fact, it is precisely when you are most Shiva-like that she will most test you.”

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Every man should emblazon that on the mental ceiling of their consciousness...

Glorious.

OP u will do yourself more good by taking a walk out of the relationship, it would hurt you because 4years of been together is no joke,i feel your pain really,u deserve more n your best days are still ahead of you..ciao!

wasak:
Thanks to everyone who has his /her time to reply to my post. I feel better now, most of the suggestions here are to the effect that I should call off the relationship. I've thought about that severally, I'm wary of taking a decision like this while I still feel hurt, sometimes I feel like I'm seeing all these faults because I'm angry, who gets my drift here? So I think I'll allow myself cool off, when all things are equal and my head is cleared, I'll take a rational decision. More suggestions are actually welcome

Let me attempt to give you some form of clarity.

In no exact order of importance.... Can you mention 5 ways she has affected you positively in the space of the last two years.

Going forward... What would you say are the 6 most alluring things about her that makes you smile in your corner when you remember them.

Please do well to answer these questions as honestly as you can.

We'll take it from there.

Here to read comments.

Slap.her when she did not expect and see her reaction

live her alone. She is nt ready for a relationship yet and don't force yourself on her.

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Take her to prayer city

Some Ladies Are Naturally Stubborn In Nature.Theres Nothin You Can Do About It

Leave her!

wasak:

I really appreciate this in no small quantity. It's not as if I don't have girls on my radar, to be honest I know I have what it takes to attract any reasonable lady, but what's the essence of bn with someone you aren't attracted to? I'm still with her because I doubt if i can love any other girl like her. Perhaps this is a final conviction to call this thing off. But I've really given so much, I mean so so much

when they say don't overinvest to enable logging off easily...u guys won't listen.

Be gentle, if truely you love her and want you guys to work

Give her regularly caning

F

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Its time to get rid of things that do not fit in your life...e.g your stubborn gf.

lekankolade:
I wonder why most ladies think and behave like their guy can never find someone like them or better than them, mostly the one u truly love , I don't know who they will put the blame on if at the age of 30somhing they're still single...by then u will be seeing them in every weekend church programmes claiming to be holy and submissive whereas dem don bcom LONDON USED

In Akon's Voice, You Can Put The Blame On Me.

tosyne2much:
As I know nothing about ladies, lemme call on Ronald4lif and Wristbangle to bail us out


OP, I throway salute oooo

tosyne2much:
As I know nothing about ladies, lemme call on Ronald4lif and Wristbangle to bail us out


OP, I throway salute oooo

Dude...the bitter truth is that she's not just into you! Shikena...

Forget the phone. Break up with her and wish her well in her future relationship(s).

With due respect, It's high time u stopped thinking with ur heart but your head.

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yvelch:
Put ur foot on the ground man. Simple.

Visit konga.com and search for "yvelch" .....brace yourself cos our store has really hot foreign cloths for u

you zay!?!,you mean he floats in the air

You flog her with a stubborn preek

Op....that is the nature of the beast.... waste of time talking. .. waste of time waiting for real change ...... waste of money you keep throwing at her to save you stress. After 4 years you are now her puppet....and should you be crazy enough to marry her you would become her door mat. You see the signs...you see her true colours... you read the writing on the wall.....maybe you love a life of misery...but then again. .. you love her soooooo much. Choose fast. ..you want to be a man .....or a mouse?

Put her up for sale on OLX - I did that to the stubborn one I knew

wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

hhmm...sorry bro...i feel your pain

Let me tell you how the mind of a lady works.. She day dreams about a prince charming, Super cool, loving, caring etc. When that dream man tags along, she tries to control him into submission and when she does, she loses interest in him.

No Lady wants a man that they can control. No Lady wants a man that they can predict. No lady wants a man that they are emotionally superior to..

Take charge of the relationship or quit. Show her you are superior to her. Give her a taste of her own medicine.

In the 48 laws of power, law 16,use absence to create respect and honor. When she calls don't pick up her call, call her back after 1 week, read her message and leave it hanging for 3 days. Turn the table against her..
Go out there, get others girls. The fear to lose her will vanish.
Any thing beautifully made has a perfectly beautifully made rival..

Girls don't dig emotional weak guys like you..