My friend, don't say you can't love someone else like you love her. You WILL find a girl and you will love her even more, this is from experience. If she is treating you this way chances are her heart is somewhere else unfortunately. What you have been doing has turned you to what they popularly call a WUSS which translate to weakness, which translates to unattractiveness.

Run

Bleep her hard very hard from. Front and back and next time when she sees u she wil no u are a man

wristbangle:

Heheheh. Abeg tell ronald 4lif biko!

How can when you and oga Tosyne are here, I'm still your tutee o.

The OP had overtime showed her inordinate affection and unrestrained caring which has given her the impression he can't forge ahead without her and has limited or no other option but her. There's no quick fix in his his predicament other than quit it or get withdrawn and allow her initiate conversation while he cease from pampering her forthwith. It's always the case when one party exhibit more love gesture than the other. Only ends up being taken for granted.

Both of you re not compatible. In future one of you will drop the other.

tellwisdom:
Push her into the gutter

Wtf

Just leave her alone, Na by force?

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Let me start by asking a very simple and maybe foolish question.What do you mean when you say you love her ?
Would you give her one of your kidneys?
Second question,do you have any other women?
Do you have a plan B.
That for me is the way to test how much you love someone
Otherwise what you call love is just fear

Marry her.

I can't tell you why, coz no time. Just marry her before its too late. start the process now. make the marriage this month ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

OYO

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@op, you said you are in your early 20s, your girl is most likely within 19-22 yrs. You said you have been dating her since 4 yrs ago, as a teenager i presume. She is not matured yet, and most likely a virgin, some girls feel they need not show commitment to a relationship that no sex is involved. Only a radical change from you can change the relationship, but since you said you are typically weak with emotions, the only option left is to quit the relationship with NO DRAMAs, that might shock her, if she seeks a comeback strongly within 0-3 months after you calling it quit, take her back a month after while you redefine the rules. anything after 3 months ,forget about her and do not re welcome her in to your life.

duality:
Marry her.

I can't tell you why, coz no time. Just marry her before its too late. start the process now. make the marriage this month ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

OYO

Jixox, see advice

Age wise matters here, if she is btw 18-23yrs believe me she will change to good leta but if she is 24 and above....my bro run 4 ur life, she does not love u dat is why..take it or not any woman who and I say who real real love u will be submissive to u...

Are you sure you are not Kwame?!

Love is a beautiful thing but I feel bad when I see a bro in bondage instead of being in love.

OP you are in bondage o, honestly speaking. One party bossing the other is not love, it's slavery.

Bro listen,u were too soft with her initially,believe me she has been like that but u failed to correct it,probably everything she did was good to u and now it has matured that way and u dislike it,u are in ur early 20s i suppose u are a student or a fresh graduate,u have better things to do than to kill urself over a relationship.Thanks.

Hannysmilez:
You both are not compatible and i suggest you talk to her about it and the need for a break-up.
Its important to let her know that you're not breaking up because she has a bad character but because you feel you're not capable of appreciating her 'unique' character.

hmmmm...break up? it can b fixed.

Be managing her till you get something better. #my2cents

wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

thats her nature, you cant change her...like someone said; you are not compatible or maybe she has nt trained herself well to a reasonable level

dharay99:

koboko †inz weneva ur wid her.

wic kind bad mind u get na?

have you had sex with her yet? or are you waiting for marriage?

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

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johnson232:

Lol... It is a challenge u need to overcome if u really wanna enjoy any relationship with a girl, most especially nigerian girls. Since this is your first love, it's natural for u to act this way. But I employ u to call the relationship a quit, it will seem painful for a while, but will make u a better person in the long run. Sooner or later she will still dump u for a more hardened nigga, why not save yourself some respect and let b!tch go....
U don't need any hoe to live happily as a nigga....

Be the HEAD not the tail. You should have been talking about your future not about an ungrateful creature that called herself your gf. Tell her she's the best that have ever happened to you and quiet the relationship.

chocofizzy:
Be the HEAD not the tail. You should have been talking about your future not about an ungrateful creature that called herself your gf. Tell her she's the best that have ever happened to you and quiet the relationship.

your Dp tho

A stubborn girlfriend is bearable but for a stubborn wife?A word is enough...

Bro I feel ur plight cos I was once in dat shoes nd bliev me I knw hw it hurt. Som1 said u try d I dnt care attitude towards her, beliv me it doesn't work cos she already knw u love her even mre. The best she'l do then is to humble nd when she realises u'r coming bck, she'l change nd little tins will irritate her cos u acted funny on her. The best is to let go b4 it's too late. U may probably be thinking u'l nt gt som1 better bt beliv me u'l gt d best. Jst dnt gve up, once in a while u'l enjoy her when she behaves bt at her bad, u'l wonder if she's dsame person. U'l gt d best cos there's som1 for evry1 out der. Quit managing cos it doesn't gt better bliev me.

shurlermoz:
Are you sure you are not Kwame?!

Love is a beautiful thing but I feel bad when I see a bro in bondage instead of being in love.

OP you are in bondage o, honestly speaking. One party bossing the other is not love, it's slavery.

Fvck kwame's a fool,,,he should b arrested

wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

GBAAAM!!™ This alone for don make me tell am Geerraaaaaaraaa Heeeeeeerreeee

Hannysmilez:
You both are not compatible and i suggest you talk to her about it and the need for a break-up.
Its important to let her know that you're not breaking up because she has a bad character but because you feel you're not capable of appreciating her 'unique' character.

please,what's unique about being in a relationship with a guy for four years n u still treat the guy like poo n u still claim to love him,dts not uniqueness,........dude,just excuse urself from her for a while and watch her reaction,if she comes back begging,tell her all u posted here,if she doesn't, my guy,owoo ti jonaa oo..abeg abeg abeg forget u said that u can't do without her..there are lots of caring and appreciative girls out there...don't tie urself when no one is holding u back.

About 5 years ago, someone bluntanly said this to me.."Go and mark it somewhere, that girl is not your wife". I felt insulted and angry. After 4 years, the prophesy manifested. She was exactly the kind of girl you described and I was exactly like you..

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Love ko, Curve ni!

What love?

NIGGA! Fcking listen up, boy, to the Professor of Womantology.

There is no love in this relationship you are talking about from her side.

You are just filling a void until she can find a man that can control her. You have lost this one, cut your loses and dumb her ASAP!

You did not stamp your masculinity in the early phases. It is obvious from your frequent references to the "crazy things you have done for her" and "sacrificing my convenience".

And so what if you laid down and gave your world to her?

Most women don't give a shyt about what you have done for them in the past, it is what you can do for them now and the realistic near future that matters most.

https://www.nairaland.com/1433735/ladies-attitude-when-breaking-up/1#18072016

"Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association."

I am assuming she is young?

Giving all to a young girl (especially one in high demand) is like wearing on your forehead "I am a doormat and you will not get any challenge from me".

You spent fcking 4 years boring the poor girl with your wussiness?

NIGGA?

She needs a challenge in her life.

As much as you are saying she is being stubborn, she is actually being nice to you right now. As nice as she can be.

She is being nice by giving you the hint that it is over and trying to frustrate you into leaving the relationship so she can move on.

See no 5: https://www.nairaland.com/962850/ladies-which-these-dating-evils

If you don't leave now, she would find a guy with balls that can control her and then start fcking him behind your wussy back. Then she wouild have moved on to no 6 so as to get rid of your arsse.

When women love a man, majority of them become suckers for him, not a problem to him.

Dump her arssse NOW!

I wouldn't even be surprised if she is already fcking another guy while you are whining about love.