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Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by shiinihost: 2:09pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
LookmanTalk: Physcal attraction is key, no doubt, but some girls are really superficial in there definition of physical attraction. you need to decide whether you want a celebrity or a husband. And to me, the main reason i think the girl has not being able to find the man physically attractive is either because he's being too nice or he's not rich enough. Believe me, Models marry very ugly men and are very proud to show him off. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by LookmanTalk: 2:09pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
she does not see him as weak and sex has not in any way been mentioned here. Only physical attraction is the problem, please take note! she does not sleep around and is a devoted Christian.. shiinihost: |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 2:11pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Eberex: lol , you be pikin , love doesn't even come in the first 3 qualities to consider when you want a prosperous relationship , agreed that some level of love has to be there before any romantic relationship can be established it is however not in the first 3 to consider. 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by shiinihost: 2:12pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
LookmanTalk: what is physical attraction if not sex? abeg tell me. Physical attraction means that she doesn't find him appealing as a sex partner. 2 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by LookmanTalk: 2:12pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
To her, the guy just has a face and even his physic does not appeal to her.. Came across as irrelevant to me too but on second thought, I understand her concern shiinihost: |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by shiinihost: 2:13pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: then you are the kid. for real? |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 2:14pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Nnemuka: Sexual attraction will only survive when other qualities you have pushed aside are there , believe me when I tell you this. |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by LookmanTalk: 2:15pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
she does not want someone that the world admires but someone she herself admires and finds attractive. I am telling you this lady is a good lady. sunsewa: 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 2:17pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
naijadeyhia: Thumbs up |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Eberex(m): 2:19pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: I disagree with you. what are the three qualities that comes first if i may ask? |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by fav444(f): 2:19pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
In summary, God bless you all for ur contributions, am sure God sent the op to create this thread so that we can learn indirectly . 4 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by ADESTALK: 2:21pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
@LOOKMANTALK, I am passionate about this. I will like us to have full discussion on this - off this platform. You can reach me through adesholly04@gmail.com. All things being equal, if this situation is not handle carefully, attraction can easy fade away even in most gorgeous man on earth. |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by LookmanTalk: 2:29pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Sir, I am just helping a friend out so I think I will rather you speak with her outside nairaland if she is willing, I will ask.. I will get back to you, really appreciate your concern. one question please, are you married or have been in this situation in the past? Thank You ADESTALK: |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 2:38pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Eberex: Lol. If you have an aunt who has been happily married for at least a 2 decades , do me the favour of asking her what has kept the marriage lasting that long. If you read my post very well you'll notice I did not rule out love but it is not the most important quality to consider , physical attraction even comes lower in the rung. Let me share my pearls of wisdom with you. Compatibility is one quality you have to consider when choosing a life partner , compatibility isn't the same as love I hope you know. Goals - Are your goals in contrast with each other , do you share similar goals in life Friendship - I consider this even more important than love , a relationship with a very good and close friend will last longer than one built on just purely love. I can mention more things/qualities to consider when choosing a life partner , love alone will die if other qualities are lacking . 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by bronzegoddess(f): 2:43pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
ProfessorPeter:I have a feeling if she had married u, she would have divorced u 1month later. Diportivo...they've started calling me names 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 2:44pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
shiinihost: I no get time for you |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Eberex(m): 2:45pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: So you know, when two people meet each other, there is first of all a physical attraction; i consider this the first thing on the list. Then comes compatibility; number two. If they find themselves compatible then they can go into being friends, that's where friendship comes in; number three. With these three qualities, lets now have a scenario. scenario 1: these two people continue without falling in love. scenario 2: these two people continue and fall in love with each other. Tell me the difference on the long run. N/B: Love cannot die if it was real. 4 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by shiinihost: 2:45pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: this is where you get it all wrong. all those things you listed out are all attributes of love. there can't be love without friendship and no friendship without love. You can't love someone that you don't respect their life goals. I do not where you are coming from, but your idea of love is quite not right. 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by smsdigito: 2:45pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
LookmanTalk: Seems to sound like she is a christian. If that be the case, 1. Has she prayed about it? 2. Has God spoken to her about it? 3. Did the guy say God told him she is his wife? Marriage is way beyond physical appearance. First it has to be a divine arrangement. Let me tell your friend that no matter how attractive a guy or lady is, its just a matter of a few years, you will get tired of it all, at that time will she now pack out saying the appearance is no longer as attractive as it use to? She must be matured about choosing her partner and above all, let her depend wholly on God because at the end of it all God cannot never make mistakes, but we do. Check out this coming soon........ [url]courtshipandmarriage.com[/url] |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by LookmanTalk: 2:53pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
There is a catch to the story I forgot to mention. She was introduced to him (paired) so it started from a blind date. Eberex: |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Eberex(m): 2:56pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
LookmanTalk: Blind date or not. After they met, they both had a choice to go separate ways. 2 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Gbajabiamila1: 3:01pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
bronzegoddess:Keep him close. That's wicked. Set him free. |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 3:05pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
shiinihost: You sir are the one who is wrong.... you need to understand what love is and how its applied. False love is loving a finished product...true love is being willing to mould the raw product to something you would love. Ladies today have gone beyond the fake hair, nails, lips and hips...they now want tailer-made men because most of them prefer fantasy to reality. NO COMMITMENT, NO EFFORT WILLING TO BE PUT INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP, READY MADE IS THE NAME OF THEIR GAME. What matters in any relationship is not love.. love is the conclussion but it isnt the beginning. The beginning is vision, agreement, understanding. ..love arrives and remains constant or even overwhelms when these are in full play. Love him or her because he is nice, tall and handsome, drives a 21st century suv, lives in maitama or banana island and you have missed it because you would gladly want to throw all that away when he or she begins to frustrate you. I learnt a lot from my parents before I got married and I am now passing on my knowledge. I was not my wifes spec when she married me and she was not mine but we had one thing in common...we had the same vision and the same heart and that made us go ahead and today I fit die ontop her matter and she on mine and we are blessed with kids and can't get enough of each other. I wasnt a classy dresser when she met me but she is and she said she would be my wardrobe handler and till today she is and she has done a great job on me and I on her. Dont get it twisted..love is a consideration that becomes a reality when 2 people agree to make it so. 1 Like |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nnemuka(f): 3:09pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
hmmm ayam ahula ntim advise coming from someone who also generalized by giving 6 reasons why men shouldnt marry an accountant. should i take you serious? |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 3:13pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Eberex: This is where you get it wrong again , physical attraction doesn't always have to come first , I'll give the story of my very own sister. She's has been happily married for for 16 years now and she wasn't initially attracted to her husband , in fact she was attracted to her husband's friend , who came to ask her out. The guy was very rich , fine boy , smooth talker and all , the attraction was instantaneous. The guy used to come visit her at home then with his friend ( who later became her husband ). At a point she was always in disagreement with this guy from minor issues to major ones. Eventually she had to break up and the friend seeing my sister as a good wife material decided to ask her out , initially she was thrown aback and bluntly turned the guy down but my parents seeing a good man in him advised my sister to consider the young man. She just couldn't see herself getting married to him but the guy grew on her as time went by and she started seeing the qualities my parents saw in him. Today they are very happily married with 4 kids , you should go to their home to see what a happy family is. |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Oluboonmi(f): 3:14pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
QTEST007:Marriage is not 'sere sere', its a lifelong commitment. Hence, she has to guard her steps with all diligence. Marrying a guy you have no attraction whatsoever for will only lead to frustration and lack of contentment. Settling down with a guy only because he's Godfearing is not a good reason. He might be Godfearing but has a totally different life goal from yours. Who knows if He can make you happy? Father a child? If you'll both grow old together? The list is endless. I'd say she should go to God who knows all these 4 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nnemuka(f): 3:14pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
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Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
bronzegoddess: You are the type of woman every prospective mother-in-law should pray against by 12 midnight with holy water in order for their sons not to be led by the DEVIL to you 3 Likes |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 3:18pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
naijadeyhia: Another thumbs up. Two thumbs up in a day within a spate of one hour , you're gradually becoming my favourite poster |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nnemuka(f): 3:20pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse:never mind. seen |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by bronzegoddess(f): 3:21pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
ilawanson44: Werey |
Re: A Female Friend Told Me This Today by Nobody: 3:26pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: I think a married section should be created on NL where all these youngsters can come for counselling because many of them have either lost their way or the fundamentals of life, relationships and contentment within the confines of a budding relationship |
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