Harbosede02:
can u pls say some ladies!!I can marry an unemployed hardworking guy bt wat I will never settle for is an unemployed lazy nigga.

Unemployment isn't a permanent tin abeg

lookingbuoy:
Hmm...
You are right. I'm actually more smitten by the unemployed lady. But i dont like her unemployed situation. And she also comes off as not so independent. The other lady is as pretty, way more independent (perhaps totally), holds her on and carries herself well. She has most things I've fantasized about my woman having, only my relationship with her is not as boundless as what i have with the unemployed lady.
I believe i can comfortably take care of the home with the unemployed one. However, i don't like her unemployed situation one bit.

sameolg616:

chief accountant....is that the issue....whether he earns kobos in 12 digits,,that aint ur problem...
guest u dont know people that earn a million in a month..even some yahoo boys do talkless oil and gas..
the dude just having probs deciding

lookingbuoy:

Hmmm... good advice. Thanks. But if the other one remains unemployed, I wouldn't like that.

Acidosis:
I'm only interested in your salary package


Sir you earn 7 digits monthly? When did you finish nysc again?

alexistaiwo:
seven digits? That is a million and u aren't sure who to date. I smell lies. hit like if you agree with me that this story is fake

Harbosede02:
I never knew there was a theory that states that once an unemployed is forever an unemployed.... Pls ur thinking faculty is so so annoying.... So becos the other lady is jobless makes her less eligible to be ur wife??


Guys!!!!

shozillo:


lolz. U sound Naive
have u worked in any paid employment b4?
If u have which i doubt ,ow many years have u done?

D yahoo yahoo(illegal biz) u r even talking about..if u have an clue abt business , U would know Earnings frm Bizness Flutuates(up n down!)..nt 2 talk of d 1 dat depends on maga...

Sm1 just finish service..Earning 1M is a pure lie.Think!!!

xp17:
the same way you'd leave a broke guy for the flashy one. Once a broke guy ain't gonna be broke forever. Before you jump into conclusion, always endeavour to place yourself in the reverse situation.

lookingbuoy:
I have a little problem and need some advice on it:

I've got a girl I like. We met at nysc and got along really good. Even today i still remember the first day i saw her. She studied psychology and even though I'm an engineer we could relate and talk a lot about her subject, as I read a lot and kinda have read much on psychology. After nysc we still kept in touch and continued to talk even though i never asked her out formally. Soon i got a job away from her. Our talking continued on phone.

While out of Nigeria on training, I met another lady. She's just as pretty as the other one, but has a great job and is a confident woman. The other girl is still searching for a job; and her psychology degree is no help. I have a great job myself and i earn seven digits in naira per month. The new girl also works with an oil form and earns very well. We have got along these past few months and I really have fun talking to her and hanging out.

I have always wanted an independent woman as a wife, a woman who can stand by herself and who has prospects for a huge career. I'm career-minded myself. But now, I'm really confused who to plan my life with and settle down with as a partner: this independent lady who I believe I like or the other unemployed lady who I seem to have a more relaxed, longer friendship with.

Note: I've not asked any of them out formally. Please help.

lookingbuoy:

My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

lookingbuoy:

I'll use this to respond to the queries about my pay. Naturally, I wouldn't like to be drawn into this discussion, as it's of no issue. At the same time, I don't think it'll get to the point where I'll have to post my payslip here to defend my claims.
However, if you had good information about the international upstream industry, you'd know that one can indeed earn 7 digits monthly even as a trainee. Perhaps you won't know because you don't work in this industry. But I'm pretty confident a lot of those who work for upstream multinationals in different capacities will know this, even if some of these don't earn this amount.

Again, I know where my dice will fall with these ladies. Though I may not have "formally" asked them out already, I'm very sure they both want to date me. I don't have to explain that to everyone. I know that.

Lastly, I'd like to thank those who have taken out time to respond to my post with their pieces of advice. Thanks.
Not that I appreciate my situation getting out there and being peddled around, but I guess that's the price I should be willing to pay for wanting some more advice.

lookingbuoy:

My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

Tashaamania:
HBD

gratitude

lookingbuoy:

My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

ivyy:



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lookingbuoy:

My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

lookingbuoy:

My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

jaybee3:
You should marry the one you are most comfortable with

If you earn as much as you've claimed then simply empower the one you seem to have much fun with.
Her being empowered will stimulate and forcefully reveal her independent mindset which in turn will almost certainly increase your affection towards her.

Money becomes important in marriages when it's in short supply so it shouldn't be a deciding factor for you in choosing the special one

LaraiBoluwaji:

Will the unemployed one remain unemployed forever?

Marry your friend.

Slimzjoe:
Marry the one with the bigger Br3ast

Harbosede02:
I never knew there was a theory that states that once an unemployed is forever an unemployed.... Pls ur thinking faculty is so so annoying.... So becos the other lady is jobless makes her less eligible to be ur wife??


Guys!!!!

Harbosede02:
I never knew there was a theory that states that once an unemployed is forever an unemployed.... Pls ur thinking faculty is so so annoying.... So becos the other lady is jobless makes her less eligible to be ur wife??


Guys!!!!

lookingbuoy:

Thanks

lookingbuoy:
Hmm...
You are right. I'm actually more smitten by the unemployed lady. But i dont like her unemployed situation. And she also comes off as not so independent. The other lady is as pretty, way more independent (perhaps totally), holds her on and carries herself well. She has most things I've fantasized about my woman having, only my relationship with her is not as boundless as what i have with the unemployed lady.
I believe i can comfortably take care of the home with the unemployed one. However, i don't like her unemployed situation one bit.