Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sex

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

hmmm

But u love a lady shey??

come let me teach you how to love

It's all in your head sweetie... Change how you see guys, bring your ego down and love someone who loves you... It works

Lesbian things loading

Another psychological problem spotted..please seek help now dat you're still young.cos if I happen to wife ur kind I nr won hear baby its too painful.no I can't stand dat..its a psychological problem

esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

Have u ever loved in the past? Since when did u start feeling this way?

Ur environment, where u grew could also be a reason. Anyway, u can love. Yes!
Open ur heart to it,
Be free and open to discussion with a guy, spend time with him : gisting, joking and teasing. You will feel love flowing. When this happens, do not fear "men" or ur heart may close once more.

Actually nothing is wrong with you. Ride on.

U have been together for 9 years, as how? U r in ur early 20s too. U started d dating game way too early my dear.

Ur ish myt be psychological. Deal with it before u marry sha

esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have a normal sex like any other lady out there?

REcieve Sense

Durentt:
But u love a lady shey??

osedvgirl:
come let me teach you how to love

Hmm

Ubyj:
U have been together for 9 years, as how? U r in ur early 20s too. U started d dating game way too early my dear.
Ur ish myt be psychological. Deal with it before u marry sha

Yes! I started too early cuz I was trying to fight my sexuality then..
No doubt it's a psychological ish..and I've done if not all what am supposed to do dear BUT..

Baddo101:
REcieve Sense

nkowaputa:


Have u ever loved in the past? Since when did u start feeling this way?

Ur environment, where u grew could also be a reason. Anyway, u can love. Yes!
Open ur heart to it,
Be free and open to discussion with a guy, spend time with him : gisting, joking and teasing. You will feel love flowing. When this happens, do not fear "men" or ur heart may close once more.

Yes I have

But distance separated us

She was all I had then

What if I say I was'nt upto 10 when I started struggling with this ish will you believe me?

I've tried to distance myself from most girls that comes my way yet! They won't just let me be

Its more like a hard task accepting guyz into my life

GbovoLee:
Another psychological problem spotted..please seek help now dat you're still young.cos if I happen to wife ur kind I nr won hear baby its too painful.no I can't stand dat..its a psychological problem

Hmmm

You are a lesbian my friend.... That's cooll... Nothing wrong with it..

Olajorn

gamaliel121:
You are a lesbian my friend....
That's cooll...
Nothing wrong with it..

But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

Your case is

Grabs mic from the poster above me and starts shouting;

Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense
Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense Sense....

Receive SENSE.... Yh! I did it!!!! Successfully talked sense into ur head . Now, my pay?

Op did you have a traumatic childhood experience? I believe these things start from way back and tend to affect us in our adult life. Try talking to your partner, it shouldn't be all straight out Sex at first, try sleeping on the same bed with him, kissing and all that. Get comfortable with him before jumping into sex.


That's my 2 kobo.

esthersolomon00:


But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

Op I know it's difficult but the harder you fight the more depressed you'll be and you'll end up sad and breaking someone else heart. It's hard to be accepted in the Nigerian society for who you are so you have the choice to either leave or Live your life not giving a Bleep

osedvgirl:
come let me teach you how to love

hope u'll teach me the practical for free!!!

Go for ‘SEX' therapy not just counselling.

theLegion:
It's all in your head sweetie... Change how you see guys, bring your ego down and love someone who loves you... It works

What does ego have to do with this

14 years

You need to visit TB joshua as soon as possible

Just pray

gamaliel121:
You are a lesbian my friend....
That's cooll...
Nothing wrong with it..

did I hear u say notting is wrg with bin a lesbian?...U aint truthful at all,if there's everything wrong with GAY"why can't everything b wrg with lesbian,dia is a Demonic spirit behind lesbianism... and there's everything wrong with bin a lesbian...my dear @op, just pray and fast about it.