banio:
Life is a choice. If ur husband or wife cheats, U have just 2 options: walk out or remain.

On the flip side, men are permitted to marry more than 1. We have instances Father Abraham etc.
Are women permitted to marry more than one?

My advice is have a fling, life is short. But if U can stay with one. Then U are blessed with lesser troubles. because one trouble is enough, while two troubles is early grave

. There are cultures that allows a woman to marry more than one huaband

Raalsalghul:
Funny you! But I think I get what you are trying to pass across. According to your comment, a woman's lust towards a man is small when compared to a man's lust towards a woman.

Yes. And thank you for your understanding.

SAMBARRY:
you know in their dictionary women are a log of wood without feelings. How dare women cheat when they're cheating

Who's a woman without a man even if he's cheating he should because he's an African man.it's his exclusive birth right

Who no like better thing? They have gotten away with it for so long. They can't begin to imagine life without it.

daretodiffer:


They have no idea how hard it is for women to stay faithful. Our foremothers have succeeded in filling them with outright lies

And no idea of the pain it brings.

I can't even believe the storyteller is real. A man married his aunt and killed her with anxiety, yet he is not the villain? She died a hero in his eyes and all women should be like her? I grew up in Nigeria and my parents didn't teach me this rubbish.

Please don't fight over a cheating boyfriend/ girlfriend and marry him/her because you will fight forever. Forgiveness is a great quality but even God forgives ONLY those who are repentant. A serial cheater is not repentant and is a bad example for your kids if you have any.

It is this same attitude towards commitment they take to political offices and do the exact opposite of everything they promised the masses.(I hate them with a passion)

My cousin gave his wife HIV and some members of my family expected her to be by his bedside after hiding his status from her. My dad asked "if she was your daughter will you give her the same advise?" He is dead now and she has to struggle with her health at the age of 32 with 2 children.

Plan your life well and build up your self esteem to the point where you don't have to tolerate a psychopathic partner.

Godmother:


And no idea of the pain it brings.

Abi

They cried and begged but this is the 21st century, no woman born a woman should cry for rightly belongs to her as a human and as a wife.

daretodiffer:


Abi

They cried and begged but this is the 21st century, no woman born a woman should cry for rightly belongs to her as a human and as a wife.

It is well, my sister. But for some few male friends I have who are faithful I would have concluded that all men are the same. But I know there are some decent, responsible men out there and pray God makes our husbands one of them.

daretodiffer:


Are you a transgendered? I am sorry but it will take a woman turned man to know which sex has the greater lust

Even a transgender won't know this.

It is simple elementary biology. You kids won't broaden your knowledge base but Will use cheap internet to comment on issues you haven't learnt their bases.


Testosterone is the dominant hormone that controls a man's sexual drive and sense of adventure, etc.

Estrogen is the dominant hormone for women.

Now men also have a tiny amount of estrogen as women also have a minute quantity of testosterone.

Hence, the sexual drive of a man is described as a light switch- immediate. Women sexual drive is light a volume knob: slow and gradual.

That's why men pay for sex, kill for sex and fight for sex.

And that's why women use sex as weapon for food, money, and social elevation. Because Your sexual lust isn't as intensed as that of a man. You can easily control it and manipulate men with it.


Only _nymphos will object to this universal submission.

Are you one?

Godmother:


It is well, my sister. But for some few male friends I have who are faithful I would have concluded that all men are the same. But I know there are some decent, responsible men out there and pray God makes our husbands one of them.

I know

Amin.

PunkyVeer:
Moral of the story: put up with a cheating man & you're going to die early/before him.

RIP to your aunt, btw.

you just earned my respect for this post. Your IQ is not as low as I earlier presumed.

lezz:
Even a transgender won't know this.

It is simple elementary biology. You kids won't broaden your knowledge base but Will use cheap internet to comment on issues you haven't learnt their bases.


Testosterone is the dominant hormone that controls a man's sexual drive and sense of adventure, etc.

Estrogen is the dominant hormone for women.

Now men also have a tiny amount of estrogen as women also have a minute quantity of testosterone.

Hence, the sexual drive of a man is described as a light switch- immediate. Women sexual drive is light a volume knob: slow and gradual.

That's why men pay for sex, kill for sex and fight for sex.

And that's why women use sex as weapon for food, money, and social elevation. Because Your sexual lust isn't as intensed as that of a man. You can easily control it and manipulate men with it.


Only nymphos will object to this universal submission.

Are you one?

It might be slow and gradual but it doesn't mean that the drive is not there. Therefore you haven't explained how you came to that conclusion other than the fact that you have been groomed to think more about sex than women. And even if you were, it is unjustifiable because it is just sex and you have a wife

2) t doesn't explain temptations. Women are as much tempted as men. I have lots of case studies by the way

3) You have to explain your ‘inherent' lack of faithfulness and the gay marriage




Of course, you have to label women who like sex as nymphos

lezz:
Even a transgender won't know this.

It is simple elementary biology. You kids won't broaden your knowledge base but Will use cheap internet to comment on issues you haven't learnt their bases.


Testosterone is the dominant hormone that controls a man's sexual drive and sense of adventure, etc.

Estrogen is the dominant hormone for women.

Now men also have a tiny amount of estrogen as women also have a minute quantity of testosterone.

Hence, the sexual drive of a man is described as a light switch- immediate. Women sexual drive is light a volume knob: slow and gradual.

That's why men pay for sex, kill for sex and fight for sex.

And that's why women use sex as weapon for food, money, and social elevation. Because Your sexual lust isn't as intensed as that of a man. You can easily control it and manipulate men with it.


Only _nymphos will object to this universal submission.

Are you one?

I forgot to mention, this is psychology not biology

I'm sorry if I'm deviating from the norm, but don't you think it's because she's been bottling up all her husband's wicked act that may have sent her to her early grave, but her patience is indeed a character worth emulating. N:B ladies don't take my above statement serious, in other words don't try it @ home.

dexla:


you just earned my respect for this post. Your IQ is not as low as I earlier presumed.

No, it's actually ABOVE AVERAGE. 114. Professionally done test. Thank you.

wow,very mature a woman..i luv hw she dealt wit it,cus arguments nd quarrels wud av worsen d situation and only lessened the sweetness of the marriage,she's rwily one of a kind..may her perfect soul rest in peace

daretodiffer:



On top wetin, keep the threats or scare in your pocket joor. ome men will damn you because the society and the lady has given them a right to not because they actually can. I am yet to see a man that will damn me that is I haven't damned him first. I and some ladies are not like our foremothers whose lives/future/being depended on marriage. We have an identity beside marriage, it adds to it not subtract from it. You can only scare women with low self esteem and no sense of being with that nonsense.


Do you think we give a damn? You want us to so badly want care. And when we say we don't, you say we are lying. Aren't you the all-seeing and the all-knowing?

When does a bar girl or campus babe become less of a woman? . Let them being them in, it is just like saying I am tired of this relationship and we will divorce each other





Do you mean that he will throw my luggage out of our house? Whether I contributed money or not, it is our home until we say it is over. Stop moving with all these 18th century men and women.

The man mustn't throw your luggage out or chase you away, he can simply free you and the house and move or relocate with the mistress.

Your pray should be you marry a God fearing man that wont stray and that God should give you the virtue of patience and a forgiving heart

zeongeon:
The man mustn't throw your luggage out or chase you away, he can simply free you and the house and move or relocate with the mistress.

Your pray should be you marry a God fearing man that wont stray and that God should give you the virtue of patience and a forgiving heart

Perfect! He should do that.

I am not praying against having a good loving husband.

Joy1706:

The men know the kinda women they can try that rubbish with. In this day and age, you cheat and then form don jazzy on top ur cheating? U dey craze ni? U wan make I relocate ur preek? Mstchewww

Chineke !!! relocate preek kwa...nothing I won't hear on this forum..you with your gra gra when you see wahala you go humble...your type will soak her pillow with tears.

Just pray you don't experience a die hard cheat.

daretodiffer:


Perfect! He should do that.

I am not praying against having a good loving husband.

Mrs Hitler..its easier to say perfect... and you girls should try to learn a lot from the mothers of old you new stocks are no way better.

zeongeon:
Mrs Hitler..its easier to say perfect... and you girls should try to learn a lot from the mothers of old you new stocks are no way better.

It is not easy o. It takes a woman who love postivity and who was brought up by great parents.

So you can lean from your forefathers abi, I can't and I won't learn from them. They are not me and I am not them. Have you forgotten that they were pagans too. I knw there is life with or without marriage, they didn't know that. So I can never act like them.

I've gone through as many pages of this thread as I can, and in all the long talk, all I can see are people taking up camps on whether the aunty was right or wrong, but no one has given an alternative solution that allows the woman to have a happy ending.

Say you were with a cheating husband, who refuses to repent, and divorce is not an option, what would you do?

Punkyveer and Daretodiffer plz this question is directed at you both since you are the most vocal females on this thread. I am genuinely interested in knowing what you would consider to be a satisfactory outcome under such circumstances.

some ppl have an issue with cheating men gettn a free pass unlike the women. it's not fair yet it's reality and would NEVER change until women start actively chasing, courting and MARRYING men while footing the bills too. until then no man will tolerate cheating from a woman he married with 'his own money". So ladies 'MAN UP' or STFU!

Kgdavid:
I've gone through as many pages of this thread as I can, and in all the long talk, all I can see are people taking up camps on whether the aunty was right or wrong, but no one has given an alternative solution that allows the woman to have a happy ending.

Say you were with a cheating husband, who refuses to repent, and divorce is not an option, what would you do?

Punkyveer and Daretodiffer plz this question is directed at you both since you are the most vocal females on this thread. I am genuinely interested in knowing what you would consider to be a satisfactory outcome under such circumstances.

Divorce not an option how? I don't get it. Well, in a case where an official divorce is "not an option", we'll simply be married in name only. Meaning, we won't be sleeping together or even live together. Separate lives.

;DThis thread should be re christened: daretodiffer V others: Dawn of feminism.

Kgdavid:
I've gone through as many pages of this thread as I can, and in all the long talk, all I can see are people taking up camps on whether the aunty was right or wrong, but no one has given an alternative solution that allows the woman to have a happy ending.

Say you were with a cheating husband, who refuses to repent, and divorce is not an option, what would you do?

Punkyveer and Daretodiffer plz this question is directed at you both since you are the most vocal females on this thread. I am genuinely interested in knowing what you would consider to be a satisfactory outcome under such circumstances.

I am a muslim and divorce is an option however if it isn't or if I didn't want ot break things of, we would only be marry in name only.

I will kuku face my work, children and my games.

daretodiffer:


Bwahahaa

On the first point, you are right but you failed to look a the issue itself. The issue is that men justify their cheating. For them it is okay, they know they are going to get a free pass. They know people like you would caution the woman to take it easy and if she left her house because of that, you will call her names. Why can't she tolerate things for the sake of the greater good that is marriage(she is too petty, isn't she). And the circle keeps rotating. You won't declare marriage a state of emergency when men cheat and fail to see the inherent wrong in what they do. They keep getting away with it and their wives keep hurting deep inside. But it doesn't matter, they can get hurt but they must not leave.

However if it were a woman, OMG, she must leave that marriage today. The man must walk out o. There wouldn't be any state of emergency because it is a guy and he is justified.

Isn't that a hypocrisy? I agree that there are times we have to look the other way in a marriage but when the world and you believe that it is your birthright to cheat and it is your wives' birthright to look the other way to avoid disrepute, then there is a big problem. If we can't join hands to castigate hypocrites, please don't be afraid of state of emergency nor should be afraid of women cheating in their married homes. Because once you think a woman should/must stay with a cheating partner, you no longer have an opinion because you are biased.

My own palava is that I want you to recognise that a woman can have affairs too. If she can't discipline herself not to, then the man has no excuse. Also, women should be given a choice either to stay or not to stay without fools who think they have an opinion calling her names.




I didn't insult him, he threw the first stone with his ‘mature and learn'.



When the so-called leader lack self-discipline, how is the follower/partner supposed to respect him



Every woman that has an opinion is frustrated, depressed and unhappy abi. Yes, I am all the above if that makes you feel good as a man

When next you try to tackle issues, use your objective mind. If you can't please do not quote me.

You are just frustrated and should be ignored. Sort yourself out and stop being a nuisance and embarasment to your family and upbringing.

Raalsalghul:
;DThis thread should be re christened: daretodiffer V others: Dawn of feminism.

This is not feminism. It is called common sense

Treating people the way you want to be treated

PunkyVeer:


Divorce not an option how? I don't get it. Well, in a case where an official divorce is "not an option", we'll simply be married in name only. Meaning, we won't be sleeping together or even live together. Separate lives.

That is the definition of cutting off your nose to spite your face. The fact is, you can't live with your husband, with whom you have shared so much of your life, as strangers in the same house and be happy.

daretodiffer:



I am a muslim and divorce is an option however if it isn't or if I didn't want ot break things of, we would only be marry in name only.

I will kuku face my work, children and my games.

lol...oh ok well if divorce is an option then I get where you might be coming from

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You are still stuck in the 12th century

In those days women had affairs too although they have be discreet. That should tell you the polygamous nature of women

Also, we have some vultures where women marry more than one man. Women were also wiling to please men at the expense of their own happ

[quote author=sammaking post=39426896][/quote]

Why are you scared?

Tell that to women with no identity, not me

daretodiffer:


You are still stuck in the 12th century

In those days women had affairs too although they have be discreet. That should tell you the polygamous nature of women

Also, we have some vultures where women marry more than one man. Women were also wiling to please men at the expense of their own happiness. That shit ain't happening again

, you are welcome

And what's so special about this 21st Century?

Feminism? You've got to be kidding.

This is a MANs world, the earlier you get it the better for you