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Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Emperorx: 6:51am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Pls dont marrry her .supposing u are an illetrate like her i would hav said go ahead but since not dont marry her u are not on desame level she will not be able to understand u |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Nobody: 6:51am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher: The two main issues here are her age and her literacy level which to me are issues you need to really think about very well before taking your final decision. You said she has respect but many women show respect before marriage only to change after marriage so be ready for some disrespect after marriage, especially since she is a bit older than you, most men start feeling inferior at this point and start hating themselves, you are lucky to have known about your age difference many women hide their real age. Also her literacy level can be a problem in future especially when you start clumbing the ladder of sucess and if you are the social type you may start seeing her as unfit for your status. Btw you are silent on her financial status and if she is working or not |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by HirstMOG(m): 6:52am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Your choice bro, the refined literate may not posses these characters : 1. She is well-mannered.2. She can cook very well.3. She is very hospitable.4. She's very respectful.5: She's pretty and fair.6. She's a wife material.7. She's reserved. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by PopeExplicit(m): 6:55am On Nov 03, 2015 |
It depends on whatever you feel. Marry her if you like. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by HirstMOG(m): 6:55am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Emperorx: She won't understand him you said? If I may ask you, how are they been getting along before now? |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by repogirl(f): 6:57am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Mbilla:lol, see this id'iot ooo, come and marry the nice man, anuohio. Taking panadol for another persons headache. Commit suicide for his accent na, foolish mkpi! The message behind my post was lost on your stu'pid brain, that's if you have one sef. Abi, you have igbotic accent also and you feel self conscious about it? Otherwise I don't see how my husbands accent should be affecting you. Onye ampari! 2 Likes |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Dyt(f): 7:00am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Story seem like DUMEBI THE DIRTY GIRL 1,2 E GET 3,4? |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Nobody: 7:00am On Nov 03, 2015 |
jnrbayano: These your questions no be for this world o , e be like question wey dem ask for 1993 JAMB , the JAMB hard no be small |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Nobody: 7:01am On Nov 03, 2015 |
I think you av decided already.... And why didn't you mention other shortcomings....well I will say if what you listed is actually why you want to have a re-think then you're OYO but if the ones you withheld are good reasons....then only you can provide d answer to you question.....Happy birthday to all those born today |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by braine(m): 7:02am On Nov 03, 2015 |
mioltai: |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Donphilly(m): 7:03am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Are you kidding me? If she could credit all the subjects in SSCE after some tutorials from you; is there anything you think this girl cannot achieve? See it this way: you are so lucky to have a lady you can actually groom to be exactly what you want her to be as she already has a lot of the other key factors you admire. Gently and lovingly teach her with respect and love and you will forever have not only a wife but a a friend and soul mate for life. Enough said, good luck bro 1 Like |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by batulakarada: 7:04am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Cutehector:I tire o .Illitaracy and fat tummy like seriously Go marry Beyonce na . 1 Like |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:08am On Nov 03, 2015 |
sulmeza: Had so much to say on this issue but just decided to let go. I concur with you. The OP and others who are advising him to 'put it on hold', 'still try her out', :watch her for some time', bla bla bla don't seem to understand how difficult it is to get a girl that can have just one of the good traits he listed his woman as having. Again @OP you already classified her as being a 'Wife Material" so what more do you want?. Or should I take it that you don't know the meaning of the term? Furthermore, just cos your woman is not educated, you seem to think you can ride her! Deny it all you want or get pissed its the truth. From the tone of your write-up I can discern a superiority complex with regards to her-like you're even doing her a favour dating her in the first place. Are you perfect? Are you sure if we call the 'illiterate' girl over here and tell her to comment on you she'll be able to name just three positives with regards to you as against her seven? Do you think she doesn't have feelings abi because she just choose to lay low. Sometimes I wonder what we want from life! You have a wife material in your hand who is even willing to change and be all what you want her to be, and you cannot appreciate it (yes! you don't as if you do, you won't be here asking these lame questions) and you're not thankful. So what do you want? The one that can speak all the grammar at home with all degrees and looks but can't keep a family, doesn't respect you, challenge your authority and is an awful mother and wife. I think you don't deserve that girl, from the tone of your write up- talking bout mouth odour and stuff, Jesus! Grow up man! Come and see what men are going through in their homes with their so called sophisticated wives then you'd understand. Got to stop here. Just know this if you don't marray her, she'll definitely get married as a girl with a trait like hers is simply hot cake and you too will definitely get married. The question is in hindsight, will you think you made the right decision. I absolve myself of influencing you otherwise. You better go and marry your illiterate, halitosis prone, fat bellied BUT fair and beautiful, reserved, respectful, well mannered, cook of the century, wife material to mention but a few girl before its too late. 1 Like |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:08am On Nov 03, 2015 |
batulakarada: Imagine that! |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by yousouph07(m): 7:09am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher:Dis guy is yarning dust. Did u close ur eye before. Sit down & think about what u wrote here because ur nt making sense |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by cudonsic: 7:10am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher: U can't get all u want in dis life.my advice is this.....Marriage is a sacred tin.marriage is mor of spiritual dan physical.not bn too religious buh u hav 2 decide which of d two u want in ur marriage which is a beautiful literate n well sound lady witout manner,wu can't cook n Tak kia of ur home or d beautiful educational illeterate wu can mak u a hapi man n mak a gud hom 4 U.my wife was nvr a graduate buh I made it a point dat she wil b a beta woman educational wise in my house.she is doing her masters now in unilag.so b wise not 2 allow wat u built on 2 slip away ooo |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by geebehn(m): 7:13am On Nov 03, 2015 |
No story! she's ur wife. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by anukulapo: 7:14am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher:If for some (sincere) reasons she couldn't meet up with the changes expected,will you be able to endure? Life can serve you funny card. Remember GEJ and PEJ. . . The age wouldn't matter. She'll have more issues which will center around emotion. Talk some of this issues with her and you'll understand what I'm saying. . . If she doesn't start exercising now,you might have to live with the tummy. Trust me on this,the emotional twist you can expect from a woman is that you don't accept her for "who she is" instead of seeing your point of view. . . It's good that you've started the change process before being joined to her. If it doesn't work,just stay away. The things that are theory now,might be hard to swallow on the other side of the joining. If it sometimes annoy you to the point of abusing her,it will really annoy you in the marriage because you might thing that you've been trapped if you don't see much improvement from her. . . In all this,my counsel is if you can live with it,she's good. . . Her good sides are good enough. Do they meet the core of your being? If you have more important subjects of concern in your life (maybe part of the -ves) they'll become clearer in the marriage. Eg,if you are religious and she's not,you'll think she's drawing you back. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:14am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher: Have you ever sat down to ask yourself this question: What does my girl really want to be in life. What makes her happy? Please do, as you seem determined to turn her into something that makes YOU happy never minding how she'd feel about it. She's someone with feelings not a toy you purchased for your amusement! Do you think she doesn't know that you detest these traits of hers. Do you think she's not hurting about it- wishing she could be the superwoman that you want her to be. Guy exercise some selflessness in this your quest I beg thee. 1 Like |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Nobody: 7:16am On Nov 03, 2015 |
RobinHez:why in the world were you online at 5:02? anyway, well, they are still courting, aren't they? besides, don't you think "courting" is more of an old fashioned word? i think dating is more accurate. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:18am On Nov 03, 2015 |
fem29: Thank God someone also came to the conclusion I did with respect to your not respect respecting this lady ala surmising that 'already you are shouting abuses at her'. You leave me tempted to think this girl has gotten a slap or two from you owning to her 'shortcomings'. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Rolless: 7:20am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Believe me, u wouldn't want to fall into the hands of a career lady who would want to boss u around .... I've tasted a little.. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:22am On Nov 03, 2015 |
flyca: Word! |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Themandator: 7:23am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher: What do you actually want the forum to do? Help you with criteria or what, get lost, mister!!! |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by SweetSoup(m): 7:23am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Gaborone:Well wirtten 1 Like
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Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by udison(m): 7:24am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Clean her up man.....send her to an adult school and during the weekends make sure she visits the gym With you.talk to her alot,make her feel confident when around you not inferior.thats if you realy Love her |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:24am On Nov 03, 2015 |
onegig: Heaven just spoke through you! |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Adortem: 7:25am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Well,from your post,I understand your kind of man,you want a "wife material"! See,you can't eat your cake and have it,everyone has their flaws,most wife materials have those flaws you listed,if you want a woman that you would totally control,they are usually less educated.This decision is yours alone,and yours alone to bear,take it! People would advise you here and wouldn't be in the marriage with you.Make your own life decisions... |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by yomi007k(m): 7:26am On Nov 03, 2015 |
This reminds me of GEJ n PEJ |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by 4C2215131: 7:28am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Iamthewatcher: Cheat on her? Well that's a first for me- hearing someone cheated on their spouse xos she's got a fair case of halitosis or bad English. If you'll cheat, you'll cheat! Don't blame it on such flimsy excuses. The lothariod malaise suffered by many male folks is always blamed on some shortcoming in the female- and falsely too! |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Mbilla(m): 7:33am On Nov 03, 2015 |
repogirl:Typical mannerless oloshi! Ur comments says a lot about u. F.o.o.l, every tribe have their own accent and urs is not better. I didt nt insult u by asked u if ur tribe accent better than Igbo accent ur mocking but look at how ur barking lyk a mad female dog on a faceless forum. I pity dat nice Igbo man that marry a senseless, s.t.u.p.i..d.y, illiterate, shapeless mannerless oloshi.. |
Re: A fellow Nairalander needs your advice before crossing the rubicon. by Nobody: 7:33am On Nov 03, 2015 |
The truth about marriage is that even God can't choose a wife for you so that at long run, you don't blame Him.My friend,the decision is yours,but don't ever marry her out of pity because that'll be the greatest mistake you'll ever make.Also,If you decide to marry her,just love all her inadequacies and never use it against her in future.I've seen lots of educated beautiful women that are so disgusting and less than wife materials,If you come across such women,you'll hate women with passion.To me,she's the best woman for you because you'll mould her to your desired shape and she'll see you as her king.Good luck. |
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