Hello my fellow nairalanders, i will like to go straight to d point, there is this lady we av been dating since our schl days up till now (4 yrs now), this girl has been very 1daful in all, her quality as a wife material is quite so awesome, although we ussually av up and downs in our relationship, but we do settle it btw us without anybody interferring in our affair, infact av only recorded d highest of 3 days misunderstanding btw us truout our 4 yrs of dating, this girl is realy good in everytin, we plan our future 2geda, we run business 2geda, we do everytin 2geda, she isnt a wayward type & she is so faithfull and committed,there is nothing left in being a good wife that this girl lack, but why am so confused about marrying her is dat she lacks what i desired most in marriage, she is nt romantic atall & she is not good in bed, i can say her sexual life is ZERO, av tried all my posible best to teach her & make her understand how it surpose to be, but all to no avail, & dis got me thinking dat how will our marriage look like when both of us are nt sexually compatible, pls what should i do? Is dea any way to address dis problem or is dea anytin i can do to help increase her sexaul life, pls help me!

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D problem we ve is that we ve mindsets of entering dis marriage to go and sexually kill our selves.

All d fork wey u wan fork, shey 4 years never do u? U get gold u dey look for bronze.

A married friend once told me, if u ever get married for ur sexual escape, u loose.
I asked him why?
He answered : no matter what ur urges are, when house rent, children school fees and health issues fall on ur door step, u balls go shrink or even disappear.

When u can have sex once or twice in a week and u no say na only u get am, why u come dey worry?

My man, a lovely woman is what everyone should look for.

Me no get babe like dis and marriage is knocking at my door, Oya pass me ur babe go carry ashawo make forck kill u. Lol. Joking sha.

well maybe you should take her to a sex therapist since you have tried to change her sexual orientation with no success....i will not advice you not to leave her,i already know you cannot leave her because she compliments you like you want worst you will do is cheat on her

We have quite an issue here because Romance aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ Sex is very important in marriage. However, 'breakingup' because ur fiancee lacks these abilities is not the best . She has got ' good character' which i believed is valued above romance aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ sex. So i suggest for the sake of her good behaviour pls try aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ work things out with her some more. Mayb she needs some kind of medical therapy or so if you have any doctor friend you can complain to them about it, i believe they will come up with a lasting solution. some women are naturally frigid(low libido) It takes lots of patience aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ a loving partner to bring out the best in them. Pls dont give up yet.

Mrbigman1:
D problem we ve is that we ve mindsets of entering dis marriage to go and sexually kill our selves.

All d fork wey u wan fork, shey 4 years never do u? U get gold u dey look for bronze.

A married friend once told me, if u ever get married for ur sexual escape, u loose.
I asked him why?
He answered : no matter what ur urges are, when house rent, children school fees and health issues fall on ur door step, u balls go shrink or even disappear.

When u can have sex once or twice in a week and u no say na only u get am, why u come dey worry?

My man, a lovely woman is what everyone should look for.

Me no get babe like dis and marriage is knocking at my door, Oya pass me ur babe go carry ashawo make forck kill u. Lol. Joking sha.

i understand u bro, but that is what i desired d most, & my sexual urge is very high, dont knw how to cope wit it

fayose4real:
i understand u bro, but that is what i desired d most, & my sexual urge is very high, dont knw how to cope wit it

Explain to her and make her know ur plight.

Some women who lost dia innocence at older age find sex almost not interested but she ve to try and please u but dnt expect her to be on her drive F and u both should adjust and be on same plain.

She can increase her sacrifice and u cut ur prick. Fork no dey bring money. I no say e dey sweet but, a good and happy home is sweeter.

Mrbigman1:
D problem we ve is that we ve mindsets of entering dis marriage to go and sexually kill our selves.

All d fork wey u wan fork, shey 4 years never do u? U get gold u dey look for bronze.

A married friend once told me, if u ever get married for ur sexual escape, u loose.
I asked him why?
He answered : no matter what ur urges are, when house rent, children school fees and health issues fall on ur door step, u balls go shrink or even disappear.

When u can have sex once or twice in a week and u no say na only u get am, why u come dey worry?

My man, a lovely woman is what everyone should look for.

Me no get babe like dis and marriage is knocking at my door, Oya pass me ur babe go carry ashawo make forck kill u. Lol. Joking sha.

nice advise.

"Sextaul life" this got me laughing hard...""


Op....She's not good in bed in what way? Like she doesn't moan? Or she's not flexible? what's so bloody hard? I thought A lady's job during Sex is just to Open the "Legs" And receive...? eww..

Maybe you're the one that isn't good in bed...

CaroLyner:
so sex is all you're concerned about?
is that all marriage is about?
no one is perfect so manage her like that

i dont think u even av an idea of how boring & frustrating a relationship without romance can be talkless of marriage

Estharfabian:
"Sextaul life" this got me laughing hard...""


Op....She's not good in bed in what way? Like she doesn't moan? Or she's not flexible? what's so bloody hard? I thought A lady's job during Sex is just to Open the "Legs" And receive...? eww..

Maybe you're the one that isn't good in bed...

she is just 2 rigid, i dont knw why she hate sex dat much, and if at all it will happen, only missionary style

Mrbigman1:



Explain to her and make her know ur plight.

Some women who lost dia innocence at older age find sex almost not interested but she ve to try and please u but dnt expect her to be on her drive F and u both should adjust and be on same plain.

She can increase her sacrifice and u cut ur prick. Fork no dey bring money. I no say e dey sweet but, a good and happy home is sweeter.

we'av discussed it severally hoping it will be better with time, bt as u can see, 4yrs is nt a joke

Estharfabian:
"Sextaul life" this got me laughing hard...""


Op....She's not good in bed in what way? Like she doesn't moan? Or she's not flexible? what's so bloody hard? I thought A lady's job during Sex is just to Open the "Legs" And receive...? eww..

Maybe you're the one that isn't good in bed...

i do travel 2 my working place & i do return to play with her on month endings, what if i tell you dat during my 2 days month ending off, if i try to make move towards her she will still complain, and am ussual pissed off as it would ruin my mood

fayose4real:
she is just 2 rigid, i dont knw why she hate sex dat much, and if at all it will happen, only missionary style

Rigid.......Hehehe! "" Teach her nah!

misspicy:
well maybe you should take her to a sex therapist since you have tried to change her sexual orientation with no success....i will not advice you not to leave her,i already know you cannot leave her because she compliments you like you want worst you will do is cheat on her

u ar right my dear, i dont think i can leave her because i av gave so much to dis relationship, av invested so much on it truout d 4yrs, infact all my life, solution is what am seeking, i dont want to be a cheating husband,

fayose4real:
we'av discussed it severally hoping it will be better with time, bt as u can see, 4yrs is nt a joke

Cry for am oh, me I go cry ni. No time.

If all other qualities are perfect, my man, continue dey beg. U shouldn't leave a good woman who has low sex drive but tell her d danger of what she's doing. U deserve better htough

Estharfabian:
Rigid.......Hehehe! "" Teach her nah!

Hello

fayose4real:
Hello my fellow nairalanders, i will like to go straight to d point, there is this lady we av been dating since our schl days up till now (4 yrs now), this girl has been very 1daful in all, her quality as a wife material is quite so awesome, although we ussually av up and downs in our relationship, but we do settle it btw us without anybody interferring in our affair, infact av only recorded d highest of 3 days misunderstanding btw us truout our 4 yrs of dating, this girl is realy good in everytin, we plan our future 2geda, we run business 2geda, we do everytin 2geda, she isnt a wayward type & she is so faithfull and committed,there is nothing left in being a good wife that this girl lack, but why am so confused about marrying her is dat she lacks what i desired most in marriage, she is nt romantic atall & she is not good in bed, i can say her sexual life is ZERO, av tried all my posible best to teach her & make her understand how it surpose to be, but all to no avail, & dis got me thinking dat how will our marriage look like when both of us are nt sexually compatible, pls what should i do? Is dea any way to address dis problem or is dea anytin i can do to help increase her sexaul life, pls help me!

teach her sex life..then ready to battle her wayward and cheating habit