Brandnew2:
Update yourself, you've probably become boring to him.

Brandnew2:
Update yourself, you've probably become boring to him.

Highcuerayte:
It's natural dear.... it declines

Izzystevens:

Gbam!
We ladies tend to relax once we are in, all the touch ups and little efforts we add to make ourselves attractive and wanted are often jettisoned.
My opinion tho.

Izzystevens:


Gbam!
We ladies tend to relax once we are in, all the touch ups and little efforts we add to make ourselves attractive and wanted are often jettisoned.

My opinion tho.

Brandnew2:
Update yourself, you've probably become boring to him.

IamforGod:



Excuse me!


Is she the only one in the relationship? Why is it a lady's duty to spice up a relationship? If he felt that the relationship was boring after 2. Kids why can't he spice it up rather than giving the lady that is taking care of 2 toddlers stress?

PresVA:
I don't know what to say but I know that love just like a flower needs water/manure for continuous growth/blossom.

I think both of you may be placing ALL attention on your kids thereby ignoring yourselves..

Do you still do those stuffs you loved doing together when the kids hadn't arrived? Do you still go out together? Do you still play together? Do you still hv time for some heart to heart talks? Do you still listen to each other's concerns or you're all about the kids? Do you pray together? Eettccc...

I think you guys need to do stuffs that will rekindle the togetherness/bond or even make it stronger. ..

Or could he be getting attention from someone outside?

Mindfulness:


Is it her job to entertain him?

Mindfulness:



This is what most marriage counsellors suggest and this is also why their success rate remains so low.

Mindfulness:

It can also incline, I am speaking from experience.

Mindfulness:


It can also incline, I am speaking from experience.

Brandnew2:


No.
She should make herself more attractive, sexy and hot.

Get in shape if she added more weight.


Update her style in case she relaxed.

Update her beauty regimen in terms of getting facials done, spa, manicure, perfumes to smell nice e.t.c.

Highcuerayte:
I will be pleased to tap from your wealth of experience

Mindfulness:


Are you telling us that people need to stress themselves out to have happy relationships?

Brandnew2:

Everything about women is stressful. Even making hair is a lot of stress compared to this little things i mentioned.

Mindfulness:


You don't make sense.

Brandnew2:

You have refused to understand.
There is even a bible verse that supports it.


Most beautiful women keep beauty regimens and they do it successfully so no one has an excuse.
Whats the stress in going to the spa once a month?
what is wrong with getting Facials occasionally?

I'M NOT HERE TO TRADE INSULTS OR ARGUE.

If you don't agree then let me be.

Other reasonable people will see the sense in it.

Mindfulness:



Your Bible says the following:

1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

1 Peter 3:3-4
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.

Proverbs 31:30
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

1 Timothy 2:9
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,

1 Peter 3:3
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—

Brandnew2:

None of the bible verses you posted above speaks against a woman keeping herself clean and attractive.


since you are against it because it's stressful, then i guess your husband prefers you being dirty and unkempt.

Mindfulness:


Whatever I do, I do it for myself in the first place. I am very selfish and proud of it.
I don't work out to please anyone, I do because it is fun and makes me feel fit.
I don't shower twice a day because it pleases anyone, I do it because it makes me feel refreshed.

My spouse does the same and each of us is happy.

The problem in most relationships is that the people involved expect the other to make them feel good when they are not able to do it for themselves. How can anyone make you happy if you are not able to do it for yourself?

Brandnew2:

VERY Good for you.