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Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Eketem: 3:00am On Nov 24, 2015 |
glossy6: Send your own 11 year old daughter to be a househelp then come back and tell us if your daughter was a " good one" to somebody. An 11 year old child has no business being a househelp, she is a developing child who needs to learn and play not be saddled with your kids. Gosh, what is wrong with us? Stop this please. Hire a professional or get a creche, stop being penny wise and pound foolish not to talk of illegal, an 11 year old can barely take care of herself. If you are afraid of your husbands fidelity with an older girl then deal with your husband not make a child your maid abeg. 9 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by flamingREED(m): 3:46am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Eketem:Now, this is intelligent! 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Beesluv: 3:56am On Nov 24, 2015 |
fr3do:How is accomodating, feeding and sending a maid to school slavery ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by gidjah(m): 3:59am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Hmmm thank God sha.you too improve on yur family planning techniques.you very busy,oga very busy,child so so young(less than 2yrs), you already preggy with months,!thats not too healthy for both of you madam, the stress can be too much na 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Beesluv: 4:03am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sh0llypopz:The Op said she was to resume sch in jan, so how has that affected her pay or whatever you meant. Some house helps are devil's incarnate, their minds have already been programmed, probably due to their previous base. 3 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Beesluv: 4:06am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sh0llypopz:she is to resume in jan, did you read the op's write up at all? Or are you the girl's bf |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Beesluv: 4:13am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Candybob:Someone help this nigga, he probably needs a brain check 1 Like |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Beesluv: 4:16am On Nov 24, 2015 |
tearoses:Na wa o, when will NLanders start understanding what they read? Did you by any chance see Jan in op's write up? Oga seun, its like we have to open a Nland school, even if na evening classes 4 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by bigtt76(f): 4:24am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Thank God and let go! We may be able to check a house girl's health state (blood tests etc) BUT never her mental and spiritual health. For all we may know she might be possessed. Do not let her and her mother bewitch you. You escaped from their wrath because God who alone knows the heart of man watched and guarded her actions on your family. Next time send your child to your parents NO more house girl's or nannies please. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by cococandy(f): 4:38am On Nov 24, 2015 |
I sort of got tired of saying this over and over again. So I just ignore such posts even when they Annoy me. Our people would rather support child labor than teach self control to full fledge adult males. SMH. Eketem: 4 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by vascey(m): 5:23am On Nov 24, 2015 |
People asking her not to go may be right. But the girl threatened her son for goodness sake. What kind of mother allows that to just slide. If Na me, I will even involve police self. Those capable of evil acts do not understand the language of "letting things slide". She needs to be aware that if anything happens to Op son or family, she, her mother and rest of the family will be thrown in jail and the keys thrown away. You don't back away from some kind of people o. You fight back. Who says she can't perpetuate her evil acts from the village. She needs to write an undertaking self. Don't let this go. That girl may have some demonic forces working in her and you don't back down for those. 1 Like |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by BrainnewsNg(f): 5:46am On Nov 24, 2015 |
i do not support the use of an external people to come live on my entire privacy easily. Why not use my blood relatives? |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Zuris: 6:01am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sh0llypopz: Who is the ignorant person here? So you were there when she told the parent she wasn't interested and they forced her? What she did was wrong. How long is two weeks that she couldn't wait for her madam to come back and table her grievances. What if the neighbours she dropped the child with were paedophiles or ritualists? You keep going on as if that 2 weeks pay is much more important than the life of the boy she was given take care of. Meanwhile, your uncouth words shows the kind of person you are. Am not surprised. 3 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Trustworthiness: 6:11am On Nov 24, 2015 |
cococandy: What type of risk do you expect a career woman always take? They always put their family in a big risk. This one is a near miss in safety terms. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by ichommy(m): 6:35am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Sh0llypopz: 6:39am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Eketem: Can I hug you? Seriously, I was dumbfounded when I read that lady's post. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by malikisah: 6:44am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Thank God for you o . We have seen many of her type,. Most Nigerians, even adults are not prepared to make sacrifice , they just want to reap. One came go my house on a Sunday and was angry that she was not taken to school by Monday. By Tuesday she was on her way home with her widow mother's support . Fast forward, she had a baby exactly one year later. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by funstufz(m): 6:45am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Thank God you only 'wish' to 'visit' the mum, let it stop at your wish. You may call and close her case honourably but visiting is not allowed, doing that will expose you to unnecessary sympathy which you will be obliged to bring back to your home the devil 're-loaded'. A word in my own coin... 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Sh0llypopz: 6:47am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Zuris: @Zurin, a 15 year old cannot give consent. Can someone please explain to this person how a 15 year old cannot be found guilty of child labor because she isn't capable of giving consent at her age?? For example: A 15 year old cannot give consent to a 25 year old man that sleeps with her. He will be charged with r*ape; his actions would be seen as forceful because she cannot give consent. She is a child, not an adult. She clearly isn't emancipated from her parents, so she couldn't have given consent. You keep referring to the op as her madam, that is very offensive. You are the last person to question anyone's morals. 6 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by soonest(f): 6:49am On Nov 24, 2015 |
dyn1800:Yea! Alot of times but these househelps don't have compassion atimes. Imagine enrolling a help in a private sec sch, d sch fees then was 18000. Books, registration, uniform etc cost 15000. I had to enrol her there cos her educational background was poor n govt sch won't do her much good. After 4weeks she said she wanted to go,that the sch was too stressful, shes always indoors bla bla. It was like film. My investment gone, she didn't even complete a term. So my dear, you can never be their parents just treat them well cos i no support maltreatment. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by favourlove1: 6:49am On Nov 24, 2015 |
cococandy:o yea! What value if I may ask? Does being a maid make her any less a human? Stupidity!!! People like you will have a maid who is down with malaria n ask her to go take panadol n when ur kids have just headache u take them to d hospital. N you call yourself a God worshiper. SMH. Dat he take her like a sister means he is accommodating n also knows his limits so don't get it twisted. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by josite: 6:56am On Nov 24, 2015 |
accept the lady does not want to be an omo odo cus she too has a right to dignity like all human.she did you no wrong aunty.she hates being called omo odo.simple |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by gabinogem(m): 6:58am On Nov 24, 2015 |
princeonx: U have said something reasonable bro... when I say family planning I knew exactly what I meant. Whether u space ur child bearing or not, once u don't plan ur home effectively one will always face situation that will becloud his or her imagination. Family planning encompasses all forms of planning within the home. Effective planning saves stressful & chaotic situations. The problem with Nigeria is that most parents are downright lazy, they just want house help to do everything for them which heaven knows it's not possible. Some are breeding like pigs expecting God to come help salvage their situations for them. I am using this medium to advice those lazy parents who don't know what parenting means to wake up from their slumber & act right. As for the OP, u know very well that ur career is becoming an obstacle to ur home, so tread carefully. Emotional problem is the worst problem any man can face in life & this problem starts from the home. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by bewla(m): 7:10am On Nov 24, 2015 |
ITbomb:did you think she is a girl |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Nobody: 7:15am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Op some house girls are just naturally wicked, these days it's rather difficult to find a good one. The house girl isn't clearly ready to have a future so allow her go. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by obiuzonwa: 7:31am On Nov 24, 2015 |
ITbomb:What do really mean by that? |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by glossy6(f): 7:37am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Eketem: What is the definition of a maid by the way? A child that grows along with my kids can't be said to be a maid but a helper. My daughter of the same age does the same chores when she is back from school as a boarder and does them fairer. You mean she is not meant to wash dishes or sweep in her mother's house? Well, my girl of 5 wash the dishes. My 13yrs old do the laundry for me. Saddled ke? Sweep, bath herself eat and go to school with my kids. Return from school, get food from d flask for her & my kids. They do harder stuff in their home without being equipped for school and it is not slavery. Maybe 4yrs go to creche and not school as you have read my post with a biased mind. Am supposed to bath her abi? Well I don't bath my daughter of same age and she does her morning duties as a boarder in a public school. I applaud your response. By the way, I was only telling the writer that getting kids that age are needless and not worth it. For ur info, I don't have issue with my husband. Put a 25yr old unclad lady in a locked room with him & he won't fall for it. He is a very decent man. I don't keep girls her age. This is d 1st trial and its not worth it. If your 11yr now 12yrs not being able to wash plates is ok by you, so be it. 4 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Nobody: 7:38am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Thank you much to everyone that took time to comment. |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Eketem: 7:48am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sh0llypopz:My sister a lot of Nigerian women will argue with you till their last breath. They prefer this jankara move than hiring a professional. I don't know why we refuse to see this as a real profession. Hire a real person and pay them well, state terms and conditions, respect each other. A maid is not your sister or your charity case, a maid is not your friend, she is there to do a job. Again differentiate between a maid and a nanny. I know what attention a child takes my maid has no business with my child she isn't a trained nanny, she does not know CPR, she doesn't know what to do when there is an emergency. I hope more women will get wise and start doing the right thing. I also understand the challenges of not getting a good trained adult maid, that is a serious gap. I am working on something like that. Security is another concern. However these challenges doesn't mean we should subject children who should be in school to be in the labour market. These kids are not mentally prepared to do most of the things we demand from them. 4 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Eketem: 8:00am On Nov 24, 2015 |
glossy6: I apologise for bringing your husband into this, forgive me just that it's the excuse some women give. However my point remains, simple yes or no answer: will you send your 11 year old to be a maid? Since you insist an 11 year old is mature enough to work outside her home 4 Likes |
Re: This Is What My House Help Did To Me by Leez(m): 8:01am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Rukemi291:seun no greee oya lala do d needful move all ds tales by moonlight to fictioon section |
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