i can't explain o!

Totfulguy:


Oh I just looked at your profile picture...Now I think your Dad has his reasons!

I guess d guy is just cooking moonlight stories up cos his profile pix says it all. Very disgusting.

I understand wat u are going thru op because i am also a victim of such although my dad hardly beat us bt dis man neva wish us well he swear 4 us all always tel i & my elder ones we will all bit regretting finger in our life dis man does nt care abt how we feed or wore clothe d last cloth my dad bought for me & my sibling was when we were in pry sch dat was year 1996 he lives d house every Mon & comes back on sat fuming & insulting us we. ant stand &face our dad to ask him money for book or biro without u reciving d insult of ur life it made us all withdraw frm bt my father we learnt is a very generous person outside my mum was d only one who stood by us it got to a stage my elder bro began to av serious hatred 4 him when he got admission to lasu d foolish man told him how is he sure he is going to finished frm d school he paid his fees just once my bro struggle & train himself thru sch. when my sis got preg @ home hell was let lose my dad told her she just started dat she wil give birth to 3 more children in his house my fellow nairalanders dat was wat happen to my sis b4 God intervene now she is married to d same person although she was living wit him bt any time she got pregnant she & d hubby wil fight & he wil live home 4 her she wil later cm back home til she put to bed. my dad also tel me wat happen to my sis wil happen to me dat was d day i talked back to my father i was so angry i told him his swear wil neva av effect on my life i faced him & said he cannot spoil my life d way he does to my sis it was a serious issue den dey even call family meeting because of me d man is just plain evil one day my elder bro told my mum dat if my dad shuld die noboby shuld inform him dat his family shuld go & bury him u shuld no how pained d boy was 4 him to say dat dis man can swear 4 us without thinking abt d repercussion anyway i am married now so also is my elder bro & elder sis although we are nt yet rich even on d day of my introduction my dad said he wont cm out my mum was crying & asking me to go & beg him i told her i wil rather die dan beg if he dont want to cm out someone else wil take his place & replace him i was glad to live dat house.most times he wil cal me & strt commanding me dat he wants to see me right now in d house i always tel him i dont av chance most times i dont pick his cal he cal me wit another line & was shouting @ me i told him daddy i am above 18 and am a married woman dat he does nt av any right over me again he told me husband was shacking me dat i wil soon realise myself. i return his swear back to him in my mind d last time i & my elder sis went to visit my mum immediately we saw him coming we just took d back door & went back to our houses d man is nt just it & he is d kind of person dat discuss our matter to every member of his family even his elder sis cal my mum & tel her to warn my dad to stop discussing our matter to his family & frnds anyway i learnt my younger bro is giving him a tough time @ home now my mum said he went to his place of work & report him dat if anytin miss dey shuld hold him responsible because he is rude to him definetly he wil be stealing wat kind of father does dat? pls op i wil advice u try & get a job first den start saving to rent a house & live d house 4 him so dat d devil wil nt use u one day against him bt 4 d main time u are stil dere try & obey him wat u want to do shuld be in ur mind.

Habah! Are you sure he's ur father? This is unbelievable.

First, from your write up I noticed you tried to vindicate yourself and make us see your dad as a monster. I would want to know your age.


If I have a son like you, I will send him to a seminary school out of my sight because I might be the one killing him.

God will help you through all this
but also try and check yourself .

Rrhoda:
I guess d guy is just cooking moonlight stories up cos his profile pix says it all. Very disgusting.

You are not far from the truth

Whatever the situation is today, man up and take responsibilities. If by this time he seems not to be pleased by you, take responsibilities and move on with your life.

As a father, demeaning words and curses aren't the best way to wish his son successful. If during his time he was treated like that and he made it, now is computer age. He should free you to make it your own way.

Wish you best in your quest to end this bondage.

My dear just keep moving on. My was almost like yours but today am the must biggest boy of the house, with master's degree, working as a customs officer and having a wife with Phd degree. And am still in my 20s. God use thst to make me more focus in life. I neeever meet a woman still I got married just this year. My brother just remain focus and be more close to God and your book

Are you in school, If no...enter a school and don't come home often,you will see some changes.

Pursue your dream, you are a good writer. I have known you for quite sometime here. Do not try to feel sad when he tries to break your spirit, make sure you never give up.

What is your mother take on this when your dad does this?If she knows how to communicate with the man effectively,Then pass your information to her,she would know how to pass it to your dad.


Your dad is wrong for using that Audu line on you,and he knows it. He might have a quick tongue, overlook it and work your way to the top.


A friend in secondary school told us that when his brother died,his mum was crying and said why will so so and so die and not so so and so(another brother), the other brother just killed himself,two corpses.

When you put on the girdle of success,everyone will like to be around you. Your dad inclusive.

Seek God's face. He loves u. Get involved in church activities.
Life your life completely for God.

jaymejate:


Okay, but seriously you can overcome him.
Why don't you try to move even more closer to him. Behave good.
I remember when i was growing up. My dad beat he out of me but as i begin de grow... I started behaving like a man as in i moved close to him. Anything he wants to do i help him to do it immediately. Im in skul now, and he is missing, same thing with my brothers.

You just have to know that even if he carry Fire for head, you can quench it. Be a man bro and don't think that NURSE miscarry u o.

You don't move closer and submit to your abuser... Or else you'd really loose it all.

Its good your old man is on nairaland as well. I guess I will have to wait for your dad's own side of the story before I gv out my advice.

Like I always say... A coin is always with two sides, so is every story

Ediss:
My dear just keep moving on. My was almost like yours but today am the must biggest boy of the house, with master's degree, working as a customs officer and having a wife with Phd degree. And am still in my 20s. God use thst to make me more focus in life. I neeever meet a woman still I got married just this year. My brother just remain focus and be more close to God and your book

Wow! And I thought I was accomplished in my 20s

Good one Bro!

Therock5555:
Please this is a long write up so please pardon me

I choosed not to used an alternative moniker because I want my dad to see this, I introduced him to Nairaland and he's a frequent front page reader so I hope he sees this. I hope my fans in the literature section know why I get depressed always.




Sorry for the long epistle, I'm broken and seriously need advice, I hope he gets to see this and then kills me afterwards.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

What is your reason of not moving out?

Therock5555:
Please this is a long write up so please pardon me

I choosed not to used an alternative moniker because I want my dad to see this, I introduced him to Nairaland and he's a frequent front page reader so I hope he sees this. I hope my fans in the literature section know why I get depressed always.




Sorry for the long epistle, I'm broken and seriously need advice, I hope he gets to see this and then kills me afterwards.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

Your profile pic says a lot about your personality...
Your dad might not be a devil after all.

Seriously, such things happened daily in our society but the point is dis, you just need to take things easy, maybe u should talk to him through a higher authority like your church pastor or even your family head if he is not the one.
The Lord is your strength

Rrhoda:
I guess d guy is just cooking moonlight stories up cos his profile pix says it all. Very disgusting.

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I just saw the profile picture.

I believe that the father is not doing enough.

Perhaps castration should be a good start.

Every sympathy I had is now out of the window.

The guy is very irresponsible. Dads know best.

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just get admission to a tertiary school and u will be amazed how they will change but you must behave and strive to succeed in every aspect of your life. he will soon apologize to u. no pain no gain.

Therock5555:
He even told me that if my mom was not a Christian he would have questioned my parentage.

Maybe you'll get lucky OP...

@Therock5555; Don't go into war of words with your Dad whatsoever. Trust me on this...
Will you do that for me

chocolateme:
Hmm!! Most times, the blessing and curses of our parents affects our lives positively or negatively and yours is constantly and won't stop till you become broken.
This can lead to child rebellion against his parents, an over clouded judgement which it's result can be disastrous.
I suggest that you leave that house now while your sanity is still intact to avoid landing in prisons soon due to lose of control and the devil took over. You must have relations or friends in case your dad asks your relations to throw u out. Find a way yo stay away from him and pursue your career and get your life together even if you have to suffer through physical hardship but I bet it's better than staying at home and been bounded by curses and bad luck. Remember you are a man, if you continue absorbing this, you may end up like him to your children tomorrow and eventually they will never be a blessing to u.
So fight hard and trust God, with all pure heart, you will be a blessing to your family if not now, then later. Sorry for what you are passing through.

I grew up under same circumstances as the OP and endured till I graduated from the university. I resolved and pray fervently not to come back home after my service year no matter what....the Lord answered my prayers and I was retained where I served, am married wit kids now n don't give a damn about anybody. Currently my dad is chasing me around wanting to be my friend but we are not. My only obligation to him is to send him whatever I have to support his welfare. Assuming Nigeria has proper welfare programme for the elderly Wahalahi I won't bother about his welfare... Your advice is on point.

grayline:
Dad over to you since you are also on nl..

Yinmu

chocolateme:
Hmm!! Most times, the blessing and curses of our parents affects our lives positively or negatively and yours is constantly and won't stop till you become broken.
This can lead to child rebellion against his parents, an over clouded judgement which it's result can be disastrous.
I suggest that you leave that house now while your sanity is still intact to avoid landing in prisons soon due to lose of control and the devil took over. You must have relations or friends in case your dad asks your relations to throw u out. Find a way yo stay away from him and pursue your career and get your life together even if you have to suffer through physical hardship but I bet it's better than staying at home and been bounded by curses and bad luck. Remember you are a man, if you continue absorbing this, you may end up like him to your children tomorrow and eventually they will never be a blessing to u.
So fight hard and trust God, with all pure heart, you will be a blessing to your family if not now, then later. Sorry for what you are passing through.

Thanks Ma'am but leaving the house is out of play now, I have one more year in school or else I would have absconded a long time ago. I have tons of places I could stay, we start far north while most of my relatives are in the south

Most times I try to hide the fact publicly because of his status so I don't think I would do anything drastic anytime soon, I'm not violent except defending the truth

But I think it's two clash of egos, his godlike position and my rating trodden one

rose4flower:
I understand wat u are going thru op because i am also a victim of such although my dad hardly beat us bt dis man neva wish us well he swear 4 us all always tel i & my elder ones we will all bit regretting finger in our life dis man does nt care abt how we feed or wore clothe d last cloth my dad bought for me & my sibling was when we were in pry sch dat was year 1996 he lives d house every Mon & comes back on sat fuming & insulting us we. ant stand &face our dad to ask him money for book or biro without u reciving d insult of ur life it made us all withdraw frm bt my father we learnt is a very generous person outside my mum was d only one who stood by us it got to a stage my elder bro began to av serious hatred 4 him when he got admission to lasu d foolish man told him how is he sure he is going to finished frm d school he paid his fees just once my bro struggle & train himself thru sch. when my sis got preg @ home hell was let lose my dad told her she just started dat she wil give birth to 3 more children in his house my fellow nairalanders dat was wat happen to my sis b4 God intervene now she is married to d same person although she was living wit him bt any time she got pregnant she & d hubby wil fight & he wil live home 4 her she wil later cm back home til she put to bed. my dad also tel me wat happen to my sis wil happen to me dat was d day i talked back to my father i was so angry i told him his swear wil neva av effect on my life i faced him & said he cannot spoil my life d way he does to my sis it was a serious issue den dey even call family meeting because of me d man is just plain evil one day my elder bro told my mum dat if my dad shuld die noboby shuld inform him dat his family shuld go & bury him u shuld no how pained d boy was 4 him to say dat dis man can swear 4 us without thinking abt d repercussion anyway i am married now so also is my elder bro & elder sis although we are nt yet rich even on d day of my introduction my dad said he wont cm out my mum was crying & asking me to go & beg him i told her i wil rather die dan beg if he dont want to cm out someone else wil take his place & replace him i was glad to live dat house.most times he wil cal me & strt commanding me dat he wants to see me right now in d house i always tel him i dont av chance most times i dont pick his cal he cal me wit another line & was shouting @ me i told him daddy i am above 18 and am a married woman dat he does nt av any right over me again he told me husband was shacking me dat i wil soon realise myself. i return his swear back to him in my mind d last time i & my elder sis went to visit my mum immediately we saw him coming we just took d back door & went back to our houses d man is nt just it & he is d kind of person dat discuss our matter to every member of his family even his elder sis cal my mum & tel her to warn my dad to stop discussing our matter to his family & frnds anyway i learnt my younger bro is giving him a tough time @ home now my mum said he went to his place of work & report him dat if anytin miss dey shuld hold him responsible because he is rude to him definetly he wil be stealing wat kind of father does dat? pls op i wil advice u try & get a job first den start saving to rent a house & live d house 4 him so dat d devil wil nt use u one day against him bt 4 d main time u are stil dere try & obey him wat u want to do shuld be in ur mind.

All of Una Don they bring Una gist now!! Movie zone.



This same ppl during mother's day we will not get space,they will flood narialand with their mother's pic.


My Mum is the best Mum in the world, Bt the real story n truth is up their.

bellong:


I guess the bold is the root of the issues. You must have been too curious and challenging since a toddler. He probably see it as a deviant behavior and in a bid to straighten you, he adopted the"negative " approach which many parents do adopt.

Get to the library, buy him a book on child developmental psychology. He needs to learn some stuff.

Meanwhile, you need to learn how to pass across your opinion without him seeing you as rude and disobedient.

This action would be seen as being rude and disrespectful. I think the dad has an ego problem. He feels challenged by him. He may also feel disappointed that he is not going how he "expects" him to go.

However he can do his part in this situation. TheRock555. Pls don't talk back at him. You don't have to agree with him, but u don't also have to let him know you don't agree. Also strive to take care of ur needs and that of others. This has a way of increasing ur self respect and the respect others give to you.

It may take a very long time before u begin to see changes, however its best to take the small steps that lead to that change now. I feel so sorry about your situation and I try to imagine what you go through everyday. I believe things can improve.

Op how old are u?

I guess its high time u left d house for dem and follow ur dream. Don't be surprised if dey come looking for u wen u've made it.

ModiKen:

Thanks. No mind me. Typo.
BTW, na u dey ur profile pic

it's my ghost.

Atmmachine:
Let me tell you something.
You're still a kid, you live with your parents, they feed you.
African parents derive joy in beating their children.

One day you will get rich and he will want you to buy mansions for him and give him money, It will be up to you to choose how to repay him.

Let me use Emmanuel Adebayor as an example, His family got what they deserve because they treated him like a slave.

If you want your dad to stop beating you. #Fight him, i repeat, #Fight him.
He will never touch you again.

Fight him you say? BAD ADVICE.

abbasbo003:
Cos u are useless, even to urself

Seems like you are the Dad. Pls stop tormenting him for the sake of Christ and when your strength will fail you, he will be there

Na wa o. See hades!

Atmmachine:
Let me tell you something.
You're still a kid, you live with your parents, they feed you.
African parents derive joy in beating their children.

One day you will get rich and he will want you to buy mansions for him and give him money, It will be up to you to choose how to repay him.

Let me use Emmanuel Adebayor as an example, His family got what they deserve because they treated him like a slave.

If you want your dad to stop beating you. #Fight him, i repeat, #Fight him.
He will never touch you again.

I'm sorry but I never lay hands on my parents because of the spiritual implications and that's what he's daring me to do, he just wants me to give him a reasonable reason to disown me, he wants the scenario when people outside ask what I did to get disowned and I said I laid hand on my dad I would bear public fury while he becomes the hero, I know his mind games and I'm not ready to bow yet