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Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 7:43am On Nov 24, 2015 |
anathemiamia:thank you very much |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by macaranta(m): 7:43am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sorry bro,we don't get to chose our parents.However never allow another man destroy you or your dreams,develop a thicker skin,go after your goals,if you fail you fail. As for the physical abuse,be wise and avoid confrontations,i guess you have studied his patterns(how he starts quarrels,etc) so try to avoid such confrontational scenarios(cus seriously you cannot change anyone).I am assuming you are still young(made to kneel down etc),obey him but do it with a motive,which is to leave the house at the best time possible(as you need shelter/food/accomodation). For the dad,incase you reading just know that you can still feel great about yourself without making others around you feel down.Only an inferior person behaves this way.If you hold any grudge against your son,open up to him and be a man about it instead of bitching about and making him suicidal,you will get old someday and you never can tell which of your kids will be your strength then. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ModiKen(m): 7:44am On Nov 24, 2015 |
evegran: If your ghost looks this good, I wonder what the real you would look like... ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Makapounse(m): 7:44am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Atmmachine:very bad advice, do you read the story between the lines? If you do, the fault is from the writter, he said truly he behave different in the family, so fighting his dad wil worse the situation... |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by umulobi: 7:45am On Nov 24, 2015 |
End time parents |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by JustCurious: 7:45am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Am I the only one seeing the "I am demonic..." part of the story? Bros, that is where the problem lies. You need to go for some deliverance first, and every other things shall be made plain... Your story reminds me of the hell one of my close persons went through in his dads hand. A very similar scenario- except that he wasnt born in the village. Solution to your challenges lies beyond physical reprimanding. The truth is that your dad is doing more harm than good by beating, scolding you etc. Both of you need to get down to the root and pray!! The problem is beyond you, as you can't even explain why you do some of what you do! Your dad needs to tell you why you were born in the village?! What were the situations surrounding your birth as the first male child. Are there some things he would like to let you know? Are there some spiritual covenants made at your birth. Perhaps, you have been 'sacrificed' to some 'gods' unknowingly during/after birth?! Hence the unexplainable behavior? Seek spiritual help. Don't go too hard on yourself. Ask questions. Seek deliverance. May God help you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by subzidi: 7:45am On Nov 24, 2015 |
justmenoni:The young man has been severely abused hence this could be a deviant behaviour as in “i don't care what people say about me attitude” or he has a weird sense of humor! More of the later for me though being the moralist I think I am... |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 7:47am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: Wow...so dude are you saying you are 1 year from completing medical school? You must be quite bright to go that far in a field you are not passionate about and only into to make your abusive and sadistic lucifer father happy! In which case, i would suggest you sweat it out, complete your medical degree and then move out of your parent's house. If you have come this far, keep your eye on the goal and turn this temporary negative experience into something that would mold your character in a positive limelight and a source of your motivation. Most Sons always want to do their Father proud so i can understand why you are walking in your Father's shadow....I became and loved a profession my Dad wanted for me right from my childhood, only because i owned it myself!!!!! The only part i cannot fathom is the abusive side of your dad!!!!! He is just a sad, old agbaya!!!! |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by mikesammy(m): 7:47am On Nov 24, 2015 |
U are a man and i will advice you to act like one. Look for an opportunity when he is in good mood and cease that opportunity to talk about you problems, your feelings, let him known you feel rejected and depressed. A gentle tongue brings healing. Start by praising him and apologizing for the past. Take all the blames if neccessary, then you hit the nail. I beleave there is a trace of goodness in every heart, he will listen to you. But incase this process proves void and null, i will advice you to peacefull look for an apartment if you can afford one but if you think this is not an option,, then try endurance 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Jollymich(m): 7:47am On Nov 24, 2015 |
You can only realize that firing is dangerous when you are a victim, but God Almighty Jah, will protect you. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by aksule(m): 7:48am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Going thru some comments its easy to understand the modern day children. The beauty of it all is that you're going to have your children and possibly face the same treatment either as a father or the child or children. How you handle the situation then will determine whether your father was a sinner or not. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by YTderin(f): 7:48am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Oh well, i guess we are all fighting our individual evils. Op, i feel your pain. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by GreatManBee: 7:48am On Nov 24, 2015 |
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Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by benELOHIM7(m): 7:52am On Nov 24, 2015 |
You are not alone youngman. Just focus on what makes u happy and try as much as u can to become a man as fast as u can. By becoming a man I mean, finding a job and leaving home if possible. Donot stay in that house if u want to retain ur self esteem. Dont try to impress ur dad because u r already a good for nothing to him, just do whats right, what developes u. Finaly donot hate him. We shall overcome. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ModiKen(m): 7:52am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: Good to know you are not suicidal. However, so u don't get to your breaking point and do something you would regret, move out of your dad's house. Sometimes parents could be a real pain in the a$$. I have had relative peace since I left my dad's house. All the complaints and constant sermons were really cranking me up. Op, I believe you would be happier once you stop being under the same roof with that man. If you can't leave immediately, all your efforts shld be at making plans towards that. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by HizMissy(f): 7:53am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: I was really feeling empathy for u before I read this post. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ihustler(m): 7:54am On Nov 24, 2015 |
My friend sorry for your pain. It is just a part of the process of adulthood. For some families, this is true, for some, they dont believe in child abuse. My candid take is for you to leave your parents' home and start something on your own to prove a point to them. The decision might not go down well at first but later, you will thank God you made that decision. Leave them before they make you emotionally scarred forever and disrupt your psychological growth process for life. But when you plan on doing that, make sure you have something up your sleeves; like the movie script you gave away freely, the blog sponsorship, etc. You need this to be able to channel your energy into so that you dont go depressed after some time. I pray God gives you strength and wisdom to make the right decisions. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 7:55am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 7:55am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Rocky i really feel what u are saying. Something like this happened between me and my elder brother. Things got so bleeped up that one midnight we heard a very big problem,he beat the senses out of me and all i could do then was to use my hand and smash his car glasses and leave his house that midnight cos i couldnt fight him back, because he was my elder brother and i couldnt stand myself laying a hand on him,yes i have that respect for him. Rocky just leave that house,even if it means u sleeping under the bridge,just get out of that house.so far u are focused towards ur dreams,rocky i swear u will make it big oneday. If u dont leave that house oneday u will kill ur dad and then the whole world will blame u. I live in the eastern incase u find urself here oneday just try and get in touch with me. I pray God will make u bold enough to run this race and win. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ModiKen(m): 7:55am On Nov 24, 2015 |
serah109: But we know that is a mistake most parents make just like this dude's dad and most don't even know they are hurting their child or ruining his future. Yes, visiting once in a while is a good idea cos there is more respect and value in scarcity. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by juwoonn(m): 7:57am On Nov 24, 2015 |
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Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by jeff1607(m): 7:59am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: Op,what u went through is just a tip of the iceberg,compared to mine, go get something that would take your mind off everything from your home. You are even lucky that you have siblings and even a place to rest your head,stay in school and hustle.During your service year you can save money and start something.#nuffsaid 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by HizMissy(f): 8:01am On Nov 24, 2015 |
@op, I think it's wise for you to play the fool, just act like a sheep (good boy) until you can be on your own. Instead of letting your father's hate depress you, why not let it drive you? To disprove him, to be the best you can be, so that he'll see what a rare gem he lost. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Makapounse(m): 8:02am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Since you've admitted, "truly you behave differently in the family" , "you are the black sheep of the family", the fault is from you , because no one wil tolerate disobedient especially from child to parent, Even Almighty God will punish anyone who disobey His Order, Solution : call on mum's attention and explain to her that , you too don't understand why all this bad attitude, both of them should go on extra miles on you for the solution to this, beating and punishing you made you more harder, even if it's to consult Oracle or Alfas for the last solution, i think this wil help.. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by carbon1224(m): 8:02am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Sincerely I really understand you Cos I have been in the same shoe as you but It only make you more stronger. Firstly you need to ask your mum if he his your real father and if trully it's confirmed to be your real father then you have nothing to worry about cos there are things which you don't understand that your dad understands. You might see this as punishment or hatred but at the end you will understands what he his trying to do. Trust me on this cos I have gone through those process before. There might be somethings he might not tell you mum about you. He doesn't hate you. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:07am On Nov 24, 2015 |
justmenoni:he is not a registered member just a guest, and please tell me you haven't used a meme before 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by romzyxy(m): 8:08am On Nov 24, 2015 |
chocolateme: Very reasonable write up! Makes me want to meet you. *smiles* |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by fm7070: 8:09am On Nov 24, 2015 |
I went through your story with sympathy. You are a victim of bad parenting. Nothing is wrong with you as a person. Just that you are stubborn and you are rugged. You parent made matters worse by throwing negative weight at punishing you instead of training you. My candid advice for you is that you should go for what you want and avoid any kind of bad acts that will give your parent reasons to say there is nothing good in you. If you succeed in good things, your father will one day be proud of you. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:10am On Nov 24, 2015 |
EggovinMma:I'm 21 |
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