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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:07pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1: Your children will only abandon you financially if you did not plan your life. If you don't plan your life and you are expecting to become a burden to the 'poor' children in future may God let them abandon you, say amen to that. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by joe17: 8:08pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by tpiadotcom: 8:08pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: Its terrible. I guess the op is on the warpath now due to the death of their father. One of those family extinction things. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Charly68: 8:09pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
There is a proverb in Yoruba that says : the fact that you were born together by same parents does not mean your relation will show you mercy people born by the same parents can disappoint each other..only prayer can soften her stance..she is either wicked or hard at heart |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Vision4God: 8:10pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Kip praying for her. She may not realise dat she has responsibility at hom. Allll izzzzzz weeelll |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 8:11pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
nkyblast:Don't say that, some parents are very terrible. Prostituting their kids or blaming them for rapes and even beating them. There is always 3 sides to a story. If the girl should tell her own side, you may even advocate lynching OP 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:12pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:It doesn't have to be the whole family. common, her mother is dying, so, her mother cannot benefit from her? huh... No matter how hard i try to understand this, the lady is an ungrateful fellow. Her mother for that matter. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Jaftee(m): 8:12pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP, first, be sure your sister is as rich as you think. you know your sister better than us, is she the kind of person that will not help someone in need? if she is ignore her and hustle real time, but if she is the helping types and suddenly stop. then she too might need your help. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Eeroh95(m): 8:14pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Are you sure she is your biological sis....?................things change when the truth is out....just saying |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:14pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: Your comment might sound insensitive to some, but I can totally relate based on personal experience. My husband would say, don't train your kids because you want them to train the younger one or you want to live off them in future _ train them to be useful to themselves and their offspring. I am only concerned about the mother's health, she should show some concern. When health is involved, I soft pedal a little. God bless you @Brugge 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 8:15pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: May what you believe in follow you sir. In a country without social security, your aged parents becomes your responsibility. I refuse to shy away from that. Whether na dem train me or not. As the Yoruba's will say. "Omo a shey irue fu e" |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by nosiebaba(m): 8:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko:You also have a problem! Pray for your sister, if you can't go on your kneels and tell God, then don't tell nairaland. If God cannot help you, nairaland will not help you. They will only heap insults on you and your family. Stop telling the world things that you are supposed to tell God. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by 3rdlegxxx(m): 8:18pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
As i have always said, there are three sides to every story,OP's side, the other person's side and the whole truth. Trust Nigerians, tell them one side of the story and they will swallow it and start raining abuse on the faulty person, never spot to reason and the why and how question, the story sounds sad and i know you are hurt that she is not showing any signs of interest but you and i know, it is practically impossible for a girl child to just wake up and begin to ignore those who she grew (assuming you did grow up together) up and her mum, we all love our mums to bits, if you reason want help, tell us the full story, at what point did she all of sudden stop being close to the rest of you?? 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
y mum is dieing silently. Please make this front page i need advice cause i don't want to lose her now.[/quote] If your mum dies, you will all miss her and you will realise she gave her all for you guys. So be very close to your mum. Cherish every moment with her. Gist her out of thinking about your sister and pray for your sister. Call your sister only once and tel her the whole situation and conclude by telling her you will never call her again until your mum pass on. Hang up and focus on making your mum happy |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by nkyblast(f): 8:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124:I quite agree wit u but frm wat d story says she is a pharmacist and doing well,no matter wat she wldnt wish her mother dead,well my answer was based on d story, God help dem |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by kingthreat(m): 8:20pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: Sorry but you're a nincompoop for making such statements. As it makes no sense to you not to reap good from your children so be it for you. About planning one's life properly, what about those caught up in disasters and they had to start from scratch. It's obvious you know NOTHING about life. Fools like you will watch your parents suffer when you can ease them because of your retarded mentality. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 8:24pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
nkyblast:If you had a mother that treated you like a prostitute and destroyed your life, will you care if she is alive or dead? Even what parents say to their kids can make them hate them. Some people call their kids bastarf, prostitute and claim they will never do well. Heap curses on their kids because of 5 mins madness. Not everyone forgives such actions. It is God's grace that helps parents to do the right thing. If the mother has done wrong, she should personally go and beg. Otherwise accept her lot and stop disturbing her. I am sure the mother knows what went wrong. Reason why they are sending elder's to beg. When a parent can't talk to a child who is supposedly a good girl and Christian, something is fundamentally wrong somewhere. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pinkyruledworld(m): 8:26pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge:and this shii dey sweet for yr mind. This is Nigeria where there are no good retirement facilities, even in some debvloped countries peeps still care for their old ones, just wondering how ur parents would feel reading this from u. One of the reasons I hate the book "the rules of parenting". |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:27pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1: The problem is that Nigerians always shy away from the truth and we like wiping up sentiment. Have you ever considered what most kids go through as kids, ranging from having the worst living condition to hawking around goods at a very tender age, rather than being children. Have you ever considered that if most parents have set their priority right they would never put their kids in such situation? You may not want to accept the truth but I have been with parents whose financial status aint good and they are about having a new baby in addition to the ones they could barely care for. Most of them their responses are same 'that God will take of the kids or that God will provide'. How on earth will a loving parent put their so called loved kids in such a situation? I hope when you are old enough to start a family that you make a better choice so that your kids will be kids when they are supposed to be kids and be adult when they are meant to be one. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
menix: I've said it b4, nairaland will not kill me. 1 Like
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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
pinkyruledworld: Of course I live in Naija and I know the situation of things. Can you explain to me how in the world what and how an okada rider for instance with five kids intend to give those children a good childhood and at same time save or make any investment towards his retirement? Please my dear let's not allow sentiment becloud our judgement,hence, we ourselves will be similar mistake. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Richy4(m): 8:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah: Did you train yourself in school? Are you working...? Do you buy your parents gift ones in a while? If you buy your parents gifts ones in a while, why do you do it? |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:33pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
kingthreat: It is quite unfortunate that you couldn't make your point or come up with a counter argument without insulting me. The sad thing is you don't me neither do you know my parents. I am not going to insult you, but I hope you remember this as long as you live. When you are old enough to start a family you had better make a wise choice else you will have yourself to blame. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 8:33pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
armyofone:Everybody is going through something, 'going through something' is not an excuse to neglect one's parents. For a mother to expect support from her child is not bad and if that is a black African problem then the reason is not far fetched - we don't have social welfare packages for the elderly. They should bluntly tell her she is messing up and the mother completely turn her back against her and forbid her from attending her funeral til she does what is right. I am tired of Africans trying to live European and American lifestyles in an African setting! |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pinkyruledworld(m): 8:38pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: I sincerely agree with u on dat path, but i bliv dats not d case of d op, even if dat was d case, is it right to neglect ones MOTHER during hard times? bro u dont pay evil with evil. ur mum is a witch but shes still ur mum Jah bless |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by redcliff: 8:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:plezde what kind of comment is this for Christ's sake!if it was ur own sister, would you say this same thing.. just imagine you were in this guy's shoes..what would you say? |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 8:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: And what makes you think that I am not old enough to be your father? See, in Nigeria where there are no social security, people have kids with the hope that some of them will succeed so as to help out. Nothing wrong with dat at all. Look around you, you will see a lot of people from very poor families doing very well today and looking after their parents. I cannot abandon my parents no matter what. Thank you. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Godsonkemz(m): 8:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Commit it to God who can change your sister's heart. May God release her from whatsoever that is holding her captive liquidating her capital or causing her not to have concern for her family. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by raayah(f): 8:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Richy4: DO you read all the post on nairaland of people begging for admission fees to enter university? Do you see the thousands of youths out hawking and begging in the hot sun. Young female hawkers being raped every second. All because their parents cannot care for them. The plight of the Nigerian woman is very hard . You guys like to act as if you don't know how this country is. Was it not yesterday that a young man posted that his father flogged him naked all his life and rubbed pepper on his wounds? Where in OP post was it mentioned that their family supported her? For all we know, they might have sent her off as house-girl somewhere. For a child to forget her sick mother, something terrible must have happened to her. Until I hear two sides of the story, before i condemn the woman. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by datigbogirl: 8:40pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ginaz: people will offend you and instead of feeling penitence & apologizing they will behave as if they did nothing wrong and stick to it till it gets too late. then they start begging for help. dat sister may never help dat family honestly cos I'm also in d same situation right now, , I've decided not to help anyone in d house till they apologise WHEN they don't need my help not WHEN they need it as dat to me is a sign of true penitence. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:42pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY: Brother have you considered that parents should know that there is no welfare package for them in the future and start saving/preparing for the raining day. I am sure when you talk about welfare you are referring to that available to the elderly in the west but it may surprise you to know that despite the availability of the welfare that most white people still save towards their old age. What if something happens and the children you are hoping on couldn't even bail themselves out financially? What if they make bad choices that affect how they treat their parents in the future? Wouldn't it be nice if such parents had saved against the future and have something to fall back on? If in the long run things work out great and the kids are their for them financially at least the parents will have something to leave for their grand kids. It is time we Africans start going away from aged-cultural way of thinking, thinking that time and time had failed us and had served us no good purpose. 4 Likes |
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