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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1: I am not asking you to abandon your parents, please read between lines and don't let sentiment becloud your judgement. My point is simple, it is time parents start making good decisions before starting a family so they don't find themselves in a jam in the future. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Richy4(m): 8:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah: You did not answer my question. rather you were writing history, Do you help your family by buying them gift,Financially wise or not? and if you do why. That was my question. I was not ready to look at the history lesson you got. and if you are not ready to answer, then have a good day. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Bjergtrolde: 8:52pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko: Are you sure she not also broke? Doing "very well" in Nigeria can mean a lot of things to so many people except of course the person "doing very well" who may not have been paid for 5,6,12 months. To dress well no always mean say person dey do well. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Elle277(f): 8:55pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
depend on God almighty as your only helper..and when you do so.. turn around will surely come to your family, as for human beings we will sure disappoint! but God never does.BTW..she might be the one that needs the help, you never can tell |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Missonas(f): 9:04pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I was going to call the lady out but I refrained some really must have had it rough. I thankGod for the life I lived and my parents efforts as well. They are our (my siblings and I) responsibities now. Op Since you said your sister is a Christian the best person to go to at this point is her pastor.He will make her understand that the giving to the church while her own mother is in dire need is not Christlike.The rest of u too shud contribute ur quota, task yourselves no be only pharmacist she born na
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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by ikukuhero: 9:06pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
menix: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by SunnDash(m): 9:08pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Just passing |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by gbadexy(m): 9:11pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
This thread is an eye opener. The comments by females here is particularly insightful. May God give us kind and thoughtful children. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 9:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge:I don't believe you live in this country or maybe if you do you live in some posh part of Nigeria completely disconnected from the harsh realities faced by the poor Nigerian. did it cross your mind that some parents could not save because they struggle to feed and send their children to school? While we are typing on nairaland, some families will go to bed without food, is it such parents that expect will save for the rainy day? The truth is that for some people, every day is a rainy day. Some parents could not even wear good clothes because they want their children to have a bright future, now how can these children grow up and claim the parents did not plan? Haba! |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Richy4(m): 9:27pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
gbadexy: Trust me bro. most of them are guilty of this whole thing. The time and ages they say women takes care of their parents has passed. not this IPhone and Galaxy 6 caring generation. if anything happened to the mother, she will rush out, money for uniform will come out from no where. she and her beautiful squad will arrive looking elegant and well decorated with sharp finger nails. she will be crying AJ kind of cry with handkerchief "mama has passed on" but when the mother was looking for help, she did not show. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY: Funny enough we are saying same thing the only problem is you can't stand me calling out our parents for their error in judgement. Brother, I can't tell you my story on NL but truth be told most of our parents brought it upon themselves and it pains me to watch young people make same mistake. I know a family of nine children, their mom is a petty trader and their dad does whatever jobs he can find. Their household income is not up to 40k a month I know that for sure and they all live in two rooms. How in God's name do you explain that? How in God's name do the parents think they are going to raise the kids or even provide a decent childhood or a better education for the children? Can you please explain to me how an okada rider whose combine family income in a month is not more than 30 thousands naira intend to give a family of 5 children a good life without putting them through difficulties? Can you explain to me what is wrong,if the okada man and his wife having assessed their budget and realized that their combined monthly income is 30k and decided to have just one child, while they raise him and try to save. If in the future they were able to improve their finances they can give birth to another. What stops our parents from being responsible, rather than relying on fate or the believe that once we manage with the help of God to train the first child then the first child will help out with others. Please I know what it is to go to bed without food and I know what it is as a child to support a family. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Trust women to always justify their wickedness. The poster clearly stated that the sister in question is doing well. What gives you all the idea that she isn't Dangote and so she should keep it all, however little/big to herself? FYI, this is Africa, where we are our brothers' keepers. Where we all eat from the same single bowl of food. Where we don't leave our mothers to starve out of some misguided avant-garde notion of 'everybody work their way up'. All these very wicked women everywhere. @op, man up, get that money and put her to shame. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Richy4: There are lots of intelligent people on NL.. After reading your post, I think you top the chart!!!! If I could click the love button I wouldn't hesitate!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by tpiadotcom: 9:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by tpiadotcom: 9:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
BoboYekini: D.umb post. You might be the op anyway. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Call your sister and tell her your mother's health is failing. Make it plain that she needs money and attention urgently. She may not know the urgency or extent of the situation. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Richy4(m): 9:40pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ezechinwa: Thanks bro. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pbs4real(m): 9:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:u not making sense, sorry to say |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by philemonemenike(m): 9:47pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Bleep pray to GOD to give you understanding and forget about your sister |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pbs4real(m): 9:47pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ginaz:not enuf reason, pls say somtin else |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: Stop saying what you do not understand. It is the duty of children to care for their parents at old age. Even Jesus mentioned it in the gospels. Parents cared for her to get to where she is right now. Dont get me annoyed. Smh. I knew how much i strived to assist my mum recently and i hadnt the cash. She called me to say that God will open doors for me. Right now, just one month later, income has tripled. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
pinkyruledworld: I am not saying she should neglect her mum. My point is that parents should stop putting themselves in such a situation. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pbs4real(m): 9:50pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
armyofone:that's why they re ur family, dre burden is ur burden as well so give us another reason |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:51pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko: Just pray hard about it.. Also call her for specific needs like, " John's school fees of N20,000 is due ". " Ada needs N15,000 to register for WAEC ". " Our house rent of N80,000 has expired ".. Tie your demands to a specific need. She wont decline. Use the above format to get money from her. It works. She is experiencing a Culture, Environment and Class shock. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pbs4real(m): 9:52pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
damiso:why is she the eldest No mtr wat she's going thru,thats doesn't. Stp her frm calling them to knw wats up, for crying out loud, she has an aged mother. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 9:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: The young eaglet who scored the highest goals in the just concluded FIFA under 17th world cup fits perfectly into the families you have just described. Today he has just been signed by one of the big clubs in Europe. Should he now turn his back on his parents because of all the struggles he went through growing up? Think boy, think! This story is about a daughter who is well off but refused to aid her sick mum. The only reason I can think of is "PASTOR" or a guy man boyfriend. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 9:59pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
menix: How can they tell that she is a babnk manager Let her be! Just pray she has her own kids. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:01pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1:You do know some girl children are raped by relatives or even their father and the mother covers it up and blames the girls right? You never know the other side of the story so do not judge her harshly. Instead we should be asking the mother if her hands are clean. If such happened to you and you became successful, will you readily jump to help |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by yapapa: 10:02pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah:shut up! let's hear word, we kno your type. only sorry for your parents sha. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Ugosample(m): 10:03pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: I agree with you. Nigerians like burying their head in the sand like ostrich 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:07pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Naughtysite: It is a good thing you are taking care of your mum. But I have to make this clear, no child is duty bound to take care of their parents at old age. I will repeat that again and again. But parents are duty bound to raise their kids because they brought them into this world and are under obligation to raise them as responsible adult. I am going to tell you about a family I know very well. I encounter this lady during her Erasmus program. During the course of our conversation I asked her who was funding her Erasmus program she told me it was part of the money she got from her grandmom. Take note of this, her late grand mom according to her was just an ordinary village woman who sow seeds and farm crops. We got talking and she said, when she starts working she will start saving for old age. I asked her what about pension and the social welfare available for the aged? Her response was simple, it does exist but I have to save for my old age if then the pension and social benefits still exist I will leave my money for my grand children. About her parents, she told me that her parents apart from their pension has personal savings and that financially her parents are not expecting anything from them. Her parents gave them the best education took out money from part of their savings and gave to her and her sister to travel. So of you might say, her parents were rich, not my any measure both parents were just average government worker, who seeing their financial standings made a plan for the future without relying on their children and without being reckless hoping and wishing that their kids will come to their rescue financially in the future. On a different conversation she was told me that her village people used to make fun of her dad for not having a male child, because it is just she and her sister. I asked her why didn't her dad try to have more kids, her response like was that her dad said he was not buoyant enough to raise more than two kids. Please I am glad you can assist your mum but please I beg you in the name of whatever God you believe in, when you start your family save towards your old age and do not put that burden on your children if you can help it. NB: I have a colleague whose parents are capable of taking care of themselves financially but she still sends money to her parents. She is not under pressure to do it and her parents though grateful but whether she sends it or not they are just going to be fine. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:09pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1: You are missing the whole point. I am not saying that kids should turn down their parents. What I am advocating for is that our parents or parents of this new generation should start being responsible and stop mortgaging their children future. Knowing full well that no help awaits them at old from the government, they should start planning towards it by having a family size that is at par with their income without shifting their burden to their kids. 3 Likes |
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