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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:10pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: Who trained her to become a pharmacist? The rapist? If that was the case that she had terrible things done to her while growing, then she should bloody well say so. Why neglect even your struggling siblings. Na dem rape you? Mtcheeeew. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:12pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1:Well a lot of girls in Nigeria trained themselves with runs and prostitution. So many traded clothes and things to send themselves to school. A lot worked too. So you cannot assume the parents could afford to train them |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:14pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: A good planner doesnt just save only for retirement. A single man of 25 to 30 should plan on savings for his future family which if it comes late should delay his marriage to avoid raising suffering kids. One good turn deseeves another. Children must cater for their old parents. Money is not everything.. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: . |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: You keep hammering on parents planning for their old age. What about the ones that planned, saved, had plenty but lost everything in their old age? What happens to them then? If you like don't take care of your old parents or your siblings. Na u sabi. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: I guess those people you described above also did all those hustle described from year 0 through primary school and secondary school. Their mama no even carry their shit and bath and wash their clothes sef. Sister think please. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:25pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1:Again, a lot of girls are house girls from a very tender age. I have seen 5 and 6 yr old house maids. You really don't know the reality of poverty stricken Nigerian kids. Some parents have kids they had no business having. Either by abuse or inability to properly care for them. And it's poor man pikin dem de abuse most for we country. My point is that we have not heard her side. No kid just wakes up and abandons their family. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:27pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah: Which type of comments would mk her help? The type were we all go crawling on our knees and begging her to assist in taking care of her ailing mother and younger siblings? Money or no money, believe me her brother that wrote this wouldn't be here if "their" mum wasn't in the picture, a man would always take care of himself somehow. I take it he's already very strained by family (not his personal) responsibilities. Think about that? |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:33pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
And how many house girls ended up becoming a pharmacist in Nigeria?. Don't assume, how many do you know? And who was it that gave them to their masters? Likely, their parents. And who cared for them from 0 age to 5 or 6 years. Their parents. If your parents are poor, you are not alone, a lot of us are from poor parents too. In life, no condition is permanent. Goodluck Jonathan did have shoes to wear, but he became the president of Nigeria. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko:. Tell Your Lazy Siblings to get their ass up and tow ur path. They should school and work at the same time... Its strange if a daughter isn't helping her mum, ask your mum or your sis to tell you the genesis of the whole story, stop concluding as if she's a beast, am sure there's a story behind her attitude. Good day 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:36pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1:My former house girls are mostly teachers. Their education was paid for by my parents to any level. If there was one that wanted to be a pharmacist, do you think she would not have been one? A lot of these girls lived with us from 12 and above. So what are you saying? If I worked from a very small age, no one can tell me what to do with my money. I don't know the circumstance of this lady, so I can't judge her. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:44pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Brugge: We are always quick to adopt the western mentality without knowing that ours and their way of life is entirely different. Your parents are obliged to train you without expecting, but they could as well abandon you as soon as you clocked 18yrs and start saving all their earnings for their old age, you go out and fend for yourself however you wish, apply for student loans, look for jobs or start your business without their connections or at least goodwill, rugged your way out, where would you end up? Am thinking unless you're not from Nigeria, there's a good chance they'd be better off with/without your support when they're getting old. Cos that's the way it's done in US, Europe and the rest. I might not perfectly understand where you're coming from, but we can't right parent's wrong by leaving them to their fates. We can only plan and better ourselves so as not to make same mistakes, if that's what you're advocating for, then am with you. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: What I am saying is, who was training them before they became your house girls at 12? Your parents would have contributed to your living one way or the other. Even ones that don't have anything to give will still give prayers. Do not for once think that since they couldn't contribute financially, it means they deserve nothing. Maybe na their prayers touched your parents to become the parents their biological parents could only dream about. Everything they say happens for a reason. By Nigeria/Africa context, a child is his parents social security at old age. Of course, there are exceptions. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 10:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1: He was also sent to do houseboy in far away imo state at some point or so i heard, i didnt hear he abandoned his siblings let alone parents when things got good, or even before. Cc baby124 |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:51pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demainman1:There is no excuse for child slavery at any point. A child that is left alone with strangers in a far away land quickly learns that they are alone in this world. Their parents SOLD them. Because their parents get a stipend monthly for that child. No matter how you try to twist it, it will be a special child that can still look back and say they have a family after such experiences. It's in Nigeria you see a 3 yr old hawking. When they kidnap children like water. I will not insult that girl because I did not live her life. Her experiences may have even killed me. Till I hear her story, I don't really believe the OP's mother is clean. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by kokorodudu(f): 10:53pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Why don't you just work to help your mum? While it's wrong for your sister not to help (she's digging her own grave actually) waiting for others when you can do something is something. Are you a sponger? etankoko: |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 10:54pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
engrkenny:Who? GEJ? GEJ is a bloody liar. Did we not see pictures of him posing with his friends in nice clothes? Doing guy man pose. Forget all that election scam abeg. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 10:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: Believe whatever you like sister. I don't support child slavery or abuse but unfortunately it happens a lot in Nigeria. Blame the useless govt that we have, not the parents because most parents want the best for their children. And please don't tell them to stop having children o because no one wants to be lonely and without a child in old age. You are your parents security in old age. Honour your father and mother the bible says. Thanks |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Revolva(m): 11:06pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Oga handle ur family problem ok we all ave our problems...ok 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Tamakay(m): 11:10pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
She is very angry because she hasn't seen a man to marry. Pls solve her problem by finding a man for her. Look at it, she is holy holy but wicked. Solve her problem she will solve d family problems else she might call u people witches and wizard. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 11:13pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
There's really nothing we can do about your sister except you want us to call her and hear her side of the story, other than that, I think you need to make peace with the things you can not change and move on You can also ask for help, start from here, help can come from anywhere |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 11:13pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: It's ok, I could care less about GEJ. I don't know about your personal experience with your numerous housemaids, inasmuch as I would never subscribe to giving birth to a herd of children and making them suffer. But then, even humanity simply demands you help your fellow humans, how much more people with blood ties (you know how family is in African culture), I wouldn't want to judge anyone, especially having heard only one side of the story, but if truly she's comfortable and abandoned her family, that's inexcusable......unless she's not really buoyant, or the OP misrepresented the facts, remember he came asking for advice. We successfully turned the thread to a debate, the usual Nigerian way. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by oloyede252(m): 11:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124:sister you can lie.haba small small.a lot of young girls trained themselves with runs and prostitution,did you train yourself with that to then come up with that ridiculous statement.there are exception Yea,but to make it a generalization is simply ridiculous. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by babestella: 11:26pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
menix: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 11:47pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
oloyede252:Little kid go and sleep. A lot is generalization? Face your books abeg. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by oloyede252(m): 11:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by calabardick(m): 12:07am On Nov 27, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:well said... my dear am tired of our black and evil mentality. can you imagine? saying that she's saving money for her husband to be, or colorful burial. i can imagine how such family talks. do they know her condition out there? they don't care, all they care is sister bring money, you be calabar? and this rubbish made FP? drunken modes on duty. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by tpiadotcom: 12:13am On Nov 27, 2015 |
calabardick: me sef, the post and thread title scared me, imagine this type of mentality, why wont the sister stay away before she ends up somewhere else? |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by amparas(m): 12:29am On Nov 27, 2015 |
Karma is a b*tch but make sure that b*tch is beautiful |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by kingthreat(m): 12:32am On Nov 27, 2015 |
Brugge: I have no regret being blunt to an ingrate who believes he should benefit from his parents but never give back to them. Selfish cocksucka |
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