Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

all these pant smelling men sef,.. YUCK!!!!!!

Maybe he no more likes the smell of ur own pant.

let them talk ⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩

Chai...story that touch ..Jst pray dat God wil help him...sniffing her pants *disgusting*

First of all......ewwwwwww!

Now, i would advise you talk to your husband. Tell him the disturbing facts that you have noticed and is not comfortable with and hear his side of it all.

But if it persists, send her back to her mother to avoid stories that touch

Why are you afraid of your own husband? Why are Nigerian wives like this? Why do you sell yourself so short that you become afraid of asking obvious questions?

If they are having s-ex don't go beating the girl and claiming your husband was seduced or bewitched, this is statutory rape he is an adult she is a minor. You better start finding out what is going on in your house. Don't allow your husband mislead and rape a 15 year old emotionally needy girl because you think he is a pastor and so holy.

She just lost her mother she is emotionally needy and so anyone who shows her some love and attention can take full advantage of her plus he is an authority figure.

Stop that dirty man from further abusing her

He is a dog. A snickering PantHound
He was only testing his Jacobs organ

madam, what are u still waiting for? u no go use style save your marriage? pls contact another family member of yours in another state and send d girl to her. dont confront your husband, he will deny it. why would you allow her to serve your husband food in d first place? is it her duty? pls send her away and start acting like a wife just like your niece used to do.

I don't advise married folks. But if I were to say s/th, I would say don't confront your husband. You'd only make a fool of yourself. Rather, enter an investigative mode, gather your facts and then present your case. If they were doing s/th, your husband might be meticulous about it but the girl is 15 and is bound to make mistakes. So I'll suggest you go at from her angle.

Be a smart wife, not just a wife. That's all I would say if I were to say something

Aaaaaaaaaah! Nkan nbe

Pls remove that girl from harm's way.
If you guys want to help, let her go back to her mother and you can pay her fees from your home.
Tell her it's for the best. She will appreciate you when gets older and knows better.

If your husband is a closet paedophile then you have more than your niece to worry about. You're married to someone who will sexually molest a budding child left in his care. Even the ones maybe related to him. That should give you the creeps and goosebumps.

Op, I advise you to quickly but smartly send her back to her mother. She musn't stay with you before you help her. Simply allow her have her education at her mother's. Just make sure you send her school fees at the begining of the term and some extra cash if you can afford it. A stich in time, saves nine.

asadike:
madam, what are u still waiting for? u no go use style save your marriage? pls contact another family member of yours in another state and send d girl to her. dont confront your husband, he will deny it. why would you allow her to serve your husband food in d first place? is it her duty? pls send her away and start acting like a wife just like your niece used to do.

Anyone married to a pedophile has more than " saving marriage " to be worried about.
Are the neighborhood girls safe?
Is his own daughter safe from his sick mind
If this is true in a sane society the man should be in jail but in this insane society we are talking about saving a marriage to a sick man

Your husband is a goat. The only thing stopping him from hitting the real thing is lack of opportunity. I can't imagine what that pastor will be doing to those teens in his church. This is uwa mmebi.

divorce him, he is a perv

Some men and lust, please send the girl back to her mother before he rapes her. You can keep sending money to your sister regularly for their upkeep

The man needs deliverance.

This one is strong!!!

Hmmm madam posters above me have said it all but for emphasis I think you should be more worried about the little girl.
You said she is now acting like his wife you have observed this things so don't turn a blind eye to it. Mind you she is acting that way because of the attention been given to her by your husband.
so take her to another relative in another town but make sure you cater for her needs in any way you can
Then talk to your husband I mean serious talk don't nag or scream but be firm in telling him your position about the issue. You are his wife for crying out loud







And be more observant about your little daughters

Buy fairly used pants at least a lot and dump it all over his wardrobe. He'll get the message

SAMBARRY:
Buy fairly used pants at least a lot and dump it all over his wardrobe. He'll get the message

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

Your husband has always been a flirt. My advice is that you open up to your sister, so you look for a way to move the girl out of your house ASAP!

ssoftapple:
divorce him, he is a perv

If she should divorce him, will you marry her? Cutting off the head is not the medicine for headache.
She can still work things out.

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Madam,permit me to say that you are partly enabling the situation.
What exactly is confusing you in the matter? Since when did your niece begin commandeering your kitchen to the point of dishing your hubby's meals? Where are you then? You sit back to form madam?
So in the process of using your niece as your maid,you foolishly handed over power to her to become the wife of your house. And you even come here to cry that you are helpless? Good Lord!! You obviously have no grip on your home! I advise you drop that victim mentality you have adopted because your laxity is starting to cost you your home. Do you even realize your niece needs help which only you can give her right now?
You say you caught your hubby sniffing her panties and you did nothing?!! Why didn't you take the matter head-on there and then? You are waiting to gather more evidence? Will that be when you finally catch him bleeping her on your matrimonial bed and you come back to tell us your niece has snatched your hubby?
Pls,take the child home to her mother and explain to your sister what transpired. You can send the upkeep money to them when it is due.
If your husband protests,tell him point blank about the day you caught him sniffing like a goat and that you won't wait for more suprises before you step up to protect your niece.
Then its left for you to call your man to order!! If he can act like this to your sister under your very nose,then you won't like to hear what he's been up to outside the home. Goodluck

cococandy:

at least there'll be a lot to sniff.shebi bend down select go smell.smh

SAMBARRY:
Buy fairly used pants at least a lot and dump it all over his wardrobe. He'll get the message

Hehehe

I wonder why Sharia Law is restricted to Islamic beliefs alone.

Ewuro4:


Hehehe

I wonder why Sharia Law is restricted to Islamic beliefs alone.

sharia laws only apply to some people and not every one.if not why would most northern elites marry their grand children's age mate while their own kids travel to the best schools in uk Canada and Australia for their masters or PhD and marry at 27 or 28 .sharia no consain those ones but some children of "nobodies" are the ones wey sharia consain. At 13 they sell them off as sex slaves to a retarded sociopath/pedophilile.