osedvgirl:
@op, call off

wEsOmE:
Girl eh u dn rush say call off . Everybodys situation isnt as severe as urs.. Not everyone should b as single as u are ..

Change Church

cheeketo:
I do not know which section to put this, pls bear with my long story in advance. It happened that my next door neighbor has fixed her wedding for 19th of December and everything has been going on well in terms of preparation. the groom- to- be called her on Saturday to come to his parents house, where she saw that most of the groom's older siblings and some extended family and his parents were present. she said she notice some talking in an undertone and later the guy called her for a talk out side. she got the shocker of her life when the guy said someone is threatening to stop the wedding. so the guy explained that there is this 40yr old lady in his local church (guy is 33yrs) who called on him to drive her when she just got a car, about a year ago, the lady in question is a lawyer. fast forward to last week wen the groom decides to give his church members his wedding invitation card, this lady came out that the wedding wont take place as the groom has already promised to marry her, the groom denied that there was no such agreement between them, that they were just friends and he sees the lady as a big sister. the lady is making a big issue of the story and has in fact reported the groom to church authority that the groom had carnal knowledge of her. she claimed to have rented an apartment with guy and has furnished the kitchen, but the bride-to-be said she and her boo went to see the landlord of the house when they paid, that the landlord even agreed to rent the house to them because she and the landlord are from the same town, d bride also claim that she was still in the apartment two weeks ago and she didn't see any furnished kitchen, it is there plan to have the groom furnish the parlor and the bedrooms then the bride will take care of the kitchen.
on further investigation however, the bride gathered that the impostor really did pass night in the house they rented, that the impostor bought just an electric kettle she saw in the kitchen on her last visit to the house, and that the groom has actually been sexting the impostor, but that he has never had a penetrative intimacy with the impostor. all this the groom confessed to the bride after a long talk. but the groom insisted that he at no time promised to marry the impostor.(groom and bride are in a no s3x relationship). my neighbor has been in turmoil since Saturday refusing to be consoled, she is contemplating calling off the wedding but at the same time considering the fact that the wedding is less than 3 weeks, what will she tell her parents and everybody, she said she will die of shame as many tongues will wag. what should she do?

lovaleenny:
Anu mi o se yin...ur man is cheating and ur degrading d lady by calling her an "impostor" some ladies will see serious issue abt their intending spouse before marriage and still enter it with eyes closed thinking it'll disappear ...no penetrative intimacy after spending d night

Awon ode!!

cheeketo:


The name calling is not necessary now, no be to ask for advice, besides d bride claimed she heard a recorded call between the lady and the groom, where the groom asked "you told my dad that we had sex?" and then the lady replied "no we did not have sex". so the bride believed d guy

Eketem:
The lady is not an imposter, she is the grooms girlfriend he had a relationship with her and he lied about it.

It is solely her choice to call of or go ahead with the wedding but she should not do that blaming all this nonsense on the other woman, she should be honest and real to herself and know the man she is marrying so when they marry and he starts lying and cheating she won't come back and lament.

Meanwhile it's always a friend or a neighbour

Tallesty1:
church

babygirlfl:


True @ words in bold. Time and time again women console themselves that it is not their husband lying but the woman involved that is lying. It is important to trust your partner. Trusting your partner however is different from believing him despite evidence pointing otherwise just because you want to believe him and not because you are convinced he is saying the truth.

@op, I believe he had a relationship with her because she spent a night in the apartment( how did she get the keys to the apartment you and your husband to be intend to live). She even bought a kettle. That is the behaviour of a woman who thinks she is building her home. Then he is sexting her. I think he has been with the two of you together.

I cannot tell you to or not to call off the wedding. That is your decision to make. You are lucky to have the opportunity to make an informed decision. I understand that this is a very difficult decision for you to make but please quit calling the other woman names and think objectively after which you can make your decision.

keepingmum:
If the case was reversed.....and the groom to be found s3xting chats and inappropriate conversations and relations with his bride 2 be 3 wks to the wedding, what will be his reaction??
Will he cancel the wedding

cheeketo:
I do not know which section to put this, pls bear with my long story in advance. It happened that my next door neighbor has fixed her wedding for 19th of December and everything has been going on well in terms of preparation. the groom- to- be called her on Saturday to come to his parents house, where she saw that most of the groom's older siblings and some extended family and his parents were present. she said she notice some talking in an undertone and later the guy called her for a talk out side. she got the shocker of her life when the guy said someone is threatening to stop the wedding. so the guy explained that there is this 40yr old lady in his local church (guy is 33yrs) who called on him to drive her when she just got a car, about a year ago, the lady in question is a lawyer. fast forward to last week wen the groom decides to give his church members his wedding invitation card, this lady came out that the wedding wont take place as the groom has already promised to marry her, the groom denied that there was no such agreement between them, that they were just friends and he sees the lady as a big sister. the lady is making a big issue of the story and has in fact reported the groom to church authority that the groom had carnal knowledge of her. she claimed to have rented an apartment with guy and has furnished the kitchen, but the bride-to-be said she and her boo went to see the landlord of the house when they paid, that the landlord even agreed to rent the house to them because she and the landlord are from the same town, d bride also claim that she was still in the apartment two weeks ago and she didn't see any furnished kitchen, it is there plan to have the groom furnish the parlor and the bedrooms then the bride will take care of the kitchen.
on further investigation however, the bride gathered that the impostor really did pass night in the house they rented, that the impostor bought just an electric kettle she saw in the kitchen on her last visit to the house, and that the groom has actually been sexting the impostor, but that he has never had a penetrative intimacy with the impostor. all this the groom confessed to the bride after a long talk. but the groom insisted that he at no time promised to marry the impostor.(groom and bride are in a no s3x relationship). my neighbor has been in turmoil since Saturday refusing to be consoled, she is contemplating calling off the wedding but at the same time considering the fact that the wedding is less than 3 weeks, what will she tell her parents and everybody, she said she will die of shame as many tongues will wag. what should she do?

lovaleenny:
Anu mi o se yin...ur man is cheating and ur degrading d lady by calling her an "impostor" some ladies will see serious issue abt their intending spouse before marriage and still enter it with eyes closed thinking it'll disappear ...no penetrative intimacy after spending d night

Awon ode!!