keepingmum:
If the case was reversed.....and the groom to be found s3xting chats and inappropriate conversations and relations with his bride 2 be 3 wks to the wedding, what will be his reaction??
Will he cancel the wedding

yes of course

cheeketo:
I do not know which section to put this, pls bear with my long story in advance. It happened that my next door neighbor has fixed her wedding for 19th of December and everything has been going on well in terms of preparation. the groom- to- be called her on Saturday to come to his parents house, where she saw that most of the groom's older siblings and some extended family and his parents were present. she said she notice some talking in an undertone and later the guy called her for a talk out side. she got the shocker of her life when the guy said someone is threatening to stop the wedding. so the guy explained that there is this 40yr old lady in his local church (guy is 33yrs) who called on him to drive her when she just got a car, about a year ago, the lady in question is a lawyer. fast forward to last week wen the groom decides to give his church members his wedding invitation card, this lady came out that the wedding wont take place as the groom has already promised to marry her, the groom denied that there was no such agreement between them, that they were just friends and he sees the lady as a big sister. the lady is making a big issue of the story and has in fact reported the groom to church authority that the groom had carnal knowledge of her. she claimed to have rented an apartment with guy and has furnished the kitchen, but the bride-to-be said she and her boo went to see the landlord of the house when they paid, that the landlord even agreed to rent the house to them because she and the landlord are from the same town, d bride also claim that she was still in the apartment two weeks ago and she didn't see any furnished kitchen, it is there plan to have the groom furnish the parlor and the bedrooms then the bride will take care of the kitchen.
on further investigation however, the bride gathered that the impostor really did pass night in the house they rented, that the impostor bought just an electric kettle she saw in the kitchen on her last visit to the house, and that the groom has actually been sexting the impostor, but that he has never had a penetrative intimacy with the impostor. all this the groom confessed to the bride after a long talk. but the groom insisted that he at no time promised to marry the impostor.(groom and bride are in a no s3x relationship). my neighbor has been in turmoil since Saturday refusing to be consoled, she is contemplating calling off the wedding but at the same time considering the fact that the wedding is less than 3 weeks, what will she tell her parents and everybody, she said she will die of shame as many tongues will wag. what should she do?

This is a complex one, and I believe the must have sent out invites. Well it is better safe than sorry, her finance cheated on her, weather it is 'sexting' or non penetrative affair, because if he had the chance, he will 'penetrate' without thinking twice. She should open up and tell her parents everything, they should guide her properly. If possible suspend the wedding, till everything is properly sorted out.

HMMMMMMMMMM. OP UR MAN CANT EAT HIS CAKE AND HV IT. HE SHLD MARRY HIS 40YRS OLD SIDE CHEEK DTS WHT U GET WHN U DOUBLE DATE. IF I WERE U EH CONSIDERING AM 100%SURE TO B A V. I WILL DUMP HIS ASS AND FIND ANODA MAN. I KNOW IT IS NT EASY BT I WILL TRY MY BEST AND DO IT.

Shame? You are ashamed of what people will think if you call it off. When you enter and the husband starts bringing illegitimate children, will you hide them in shame. We need to stop using shame as an excuse to tolerate nonsense. Your wedding will not be the first to be called off or postponed. That lady is not mad. Your fiance stop the night with her singing chorus and instead of coming clean so you people can start your marriage right, he is blaming the woman. He is an unrepentant liar.
Involve your parents. After all he called you for family meeting. You have to be stern and threaten to postpone or call off the wedding. He needs to see the severity of things because the shame you are avoiding now, if the woman crash your wedding, you will still experience it.

Imagine the insult. Using another woman to launch your new home together. Disrespectful!!!!!

cheeketo:
I do not know which section to put this, pls bear with my long story in advance. It happened that my next door neighbor has fixed her wedding for 19th of December and everything has been going on well in terms of preparation. the groom- to- be called her on Saturday to come to his parents house, where she saw that most of the groom's older siblings and some extended family and his parents were present. she said she notice some talking in an undertone and later the guy called her for a talk out side. she got the shocker of her life when the guy said someone is threatening to stop the wedding. so the guy explained that there is this 40yr old lady in his local church (guy is 33yrs) who called on him to drive her when she just got a car, about a year ago, the lady in question is a lawyer. fast forward to last week wen the groom decides to give his church members his wedding invitation card, this lady came out that the wedding wont take place as the groom has already promised to marry her, the groom denied that there was no such agreement between them, that they were just friends and he sees the lady as a big sister. the lady is making a big issue of the story and has in fact reported the groom to church authority that the groom had carnal knowledge of her. she claimed to have rented an apartment with guy and has furnished the kitchen, but the bride-to-be said she and her boo went to see the landlord of the house when they paid, that the landlord even agreed to rent the house to them because she and the landlord are from the same town, d bride also claim that she was still in the apartment two weeks ago and she didn't see any furnished kitchen, it is there plan to have the groom furnish the parlor and the bedrooms then the bride will take care of the kitchen.
on further investigation however, the bride gathered that the impostor really did pass night in the house they rented, that the impostor bought just an electric kettle she saw in the kitchen on her last visit to the house, and that the groom has actually been sexting the impostor, but that he has never had a penetrative intimacy with the impostor. all this the groom confessed to the bride after a long talk. but the groom insisted that he at no time promised to marry the impostor.(groom and bride are in a no s3x relationship). my neighbor has been in turmoil since Saturday refusing to be consoled, she is contemplating calling off the wedding but at the same time considering the fact that the wedding is less than 3 weeks, what will she tell her parents and everybody, she said she will die of shame as many tongues will wag. what should she do?

this is your story, just be truthful.

Suspend the wedding, get a clearer picture and make your decision. ..

OP i really understand that u are in dilema now, and i av feel ur pain too, i av been in this kind of situation few months ago, u av to take everything cool, u need to visit a counsellor and enough prayers too, because mariage is a life tym contract so its better to settle the issue on ground befor making any further move i know it will end in praise cheers

It's always my neighbor or my friend shior!

The whole drama is annoying please!
Your husband to be has a lot up his sleeves. The ball is in your court. Wishing you Conjugal Bliss in advance

3 weeks is enough to solve dis problem,,,,, no one is perfect, what matters is that the groom loves her and he has confessed everything to her...... She should forgive him and move ahead with the wedding.

TV01
Please your attention is needed here

I will start calling you into threads if you dont mind

tearoses:
TV01
Please your attention is needed here

I will start calling you into threads if you dont mind

Don't mind, but no promises

Short Answer - Yes!
He has proven he is not trustworthy, or at best seriously callow & immature.

She should however take full counsel - after disclosing all, including any other issues or doubts she may have had - from her family. If she has been upright in all of this and kept her family advised, they would probably have had their concerns - I believe there are always signs.

To call it off may take more strength than she can muster, and mean more pain than she may feel she can bear. Family support will help tremendously here - in coming, and sticking to the right decision.

Pelé dear. But it's best you suffer some temporary pain, than a lifetime of grief.


TV

Hmmm