My wife and I had been married 15 years and we had been through some challenging times like most couples. Our sex life was regular but my wife was never really willing to explore things in the bedroom and whilst I desired her to be more adventurous l accepted it.

I had bought some toys but she seemed aghast at thought of using them. I received a promotion at work and the demands of the role meant longer hours at work and often compiling reports late into the night. During this time I noted my wife gradually spending more time on the computer on social media mainly with her group of close friends. Over a 6 month period she stayed up later and later and I would tell her to come to bed but eventually fall asleep. Not long after this she told me her and a friend were going to another state to visit a work colleague. Given l was busy at work l thought a good chance to catch up over the weekend. So the wife went and returned and said she had a great time and caught up with some old and new friends so l was happy for her. She soon returned to staying up late and noticeably seemed consumed by her mobile. this continued and a month or so later I had a conference out of town and asked if wife wanted to come for the few days but she said she would get bored. So this came and went and it appeared my wife was losing interest in sex.

One day out of curiosity l decided to check the home computer and in checking the history l found the previous night an adult web site had been accessed. I didn’t think much of it but a few days later same thing so I asked wife and she said it was prob just a pop up she may have accidentally accessed.

The history log was wiped from thereafter. I could never see my wife having an affair but it began to eat at me thus l downloaded some spyware. The results stunned me as l found my wife was . I accessed emails and pics and found my wife had spent a weekend not with a friend but with a guy who she spent all weekend sleeping with. Explicit pics showed her being a total dirty slut and the guy was very well endowed and noticeably much thicker than I. He had also travelled and slept with her in our bed whilst l was on the conference.

I love her so much, I have forgiven her but the thought of it can’t make me go near her again.. I don’t know what to do, I am scared of starting over with another woman again or being alone


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Pet Her

For better for worse!
However remember for a woman to cheat the man must have touched her sensitive spots(not her body but her mind)

Except you married an Olosho in which case you have only yourself to blame .

If the first is the case you may want to call take some days off work and try to get to the depth of what happened .

Betterstill use the spyware to find out how he is making love to her mind ,trust me its not about how endowed the man is that you aren't....

The vjay is elastic if it isn't slack then size shouldn't be such a big deal

Kill your self and she will go marry that man straight up. Shiiiooooor

Strife and sorrow tins

Smh!

Go for another conference

Dumb question...

See as I dey look you.
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Question of the year? Think hard peeps
Cc me with answer

Oh?

some people will just type and post fake story on nairaland just because they want people to visit their website. They kuku know sey the mods go fall for it. As for me ADONBLIVIT!

Do wat u have to do Op I mean follow your heart, if u can no longer go near her simply end d marriage. as far as I am concern once a partner cheat it will b very very difficult to let go.

It's complicated..her mind is with the guy now...I think you don't give her much attention.

The relationship will never be the same.
While it's true that some people say a
relationship actually improves after
cheating, we should face the fact that
usually it does not. That sense of
freedom, of trust, of respect is gone for a while and may never come back.
There's a decent
chance she might cheat again. Why? Whatever made her cheat is probably still in her psyche unless she is seriously working on all of her issues. Because she had a
choice to cheat. You didn't make her do
it.
she obviously doesnt care about you anymore.i'd say you save yourself more pain and divorce her.
the bible is not against divorce when adultery is involved.

Trust is like a plain sheet of paper .. When it is squeezed and straightened out again, it can never be the same again...

go meet a marriage counsellor

Ouch, quite sad, i really feel for u. You never mentioned if u had kids after your 15 yrs marriage. if u do, i guess d situation is even more complicated. in such case u only hv to forgive her and forget everything atleast for the children sake. u also need to use this opportunity to make her want u again, show her u still love her by trying to put up some good romance rather than avoid or distant your self from her just because of wat she did (not like i support wat she did o). it shows maturity on your part and i believe she will definitely come to her senses and give in to u totaly. and about not being able to forget d s**t she did, just tk it as one those stupid act silly girls do n move on. (but pls still hv an eye on her just incase)

No one has the time to sit down and fabricate stories sir, the mail was sent to me. You can always send yours too

Bambless1:
some people will just type and post fake story on nairaland just because they want people to visit their website. They kuku know sey the mods go fall for it. As for me ADONBLIVIT!

Give her H2so4 as breakfast...

Estharfabian:
I don't get why people cheat....The stench is alarming! How do they even cope with the guilt?

If You feel You're No Longer compatible with Your partner..A simple "Hey, I wanna breakup..this isn't working" Would do...It's gonna be hard but less painful n Heartbreaking.


infidelity in Marriage isn't something You just Overlook... Once a Cheater, Always a cheater..


Dump the biitch and Re-Marry!! Easypizzy! Problem solved!
For better for worse my Round black Ass!

Wah do u require 4 Xmas?

Go sleep with another woman!

Estharfabian:
I don't get why people cheat....The stench is alarming! How do they even cope with the guilt?

If You feel You're No Longer compatible with Your partner..A simple "Hey, I wanna breakup..this isn't working" Would do...It's gonna be hard but less painful n Heartbreaking.


infidelity in Marriage isn't something You just Overlook... Once a Cheater, Always a cheater..


Dump the biitch and Re-Marry!! Easypizzy! Problem solved!
For better for worse my Round black Ass!

You could have saved us the ignominy of how your ass look like

Lalasticlala, obinoscopy

dont just forgive if u cant forget

i wount ask u to send her out, u guys are married already

just make sure your both parents are aware of the situation.

@op
Ur kind annoys me..
Am totally pissed, I gotta go wiwi.

Bitches wife'ing niggaz!

Wit ur description abt d guys endowment.. I guess ur bae bin screwed wit a legendary wand which I cant decipher if dier end is near but rather a première exhibition of her fantasy which seems to have bin in denial..

U have only 1 option..

fvck another woman 2.

Hmmm cling to her till death do una apart.Na wetin d vow rule talk b dat

Reported events are usually lacking vital contents that make a real story, thus watering its essence in depth, which might give birth to misleading impressions and the suggested solutions that follow. Things like this are not a rarity in our environment.

I commend the bravery of this Man who has Summoned up the strength to conquer the animalistic tendency that usually cast its ugly shadow in similar situations. Love transcends physical pleasures. Love her genuinely and safe her from the situation she now finds herself by being kind towards her. Gentler and milder in your speeches and conversations.

It is a distraction. A sedated feeling to be validated. She will soon get tired of that person and seek again to be validated in the arms of another man. You, too, may have at one time felt to be warmed by a different feminine touch. Such is the nature of the body.

A lasting solution is to deemphasize sex through discipline and self control. A live dedicated to something more than feeding the physical body.
Strive to give purity to your thoughts and give no heed to the world of sensual attractions.

Sending your wife away is no measure to guard against such in a future significant other. Accept it as a way of maturing your spirit.
Only the man that live in the law of his creator is really free.

Bro, I don't pray to be in your shoes cos I will never forget it. I advice you guys to separate until you can begin to miss her. This incident will never leave your mind as long as you're alive. Sad.