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Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 5:20pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Some Warning Signs of Abuse Isolation Injuries & Excuses Sudden change in personality or appearance Self-blame Extreme Jealousy on the part of the abusive partner Helping a friend in an abusive Relationship Listen without judging When & If possible, remove them from immediate harm Offer information, not advice Keep it confidential Let your friend know that you are there, no matter what Be patient |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
There are different forms of abuse. Such as: physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse and psychological abuse. Which of these forms of abuse are you actually referring to? |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 5:26pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Decker: Great observation, Decker! The post has been modified to indicate Domestic Violence, though some of the types of abuse you mentioned also fall under "Abuse" in general. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 5:34pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Yes |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 6:03pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
kossyablaze:Would you care to share? With the understanding that they would remain anonymous? Or a private message, whatever is more comfortable for you. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 6:28pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Totalgist:Itz a painful experience growing up recalling how my neighbours daughter dah was way more older than I am molests me.She explored and took advantage of my innocence.Doing some nasty things to me....it hurts...can't continue anymore,my eyes are already heavy. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 9:10pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
kossyablaze: Very sorry to hear about this painful memory you suffered. May I ask, if you're male or female? Do you still live in that same environment? Please remember to respond to what you feel comfortable to do. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 9:20pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Totalgist:I'm male...Nah not living in the same environment.Haven't seen her for a decade now. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 9:40pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
kossyablaze: Great to hear that! The first thing to always do, when able, is to remove oneself from immediate harm. You've held this memory for ten years now, so I will take it that you were at an age where you could tell something was wrong. Have you ever shared this memory with anyone else? Sometimes talking through the abuse,helps you understand that you did nothing wrong. It was NOT your fault, you did not ask for it nor invite it- you were abused. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 9:48pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
@Kossyablaze and anyone dealing with a past childhood trauma, know that, "confronting the totality of our painful experiences is the only way to gain mastery over the past". As this is an open forum, I'll share a helpful link to get you started. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/overcoming-the-pain-childhood-abuse-and-neglect |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 7:11am On Dec 17, 2015 |
Totalgist:Yeah shared it with 3 of my friends(girls).My mum and sisters dunno a thing bout it.Thanks for the link |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by pet4ril(f): 7:20am On Dec 17, 2015 |
domestic violence but i flee when he least expected and gave him the greatest heartbreak /shock of his life because he thought I was still going to walk down the altar with him........ Nonsense In short i ran to another town because for the past 2yrs, hes still telling people he doesn't know i can do such a thing to him, but who care Mtcheeew |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 6:54pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
kossyablaze:You are welcome. Keep in touch. |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Totalgist: 6:56pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
pet4ril:Bravo! I am sorry to hear about the domestic violence you suffered but very happy that you got away from it all. Abusers (especially in DV) always put on a persona of being charming outwardly to the public. You went through the experience and so know the true reality of it all. Continue being a survivor! |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by Nobody: 7:00pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
I've been the abuser and the abused. Life goes on, there's no big deal about it |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by pet4ril(f): 10:14pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
Totalgist:thanks |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by AdaEkube(f): 11:34am On Jan 12, 2016 |
kossyablaze:Hmmmmm.....kossy u sure so |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 1:16pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
AdaEkube:O my!Lilly!what a world....yeah I'm so sure |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by misspicy(f): 1:44pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
kossyablaze:you no well |
Re: Are You Or Someone You Know A Victim Of Abuse/ Domestic Violence? by kossyablaze(m): 2:20pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
misspicy:Hmmm |
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