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Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by gabicon: 4:55pm On Dec 16, 2015
chccho:
OK o now I get u, but he says she is the type who isn't even adventurous in the bedroom. He even went as far a buyingvsome intimacy gadgets...

To have a successful relationship with a woman one has to communicate always, instead of buying intimacy gadgets he should have asked his wife what he needed to do to take their sex life to the next level or how to satisfy her maximally same should go for the wife. It's all about communication all she may want is six packs or get away adventure. Different taste for different women, and communication should be a continuum, just because she likes a today doesn't mean she will like it tomorrow.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by dadebayo1(m): 5:08pm On Dec 16, 2015
Realwvn:
My wife and I had been married 15 years and we had been through some challenging times like most couples. Our sex life was regular but my wife was never really willing to explore things in the bedroom and whilst I desired her to be more adventurous l accepted it.

I had bought some toys but she seemed aghast at thought of using them. I received a promotion at work and the demands of the role meant longer hours at work and often compiling reports late into the night. During this time I noted my wife gradually spending more time on the computer on social media mainly with her group of close friends. Over a 6 month period she stayed up later and later and I would tell her to come to bed but eventually fall asleep. Not long after this she told me her and a friend were going to another state to visit a work colleague. Given l was busy at work l thought a good chance to catch up over the weekend. So the wife went and returned and said she had a great time and caught up with some old and new friends so l was happy for her. She soon returned to staying up late and noticeably seemed consumed by her mobile. this continued and a month or so later I had a conference out of town and asked if wife wanted to come for the few days but she said she would get bored. So this came and went and it appeared my wife was losing interest in sex.

One day out of curiosity l decided to check the home computer and in checking the history l found the previous night an adult web site had been accessed. I didn’t think much of it but a few days later same thing so I asked wife and she said it was prob just a pop up she may have accidentally accessed.

The history log was wiped from thereafter. I could never see my wife having an affair but it began to eat at me thus l downloaded some spyware. The results stunned me as l found my wife was . I accessed emails and pics and found my wife had spent a weekend not with a friend but with a guy who she spent all weekend sleeping with. Explicit pics showed her being a total dirty slut and the guy was very well endowed and noticeably much thicker than I. He had also travelled and slept with her in our bed whilst l was on the conference.

I love her so much, I have forgiven her but the thought of it can’t make me go near her again.. I don’t know what to do, I am scared of starting over with another woman again or being alone


http://www.naijanewsrave.com/my-wife-slept-with-another-man-what-should-i-do/


You have forgiven her.... Forget and forgive bro.... Life continues.... But if you seem to find it difficult to forget kindly register for counceling class.... All the best.... Shows she loves sex and you need to create time to satisfy her or else........
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by tonquendo4u(m): 6:28pm On Dec 16, 2015
Sleep with another woman
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by jaymony: 6:31pm On Dec 16, 2015
Ask Google....
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Khez: 6:48pm On Dec 16, 2015
Bro good advice ehh,

Buh you didn't get the part he lamented about the said guy being thicker and endowment..... Lol i think that is the problem....The wife wants it big

This is why i don't advice anyone to share a girl you even hate with endowed guys

They kill career o cheesy
rickyalphonsus:
Ouch, quite sad, i really feel for u. You never mentioned if u had kids after your 15 yrs marriage. if u do, i guess d situation is even more complicated. in such case u only hv to forgive her and forget everything atleast for the children sake. u also need to use this opportunity to make her want u again, show her u still love her by trying to put up some good romance rather than avoid or distant your self from her just because of wat she did (not like i support wat she did o). it shows maturity on your part and i believe she will definitely come to her senses and give in to u totaly. and about not being able to forget d s**t she did, just tk it as one those stupid act silly girls do n move on. (but pls still hv an eye on her just incase)
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Khez: 7:00pm On Dec 16, 2015
Cheating is disrespectful

Send her parking op

Cos she go do am again repeatedly

And the stance will forever be in your mind

I mean, it's not your fault you ain't very Much endowed and thicker the way she likes it, so i guess you should look for who appreciates your package ,forget about love, you don't love her anymore, na your fear in you dey talk that one.....



One time back then in school my gf picked a fight with me one evening, just to see my reaction, i definitely did what she wanted, cheesy a breakup and she gladly went and slept with her Ex o for five solid days, this people were doing and enjoying themselves undecided, came back and made peace with me hoping i won't find out, i did the next day sef, and she started crying and started begging i forgive and forget and take her back

Buh we all know love doesn't love same way twice...

Offcos i forgave, did i Forget? NOOOOO

spent 1month planning how to pay her back, which i eventually did sad nonsense

Mad people
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Blossom25(f): 7:04pm On Dec 16, 2015
Chai....Am dumbfounded....oga just take hrt
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by wale0911: 7:12pm On Dec 16, 2015
I can forgive many things done against me, certainly not a cheating wife! @Op you have the facts, send the bitch packing before you end up being packed!

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Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by josite: 7:51pm On Dec 16, 2015
as u said not forgiving her means u may end up being alone which u don't actually want.dont just forgive,bring it to her attention and forgive if she asks for forgiveness and if she is not remorseful,forgive all the same but knows that your marriage with her must now end cus very soon either of u or both will soon being in the morgue or prison
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by oludollar(m): 8:08pm On Dec 16, 2015
Best thing is to dump ur wife my broda,cus luks lyk ur wife is already enjoyin wat d oda dude as to offer Hin bed..nd I tink u shld let her knw dt u ve seen al her adventures..pls let her go,cus she wld stil repeat d act.imagine fuckin anoda man on ur matrimonial bed...went for away match,den to home.she no dey fear@all.she can even kil u,jst to b wit dt dude
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by diva90: 8:49pm On Dec 16, 2015
If you have been faithful to her for the past 15 years then go ahead and divorce her... The reason i suspect that you are willing to forgive her so easily is probably because you have done the same to her Severally or could you just be a man with an exceptionally loving and forgiving heart? I doubt! Secondly there must be something really wrong. Confront her and talk to her. Women are extremely emotional creatures, she's probably just lacking attention on your end and has a man who is willing to go an extra mile just to keep her happy.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by jaymony: 9:05pm On Dec 16, 2015
Ask google..
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by MrLeno(m): 9:05pm On Dec 16, 2015
Estharfabian:
undecidedI don't get why people cheat....The stench is alarming! How do they even cope with the guilt?

If You feel You're No Longer compatible with Your partner..A simple "Hey, I wanna breakup..this isn't working" Would do...It's gonna be hard but less painful n Heartbreaking.cry


infidelity in Marriage isn't something You just Overlook...undecided Once a Cheater, Always a cheater..lipsrsealed


Dump the biitch and Re-Marry!!undecided Easypizzy! Problem solved!
For better for worse my Round black Ass!angry

Someone give this sister a gold medal!
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Flashh: 9:23pm On Dec 16, 2015
shugaboy6102:
hahahah u funny die.you for explain the meaning of that look to him now.
Lol... I dey look am for the question wey him dey ask na.

When his wife slept with another man, he don't know how to discipline the bítch.

Any decision he takes that would appease him is none of my bizness.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by therapistmrs: 9:36pm On Dec 16, 2015
sir this totally your call.you don't need anyone to tell you what to do because has a matured man the question to ask you is how do you feel and what action would you like to take? all the best.

therapistmrs..com

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Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by tega4eddie: 10:21pm On Dec 16, 2015
IF U WERE A MAN HOW WOULD U FEEL IF YOUR WIFE CHEAT ON YOU
daretodiffer:
Forgive her

She can't help it

Men will get attracted to her and it is understandable to fall into temptations every now and then

Don't blame her. Blame the devil

you cannot get divorce after 15 years of marriage because of one minor issue sad

Take heart
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by eyinjuege: 10:24pm On Dec 16, 2015
LastProphet:


if not for our ignorant culture this is not an issue, after 15yrs of sleeping with her aint you bored yourself? in other parts of the world what couples do at this point in marriage is to live on as best friends and even date other people, the fact she slept with that guy doesn't mean she wants you dead, it doesn't mean she wants the guy 24/7 in her life, it doesn't mean she thinks the guy a greater guy than you. she just wanted something new and that is all. save record of her infidelity, stop initiating sex with her, get a gf outside and don't make too much effort to hide it but continue to be a good husband and father to your kids. if she makes the mistake of catching you then show her her deeds then let her know you understood with her and now she has to understand too. you will not believe how many couples live like this in nija right now

In short eating egusi soup everyday for the past 15 years na long thing. Some oha soup by the side, and afang soup thrown in is allowed.
Marriage things na wah o.

Kai, OP. It's admirable you have forgiven your wife, and its also ok you don't wanna sleep with her. However, let her know you know about her dirty secrets and guard your evidence with all you've got. You never know when it'll come in handy.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by bitingcool: 10:27pm On Dec 16, 2015
Confessng:
For better for worse!
However remember for a woman to cheat the man must have touched her sensitive spots(not her body but her mind)

Except you married an Olosho in which case you have only yourself to blame .

If the first is the case you may want to call take some days off work and try to get to the depth of what happened .

Betterstill use the spyware to find out how he is making love to her mind ,trust me its not about how endowed the man is that you aren't....

The vjay is elastic if it isn't slack then size shouldn't be such a big deal

Truer words were never spoken. Before a man can make love to a woman, he has already made love to her mind and senses. (unless she's after something else, olosho, karishika et al)
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by richiepolymer(m): 10:48pm On Dec 16, 2015
Realwvn:
My wife and I had been married 15 years and we had been through some challenging times like most couples. Our sex life was regular but my wife was never really willing to explore things in the bedroom and whilst I desired her to be more adventurous l accepted it.

I had bought some toys but she seemed aghast at thought of using them. I received a promotion at work and the demands of the role meant longer hours at work and often compiling reports late into the night. During this time I noted my wife gradually spending more time on the computer on social media mainly with her group of close friends. Over a 6 month period she stayed up later and later and I would tell her to come to bed but eventually fall asleep. Not long after this she told me her and a friend were going to another state to visit a work colleague. Given l was busy at work l thought a good chance to catch up over the weekend. So the wife went and returned and said she had a great time and caught up with some old and new friends so l was happy for her. She soon returned to staying up late and noticeably seemed consumed by her mobile. this continued and a month or so later I had a conference out of town and asked if wife wanted to come for the few days but she said she would get bored. So this came and went and it appeared my wife was losing interest in sex.

One day out of curiosity l decided to check the home computer and in checking the history l found the previous night an adult web site had been accessed. I didn’t think much of it but a few days later same thing so I asked wife and she said it was prob just a pop up she may have accidentally accessed.

The history log was wiped from thereafter. I could never see my wife having an affair but it began to eat at me thus l downloaded some spyware. The results stunned me as l found my wife was . I accessed emails and pics and found my wife had spent a weekend not with a friend but with a guy who she spent all weekend sleeping with. Explicit pics showed her being a total dirty slut and the guy was very well endowed and noticeably much thicker than I. He had also travelled and slept with her in our bed whilst l was on the conference.

I love her so much, I have forgiven her but the thought of it can’t make me go near her again.. I don’t know what to do, I am scared of starting over with another woman again or being alone


http://www.naijanewsrave.com/my-wife-slept-with-another-man-what-should-i-do/

I know how you feel bro. This story sounds familiar to what happened to someone I know. If you're the guy, pls summon courage to wipe those memories off so you don't die before your time. You really loved that woman.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:50pm On Dec 16, 2015
tega4eddie:
IF U WERE A MAN HOW WOULD U FEEL IF YOUR WIFE CHEAT ON YOU

If I were an average man....I would send her away

If I were an average man with common sense.....I would not because I know I have done worse/intend to do worse. I know that it would be hypocritical, selfish and stup.id of me to act like a saint when clearly I am not.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Fathai(m): 11:28pm On Dec 16, 2015
go to the makert square and tell anybody u see.. at least ur wife will feel ashamed and she will stop that bad act.... my 5 kobo plssss
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Bankky4: 12:36am On Dec 17, 2015
Kill her.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by ideology(m): 12:37am On Dec 17, 2015
Nigerian men needs prayers … cry
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by chronique(m): 12:51am On Dec 17, 2015
I'd forgive anything but cheating.

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Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:22am On Dec 17, 2015
Forgive her, u sent her on this errand when u chose ur job over her. She needed to meet her needs elswhere. She has been sampling dickss all her life and u didn't know cos u were only interested in boobs and ass.
Ur lucky she didn't give u a disease ,just move on such is life.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by veraiyke(m): 6:32am On Dec 17, 2015
Left to my person I will sit her down and tell her how much I loved and how much I still love her even in the pains. Tell her you know all her escapades and then tell her to start packing her loads to go and either meet her sex parther or her parents. Then wait and see her attitude. If her attitude convinces you of her change for better then make your choice whether you can leave with her still. I really can't tell you exactly what to do because I am not in you shoe. But you are and your heart will direct you.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by veraiyke(m): 6:37am On Dec 17, 2015
Stop blaming the guy. Abi didn't you also see that despite his work he has been trying to satisfy the wife. The wife has simply been thinking of what she did even before she did it and am sure the friends she met finally pushed her by giving her the wrong advice. So please don't justify her act by blaming the husband.
kaeforum:
Forgive her, u sent her on this errand when u chose ur job over her. She needed to meet her needs elswhere. She has been sampling dickss all her life and u didn't know cos u were only interested in boobs and ass.
Ur lucky she didn't give u a disease ,just move on such is life.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by veraiyke(m): 6:38am On Dec 17, 2015
Yea. I really don't think I can bear that. I can forgive but to still keep the woman is what I don't think I can do
chronique:
I'd forgive anything but cheating.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by veraiyke(m): 6:48am On Dec 17, 2015
Sometime I call women who partake in such life style fools. You've been living with a man for years and have loved up but because of a man who is just out there in a bit of hours doing every thing just to Bleep you and spoil your happy home n you are happy and calling your husband or wife as d case maybe a mumu. If that so called lover loves you why don't he marry you, why don't he like talks about you being a married woman.
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Chikare(f): 7:00am On Dec 17, 2015
[b][/b]It is too bad when spouses are cheating on their selves. Let the man check if he has not committed such thing before crucifying his wife just like Christ said "let any man without sin first cast the stone" I think forgiveness and repentance is the best
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by Memyselfu2009(m): 7:04am On Dec 17, 2015
Tell her what she has done and tell her you love her to matter what if she refused to change just give her Red card before you start having psychological problem
Re: My Wife Slept With Another Man, What Should I Do? by sholexy1: 7:30am On Dec 17, 2015
If she cud do this to 15yrs marriage den she is a monster and she doesnt deserve u n i blive some1 out dere some where deserve u. Dont worry let her go u will b fine wink wink

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