Am I reading a nollywood script or it happened for real? I don't believe an average Nigerian man will tolerate all these for four good years. To hell with xtian terms in marriage. Even Jesus permits divorce where infidelity is involved. Wisen up and take necessary actions before it is too late. Forget about pastors or churches. This is ur life at stake!

if this true of what u are passing through, from a woman. she make u loss your job, she didnt give u peace rest of mind. what are u still waiting for. I can tell you from experience she will kill you before end of 2016

Don't look or things about your kids. run out of the relationship now. whosoever take job from u, he or she has killed u. this is because any living man (family man) who has no source of income he is a dead man already.

you too make a mistake to pay that huge amount for rent, you shd have look for another place to relocate with N500k per annual then the remain change u use it to venture into small scale business. I pray you get new job soon. but stop sleeping with that kind of woman

it was your colleagues that introduced her to u that mislead u. she know the type of person u are and she know the type of person she is

greatcrown:
I find it hard to believe you.

But then let's assume u are saying the truth.

These are my conclusions about your wife:

1. She has mental issues. Very close to full blown madness.
2. She an ex cultist
3. She is diabolic
4. She is an unbeliever even though she attends church or rather place of worship.
5. She is stubborn.
6. She is an adulterer
7. She is an opportunist
8. She is dangerously smart and can go any length including murder to achieve her aim.
9.She was not properly brought up even though her parents were pastor.
10. She is not trustworthy. Not fit to raise any child for you.
11. She is a devil in human flesh
12. She is worse than everything I have said.

About your daughter:
1. There is a strong tendency that she is not your daughter. You may need to check to be sure.

About the pastor of the church where you wedded:
1. He is manipulative.
2. He is inexperienced in marital issues
3. He lacks the right qualities to provide spiritual guidance.
4. He is guilty of your wife crimes by association.
5. He is biased and will continue to support your wife for God's known reason.
6. There is something devilishly secretive that connects him and your wife.

About the parents of your wife:
1. They know the truth of their daughter but will never support you publicly.
2. They are praying and hoping that their daughter will change for the better.
3.They feel sorry for you in their closet but can't admit publicly.
4. They are equally baffled and surprised that you are still in this marriage.
5. They are surprised that your parents are so soft in their handling of this issue.
6. Like most parents will always stand by their child pubickly

About your parents:
1. They are soft.
2. Their sense of judgement has been altered by indoctrination rather than by the truth of God's word.
3. They are praying and hopeful that things will get better.
4. They are worse than your wife parents by still supporting u to remain in that house.
5. They are confused and don't really know what to do about this issue.
6. They are expecting God to do something whereas God is expecting them to do the needful.

About you:
1. U are stupid!
2. U are foolish!!
3. U do not value your life.
5. U have what it takes to manage banking operations but alas you cannot manage your home.
5. I don't know your age but you are not ready for marriage.
6. U know how to employ experieced mechanic, plumber, etc to work for u, but unfortunately u don't know how to get experienced pastor to handle your marital issue. Listen not all pastor are qualified to handle most issues they claimed expertise on.
7. You are fearful.
8. You are closer to the grave than u knew.
9. You are senseless. I think u need to buy some sense.
10. For close to four years you have being have being contemplating divorce and yet you still do not know whether it is right or not (Please read Kenneth Hagins book on marriage, divorce and..)
11. You were born into Christian home but u do not take time to study the bible rather u were feeding on the crumbs from here and there.
12. How can a grown up man expect all family members to collaborate with him before sending out a killer out of your house.

If after all this, u still ask what should I do: I will say it is better u commit murder now than allowing your wife to murder u the very next second.

Give this man one chilled orijin,a full roasted chicken to go with it and crown him king of his community.You have said it all bro!

OP, do you have a mother? Where is she in all this? Are you really alright? If you want to continue with her, just do well to remove your daughter from the house and make sure your wife never set eyes on her again until she is grown up.

I read everything from the beginning to end. This bros is a very good guy to start with. There are something i can accept in the name of love, but not all.
She did family planning unknown to you, She is full time runs girl,She knows the road to native doctor house, for me the least i can't take is seeing my wife wearing pant and ran out of the house chei Alu.
Bros you don't just need to divorce her, but also relocate to another city hence you are no more working now. There you can look for a new job.

danbrowndmf:
sorry.was doing something then...i'm done now..check ur mail sef.

didn't see nothing

Watch out bro. Your wife might be the one cheating on you. . She is just using a scope.

Tallesty1:
I didn't read all but I learnt from the little I read that the op is dealing with a woman who was an ex cultist, a runs girl, and a husband beater.



And e be like say she get personal native doctor because she get plenty jazz for cupboard too.

Closedoor:


Them dey fear FEAR. I finish for uniben and I know their type... Once you show them real madness, their head go cool. Once them see say you soft, dem go use you like mumu still hold you tight so you no go leave them.

Mehn I wish I went to a fed uni.....e be like say na lesson I go

soonest:
Your wife is a mental case seriously. All what you narrated is not a normal behaviour. Take her for mental assessment.

U sef.. U no read say op! dey broke... Na im spit u wan make im use pay the assessor...

By the tym the woman unleash her character, the way the assessor go flee commot go fast pass mtn call rate billing...

U are on your way to heaven if don't leave that nonsense you call marriage, well the jazz is seriously working on you and u said u have you family and know what u are going through and still leave u with that woman or the jazz is working on them also, the earlier she leave the house or u leave for ur dear life.

misspicy:
didn't see nothing

huh..mayb na netwrk.

2sex:
HE IS NOT A MAN... God knows I would have reached my breaking point within a few weeks of seeing her madness... I go let her know say, madness pass madness. That lady would have left my house long ago... that is guaranteed.

hehehe 2sexy, few weeks anything can happen, according to his gist, the first month in marriage the lady hit his head with high heels, he passed out and woke up to see himself in hospital, that alone was enough to end it.


For me I blame the guy for all these, those signs are always there just that we ignore it.
Now that they have a child together, its difficult to divorce because of the child but In cases of life threat, i was discussing with a Rev father in Catholic church I met few weeks ago, he said in cases of threats to life, catholic church will annul the wedding and ask them to separate.

The lady has cost him alot already, embarrassment, saddness, lost job, the next will be his life, my advice

Brother, i feel your pains and i see the devil is really having a field day in your home.

Brother, i am a Christian, married and was in for some deep shit just a few months i married my wife, but i thank God, the devil failed blatantly! even though my wife did some nonsense.

Let me give you a clue to what i did.

1. I WENT BACK TO GOD THAT VERY NIGHT cos i was able to lock my doors and my wife outside even if she tore the net to the iron fabricated doors. I ASK GOD WHAT STEPS I SHOULD TAKE NEXT, I TELL YOU HE GAVE ME SOME WORKABLE KEYS!
2. God also spoke with her amazingly! Cos as i was interceeding that night, i was also interceding on her behalf, meanwhile, did i tell you i didnt allow her inside my house that night? AMAZINGLY, she didnt take an inch from the door mouth! Even inspite of pleas from neighbours! That was when i knew THERE IS STILL SOLUTION AHEAD.

3. BROTHER, there is a FOUNDATIONAL problem already in your marriage with that agent of devil called wife, sorry to say! The bible says; IF THE FOUNDATION BE BROKEN, WHAT CAN THE RIGHTEOUS DO? It will take the Grace of God.

BROTHER, My conclusive advice for you is to seek a divorce now! It mustnt be by the consent of your pastor, bishop or imam, seek God's Face on how to go about it. GO AND START A NEW LIFE Brother, File for divorce and stand by it. That woman is programmed already by lucifa to fulfill an assignment. RUN TO GOD FOR HELP! GO FOR DELIVERANCE AND REDEDICATE YOUR LIFE TO GOD TO LIVE A NEW LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU BRO.

ahnie:
Ogq were you there?the best thing z,lets hear both sides of the story.if truly the wife did this.....she'z somtin xxxx

Please don't write like this into 2016.

greatcrown:
I find it hard to believe you.

But then let's assume u are saying the truth.

These are my conclusions about your wife:

1. She has mental issues. Very close to full blown madness.
2. She an ex cultist
3. She is diabolic
4. She is an unbeliever even though she attends church or rather place of worship.
5. She is stubborn.
6. She is an adulterer
7. She is an opportunist
8. She is dangerously smart and can go any length including murder to achieve her aim.
9.She was not properly brought up even though her parents were pastor.
10. She is not trustworthy. Not fit to raise any child for you.
11. She is a devil in human flesh
12. She is worse than everything I have said.

About your daughter:
1. There is a strong tendency that she is not your daughter. You may need to check to be sure.

About the pastor of the church where you wedded:
1. He is manipulative.
2. He is inexperienced in marital issues
3. He lacks the right qualities to provide spiritual guidance.
4. He is guilty of your wife crimes by association.
5. He is biased and will continue to support your wife for God's known reason.
6. There is something devilishly secretive that connects him and your wife.

About the parents of your wife:
1. They know the truth of their daughter but will never support you publicly.
2. They are praying and hoping that their daughter will change for the better.
3.They feel sorry for you in their closet but can't admit publicly.
4. They are equally baffled and surprised that you are still in this marriage.
5. They are surprised that your parents are so soft in their handling of this issue.
6. Like most parents will always stand by their child pubickly

About your parents:
1. They are soft.
2. Their sense of judgement has been altered by indoctrination rather than by the truth of God's word.
3. They are praying and hopeful that things will get better.
4. They are worse than your wife parents by still supporting u to remain in that house.
5. They are confused and don't really know what to do about this issue.
6. They are expecting God to do something whereas God is expecting them to do the needful.

About you:
1. U are stupid!
2. U are foolish!!
3. U do not value your life.
5. U have what it takes to manage banking operations but alas you cannot manage your home.
5. I don't know your age but you are not ready for marriage.
6. U know how to employ experieced mechanic, plumber, etc to work for u, but unfortunately u don't know how to get experienced pastor to handle your marital issue. Listen not all pastor are qualified to handle most issues they claimed expertise on.
7. You are fearful.
8. You are closer to the grave than u knew.
9. You are senseless. I think u need to buy some sense.
10. For close to four years you have being have being contemplating divorce and yet you still do not know whether it is right or not (Please read Kenneth Hagins book on marriage, divorce and..)
11. You were born into Christian home but u do not take time to study the bible rather u were feeding on the crumbs from here and there.
12. How can a grown up man expect all family members to collaborate with him before sending out a killer out of your house.

If after all this, u still ask what should I do: I will say it is better u commit murder now than allowing your wife to murder u the very next second.

Gbam! the best comment i ve ever read on this whole nairaland, it sounds harsh but it is the TRUTH and truth always hurts, i am %10000 sure that daughter is not his (i am suspecting the pastor) perhaps thats what the pastor is trying to cover up by supporting the woman, i am so glad i cam across this your comment, i ve picked up some rellevant ideas from this comment. Lastly, man, do consider psychology/counseling as a job i believe you will make a good one.

cowgirl9090:


chai see perfect summary in two sentences. please give me the permission to be quoting you if the need for summary arises

Who re you gonna box 2day?

I believe every word you said, however i feel you too must hv some wrong doing which younhv nt said. Mybadvise is for you to leave that lady. She has done all the unimaginable. Your wife shd support you not destroy you. The fact she indirectly made you lose your job is
Enough forr me. You also need to get closer to God. HOLY spirit pls lead me right. She hw she pretended.

reetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

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@OP . I am short of words and I believe you need help asap. Your families shouldn't have encouraged you to continue with this situationship,neither should you follow your pastors admonition. Your wife is obviously a troubled woman, it's time for you to be decisive and leave this woman.

NB: I would have asked to hear the other side before making comment but if your wife is guilty of 25% of what you narrated then you have no reason to stay with her.

That's why I like myself, the moment you show me negative character after marriage, na to pack comot
No dull. And op u rushed into the marriage, u didn't take time to study your spouse well, because she carry broom at 4am, u fall mugu. Of course, every woman when they want to settle down, they will form angel. Even modernized runs girls are specialists in this regard.

Gofwane:
the mofo op deserves more than that insult. Such a disgrace to men.

Op should have been born a woman cos he lacks every traits of a man. He is just a pvssy.

Some men are like that... That's life for you...

But I wonder why he gives the so called wife, 50k every month for upkeep and the same wife is a business woman...

The dude must be under a spell.... I pray God will see him thru... Cos love na very strong thing 4 some people...

MathsChic:
The only sensible post i read after many pages. You said it rightly.

Birds of the same feather....

Yes father of my LIFE.

BuddhaPalm:

Please don't write like this into 2016.

who am i not to obey your command?

thiscounts:


...and to add...the first time you brought her home to your parent that she surprise them with early morning sweeping of the house..guess what she got them first under spell before she got you.Sweeping the home gave her access to some corners and areas of the house which ordinarily she wouldn't have had access to plant and hide her charms.

No wonder they couldn't free you from her grip.You are living with a demon from the pit of hell.She will take you in except you escape now!

Hmmn!

queenfav:
Are you a psychiatrist?You sound like one.I have encountered women worse than op's wife during my mediation sessions,so please this is not a pyschological issue.The woman has bad character,clear and simple!I hv encountered a client who told me his wife came to his work place,stripped naked and started laying curses on him with her hand placed on her vag.ina.That one is just one instance,there are so many cases I have even forgotten now!My point is,she has a clear mind.She was lucid enough to pretend to have a good attitude so he could marry her.There are lots of women like that out there,so its beyond all what u said.

Pls tell me your lying. Again, what happened thereafter to the marriage or the man? I would be so disappointed if that man still stayed in that union. Gosh!

ideology:
hehehe 2sexy, few weeks anything can happen, according to his gist, the first month in marriage the lady hit his head with high heels, he passed out and woke up to see himself in hospital, that alone was enough to end it.


For me I blame the guy for all these, those signs are always there just that we ignore it.
Now that they have a child together, its difficult to divorce because of the child but In cases of life threat, i was discussing with a Rev father in Catholic church I met few weeks ago, he said in cases of threats to life, catholic church will annul the wedding and ask them to separate.

The lady has cost him alot already, embarrassment, saddness, lost job, the next will be his life, my advice

nobody should allow a common human reduce them in a matter of urgency. He is not a man and I will say it again. I am very gentle and hardly get angry BUT assure you that the fastest way to get me to brink of insanity is to take me for a fool. Trust me, even the devil would beg you not to cross that line and I don't take such from even my own blood let alone a stranger I met lol.

Bro, there is a limit to everything and it seems the guy didn't date many ladies to know how to handle situations.

Yes, it is not good hit a woman but there comes a time when it is highly needed to reset her memories to factory setting and let her know you are A MAN and the man of the house.

He also didn't do his home work well. The signs were always there but he didn't notice it or threw caution to the wind.

That isn't a wife... If you love yourself, let her go.

You are under serious bondage. You sound like someone who cowers in the presence of girls. No wonder a friend had to arrange "something" for you.
Guy, you no try at all. Gerrarahia mehn.

holahmihdeh:
Am I reading a nollywood script or it happened for real? I don't believe an average Nigerian man will tolerate all these for four good years. To hell with xtian terms in marriage. Even Jesus permits divorce where infidelity is involved. Wisen up and take necessary actions before it is too late. Forget about pastors or churches. This is ur life at stake!

Good! Advice, especially coming from a female, so this means, i guess, you don't believe all the gibberish coming out of some pastors/church mouth? Unlike most females who believe their pastor is invincible, trusts pastors with their lives.

EggovinMma:
Samocholi,
To be sincere with you, it's best you leave that marriage. I think with thus whole story, the time is already too ripe . Haba! So you mean she slept with a married man that poured sperm inside her ? That your wife is really nasty, sorry to say.How can a woman chase her husband with a pant over 5k for something as frivolous and useless as make up? ! Jesus Christ!

That is the part that grossed me out the most. As in, a married woman opened her legs wide for a married man to pour sperm in it?? Very gross, very nasty and dirty.

Tallesty1:



Who re you gonna box 2day?

My ex

fasho01:


Wow.. I admire your resilience Sir. You have proven that some males still act as men by keeping your cool even at the most provocative and life threatening circumstances.

However, don't you have an elastic limit to all this? It beats my imagination that after all you've narrated, you're still seeking advice. So, if left, you will still continue with that woman you call your wife? Obviously, that native doctor has got some potent stuff.

I sincerely feel for you and would advise you separate from your wife first, then prayerfully tackle the issue before finally dissolving this made in hell union, taking your daughter with you.

I trust God you'll bounce back, even surpassing your previous status and with how calm you've been in all this, you'll surely find someone who will appreciate you and take care of your daughter.

First things first, please quit co-habiting with that woman. All the best sir.

You talking about how calm he is...he will soon be calmly lying in state, in a casket !

OP, my advice is that you get agitated, agitate those legs of yours and get the hell out of there.
Pick your battles, you can't fight every battle. This one isn't worth losing your life over.

Some things can't be logically explained. You said your wife wasn't like this before you married her. Don't try to work it out. Just walk out - very fast.

I've never been, married but I've had a taste of this sort thing and believe me its not worth it. Get out of there !