Oyind17:

I only asked a question cos I felt bad. light hid marriage on fire ke! who have extra time for another man's marriage?

Siena:
Your brother isn't complaining, why should you?

Your elder brother is free to run his home any way he deems fit. It is none of your business, so I would advise you to keep your beak out of his and his wife's affairs.

If I may ask - are you yourself married?

lolaluv1:


Well, just maintain your lane

Kx:

Oga Siena where have u been?
Missed your useful advice on car issues.
Good to read your post again seasons greetings

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

Is he under a spell or it's normal?

And as a man can you do this?

lolaluv1:

Looool@jealousyyy

cococandy:
What's all this rubbish about bread winner this and that anyway.
So if the man is the breadwinner he can't dish food or do minor things in their
Oh jeez!

ogawisdom:


U r an idi.ot to think a man of d house shld b turned into an errand boy even b4 guests

cococandy:

So the woman of the house should be turned into an errand girl?

ogawisdom:


U r an idi.ot to think a man of d house shld b turned into an errand boy even b4 guests, a man is d lord of d house n nt some erand boy for d wife to command at will.

Sorry men if ur wife is d breadwinner u must do whatever she says dts d exception in ur next life hustle harder

For respect sake there r some things u dnt ask ur husband to do if u ve respect for him. Jesus hw did we get here, asking ur husband to dish food for ur sister a guest

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

Is he under a spell or it's normal?

And as a man can you do this?

lilmax:
you never see anything sef......this is just the beginning

At this rate next generation of men will be manginas not men

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ogawisdom:


D way women r going with their equality b4 long some women will b paying groom price n marrying men of their choice. I see this happening b4 long

Today women r men without di.cks, if only men can get pregnant by nw dt role would have been shared in d home.
Men shld hustle n provide for their family if u fail in dt u will b insulted

ogawisdom:


U r an idi.ot to think a man of d house shld b turned into an errand boy even b4 guests, a man is d lord of d house n nt some erand boy for d wife to command at will.

Sorry men if ur wife is d breadwinner u must do whatever she says dts d exception in ur next life hustle harder

For respect sake there r some things u dnt ask ur husband to do if u ve respect for him. Jesus hw did we get here, asking ur husband to dish food for ur sister a guest

Oyind17:

I dey my own jejely na him dey worry me to visit him. Truth is I can't type everything here but its not normal to me

toksbisola:
@Op; what I’m about to type would be a bit brutal and harsh which you probably might not like but bear with me; here we go.

It’s imperative for us to stay out of a marital home that ain't ours. I know you might say as your brother is not complaining; then you should be the one to complain on his behalf. IT WILL BE IN YOUR OWN INTEREST TO LEARN TO MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS (no offence hope none taken). I won't even comment on the aspect of you turning up in your brothers house without telling him first and forget that analogy of it being your brother's house as that is now another woman's home hence; you now need an invite to go there since your brother is no longer single; courtesy demands so.

Aside that, have you actually discussed in confidence with your brother about your observations of him turning into a house boy running errands for his wife? I hope you have before you came to this conclusion. Your brother is an adult in his own right and has chosen his wife; so whether you like it or not you are an outsider as long as his family is concerned; meaning you are not his wife and neither are you his daughter.

For your information, theirs nothing wrong in a husband helping his wife out. You said your sister-in-law is loaded (don’t know if she makes more money than your brother) and maybe that’s why you feel she’s using your brother as a house boy. I doubt that very much; hence, don’t think that because she’s loaded therefore she’s taken over headship from your brother as that might not be the case.

A man will leave his mother and his father and he will stick to his wife. YOU ARE NOT YOUR BROTHERS WIFE HENCE DON’T GO THEIR AND CAUSE UNNECESSARY STRESS FOR YOUR SISTER-IN-LAW. That might be the way your brother and his wife do their thing; and yet, you want to go ahead and cause trouble; WHATEVER FOR? Do you know whether your brother offended his wife and this is the way of him showing how sorry he is to get back in her good books? I’m sure you wouldn’t know; yet you’re sticking your nose in an area where they haven’t called you in to adjudicate.

You’re also agitating to tell your mum which might be right as well as wrong. Let me tell you a little story. I know of a similar case where the sister-in-law like you; told their mother how his wife turned her brother into a house boy and the mother went there to confront/fight her daughter-in-law and guess what, on the day the argument started, the mother had a stroke and till today she’s like a vegetable (a once healthy woman) and as for her son’s wife, all she said was sorry; bear in mind that her daughter-in-law is not the one that is suffering from the effects of a stroke. As for her mother-in-law, her life has changed completely from having a healthy life before she confronted her daughter-in-law to now suffering as a stroke victim. This is as a result of her daughter who couldn’t keep her nose out of the business of her brother coming to report to her mother what was happening in her son's house. I only mentioned this experience for you to be careful about how you're going to discuss this issue with your mother.

Desist from going to create troubles unnecessarily as you don’t live with your brother hence you ain’t party to the A to Z of how your brother and his wife runs their home. You don’t know if the wife was suffering from a medical issue on the day you visited and your brother felt it right to assist his wife in that manner by becoming a house boy as you term it; YOU JUST DON’T KNOW; HENCE THIS YOUR CONCLUSION IS BASELESS. Although you might say you didn't observe anything wrong with her physically; doesn’t mean that nothing was wrong. It wouldn’t be in your brother's best interest to start discussing with you if his wife has a medical condition; IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS.

If you are not married yourself then you might not fully understand how a husband and wife relate as against a boyfriend/girlfriend. If anyone should be the one complaining that his wife is sending him on errands it should be your brother; and if he is not complaining then please learn to stay clear of your brother’s marriage. When you saw the house boy errand going on with your brother, there was no harm in you saying; let me get it for you brother. Would that have taken a hair from your body seeing that you didn’t like his wife sending your brother on errands like a house boy? I guess not.

There are times when your brother also sends his wife on errands and my question to you would be is she a house girl? I’m pretty sure if you see that your brother is sending his wife up and down the whole place on errands you will sit down comfortable and say after all that is what a wife should be to her husband a house girl; so lets not play sentiments here and in the process, get yourself worked-up/upset because it is your brother that is being sent on errands.

When you are married and your husband expects you to do every single thing in your house then you’ll remember this day of your experience in your brother’s home where you would have loved it if your husband assist you on some errands. Or let me put it differently; assuming your husbands’ sister comes visiting and sees you sending her brother errands like a house boy and she goes and tells your husbands' mother(you mother-in-law) and she subsequently comes to confront you for turning her son (your husband) into a house boy; I wonder what you will do. I am just trying to imagine you telling your mother/sister-in-law to mind their own business. But now that it is your brother, you want your mother to go and create a scene in the peaceful home that your brother, his wife and child(ren) co-exist in?

I just hope that the peaceful home your brother currently has and is enjoying; your actions’ wouldn’t mess up their home/marriage and allow a once peaceful home degenerate into a broken home because of YOUR BUSYBODY ANTICS. You really don’t know if behind close doors your brother has the upper hand where he is in total control as the head of his home.

MY FINAL WORDS TO YOU WOULD BE TO STAY OUT OF YOUR BROTHERS MARRIAGE; (FACE YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP (IF YOU HAVE ONE) MOST ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS PEACE IN HIS HOME. AS VERY SOON, YOUR BROTHER IF CARE IS NOT TAKEN WOULD BAN YOU FROM COMING TO HIS HOME SO AS NOT TO DESTROY HIS PEACEFUL HOME; SINCE YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLES BUSINESS. TAKE SEVERAL SITS BACK AND STOP TAKING PANADOL FOR ANOTHER PERSONS’ HEADACHE; ESPECIALLY IF THEY DIDN’T CALL YOU TO TAKE THE PANADOL ON THEIR BEHALF.

It’s in cases such as what @op has narrated that makes me believe that women are indeed their own worst enemies.

I rest my case

toksbisola:
@thelish; you're very funny; lol. Sometimes though, a long epistle like this, helps to reset matters.

Caveatemptor:
I tell you,people like this OP has her mind made up and will never rest until she turns that happy home upside down.
She sounds like a broke jobless person trying to teach a rich,employed person how to make money.

cococandy:

So the woman of the house should be turned into an errand girl?

Tundeiab:

Haba!!! "DOWNLOAD WHAT I SAW TO MY NONSENSE MUM"

Did you just call your mum nonsense?

2sex:


As usual, when you talk about something like this, they tag you as jobless... they see nothing wrong in it for a man of the house to be sent on errands in his own house.