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Tamee:


Dear, if you live in Nigeria, be very cautious... obviously womanhood and lives of women don't worth much to the male folks. They can drug, kill and maim you just to save their friends who are male from danger. Pls, be careful.
Read the Op again pls, if a medical doctor can be so unprofessional, then no woman is Safe out there.
Sad

I live in Nigeria and all I can say that the line dividing Nigeria from the Arab countries concerning woman civil rights is a tiny thread...

women are seen as next to nothing but an object and piece of property here,but what can we do than watch in silence and hope things change for the next generation.

Now it is not only about women even the poor are getting poorer,the voiceless are getting more voiceless,only MONEY and MALEs are recognised.

Only God can help us.


BTW I think the lady is foolish too,its possible she is aware of her status,nobody is to be trusted

Tamee:


So what if she reacts violently to the administered drug, what if she died in her sleep?

Is it not more sensible for Op's spineless friend to have asked the lady to take the home test and on her refusal, walk away from the relationship!

Why are y'all looking at this from one angle? God, what if the drug killed her? Does that matter at all to you all?

Well, one could pass out from sedation and it was a risky gamble on his part. The story would have been entirely different if that was the case. But since everything went fine, his action can be pardonable.

I must also admit his motive was extreme and irrational. That one doesn't want to perform an HIV test doesn't mean they are carriers. Not everyone feels the need or muster the courage to have one done. Still, whatever misconduct on his part is forgivable. What if there was a deliberate intent to infect her lover?

Snowangel4:


Are u putin human right above "life" itself...madam sometimes u just hv to do the wrong thing for the right thing.

Just pity her next victim

the lady is aware of her status and that is not good at all,if someone like her come out later in the future and starts confessing that she infected many men,many people talking about human rights will be the one asking fr her head

oseod:
sthanks a lot for this invaluable piece of info..
Its very possible that the girl didn't know her hiv status. ......
You just saved a friend and violated another person rights

Seriously did I hear you say violated another persons rights? May such rights be violated a thousand times in that manner, when the person is bent on VIOLATING THE LIFE OF ANOTHER when she knew or didn't know her status. Why will one be demanding skin to skin when the two parties have not gone to check their status? If you want to deflate my erection, just ask for skin to skin. Two years ago, a little girl that was insisting skin to skin with me was found with a two-month pregnancy. Imagine if I has succumbed, I would have been raising another man's child.

Tamee:
@Docmann, in a civilized country, your IP would have been traced and you would have been apprehended and thrown in Jail to rot there.
One, you drugged a persons drink without knowledge of her body make up/how she reacts to drugs, what if she took the drink and died in her sleep?
Two, you drew a persons blood without consent and then proceeded to carry out a very sensitive test without first seeking consent..you DO NOT have the right to seek or divulge a thirds party HIV status without their consent.

See, I know you are in Nigeria and so many sh!ts fly, I think women should begin to get more education as regards basic rights before getting in a relationship with you folks out there?

On the flip side, you decided to help a friend? Is your friend missing some chromosomes that he can't take decisions for himself. If his sexual orientation is different from that of his partner, what stopped him from walking away? What stopped him from asking the girls permission for the instant home-test and if she refused, he ends the relationship!

You guys never cease to amaze me, so coz you live in a lawless country, you suddenly feel you have the right to drug people, draw their blood and carry out tests on them.. wow!

Cc Roland4lif I dunno why you haven't commented on the Ops actions, you support him huh?
Cc Docmann, something else will surely kill your spineless friend one day if not pre-marital sex cos we will all die eventually and YOU MUST keep violating people to save him okay.
Cc Seun, people drug women and then post the details on your forum. What a wasted generation and a wasted country.

It's also a criminal act in the USA, Canada etc to knowingly have sex with others without disclosing your HIV status even if a condom is to be worn. People are in.prison today for knowingly having unprotected sex to infect others with HIV.

Unfortunately, you.missed this part which left your response unbalanced.

My mind

Docmann:
Have to create a New Nick for this,Just to hide My identity.Please am not begging anybody to believe this life experience i just wrote down

here, Rather for all to be careful with who ever you are having an unprotected sex with in life, either male or female...Please pardon my Use of

words and spellings.

A friend of mine Visited me in my office,we started discussing as usual, along the line he brought up his personal issues just to get some idea from

me. He told me how he was having serious issues with his Girl friend he loves so much, in the area of him Putting on a CD during Love Making. He

told me that it has been causing so much problem for the both of them in his relationship, because the Gf dont like her guy using CD to make

love to her, because she felt like she is a prostitute and she dont enjoy it, rather she prefer raw Love making..He told me that he would have

love to do it raw, But if he does it he will surely release inside her and his not ready to have a baby for now, That he can only do it raw when

she has fully becomes his wife..They have been dating for like 6months now,they have only made love about 4times, but most times it always

end up in quarreling between both because of the CD Thing, though she works and stay far from him..The pressure was becoming so much on

him from this lady he love, so i advised him to take the lady to the hospital to run blood and pregnancy test on her, that's one condition you will

only give to her before you can Make love with her raw without using protection if she agrees okay. He called me on the phone after some days

gone by, he told me that His Gf refused to follow him to the hospital, that she only brought a pregnancy test to show it to him that she is not

pregnant. He was so confused, yet still blinded by real love for the lady, but something in me kept telling me that the lady is up to something

bad, so i have to do everything to make sure he stays away for sometime from the lady before he might fall into the lady request, so that i can

be able to figure out what to do just to help him out...I Finally figured out a way for us to be fully sure that she dont have any problem inside

her, I told my friend to invite her during this xmas holiday,plead with her and tell her you are now ready to do raw love making without CD with

her, That when she comes we will drug her favorite drink she likes, when she dose off, i will now take little of her blood just to put on the Hand

made easy blood Test Device..We both agreed on that, he called the lady and invited her to his house, she was so happy coming to spend some

days with her man..She came around, she was introduce to me by my friend, her laughter was so natural,very friendly to be with,tall and very

beautiful in nature. We really discussed a lot, i distracted her from not paying attention to my friend while he was pouring drink for the 3 of us,

drink was served by him,i rushed mine pretending to be going home because it was getting late in the night,she drank hers hoping to see me off,

but after some few minute she started feeling dizzy, i knew it was the effect of the drug. She slept off, i quickly took little sample of her

blood, i tested her blood immediately, you wont believe what i find out, The result was HIV Positive showing clear for we to see, i did the test

4times in front of my friend still the same, he almost fainted. I check his, it showed Negative..This happened a day ago, I stayed with him all the

night, just to make sure he dont do anything nasty to the lady. She woke up after like 40min,she saw little stain of blood in one of her thumb,

but couldnt take it serious, she was so shock to see me, because she thought i have already gone home, she asked me wont i go home is

already late in the night. I said, am sleeping here tonight because i have a lot to discuss with your guy..She changed her mood,she went inside

the room to sleep, I and my friend were awake all through out in the parlor..Morning time, guess she faked an urgent call she parked her things

back inside her bag, demanded for some money,which my friend did gave her enough, off she went away..I Felt weak and down, for breaking

there relationship and also for treating the lady in such manner in other to find out her hidden agenda..My conscience has been disturbing

me,though my friend thanked me a lot and now sees me as a Guardian Angel.... But please Guys,Ladies be careful of who you want to have an

unprotected Sex With, HIV IS REAL and is not written on each person forehead...But lets keep showing much love and care toward all the

affected ones, hoping sooner,wishing one day there cure will come and they will bounce back healthy again.

Dude. Honestly you did well. God bless... Which state did this happen bro?

SirJeffry:
Hmmm. Human right was abused but a life is saved.

What can I say but wish you goodluck if your friend fail to manage his acts well when leaving the lady.

To save you, he should just continue the relationship but pretend to have recently joined Deeper Life church(No sex relationship)

My guy sex is not d only means of contracting HIV, if the girl really wanna get him infected, she can just simply add a little portion of her blood to a drink or food and give to the guy.....

I think it's better the guy stay clear from the babe with good motive......

Though he can help her in any way, but not to keep physical contact, she might wanna revenge.....

Tamee:


So what if she reacts violently to the administered drug, what if she died in her sleep?

Is it not more sensible for Op's spineless friend to have asked the lady to take the home test and on her refusal, walk away from the relationship!

Why are y'all looking at this from one angle? God, what if the drug killed her? Does that matter at all to you all?

Nawa for u o...
Sometimes u hv to do the wrong thing for d right thing.

Do u know how many people she has infected and her next victim sef.
Na only she go die because of sleeping pill....no dy put human right above life pls

MYMINDER:


It's also a criminal act in the USA, Canada etc to knowingly have sex with others without disclosing your HIV status even of a condom is to be worn. People are in.prison today for knowingly having unprotected sex to infect others with HIV.

Unfortunately, you.missed this part which left your response unbalanced.

My mind

I know. It is easier for Ops friend to have ended the relationship than drugging his girlfriend. Knowing the kind of half-baked education people get, they will start to copy Op if we don't address this matter from all sides; and people do react to pills differently. So, we shouldn't make it seem like drugging people and drawing their blood while they sleep is okay.
The gf may/may not know her status but then, slow people shouldn't be in relationships in the first place

hmmmm...test your friend again after 3 months

Toks2008:


Me..insult people? Heaven forbid.

I am damn too matured for that and in-fact i was actually joking calling misspicy agbero because that babe don show me serious pepper and if i quote all her abuses towards me you will fear fear.

No dey bobo me with you are damn to mature baba,you do it a lot but if you say you don't,who am I to object.

JustHere2Observ:


Please gerrahia, just Negodu. The guy himself knows what he did was wrong, he could be sued or his license revoked.
If the girl gets to know, he will never practice medicine again, and when that happens will you be there to help him.
I'm a medical personnel and I know this HIV patients know their rights wella.

But it's also a crime to intentionally spread aids. Yes, I also agree patients should have confidentiality, but on this issue, one has to use an unorthodox method. Imagine such wickedness.

Tamee:


Thanks.

Now that we know how majority of men think on Nairaland, any woman on this forum who does not take extra measures to watch out for herself and support the Female folks more may never fully live to achieve her full potentials out there in Nigeria.

What happened to the Ops friend taking decisions like a man and ending the relationship instead of exposing his woman to such vile violations of her rights and harmful drugs! Hmmn.

Cc Daretodiffer
Cc Cococandy
Cc Sagamite

it is not about ending the relationship or fr the man to take decisions, that lady fully know about her HIV status,there have been cases of HIV persons purposely infecting other people,I have come across such confessions,the op friend is the lucky one,what about the other men she will meet later,she would have done the HIV test and given it to him,there is an ulterior motive there

I know of a woman that did that in Germany and she was jailed fr it,sometimes one need to be careful with some people......

Bizibi:
the lady is aware of her status and that is not good at all,if someone like her come out later in the future and starts confessing that she infected many men,many people talking about human rights will be the one asking fr her head

Na God save dat guy....

Llanthony401:


How is that stigmatization If no identity was revealved?

Have you thought of other carriers reading this? This is social media. The person you talked about might even have read the post already. This is a sensitive matter that should not be discussed in a forum like this. If you sound a warning it's ok but you just made HIV carriers inhuman. For the records; HIV negative people can marry carriers and still stay negative, have children and live happily. Don't peddle hate from a test you did illegally in a private home. If this lady wants she can sue you and I must tell you it'll be hard before you get yourself out.

Docmann:


I knew what i did was wrong, but that was one easy way i could protect my very good friend from such happening to him...when you meet wicked people in life, you have to use sense in dealing with them. i believe the lady was on a mission...and i have a friend who so much loved this lady,believe me nothing would have separated him from her without this happening, he was almost accepting..his like a brother to me,believe me assuming he contacted it,lot would have happened

You just taught me a lesson man! I've met two girls before that never allowed me use protection and being carried away, I had it with them last year. Thank God I tested negative to HIV, Hepatitis, etc, when I did a comprehensive medical checkup at my brother's clinic this year Oct, else I'd have committed suicide oh. I was even in the laboratory when the test was been conducted and I made sure I saw the result myself.

Since I tested negative for the 4th time in my life, I've not had sex since Oct till now. Hopefully it remains thus till when am ready for a serious relationship..

It's really crazy when girls that are supposed to be more of the advocates of no unprotected sex are the ones clamouring for unprotected sex. Crazy men..

Medunah:
KARISHIKA tinzez

So Mr 'Guardian angel', wat exactly should we judge you for?

U did the right thing in a wrong way thou. Since she refused to go to d hospital for test, Ur frnd should have insisted dat he will end the relationship if she doesn't comply since she is the one who wants it raw, d girl would av ended the relationship if ur frnd insisted hard enough. Drug someone and take blood samples?? haba, Dats extreme now. I hope u know the girl can sue you or even accuse the both of u of rape or say u took her blood for rituals?

Neways, thank God for ur frnd's life, this will teach all d 'I don't use condom niccurs' some lessons.

Exactly my thoughts too.

It still baffles me that the op and his friend could stoop so low as to drug the lady's drink just to get her blood sample.

Any lady who isn't willing to go to the hospital with me for medical check-up should bid the relationship goodbye.

♫ Its a super story/ A life of strife and sorrow ♫

Tamee:


Obviously, Nigeria is not just a third world country, it is also left behind in the dark age.

Assuming the guy in question is your relative, guess your response would still remain the same?

Ijaya123:


Assuming the guy in question is your relative, guess your response would still remain the same?

Especially if the guy was her younger brother..

@op.....nice job. You have saved a soul n thousands more. Bro what's the name of the TEST KIT u used, I will like to keep one at home too.

.

Tamee:


I know. It is easier for Ops friend to have ended the relationship than drugging his girlfriend. Knowing the kind of half-baked education people get, they will start to copy Op if we don't address this matter from all sides; and people do react to pills differently. So, we shouldn't make it seem like drugging people and drawing their blood while they sleep is okay.
The gf may/may not know her status but then, slow people shouldn't be in relationships in the first place

I second the bold part....
Mr OP,you should be locked up for a very long time, an NO you didn't save a friend, anyone foolish enough to have unprotected sex deserves what comes their way.

Your friend will still have unprotected sex and you won't be there to molest another soul...


When politicians steal and travel abroad for headaches, its because of folks like you.

JustHere2Observ:
I can't believe an educated and professional will violated another person's right like that just because your friend cannot manage his own matters.

If your friend was not sure of her and doesn't feel safe, he should have broken up with her or if he loves her that much he should have insisted on his no unprotected sex stance.

Smh.

this is the most insensitive comment I have ever read on this forum.... I would want to believe you didn't read the complete post.

JustHere2Observ:
I can't believe an educated and professional will violated another person's right like that just because your friend cannot manage his own matters.

If your friend was not sure of her and doesn't feel safe, he should have broken up with her or if he loves her that much he should have insisted on his no unprotected sex stance.

Smh.

You get HIV...LOL ( no vex na joke I di joke oh)

JustHere2Observ:
I can't believe an educated and professional will violated another person's right like that just because your friend cannot manage his own matters.

If your friend was not sure of her and doesn't feel safe, he should have broken up with her or if he loves her that much he should have insisted on his no unprotected sex stance.

Smh.

See! I am suspecting you like seriously. The girl's boyfriend asked her to go with so they could both carry out HIV tests while she were to also do a pregnancy test. Only for her to go and bring a pregnancy test. Why didn't she also do an HIV test and bring it to him too? That tells you she knew her status. And for heaven sake, whatever means the boyfriend and his friend adopted in finding out fall within normal acceptable behaviour, I really can speak for the sub-animal humans among us, who after contracting the virus would want to give it to anyone they come across.
Please ladies (not referring to you, JustHere2Observe) wise up and stop being foolish, respect a man that uses a condom on you and deny anyone who does not know where a condom is sold. I was once in a Chemist shop and a girl came and bough a condom, and till today I respect her. Why do girls find it difficult to open their mouth to ask for a condom but open that mouth to mourn.
Abeg, make we use our head.

i don't understand whats going on here, do you know its punishable by the law for a doctor to carry out an H.I.V test without the knowledge of the patient, not only did you violate this law you also drugged her, dude i put it to u, ur a potential rapist and a perv if u aren't one already. ur lucky u opened a new acct i would have reported you to the police, what stops your friend from coercing her for a blood test or tel the girl no cd no sex or its over, very soon we will see her naked pics online now, God judge you both, who knows the girl might not even be aware.

.

francizy:



You just taught me a lesson man! I've met two girls before that never allowed me use protection and being carried away, I had it with them last year. Thank God I tested negative to HIV, Hepatitis, etc, when I did a comprehensive medical checkup at my brother's clinic this year Oct, else I'd have committed suicide oh. I was even in the laboratory when the test was been conducted and I made sure I saw the result myself.

Since I tested negative for the 4th time in my life, I've not had sex since Oct till now. Hopefully it remains thus till when am ready for a serious relationship..

It's really crazy when girls that are supposed to be more of the advocates of no unprotected sex are the ones clamouring for unprotected sex. Crazy men..

Girls always ready to defend a fellows bad deed

Medunah:
KARISHIKA tinzez

So Mr 'Guardian angel', wat exactly should we judge you for?

U did the right thing in a wrong way thou. Since she refused to go to d hospital for test, Ur frnd should have insisted dat he will end the relationship if she doesn't comply since she is the one who wants it raw, d girl would av ended the relationship if ur frnd insisted hard enough. Drug someone and take blood samples?? haba, Dats extreme now. I hope u know the girl can sue you or even accuse the both of u of rape or say u took her blood for rituals?

Neways, thank God for ur frnd's life, this will teach all d 'I don't use condom niccurs' some lessons.

Violation of human right,that lady could sue you. Oversabi.