Did you notice the thing the op and the commenter with the same problem have in common?

The guy doesn't ask them for sex,or pressurize them rather!!!

These girls feel like they are dating their brother.
They don't feel sexually desired and that alone is an ego killer to a girl,she may not like to admit it but its true

She wants to turn you down but she also wants you to ask...

Weird right?
Women right?!

Then what do I do?? I know I will never love again. The only person I've ever loved, which I still have feelings for doesn't seem to care. ( moreover, its been years since we broke up). Is it not better I date someone who I know loves and cherishes me and has proven himself worthy?

If I leave this guy now, its the same NLs that will call me a mumu for leaving him.

pamellla:

u don't date someone out of pity...ur NO should be ur NO! I won't be surprised if in the next few years u com here on NL nd start ranting bout the downfall of ur marriage (I forbid it tho) cox ts crystal clear u don't love d dude, u are only trying to put up with him coz of his persistence...marriage is a challenging institution, you have to think twice bfo venturing into it.

Amberon:
Then what do I do?? I know I will never love again. The only person I've ever loved, which I still have feelings for doesn't seem to care. ( moreover, its been years since we broke up). Is it not better I date someone who I know loves and cherishes me and has proven himself worthy?

If I leave this guy now, its the same NLs that will call me a mumu for leaving him.

Lawd, save us from karashikaz

u didn't love him n u agreed to spend his money abi.
I pity u

u didn't love him n u agreed to spend his money abi.
I pity u

you have a serious problem... where did you get that from.. pls don't come showing your stupidity here.

if you lack self control, there're men who do.
We both have talked about sex and I notice that whenever we sleep he gets a boner but he told me that he won't force or compel me to do what I don't want to do.

czarr:
Did you notice the thing the op and the commenter with the same problem have in common?

The guy doesn't ask them for sex,or pressurize them rather!!!

These girls feel like they are dating their brother.
They don't feel sexually desired and that alone is an ego killer to a girl,she may not like to admit it but its true

She wants to turn you down but she also wants you to ask...

Weird right?
Women right?!

Lol, he must have served his purpose as Santa over the Christmas season. Now like the Christmas tree & lights, he gots to go. Poor guy.

Amberon:
you have a serious problem... where did you get that from.. pls don't come showing your stupidity here.

if you lack self control, there're men who do.
We both have talked about sex and I notice that whenever we sleep he gets a boner but he told me that he won't force or compel me to do what I don't want to do.

boring!
I'm sure you bore him too
Go to church abeg I wasn't talking to you

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

U look like a gd person. Just hold on to the guy, u will surely fall in love with him one day. That's the simple truth

czarr:
Did you notice the thing the op and the commenter with the same problem have in common?

The guy doesn't ask them for sex,or pressurize them rather!!!

These girls feel like they are dating their brother.
They don't feel sexually desired and that alone is an ego killer to a girl,she may not like to admit it but its true

She wants to turn you down but she also wants you to ask...

Weird right?
Women right?!

You are right too.
Women don't cherish guys that don't ask for sex. It makes her lose interest in u fast. Talking from experience

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

What the hell do u want us to say? Advice u?
Put any lady or urself in his shoes lets say for instance he needs a soulmate and u fell for him and he slept with u and then post such topic on NL what will u say about him when u read this..u need him for something now uve got what u want and u want to end it..sounds like gold digging to me.

skywalker240:


What the hell do u want us to say? Advice u?
Put any lady or urself in his shoes lets say for instance he needs a soulmate and u fell for him and he slept with u and then post such topic on NL what will u say about him when u read this..u need him for something now uve got what u want and u want to end it..sounds like gold digging to me.

Felling in love with any girl is a big mistake.
One should only fall for the wife

malele:

Felling in love with any girl is a big mistake. One should only fall for the wife

THATS TRUE BROTHER

Amberon:
Then what do I do?? I know I will never love again. The only person I've ever loved, which I still have feelings for doesn't seem to care. ( moreover, its been years since we broke up). Is it not better I date someone who I know loves and cherishes me and has proven himself worthy?

If I leave this guy now, its the same NLs that will call me a mumu for leaving him.

I understand u girl....it happns like that. sometimes life is not just fair on one but think of it don't u think of the emotional trauma dis dude ll pass thru if in d future he fnds out u don't av a pinch of love for im...if really u like him as a friend nd u don't wanna hurt him tell him straight to his face u can't settle down with him nd back it up with reasons y it can't work out...I believe he ll understand u....ts better u hurt him than wen u are married to him....think of dis scenario u gt married to him nd ur so called bf now dat u love frm d depth of ur @ showx up in d future nd com begging fo u....won't u go with him dts a question fo u to ponder over....we ladies are movd by emotions, den t ll be too late for the 'poor guy' to move on....nd he ll never forgive u for that...
to NLs bashing u....do u care ts ur life not thiers...dey are not gonna stay in d house with u.
to round up moi epistle....GO FOR SOMEONE U LOVE NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!

hook himup wit a willing & adorable sister dat he wud like & on d orda hand dunt make such mistake....always b sure of ur emotional bearing

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Lalasticlala

Tell him straight!

And who told you he is going to be hurt?

You must be a child,you don't know men!

A man getting hurt because a lady said she doesn't love him? Hahahaha! Are you the only lady on earth? The earlier you stop considering men's feelings and emotions(cause they have none),the better for you!

missyadorable:


Tell him straight!

And who told you he is going to be hurt?

You must be a child,you don't know men!

A man getting hurt because a lady said she doesn't love him? Hahahaha! Are you the only lady on earth? The earlier you stop considering men's feelings and emotions(cause they have none),the better for you!

oh!

frakdon:
oh!

Oh!

But there's also no guarantee that that someone I love cares or will even be back. Anyways I think I'll heed to your advice.

thanks.

pamellla:

I understand u girl....it happns like that. sometimes life is not just fair on one but think of it don't u think of the emotional trauma dis dude ll pass thru if in d future he fnds out u don't av a pinch of love for im...if really u like him as a friend nd u don't wanna hurt him tell him straight to his face u can't settle down with him nd back it up with reasons y it can't work out...I believe he ll understand u....ts better u hurt him than wen u are married to him....think of dis scenario u gt married to him nd ur so called bf now dat u love frm d depth of ur @ showx up in d future nd com begging fo u....won't u go with him dts a question fo u to ponder over....we ladies are movd by emotions, den t ll be too late for the 'poor guy' to move on....nd he ll never forgive u for that...
to NLs bashing u....do u care ts ur life not thiers...dey are not gonna stay in d house with u.
to round up moi epistle....GO FOR SOMEONE U LOVE NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

They just looking for a punching bag to vent their frustrations before work on Monday. The easiest way is to pretend you're very engrossed in work and slowly distance yourself from him (hardly pick his calls, late text msg replies, cancelling dates etc.). Then when he wants to have "THE TALK", tell him you need space for awhile that the relationship is getting harder to maintain with all the pressure. He'll kinda get the message except he's a clingy, soft, low self-esteem nigga. If he is, then it ain't gonna be easy dear.

Slikbae:
But there's also no guarantee that that someone I love cares or will even be back. Anyways I think I'll heed to your advice.

thanks.

you are welcome

Awww!!! thanks... hopefully...

That was my moniker you quoted. Amberon

malele:


U look like a gd person. Just hold on to the guy, u will surely fall in love with him one day. That's the simple truth

gibberish!!!
just Swerve!!!

czarr:
boring! I'm sure you bore him too Go to church abeg I wasn't talking to you

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Lalasticlala

why give him false hope in d first place...

guess you've met a prinz you desire to be with right?


just tell him anyhow... I just hope he doesn't commit suicide.

pamellla:

I understand u girl....it happns like that. sometimes life is not just fair on one but think of it don't u think of the emotional trauma dis dude ll pass thru if in d future he fnds out u don't av a pinch of love for im...if really u like him as a friend nd u don't wanna hurt him tell him straight to his face u can't settle down with him nd back it up with reasons y it can't work out...I believe he ll understand u....ts better u hurt him than wen u are married to him....think of dis scenario u gt married to him nd ur so called bf now dat u love frm d depth of ur @ showx up in d future nd com begging fo u....won't u go with him dts a question fo u to ponder over....we ladies are movd by emotions, den t ll be too late for the 'poor guy' to move on....nd he ll never forgive u for that...
to NLs bashing u....do u care ts ur life not thiers...dey are not gonna stay in d house with u.
to round up moi epistle....GO FOR SOMEONE U LOVE NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!

What if the person u love does not love u back? Or maybe he is a player?

SameMissclassy:


You didn't love him yet you still decided to date him and spend his money abi? You are a gold digging idiot.

Now you are coming here to ask us stupid questions okwa ya?

What a redundant moronic Ingrate!

C'mon man, tak it easy on her, I wantd to first ask if u dropd off the sky a monkey and evolution transformd u in 3days perhaps the reason ur not somuch intouch with our present reality but I don't tink its necessary anymore. Dis kinda shiit happns evryday. At OP I tink u should come forward with the truth, his reaction might shock u, especially why he probably already suspects it, no1 deserves this kinda shiit. On a more personal note, I tink its his fault, no woman can somuch as pretend to be my girl for all of 5hours n not eventually fall inlove......

malele:


What if the person u love does not love u back? Or maybe he is a player?

u simply move on...he is not the only one on planet earth! eventually u ll meet someone u love nd he l also love you in return.

missyadorable:
Oh!

I think I felt your pain.....Dibéé

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

if u dont love the guy and u just derer because he is persistent, the day u find a guy u will love u will fill something race down ur blood. U will know that u in love. Dont manage it oh wait d love for u will show up. Wen he shows up u will hate dis guy with all his good qualities..................................Follow ur mind it hardly ever decieves u .

Thanks for your comment.

This thing is that mind is only on one person, and its my ex who broke my heart. I can't wait for him forever, moreover he doesn't deserve me.

OTEGA1:


if u dont love the guy and u just derer because he is persistent, the day u find a guy u will love u will fill something race down ur blood. U will know that u in love. Dont manage it oh wait d love for u will show up. Wen he shows up u will hate dis guy with all his good qualities..................................Follow ur mind it hardly ever decieves u .

Cc Lalasticlala stop ignoring me now.

I still haven't told him. I need more advice