Na only one thing dey worry you "Immaturity"

kelechiodo:
Your agwu is at work - Kelechi Amadi (the concubine)

I love that book.....and it's tragic end

I pray u lost him to anoda woman b4 u ruins d youngman hapiness...since u nt ready u will definately lost him...to a woman who is ready for love..keep on being emotional abt material tinz n let ur system marry u.

I'll comment when I find myself in that situation

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex [/b]is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after [b]sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of[b]sex[/b] just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

All i could read all through is SEX..SEX...SEX

Is that the only thing that matters in an affair? Apparently sex is a de-facto in ascertaining your level of commitment when it should rather be reserved till your wedding.

I honestly dont know what to sex here sorry i meant say here because the isue of sex have been over hyped when companionship should come first before anything.

I cry weep for you.

Start gyming. Undergo strenous training. Train ur mind too. Read positive thinking books.

You need counselling..

Op this is rather a complex issues but simple.... My point is, it all boils down to you, and you nid to sit down and ask urself some serious questions

OP... Call your boo now and tell him you love him!

Shocked!, he might be. (cause he really doesn't expect that from you)

Later when he comes over, give him the best sex of his life and discuss your problems with him after the sex. Let him know how you really feel. Tell him everything.

You really need to work on your emotions too.(Yes it can be worked on!). If you continue threading this path, you'd lose him.!

valdes00:
bros naxo oo.... no tym abeg.... d guyman dey suffer na

You knw whether the guy get side chick wey de do the needful?

Why una dey even ansa her sef...? She just tryin to tell u guys dat she hz been dumb by her guys since 1990 n no man dn cme near her since..we shud b prayer for her dude..

Ogbanje day worry u

Na anoda lilith she be..

I think you should see a doctor. I am having the same issue ( bar the sex issue ) mine is as a result of too many dramas ( like losing 2 girlfriends, one was a day away frm been fiancee ) in the spaces of 4 years, a family member trying to take my life, friend betraying me and so on.

The depression ( I was very suicidal ) started reducing when we found the root cause and I FORGAVE. Forgiveness could be key here.

Did anything/anyone triggered the depression at the start? Can you think back? Mine was triggered by 2 deaths ( which was no fault of mine but managed to blamed on myself ) plus the behaviour of others.

Locate the root cause, forgive people and with time you will be fine. Talk to that guy too. He could be helpful.

Most importantly, note that a setback is a setup for a comeback. And GOD doesn't give us what we can't bear, he always makes a way of an escape for all temptation.

You have to settle your past and let go of what's behind you.

rockstarB:

Yes. I sometimes think he might end up not marrying me, so at that point i just loose everything

Be truthful to yourself. With how you have described yourself, would you want to marry you?

nut job... this is the kind of girls i avoid like a plague.

jonath0012:
At Op, I'm afraid you are not qualified to be in a relationship ( yeah I know you are a graduate). You see, I said this based what you wrote up there.. To me you sound like a teenager, that is youare just getting to know yourself well. Go know figure who you her, learn about your temperament and how to deal with it.. After that you are free to go into relationship

My friend park well,unless you are a shrink shut it. The OP is a type example of an introverted individual with severe anxiety problems.

Yes she needs assistance from a professional in letting her inner self loose, she needs a physiatrist.

My dear... I totally understand what you're going through because I was in the same kind of relationship dilemma for two years. It's not your fault, neither is it his. There is love between you two but it's mostly infatuation. U two are emotionally incompatible. And u keep making up excuses in your head why u can't risk leaving him for another. For crying out loud, u said he is your FIRST! Come on! it's widely known that girls are usually attached to their first love and will never forget.

So my dear, I will advise you to learn how to love yourself first...tell your heart the truth at all times and Learn to take risks.

rockstarB:

No. This is actually my first relationship. I do love him, maybe i dnt know how to express it

na u sabi ooo...all man for himself.... if u don't value wat u ve trust me u will loose it to another girl out there... if u don't want sex or r other protective of urself, why have it in the first place. na u sabi ooo... if u like deprived him or don't even c him self...trust me I'm a guy, another girl will c him freely provided he has an income no matter how little.

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

are you Aquarius?

TonyeBarcanista:

You knw whether the guy get side chick wey de do the needful?

I pray mak he get cos any guy wey stick to babe like Dis without side chick, no b clear eye he use stay

hello, rock star I think we are quite alike. only difference is you unlike me, are well aware of what's really happening. with you. pls pm me. I'd like to share experiences with you. shalom.

Toks2008:


All i could read all through is SEX..SEX...SEX

Is that the only thing that matters in an affair? Apparently sex is a de-facto in ascertaining your level of commitment when it should rather be reserved till your wedding.

I honestly dont know what to sex here sorry i meant say here because the isue of sex have been over hyped when companionship should come first before anything.

God creates sex for procreation but also as a strong emotional link between two souls. For those of us who are not keen on jumping into bed with every soul in reach, the few who enjoy the most intimate pleasure of out love share a deep emotional experience

sickstars:


looool jesus as dem use ur name play

M nt there o

See as u wan mak i commit sin.... take tym oo, tell dem say u no see me cos this week is my week

valdes00:

See as u wan mak i commit sin.... take tym oo, tell dem say u no see me cos this week is my week

Ok

I hope your guy don't find another woman that will satisfy him ad should run from you. Uou need to visit Yaba left and have your head checked

PrimeMinisterr:

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you're trying so hard to play the feminist, think again , you can't handle feminism.

The two of you are highly misguided in that sense. I don't see how her statement reflects what true feminism is all about.

hello, rock star I think we are quite alike. only difference is you unlike me, are well aware of what's really happening. with you. pls pm me. I'd like to share experiences with you. shalom. by the way I think some posters have been gracious with good advices. pls follow them and thread cautiously

sister! he aint gon' marry you,take it or leave it, painful but true,im sorry...

sickstars:

Ok

thank you.... no worry, wen the package land, I go remember u

Pure Guilt

You probably don't like the idea of having sex before marriage... This thought keep replaying in your mind. You're just feeling guilty. Kill the guilt, you'll be fine.