debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

debbysmyles:
you can insult me but I already realised my mistake.

Decker:


Every mother warns her daughter about getting pregnant out-of- wedlock, but that doesn't mean they will disown her if she does. Your mother loves you and you are her daughter, she won't send you out of the house just because you got pregnant.
You just have to tell her.

The fact that the guy is trying to deny you is enough reason why you should tell your parents. They will take on the issue and know how to handle it better.

If you eventually abort the pregnancy and something happens, the same guy would still deny you.
So it's best you tell your parents.

debbysmyles:
you can condemm me but everyone make's mistake.

Mhizkel:
Build up courage and tell your mom about it. She won't kill you, but be prepared to face any sort of treatment from her cos you brought this upon your self.
Keep the baby and stay away from that boyfriend of yours. He doesn't wish you well, he values your life not.

Wish you a safe delivery

debbysmyles:
Thanks.

Speechless3:
Why do i have a feeling that the Op has forged a story to discourage girls from having sex

You think am reading something else into this crap tale? Pls who cries for fp in situations like this

debbysmyles:
why would I forged a story like this?
I'm trying to get help and you are saying another thing.

Speechless3:
Liar, you are trying to get help my foot. Go ahead and deceive those you can.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.
Lalasticlala,farano and seun Pls from page.

Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after a day or two, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.
Lalasticlala,farano and seun Pls from page.

darkenedrebel:
Don't you have an aunt or godmother? You know, someone you can confide in?. Seeking advise from internet should be last resort.

I don't like giving advise on net, but whatever happens, don't abort the baby.

And stop shifting the blame on the guy. What did you expect after sexing without a rubber? all because a guy said he loves you? Did ascertain if he was wellequipped financially to take care of a baby before parting your thighs. @21, you still sound so naive.

You both share the blame equally. Just find a way to sort yourselves out.

Hey!!!!!


You're being way to hard!!
Wasn't the "Act" Consensual?

Now, the Hôrny He-goat Wants to deny The pregnancy simply bacause she doesn't wanna abort Would You do that to Your child?

It's just so SAD that ladies would always have to bear the scar of Something That was actually done by "TWO" people..

its so Not fair!! It's brutal.....


Notwithstanding, she could give Birth to Her child...it's just 9months! Work hard! go to school! come out successful? shed the extra Bellyfat! Look good! Provide for her child....And all's great!


She just gotta be Successful and prove to that Goat that she could do way better than him!

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.
Lalasticlala,farano and seun Pls from page.

Estharfabian:
Hey!!!!!


You're being way to hard!!
Wasn't the "Act" Consensual?

Now, the Hôrny He-goat Wants to deny The pregnancy simply bacause she doesn't wanna abort Would You do that to Your child?

It's just so SAD that ladies would always have to bear the scar of Something That was actually done by "TWO" people..

its so Not fair!! It's brutal.....


Notwithstanding, she could give Birth to Her child...it's just 9months! Work hard! go to school! come out successful? shed the extra Bellyfat! Look good! Provide for her child....And all's great!


She just gotta be Successful and prove to that Goat that she could do way better than him!

shizzy7:
What is not fair

She must have known the type of person the guy is...at least an idea .
It was consensual, she should have said No.
She will have to bear the scar of being gullible and not thinking before acting...

21 not 16, she must have heard "the regular advice" from her parents, school,friends e.t.c but she thought she wouldn't get pregnant after having unprotected sex and didn't use some sort of drugs....

All you listed above is easier written than done,..I hope she can handle it........
She was just another "Jackpot-bubble busted" for that guy and his punishment is here on earth....

Well, people make mistakes! They shouldn't be stoned cox of that....And that's actually what Y'all are Tryna do. judge!


@bolded...It's Easier to Judge when You're Actually watching from A distance....You probably don't know the real Ish....


Anyways...like You said, his punishment is here on Earth...She shouldn't go About Whinning and blaming herself...Rather she should try to make things work. it's not all about her. she's got a child in the picture now...a beautiful One at that!


Nothing's impossible..She Needs Has to be SUCCESSFUL...It's high time she picked the pieces and moved on!

Dudeweedlmao:
If you keep the baby and your mum disowns you like you said, now what?

You're gonna come back here and ask for a place to stay?
This same people telling you to keep it wont even look twice at that thread.

Speechless3:
Why do i have a feeling that the Op has forged a story to discourage girls from having sex

You think am reading something else into this crap tale? Pls who cries for fp in situations like this

debbysmyles:
you can condemm me but everyone make's mistake.

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

Strahovski1:
Trash... serves you right. Getting pregnant at 21. When you were fuc!king you did not know you would use use a condom?

Lucky you created created a new account.

Hoe.