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Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mavinc4u(f): 7:39pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
mascot87: Don't let anybody preach to you. leave her and marry your fellow catholic, let her marry her redeemer; if not you might regret later. Such thing does not always work so save your head. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Chukazu: 7:41pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
asuustrike2009: true there is no church in heaven, but church prepares you for heaven. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mavinc4u(f): 7:43pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
Ajibel: The money is there, remove that money and you will see the point. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 7:58pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
If difference in denomination should be a problem in marraige, what then will difference religion be? We christian are so concerned about our denominations that makes it look as if we serve different gods. I'm marriage, if the couple understand themselves well, they can attend different deniminations and live as one and even still be able to pray together. But it is always good to discuss how to about it before marriage. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Misselocon(f): 8:05pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
dunno about odas but not a gud idea to me. different messages and doctrines and a host of oda discrepancies. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ajibel(m): 8:19pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
mavinc4u: BRF married his christian wife when he was still struggling to cut his teeth in his law career. She stood by him and today look at what he has become. Yes, I agree that money can be a factor but in Fashola's case, money was not involved. P.S I am a Yoruba muslim and my love interest is an Igbo Christian and we have been together since 2011 |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by pasol4real(m): 9:08pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
Chukazu:Sorry the catholic Faith does not tolerate such . U n Ur future children must be brought up in the catholic church . |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
Chukazu:Yea but it should not be a yardstick to affect marriage. i remember a preacher advocating that husbands and wives should attend same church because of same grace, same doctrine and advise fron same preacher but he does not discriminate those not practising it. those practising it are carving doctrines for themselves that does not biblical backing. this is the reason why i myself don;t agree with Jehovah Witness and other churches because till today they have not provide a strong biblical backing for that doctrine |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by pheesayor(m): 9:24pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
She wants to start controlling you and you should NOT allow it. Don't do it for love o else she will use it against you after marriage when you try to take control. Yes you marry in her church and maybe thanksgiving but it should end there. I'm newly married and know what I'm saying. All the best Chukazu: |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by rossyc(f): 9:32pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
BoleynDynaSTY:Why do you av to marry him at first? If u can't follow him to his church or can't convert him to ur church then you av no business marrying him, it's better u marry someone dat shares the same believe with u. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mizthorlu(f): 9:42pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
my parent are deeper lifers, I attend seventh days nd m in love with a Catholic. ....can it get worst than that (lolz)...we all serve the same God and i choose to be liberal...no resentment what so ever |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ojugunrege(f): 9:53pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
kilode100: Me! |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Nyceguy92: 10:44pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
[quote hhor=Onyejemechimere post=42278855] This post is very timely and touches on a very practical problem most families battle with. My outright opinion is that it is wrong for couples to attend different churches because it does not foster family unity. Here is a real life example: A man and a lady were in a relationship that was the envy of everyone. Marriage followed, naturally. Parents of both couple, including brothers, sisters, etc are Christians. Somewhere some time, the wife asked husband to allow her to occasionally attend the evening prayer meetings of one of the pentecostal churches. Because the husband loves the wife and didn't think it was a big deal, he reluctantly allowed her. What was to be an occasional evening session snowballed into full membership and abandonment of the church in which she was wedded. On Sundays, wife would go to her new church with the children and husband to his church. Relatives raised alarm, consultations were made.....you know how it is... The kids imbibed a way of reasoning and doing things, including prayer as taught by their mom or seen in their new church. They argued all the time on matters of culture and tradition. Husband had a rethink and insisted back to status quo. Wife resisted. Family almost broke apart. The implication is that the man is seen as incapable of keeping his household as one unit...as effeminate. Well, to cut the story short, the man threatened divorce before the wife turned back. One must mention the role played by some so- called born again Christians. Most of them saw nothing wrong in the matter. ..the race to heaven is an individual thing...God will use her to deliver/work miracles in the family, etc, etc. One of my aunts married a man of same denominstion. Later, her husband "repented" and asked the wife to follow him to his new church. Wife refused to attend her husband's church. Trouble started and the case came to her kisnmen. Verdict was that a woman had no church, that her husband's church was her church. She yieldef. Today, they are happy together. Thanks for reading. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by BoleynDynaSTY(f): 11:58pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
rossyc: So u trying to say iF I meet a guy I love n wanna spend the reSt of my life with I shouldn't because of church,like seriously?Biko what's d name of the church Jesus ws a member of while on earth? |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by DANWEALTHY(m): 1:45am On Jan 25, 2016 |
They are spiritually disconnected. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by placeofallure(f): 5:54am On Jan 25, 2016 |
kilode100: Moi! |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Bishops10(m): 7:39am On Jan 25, 2016 |
I think with the Experience av heard in our family,their is absolutely nothing wrong in it so long as their is agreement. My mum goes to Catholic(That's her birth church) while Dad goes to Anglican.All my sisters having been married now go to Pentecostal likewise me but will only attend Anglican whenever I come back to the villa though I was baptized in Catholic. In my Dad's Anglican,you will think my mum is a member coz she does almost everything a member does.attends Their harvest,Thanksgiving services e.t.c Vice versa In my dads voice "Go to any Church that you know will lead you to heaven". N.B They have lived for close to 50 years. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Nobody: 7:55am On Jan 25, 2016 |
mascot87:guy there is no point just do the breakup. It will pain you now but in the future it would be totally rewarding |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ahmed3rdjuly: 7:59am On Jan 25, 2016 |
mavinc4u: My dad is a Muslim and my a Christian and they are not rich. they have lived for decades without issues. Its only people with complex that attributes everything to money. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by tommysparks: 8:12am On Jan 25, 2016 |
My brother has same issues with his fiancee, he is catholic and she is pentecostal and they broke up their 5mknth engagement due to both of them not agreeing on a particular church to attend. The tower of babel is religion and churches not language only. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mavinc4u(f): 8:15am On Jan 25, 2016 |
Ahmed3rdjuly: story. will you tell us if they are having issue? someone with a 10 years old marriage here has confirmed the issues that would be encountered. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mapet: 8:17am On Jan 25, 2016 |
Couples attending different church is a house already divided 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Nobody: 11:19am On Jan 25, 2016 |
DedeNkem: You are not born again so you don’t have a say …. Quote me anywhere but if you must have a say then accept Jesus into your life, only then can you understand the notion of marriage from his own point of view as the Creator of Heaven and Earth. then you will know that it’s a complete No for a woman to attained a different church from that of her husband. Any woman who does such is insubordinate and will bring the downfall of that family. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by rayobaba(m): 11:59am On Jan 25, 2016 |
mascot87:Mine is exactly like urs just that my girl is calm about it and does not dictate to me that our kids would be going redeem. I think ur girl is too dictating. But I will advice you to sometimes attend her church, that will make her succumb to your wish. Let her know u like her church and educate her about catholic doctrines and peoples misconceptions,know dt u wont get best of her since she's still under her parent as they will influence her decisions, show her unresistable love, and all this issue will be solved. I never believe I could solve mine. Don |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by orisa37: 3:22pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
The woman is stubborn. She knows very well in her mind what she wants. If they pray often,though severely, for wisdom, God's name is Wisdom, God will reconcile them in Knowledge and Understanding. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by mstoki: 12:40pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
i think its not right. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Chukazu: 4:07pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
pheesayor: thanks man. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by MightySparrow: 5:15pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
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Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ishilove: 7:52pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
Godfullsam:Bullshit. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ishilove: 8:04pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
MrPresident1:Smh. I was brought up in a home where my parents attended different churches, and till date they still do. Mum accompanied dad once in a while to his church, and vice versa. Growing up, we attended church with my mum, but as time went on, everybody found their square root, so now we all have our own individual denominations and it has not in any way affected our relationship. Work out your salvation with fear and trembling, says the scriptures. Find where works for you and stick with it. You can't tell me to attend RCCG if my spirit doesn't find fulfilment there. I could go the Kerubu way, or CAC and find my rest there. Salvation is an individual race. Religious matters was never a bother in my home, so I've grown up with the belief that it is understanding that is paramount. Personally I will not be bothered where my man worships, as long as he is a committed Christian who will not try to impose his religious doctrines on me. Abi no be the same God we worship? |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by MrPresident1: 10:14pm On Jan 26, 2016 |
Ishilove: Ishi, times have changed. You cannot use your parents' time to judge today, also there has been a lot of changes in the values of the society compared to the time when you were growing up. In the time of your parents, culture and tradition ordered society, everyone knew everyone and there were very good societal values that the whole community cherished and followed, this is the reason why parents were able to choose spouses for their children at that time because everyone in the society was running basically on the same values template. Even if the man and the woman were total strangers, chosen to marry themselves by their parents, the marriages lasted because there were values that would guide their marriage. Nowadays, because of urbanisation and 'civilisation', the values that ordered the societies of old have been thrown out, morality has been replaced by religiosity, and this explains why we are getting more religious but less righteous. Today, religious doctrines are apparently more relevant than moral values and people within the same doctrines will find it easier to relate more among themselves. Ishi, I say growing up, your home was ordered by values, not by the religion of your parents hence the tranquility. Society has evolved, if your hubby is Kerubu, just jeje prepare your mind to be Kerubu because he is your head, he will provide spiritual direction in your home, and you cannot afford to be at loggerheads over doctrinal issues. |
Re: What Is Your Take On Couples Who Attend Different Churches? by Ishilove: 12:17am On Jan 27, 2016 |
MrPresident1:Times have changed, you say, but I did not change with the times. I am still my parents daughter, after all There won't be a marriage to start with if there is no agreement to allow each other freedom to express our spiritual/religious preferences. If hubby-to-be won't accept, then it means we aren't meant to be, so no marriage. These things are best hashed out before marriage. No one, not even my dearly beloved parents can force me to adopt doctrines or go to a church my spirit doesn't agree with. If my parents, who have always had a very strong influence in my life, can't force me, is it a man who isn't related to me? That's how I was brought up |
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