Faith111:
Please! Please!! Please!!!
I am a graduate today because of my Hubby....
He trained me from purchasing my jamb form to my final year project WITHOUT EVER HAVING SEX WITH ME talk less of pregnanting me...
Today I'm pillar in his house and that singular act makes my home a heaven...We've been married for 4yrs nd very soon we'll be counting 3kids..but it all looks like we got married yesteday..Since we got married, things have turned around for both of us...I am now that classical wife even young boys trip 4..I work and earn very well...He earns very well too. Today, I'm proud of him. together we can acquire assets, pay bills and plan as 1...
My hubby gave me the rent his bros gave him so he could hussle for job for my year1 fees n slept in an uncompleted apartment, his salary was 40k and he gladly sends me 25k having nothing but Tfare and a little to eat from the bukka..He would never buy clothes nor shoes for my sake..But today we can give 40k to a needy without itch..
Op please Love believes all things...
My hubby's friends and family envy him and wish they had me 4 a wife without knowing what sacrifice he made in the past...
Follow ur HEART

your hubby always sent you 25k out of the 40k he made when you were still in school? now swear you never had a side boyfriend to keep u warm during harmattan and rainy season......how many female students are loyal to their bf btw? go give a testimony in ur church and stop confusing the young man

cammo, fvck and impregnate that girl then take her to the court for marriage, before spending a dime on her.

Ipopalomo, how u see dis topic?

FTBOY:
your hubby always sent you 25k out of the 40k he made when you were still in school? now swear you never had a side boyfriend to keep ur warm during harmattan and rainy season......how many female students are loyal to their bf btw? go give a testimony in ur church and stop confusing the young man

cammo, fvck and impregnate that girl then take her to the court for marriage, before spending a dime on her.

Ipopalomo, how u see dis topic?

Unfaithful people always think everyone is unfaithful...If u don't have sound moral principles and self control, you need to work on urself and seek God's grace...I'm 1 of the most beautiful ladies God made and after kids I am still more beautiful than you can imagine But all that is vain n a Woman that fears God shall be praised..
To ur question...no guy ever placed a finger on my shoulders not to talk about sleeping about..
I was focused nd graduated among the top 5 in Dept...

Faith111:



Unfaithful people always think everyone is unfaithful...If u don't have sound moral principles and self control, you need to work on urself and seek God's grace...I'm 1 of the most beautiful ladies God made and after kids I am still more beautiful than you can imagine But all that is vain n a Woman that fears God shall be praised..
To ur question...no guy ever placed a finger on my shoulders not to talk about sleeping about..
I was focused nd graduated among the top 5 in Dept...

Whether you're beautiful or not... let us be the judge... only way that stuff worked out with you is because you belong to the scriptorial union... fact!!!

Cammo:

I'm not buying her into marriage with money. We've been dating since early last year and have been talking about a future together. Now she's in school but is having difficulties paying up her bills. I can afford to assist her throughout her 4 years but my friends think it wouldn't turn out good in the end. I'm considering so many things. Her mom is a widow
And what if some other guy offers to assist her - she'd definitely leave me

The bolded makes me worry about the sort of relationship you guys have. If she will leave you for someguy who buys her sorry, pays her fees, then what are u doing in said relationship?

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

Don't do it! I know she loves you but don't do it if you love her. If you wanna help her sort her financial issues fine but don't do it and expect her not to leave you for a better guy after she's done with school. It is better she leaves you now than for her to leave you after all your efforts.

Faith111:



Unfaithful people always think everyone is unfaithful...If u don't have sound moral principles and self control, you need to work on urself and seek God's grace...I'm 1 of the most beautiful ladies God made and after kids I am still more beautiful than you can imagine But all that is vain n a Woman that fears God shall be praised..
To ur question...no guy ever placed a finger on my shoulders not to talk about sleeping about..
I was focused nd graduated among the top 5 in Dept...

that's what my ex kept telling me until i caught her red-handed fvcking her ex.....i can never trust a student gf, most of them are hoes.....not to mention UNILAG. Wtf!

Op she is your girl and you have seen her condition. I advice you for the sake of friendship pay her first year school fees to show the level of your care. Then introduce marriage. If she hesitant no matter the reason, then bolt and flee from her to avoid the story that touches

Faith111:
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Op please Love believes all things...

LewsTherin:

Irrespective of what naysayers say, it's really a function of the type of people you BOTH are. You know who you are and you have an idea of who she is. Is she very impressionable? Does she have firm principles. What of you?

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Cammo, The posters I quoted above expressed what I wanted to say but seeing this statement in your last post is a source of concern

"And what if some other guy offers to assist her - she'd definitely leave me"

Hope you are not assisting her out of insecurity? The fact that you even have this thought of her leaving u if another guy helps her says a lot about you /your motive and how you see this lady in question.

If you are concerned that she may leave u after sometime I may still relate with that because relationships do break but being concerned that she will DEFINITELY leave you because someone else offers financial assistance is ........

There's a certainty in that statement which I find very disturbing. You already know she will follow the tide of CASH and thats not healthy for any relationship.

Yes there's a risk in sponsoring the education of a girl you want to marry, you asked the wrong question OP.

The question should be, are you willing to take that risk?

Not advisable.These gals aint loyal.

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

just marry her now...then you can do all that for her..

Faith111:
Please! Please!! Please!!!
I am a graduate today because of my Hubby....
He trained me from purchasing my jamb form to my final year project WITHOUT EVER HAVING SEX WITH ME talk less of pregnanting me...
Today I'm pillar in his house and that singular act makes my home a heaven...We've been married for 4yrs nd very soon we'll be counting 3kids..but it all looks like we got married yesteday..Since we got married, things have turned around for both of us...I am now that classical wife even young boys trip 4..I work and earn very well...He earns very well too. Today, I'm proud of him. together we can acquire assets, pay bills and plan as 1...
My hubby gave me the rent his bros gave him so he could hussle for job for my year1 fees n slept in an uncompleted apartment, his salary was 40k and he gladly sends me 25k having nothing but Tfare and a little to eat from the bukka..He would never buy clothes nor shoes for my sake..But today we can give 40k to a needy without itch..
Op please Love believes all things...
My hubby's friends and family envy him and wish they had me 4 a wife without knowing what sacrifice he made in the past...
Follow ur HEART

you are one of the fortunate ones...good for you..

Cammo:

I'm not buying her into marriage with money. We've been dating since early last year and have been talking about a future together. Now she's in school but is having difficulties paying up her bills. I can afford to assist her throughout her 4 years but my friends think it wouldn't turn out good in the end. I'm considering so many things. Her mom is a widow
And what if some other guy offers to assist her - she'd definitely leave me

if you know she won't dump you

Joromi1:
@Cammo, there's nothing wrong in helping out a needing student. If you wish to assist her, do it for the sake of love. My only advice is that you keep a close contact. Communication plays a good role in sustaining a relationship. Don't let your friends deceive you. Shalom!

sharrap jor!
what are u saying?

pet4ril:
if you know she won't dump you, don't ever use authoritative tone on her or keep reminding her of her poor background all in the name of you are helping her in school ....because that's what most of you guys do and when the poor lady now got tired of the insults and embarrassment and dump you, you guys will be saying girls are bad without saying what really transpired...... To be candid with you, this was what happened in my own case but, today the guy never enjoyed a dime of what he labored for because i dumped his silly ass which I never wished for, but had no choice because he thought he had dominion over me....i am very well doing today that he would have been proud to have me, but his ego made him loose me

u golddiggers will aways make up excuses for your selfish moves?

u dumped him because u thought he had dominion over u & forgot all he did for u?

ingrate!

nanalady:
just marry her now...then you can do all that for her..

@ cammo, good advise...

remember humans ain't trust worthy...

Faith111:
Please! Please!! Please!!!
I am a graduate today because of my Hubby....
He trained me from purchasing my jamb form to my final year project WITHOUT EVER HAVING SEX WITH ME talk less of pregnanting me...
Today I'm pillar in his house and that singular act makes my home a heaven...We've been married for 4yrs nd very soon we'll be counting 3kids..but it all looks like we got married yesteday..Since we got married, things have turned around for both of us...I am now that classical wife even young boys trip 4..I work and earn very well...He earns very well too. Today, I'm proud of him. together we can acquire assets, pay bills and plan as 1...
My hubby gave me the rent his bros gave him so he could hussle for job for my year1 fees n slept in an uncompleted apartment, his salary was 40k and he gladly sends me 25k having nothing but Tfare and a little to eat from the bukka..He would never buy clothes nor shoes for my sake..But today we can give 40k to a needy without itch..
Op please Love believes all things...
My hubby's friends and family envy him and wish they had me 4 a wife without knowing what sacrifice he made in the past...
Follow ur HEART

stop all these your lies...
u cant deceive the op...

a female human is not as reliable as a male dog...
most women are natural ingrate...

u can use eve in the garden of eden as case study...
despite God's effort in ensuring a life of comfort...

op make sure u impregnate or marry her before spending on her..
never u spend a dime on her, because she will use it agaisnt u...

johnson232:

stop all these your lies...
u cant deceive the op...

a female human is not as reliable as a male dog...
most women are natural ingrate...

u can use eve in the garden of eden as case study...
despite God's effort in ensuring a life of comfort...

op make sure u impregnate or marry her before spending on her..
never u spend a dime on her, because she will use it agaisnt u...

LIES
Well if u called what my hubby did unbelievable, I'm off to get him a wonderful kiss cos I just realised that I would have been a groundnut girl if every Guy was like you...
You are the kind of guy that would buy a girl a gift and want sex in return because you fail to understand the difference between love and lust...

Then marry her and let her continue the rest of the education from your home,since you don't want to loose her,you must not throw party before you can do marriage,and let her know your mind if she truly love you she will wait for you or accept your marriage proposal.

pet4ril:
if you know she won't dump you, don't ever use authoritative tone on her or keep reminding her of her poor background all in the name of you are helping her in school ....because that's what most of you guys do and when the poor lady now got tired of the insults and embarrassment and dump you, you guys will be saying girls are bad without saying what really transpired...... To be candid with you, this was what happened in my own case but, today the guy never enjoyed a dime of what he labored for because i dumped his silly ass which I never wished for, but had no choice because he thought he had dominion over me....i am very well doing today that he would have been proud to have me, but his ego made him loose me

Op, Love is not proud nor boastful...
Is not selfish nor does it seek its own way...
Never help any1 and rant about it...
Telling your friends your plan in the first place is wrong cos their rep 4 her might reduce...
Till today no friend or family is aware of what my hubby did 4 me cos that would have made me look like a slave before his influencial family instead of a queen..nd trust me I would have quit cos I won't want to marry into bondage...

@pet4ril I think because of what the guy did 4u, you shouldn't dump him like any other guy...He deserves explanations, prayers, patience some form of dialogue. And your quitting must not be based on other options available but because you are truly tired of his bossy attitude and if he feels sorry about it, get on track with him...Even if u no longer together, always relate with him in respect and appreciate the fact that he was there for u...Never try to bite his finger, puff urself be4 him or cause him any emotional trauma...

Faith111:


Op, Love is not proud nor boastful...
Is not selfish nor does it seek its own way...
Never help any1 and rant about it...
Telling your friends your plan in the first place is wrong cos their rep 4 her might reduce...
Till today no friend or family is aware of what my hubby did 4 me cos that would have made me look like a slave before his influencial family instead of a queen..nd trust me I would have quit cos I won't want to marry into bondage...

@pet4ril I think because of what the guy did 4u, you shouldn't dump him like any other guy...He deserves explanations, prayers, patience some form of dialogue. And your quitting must not be based on other options available but because you are truly tired of his bossy attitude and if he feels sorry about it, get on track with him...Even if u no longer together, always relate with him in respect and appreciate the fact that he was there for u...Never try to bite his finger, puff urself be4 him or cause him any emotional trauma...

that is it my dear, if he had shown any remorse

johnson232:

u golddiggers will aways make up excuses for your selfish moves?

u dumped him because u thought he had dominion over u & forgot all he did for u?

ingrate!

i take this to be because you are a male........ If i were your sister, would you have taken that from a man.

pet4ril:
that is it my dear, if he had shown any remorse, i wouldn't have mimd....... He even graduated to the fact of hitting /beating me, angry because I spent on my family and most at times asking me not to be seeing my cousins because according to him, they didn't contribute to my affair, when he knows nothing about how i grew up before he found me...... He's a no go area my love that most times ,i even regret the day i met him/the time i wasted with him because good people were coming for me then and I always turn them down that i was into serious relationship....... But I'm happy now sha, @ least I can spend my money on whoever i feel like spending for without been questioned by a man that take himself to be my God

O I see....it's well. Some guys are just full of themselves...I have a family friend that filed divorce after 7months of marriage cos of similar issue..
The hubby saying she should not call her siblings and all that..
My advice is no 1 should spend on any1 whether it be a fiance or fiancee, wife or hubby if they know they will taunt the person in future...
Even Ladies act in similar way too..I had a colleague who helped her guy get a very good job and started feeling like his God until the guy couldnt take the shit anymore and had to dump her for another babe..She is well over 30 and keeps saying how he dumped her without mentioning that she wanted him to be her toy hubby for the favour she shew him

Faith111:


O I see....it's well. Some guys are just full of themselves...I have a family friend that filed divorce after 7months of marriage cos of similar issue..
The hubby saying she should not call her siblings and all that..
My advice is no 1 should spend on any1 whether it be a fiance or fiancee, wife or hubby if they know they will taunt the person in future...
Even Ladies act in similar way too..I had a colleague who helped her guy get a very good job and started feeling like his God until the guy couldnt take the shit anymore and had to dump her for another babe..She is well over 30 and keeps saying how he dumped her without mentioning that she wanted him to be her toy hubby for the favour she shew him

thats human being for you

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

my brother, just help her because she need help. If she come dump you na she go carry the curse. All d ppl wey I know who sponsor their babe go school na cry dey cry at last.....


I even know one wey sponsor this very fine babe from ss1 to hnd. Na after nysc dey(I mean she and her mum) dump my guy. Hehehehehehehehehehe


I pray your own no go be like that sha....

There is risk in giving when you expect something in return.

I don't know your plans but if you really want to get married, should you really be dating an 100 level girl?

How long can you wait before you settle down? Remember she has another extra year to spend in s€x camp?

Lastly, is she willing to get married with you? When? 3 years? 4 years or 5 years after graduation/service? LOL

pet4ril:
if you know she won't dump you, don't ever use authoritative tone on her or keep reminding her of her poor background all in the name of you are helping her in school ....because that's what most of you guys do and when the poor lady now got tired of the insults and embarrassment and dump you, you guys will be saying girls are bad without saying what really transpired...... To be candid with you, this was what happened in my own case but, today the guy never enjoyed a dime of what he labored for because i dumped his silly ass which I never wished for, but had no choice because he thought he had dominion over me....i am very well doing today that he would have been proud to have me, but his ego made him loose me

so what should we do now.


@op you're funny o.u wanna sponsor a gyal to UNILAG,i just pity you.anyway PM me the gyals contact so i can help you MONITOR HER.100l abi no problem

pet4ril:
if you know she won't dump you, don't ever use authoritative tone on her or keep reminding her of her poor background all in the name of you are helping her in school ....because that's what most of you guys do and when the poor lady now got tired of the insults and embarrassment and dump you, you guys will be saying girls are bad without saying what really transpired...... To be candid with you, this was what happened in my own case but, today the guy never enjoyed a dime of what he labored for because i dumped his silly ass which I never wished for, but had no choice because he thought he had dominion over me....i am very well doing today that he would have been proud to have me, but his ego made him loose me

so what should we do now.m sure the guy will be better off without you


@op you're funny o.u wanna sponsor a gyal to UNILAG,i just pity you.anyway PM me the gyals contact so i can help you MONITOR HER.100l abi no problem

pet4ril:
that is it my dear, if he had shown any remorse, i wouldn't have mimd....... He even graduated to the fact of hitting /beating me, angry because I spent on my family and most at times asking me not to be seeing my cousins because according to him, they didn't contribute to my affair, when he knows nothing about how i grew up before he found me...... He's a no go area my love that most times ,i even regret the day i met him/the time i wasted with him because good people were coming for me then and I always turn them down that i was into serious relationship....... But I'm happy now sha, @ least I can spend my money on whoever i feel like spending for without been questioned by a man that take himself to be my God

omo YOU CAN LIE FOR AFRICA.fear God na

pet4ril:
if you know she won't dump you, don't ever use authoritative tone on her or keep reminding her of her poor background all in the name of you are helping her in school ....because that's what most of you guys do and when the poor lady now got tired of the insults and embarrassment and dump you, you guys will be saying girls are bad without saying what really transpired...... To be candid with you, this was what happened in my own case but, today the guy never enjoyed a dime of what he labored for because i dumped his silly ass which I never wished for, but had no choice because he thought he had dominion over me....i am very well doing today that he would have been proud to have me, but his ego made him loose me

johnson232:

stop all these your lies...
u cant deceive the op...

a female human is not as reliable as a male dog...
most women are natural ingrate...

u can use eve in the garden of eden as case study...
despite God's effort in ensuring a life of comfort...

op make sure u impregnate or marry her before spending on her..
never u spend a dime on her, because she will use it agaisnt u...

i like this guy, no homo

Acidosis:
There is risk in giving when you expect something in return.

I don't know your plans but if you really want to get married, should you really be dating an 100 level girl?

How long can you wait before you settle down? Remember she has another extra year to spend in s€x camp?

Lastly, is she willing to get married with you? When? 3 years? 4 years or 5 years after graduation/service? LOL

the emboldened got me rolling with laughter.....dude, you're funny

all the girls commenting on this thread just don't want to be truthful to themselves. i saw one saying she dumped her bf because he got too arrogant and bossy for sponsoring her education. the story is obviously one-sided....do u think we're fools? she refused to tell us what she did that made him raise his hand on her. @op, the best bait is to impregnate and marry her now. I've seen a lot of legally married pregnant students, it's not forbidden. it might be burdensome but at least you're rest assured that she's fully yours and whatever you spend on her wouldn't be a waste. otherwise, the chances that she would fvck around behind you is high. after all, you're not her first. never trust these girls enough to waste a fortune on them.......fvck love!