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Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by brownlolly(m): 5:33pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
She's quite crazy about me. I'm sensitive to peoples feelings so its not obvious that I'm not into her. We're always busy sonwe hardly get to c. Talph: |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Wumine(f): 5:36pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
There is no force in love. Just tell him, he will get over it with time. The sooner the better......it will pass! i was once in this position but i took the coward way out, i avoided him and his calls till it fazed out (thank God we were not in the same state). Had to apologize later, if there's no chemistry, there's simply no chemistry! |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Talph: 5:41pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
brownlolly: You might want to let her know on time even if you both dont get to see regularly. You don't want her hoping on what's never going to happen, emotion is s crazy thing bro. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by cozy7(m): 5:54pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:I no how u feel bcoz I've been there b4, trust me, d longer u take to tell him d truth, d harder it'll become 4u 2do and d more hurt he'll feel. U got a good hrt n that's y u reluctant 2tell him. I consider ur inability to tell him 2mean that he doesn't deserve a breakup. Swthrt, plz don't hurt him more by playing with his hrt (not telling him), TELL HIM. If it were me, I'd want 2no. But u really need 2pray he forgives u bcoz 2luv someone is easy, but 2b her broken is d difficult part. TELL HIM! |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Nicepoker(m): 5:59pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:non of us only u. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by spoman: 5:59pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Just stop Bitching around, thats the only solution. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by solesy: 6:00pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:my dear i've gone through such be4 and i did not date him because of money or material tins i dated him out of pity, we dated for six month with out sex and he was not complaning. during that 6month i broke up wit him like 4 time's but he wouldn't let go. The day i finally broke up wit him i left my area for 4month and that was when i find out i was in Love wit him but it was 2late he was already datin some1 very close to me.it's been a year now and am still in love wit him, still paying the dues for my mistake.... So my dear Act fast have a chat wit him tell him how u feel be blunt wit him and belive me he would not let go so easy and that is when u have to do the thinking and don't 4get to follow ur heart so u would not get hurt at the end. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Kay17: 6:08pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
efficiencie: Narratives can be entrapping especially with what we call love. The man following the narrative, chases the girl and uses his "swag" and masculine charm, gifts and persistence to seduce the girl. The girl in response, falls in love. This narrative is found in all medium of culture -- movies, romance magazines and even moonlight tales But this narrative is not always in touch with reality. The guy's pains will be from a sense of inadequacy. The girl also feels guilty for vying off her role in the narrative. I feel sympathy for both. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by folks4luv(f): 6:08pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:actually, same thing has happened to me before, but I ended it in less than 2 weeks or so. I suggest u tell him, remember d matter is getting more complicated every single day, twas one month, den to 2months, d more it increase, d more complicated and d more guilty u will b. so let him no. if u can't find a common ground since last year. I doubt u will again.. I did mine through text message, though I was younger then. I knew he may hate me, but I took that as a punishment for my mistake. so tell him. ASAP |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Wowzer(m): 6:09pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Don't know why some guys can't take no for an answer. Reminds me of a lady late last year who told me No.... few weeks after we started seeing each other. She told me we should just be friends and nothing more. I accepted the offer and stopped chatting her. Despite that she calls regularly, until I told her there was no need for the call anymore and she needs to assume we never met. That I was moving on. She was shocked and I stood my ground. Early this month, I told her that was our last conversation and was going to delete her after hanging up. This is 2016. Last year is by gone and history. Told her if you ring me and you not getting through ...know that I have deleted you as promised. I deleted the time waster off. Don't need me...I Don't need you either. No time for bull****t. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by streetzdreamz(m): 6:14pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
no one determines or controls his or her feelings when its real,its not a crime to feel nothing for a guy doting over you,but its a crime deserving a death sentence when you make him feel you actually feel the same way,whatever happened to being blunt and honest??y'al justifying your lies with "ion wanna hurt him",tell him the truth and let him make a decision,either to stick to you and tryna win you over someday or dump your metallic ass,y'al saying you v had a broken heart hence can't love again,say;who ever told you that lie need be tied to a stake!!you just not patient enough to meet the guy that'l make your heart race!!now subjecting a dude to some emotional trauma all cuz of your uncertain emotional instability,now when the guy turns out being a shadow of himself y'al screams bloody murder, "all guys are heartless and wicked" tell that guy that thinks you make his world go round that you feel nothing for him,and set him free from your shackles!!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder the kinda guys you dating that can't even read betwixt the lines,buncha confused beings. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by noblegrex: 6:18pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:how on earth do you think you'll type this kind of a thing and not be insulted.personally,I'll have insulted you but I perceived you're trully confused.well,all I know is that you're not settled.your mind is not ready for a relationship and that guy will really need to go extra mile to win your heart.of which, he knows nothing about it. But then,don't leave if you've not find someone else and if you must leave him,just show him green light you don't have to speak.but I hope there's no big bros somewhere. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by streetzdreamz(m): 6:20pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Wowzer:lolz,she was obviously expecting a further plea and push from u,all those annoying lines like "you can't live without her and all those gibberish"now here is a MAN!!! |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Helloflife: 6:22pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Mixty:that isn't me. This account is shared. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by missyQween(f): 6:27pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Tell him the truth....Sometimes u don't go into relationship because of pity. .because at the end one will be hurt....Make I cry for d guy sef....Hohohoho |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by tosyne2much(m): 6:27pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
intbizoil:I just blame the poor dude. I don't know if some dudes are not sensitive enough to know where they stand. Nawa oooo |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Wowzer(m): 6:33pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Streetzdreamz. Yeah. You right. She never knew I'm the type that don't sit on the fence and don't force things to be. It has to be mutual and natural. If you want me...I want you. Trust me...I Trust you. Love me...I Love you. F***k me....Then it's F***k you. No sorrow. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Kay17: 6:36pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Maximus85: Such marriages had simplistic assumptions. A good wife was a woman who could wash, clean and cook. Basically a house maid with matrimonial functions of bearing as many children as possible. And the husband can and did marry many women. Within this polygamous setting, there was this gratitude sometimes mistaken for love for the man who was Lord over them. But women of today see themselves more differently. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by P0intBlank(m): 6:38pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Amberon: I mean no harm but I think women are complex. Can someone be ur best friend and not be loved one bit? Is love limited to goosebumps and butterflies in the stomach? What's ur definition of love? Why do u think u love or loved your ex? Was there something he was doing or had that your current bf doesn't? Was it his physical appearance? Or is it just a case of loving what one can not have and not valuing what one has? Sorry, I have asked too many questions. I'm just puzzled. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by cr7lomo: 6:43pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
The mature and experienced ones will say stick with him because love will not seal a marriage or guarantee happiness The kids and most ladies ( selfish beings) will say dont date out of pity , but u will b the one that people will end up pitying when u end up with the one that u end up loving but will be treating u like a b.itch E b like say karma never do u or person way u no something Their must b someone making u not to fall in love .... Either an ex or a new one that's catching your fancy ... Girl dont end up with HAD I KNOWN ... That's the language of most girls that was in your position at one time |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by pamellla(f): 6:53pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
2sex:mumu.....thrash! pls do me a favour, read all over again. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by P0intBlank(m): 6:58pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Hermionegranger: I'm with you on this. If her current boyfriend were to suddenly change she might discover she had actually loved him all this while 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by brownlolly(m): 7:03pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Hopefully time will straighten things... The year has just started. Talph: |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by solesy: 7:05pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Helloflife:my dear i've gone through such be4 and i did not date him because of money or material tins to be sincere i dated him out of pity. We dated for six month wit out sex and he never complain he was very gentle, gud looking ,careing and very romantic i dont no why i didn't love him then. During our six month's of datin i broke up wit him like 4times but he wouldn't let go. The day i finally broke up wit him i left my area for 4month's and that was i find out i was in LOVE wit him but it was 2late he was already datin some1 very close to me. It's been a year now and am still in love wit him, still paying my dues of mistake, thou we are gud friend's. So my dear have a chat wit him, tell him how u feel, be blunt wit him and belive me he would not let go so easy and that's when u have to do a lot of think. There might be some tin holding u back from loving him, i dnot wont u to get hurt at the End... |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by aprilwise(m): 7:09pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
I don't tell him yet until after valentine |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Amberon: 7:16pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
tnx.. this is a very beautiful advice. Hermionegranger: 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by minnato: 7:52pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Mixty: I knew the op was just a child!! #Rubbish |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by yunnyp(m): 8:05pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
i pity the poor niqqa, u used ur stupidity interest to waste someone's time.... why must u accept his proposal when u know u never av feelings for him at all? can u prove to me he never spend a dime on you? my Only advice for you is to tell him and let the big load in your heart reduce.... you are a bitch!!! |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by danielnomzy(m): 8:19pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Tel him u aint interested again on d 15th of Next month...... |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by ladycomfort(f): 8:19pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
OP, tell him you are no longer interested , even if he starts sleeping wiith you, you won't still like him. Guys don't know that there is a difference between sleeping with someone you love and someone you don't love. |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by 2sex(m): 8:33pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
pamellla:hey dumb fvck... repeat after me, "dumb fuvck" 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell Him That I Am Not In Love With Him? by Amberon: 8:45pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
You haven't asked too n questions. Here is what you need to know I like him as. friend and care a lot about him. I don't have feelings for him. I've never imagined us being intimate nor am I sexually attracted to him. I just loved my ex for apparently no reason. It wasn't like he was superhuman or anything, I just had these strong feelings of attraction and selflessness towards him. It wasn't about money or anything of that sort. Definitely not his physical appearance. Love isn't something I can explain. P0intBlank: |
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