Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

wot more can u ask for

pamellla:

u don't date someone out of pity...ur NO should be ur NO! I won't be surprised if in the next few years u com here on NL nd start ranting bout the downfall of ur marriage (I forbid it tho) cox ts crystal clear u don't love d dude, u are only trying to put up with him coz of his persistence...marriage is a challenging institution, you have to think twice bfo venturing into it.

as gud as dis advice sounds ...sis u beta grab DAT dude with four hands.. if he has all dis qualities u mentioned.. if u let him go u myt not find som1 lyk him again he is ur best friend..u said it ur self DT u can nva fall in love again(don't blv DAT sha..u can't predict love) so y not gv some one u knw very well a chance and its certain for u to be best friends u must av crossed d "like stage" so just hold on and wait for d "love" stage

malele:


Felling in love with any girl is a big mistake.
One should only fall for the wife

and how do u fall fall for ur wife if u don't fall for her as a girl first

Amberon:
@ the bolded - exactly, but I think it's the same for both males and females tho.

yeah, I'm sticking with him tho. He recently told me of his dream where we got married and had a baby girl, lol.

@ Bolded That's so cool. There's a lot to love about him. As for it being the same with both males and females, I'm not so sure. At least for me, if I'm in love I can tell you why I am in love. Maybe because men are more logical. Moreover, I don't fall in love, I grow into it.

Too much jambites in the house. Babe just tell him the truth and you will be set free. Valentine is around the corner.

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

Wow!!!!! So you are dating someone out of pity? You do know that its possible to like someone and not love them right?? For goodness sakes, love cannot be forced! Na wa for una naija people.
When would you people learn that not everyone you meet in life is for dating??

firstking01:
@ op, no mind all these bashers...my take is...dnt sign off yet...give it time...love grows...try to look @those lil aspect of his life u admire....truth is, smtin must have attracted you to him in the first place, look more into that tin...a relationship that started like this always end great...allow the love to grow...instant love or love @ firstsight neva works, it fades away with time...i'd categorically tell you that if you go into a relationship because you love the person, i bet the love will diminish with time...relationship is much more than just love.

Wow!!!!! So you are dating someone out of pity?
You do know that its possible to like someone and not love them right?? For goodness sakes, love cannot be forced! Na wa for una naija people.
When would you people learn that not everyone you meet in life is for dating??

Helloflife:
Is it that none of you nairalanders have ever been in this situation before,i need advice and not insults.

Clears throat *** see dis kind girl o, we no dey go out wit babe wen we no love nah...so I go dey friend person wen I no fit tell I love u ...is dat not stupidity sori if I insult u but is d truth

davidif:


Wow!!!!! So you are dating someone out of pity?
You do know that its possible to like someone and not love them right?? For goodness sakes, love cannot be forced! Na wa for una naija people.
When would you people learn that not everyone you meet in life is for dating??

my brother, love is a mystery...there's nothing like loving somebody outa pity...

Love appreciates with time...
So many couples today who are married never loved themselves initially, but as time and nature may have it...they are the best of couples today, i 've read and heard testimonies brother.

sunday2012:
teacher tell us yur status b4 advising someone are u into it already. I mean are u married already. If nt love can grow everybdy she has done well having seeing that no one has crossed theline mark the man she dint love left on her

FYI am not married....but I jst can't comprehend ur statement.

omaigala12:
as gud as dis advice sounds ...sis u beta grab DAT dude with four hands.. if he has all dis qualities u mentioned.. if u let him go u myt not find som1 lyk him again he is ur best friend..u said it ur self DT u can nva fall in love again(don't blv DAT sha..u can't predict love) so y not gv some one u knw very well a chance and its certain for u to be best friends u must av crossed d "like stage" so just hold on and wait for d "love" stage

wanna believe dis is meant for d OP....

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

Please don't open thread after he finally weds someone else.

Your mumu get part 2. I dey pity u already smh.

Helloflife:
Please, i want you all to know i didn't date him for money or any other material gain but because i needed a soulmate at that point in time.


Lalasticlala please i need more valuable advice.

JUST SAY IT....You needed a rebound guy and he came in handy. QED

Better tell him on time so the guy can go get himself a better and reasonable babe!

But make sure you will not come back here and start bugging us to help you out with clues on how to get back your ex.

No time!

JUST try and tell him your ex disturbing you to
accept him back and u are compuse.
he will ask u if u still love ur ex just
answer him by telling him to give u a break
then from there u are a woman u knw
hw to deal with rest.
but be careful as some men cant give up
in relationship. for more advise call this
number i want to kn hw your move is.
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nothing my dear, nothing.

omaigala12:
wot more can u ask for

I don't converse with low-lives. Get a brain!

engrhorla:


No worry..just they thr till ya papa put ya ad for www.olx.com

Next u go hear go be 'buy her'...

I no even knw say plenty pple don tok sense to ya brain b4...no leave d guy o

He go soon see better pikin wey go dey use doremifaso la to sing 'I love u' day and nite....

Someone's giving you an advice but you are talking about low-live!best of luck

Amberon:
I don't converse with low-lives. Get a brain!

Unknown to u, am trying to help u!

Even if u ar so ugly, u can still find love. I swear.

Truth is bitter but I gotta say it...we live for a reason..go for someone you love

Shikena..se fini..lobatan..that's all..le compre!

@op, i will advise you to be patient with him, things may change with time, but after few months without changes, you can allow him to move on.

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Did you just starting dating him in November or you were friends with him before dating? I don't understand why you accepted dating him when you know you didn't love him? Maybe you just met him november and rushed into dating cos it's like the norm

firstking01:
my brother, love is a mystery...there's nothing like loving somebody outa pity...

Love appreciates with time...
So many couples today who are married never loved themselves initially, but as time and nature may have it...they are the best of couples today, i 've read and heard testimonies brother.

Well the same argument can be made against marrying someone out of pity. There are many people today who are married that are miserable and are simply just enduring or managing. The fact that they are still together doesn't mean the quality of there relationship is good so please miss me with that nonsense that "they are the best couples today".
The fact of the matter is that everyone's story and situation is different from the other so there is no single formula for everyone to follow. So please abeg, stop telling people to settle.

davidif:


Well the same argument can be made against marrying someone out of pity. There are many people today who are married that are miserable and are simply just enduring or managing. The fact that they are still together doesn't mean the quality of there relationship is good so please miss me with that nonsense that "they are the best couples today".
The fact of the matter is that everyone's story and situation is different from the other so there is no single formula for everyone to follow. So please abeg, stop telling people to settle.

my brother, love will and can never guarantee good marriage...take it or leapfrog it...it's what i 've experienced, nobi say them say.

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

And now, another guy is taking you for a ride.

I feel you should calm down, take a retrospective thought about your life and you would find an answer.

I broke up of recent with someone because of this reason as well. I find it obligatory to reciprocate his energy which should have come naturally. He so caring and according to him, he loves me, but I don't want to hurt him and the fear of not have feelings for himade me do so

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

How much has he spent on you, since you guys started dating officially?

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

"He advises me like a sister".... Sister kee you there.