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She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by domainservice(m): 8:30am On Feb 02, 2016 |
I would really appreciate sensible comment! Ok take a seat.. I’m engaged to be married soon. My fiancé is a very sensitive person and it’s both a blessing and a curse. His sensitivity makes him caring, thoughtful and sweet, but it also makes him get angry over little things. Right now he is not talking to me, because yesterday he sent me a message which I didn’t reply to. I didn’t notice the message because I wasn’t with my phone for hours and when I finally got back to it, I took a picture and sent it to his WhatsApp. He read the message and saw the picture I sent but didn’t reply. Since I had no idea he was mad at me, I assumed he was busy and would reply in due time. I didn’t want to be a petty and annoying girlfriend by asking why he had read my messages without replying. I wasn’t mindful of the chat above the picture I sent, because I thought they were from our previous conversation. I have apologised to him and explained that if I wanted to ignore his message, I wouldn’t have sent him a picture minutes after he sent me a message. He said he didn’t feel like talking last night and he has been silent, distant and cold to me all day. (He hasn’t read or replied the messages I sent him) He gets angry with me over pointless things and I always find myself apologising for so many things. This makes me look like a constant offender in the relationship. I feel like I deserve more patience from him, considering that I love him with all my heart regardless of all his shortcomings and family drama. His brother is a serial rapist and my fiance has got him arrested twice, once in Nigeria and once in south Africa. His brother managed to bribe the victims families in both cases and got the charges dropped. His brother’s depravity is so bad that he has slept with countless closely related family members and raped a lot of others. I’m still willing to overlook all these because I’m convinced in my heart that we both complement each other. I am relocating to another country to join him, but I still haven’t figured out what to do with my life over there. I’m an artist, a happy go lucky person who isn’t content with just working to make money. I want to be happy with whatever I’m doing. I don’t want to wake up a few years down the line and regret leaving Nigeria. He has made some sacrifices for me too. Moved into a cheaper apartment, made some lifestyle changes in order to save money for our up coming wedding and to have enough to take care of both of us when I join him. Thinking about how he reacts to issues has got me thinking and wondering if most people in the world have got one comma or the other. Perhaps this is his own and I have to help him gradually grow out of it. His behavior and feelings of distrust of me stems from several heartbreaks from women. Does he have to be so sensitive or am I overreacting? |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by prestige2013: 8:31am On Feb 02, 2016 |
Long Epistle, learn to summarize. |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by theunnamed: 8:37am On Feb 02, 2016 |
Bottom line is he gets angry quick, you can't help it But you can apologise and buy him gifts Don't be tired of that And sometimes you too form angry! |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by obiorathesubtle: 8:38am On Feb 02, 2016 |
you're overreacting! Nobody is perfect.. The downside is nothing compared to most.. What's an apology every now and then??.. Except you're filled with pride??! And it doesn't seem like you are... However.. Help your fiance out of the cheap anger foolishness/disease.. Plus.. Your story looks fake |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by fromnigeria(m): 8:39am On Feb 02, 2016 |
Communication... is the key 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by Pucaxo(m): 8:50am On Feb 02, 2016 |
OP nor vex. I didn't read this shiit. |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by madone: 8:52am On Feb 02, 2016 |
he dey vex well well abi lols sensitive people are like that, when u have them as family either as kids, sidling or spouse u av no oda option than to be up class in calmness and understanding. seeing appology as breakfast, lunch and dinner for dem. be slow to speak and watch wat u say to them when,u re angry cos they hardly forget words and gestire they value and read much meaning to this things. if u must be straight wit them to clear your dislike in any issue ensure u choose ur wwords carefully. that doesnt mean u cant get angry oo u can. cos they re swit and quick to appologies too wen they discover they re wrong in a matter.if ur bobo is not talking to u now dont push him just give him some breathing space.am not saying u should distance ur self oo.just explan ursef wen then give him space to calm off. hr ll get over it.just remain loving and sincere . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by madone: 9:37am On Feb 02, 2016 |
prestige2013:help the young lady out.i dont no why its so hard for people to lend a helping hand.it wont take u a 3minute to read the post and say somtin.i aword from u can make a difference. kai 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by madone: 9:39am On Feb 02, 2016 |
Pucaxo:then u shouldnt av written any sh......t 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by Inspectahdeck(m): 9:52am On Feb 02, 2016 |
He will change when you get married. Just insecurity problem from him. Also, please always reply your fiancé's messages on time, because I am sure you expect same from him. Delayed reply gives room for negative thoughts. Finally, the part of his family drama and brother isn't needed. Every family including yours has a problem or two that they deal with so why bring it up? What is your intentions? To get more sympathy or what? Do have a great day. |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by Pucaxo(m): 9:53am On Feb 02, 2016 |
madone: Foolish cretin! Drink water and mind your goddam business. |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by cruzita(f): 10:01am On Feb 02, 2016 |
its not by force to comment when u know u have nothing sensible to say.na wa oooo back to the topic ,op I think you guys should sit down and sort out your problems like adults.like a poster said COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by madone: 9:03pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
Pucaxo:no offence dear, i just realised u are just a minor |
Re: She Needs Your Advice, Come Help A Sister Out by Pucaxo(m): 9:31pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
madone: I'm a minor cos I look cleaner than you eh? Mr. Major, kindly swerve to hell. |
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