they have all spoken well. if you want to assist her please do. If you nurse any ambition of marriage by virtue of sponsorship , you will regret it. the chance are like one in one thousand.

Joavid:


LIAR,!!!!!!

IJEBU, stingy people. ijebu man no fit EVER pay lady school fees. lia lia!!!

Ijebu people stingy...... True! They are enterprising.

joseph1832:
Sometimes I just like the way you reason bro. LOL.

but, boss, on a more serious note, that's the only sure way. marrying her is not enough.......she can drop the ring in her handbag. but with the pregnancy, niggas would stay clear off her. it's even a favour for her coz she'd be enjoying special treatments from lecturers and fellow students

holyokoto:



Beauty or whatever, most of us are mature and understands the Principles of our contemporary time. Any lady that came out Giving false credit to a man He has married to as you are doing in this blog has a serious hidden agenda. No one is jealou.s you before you come to a wrong conclusion. Just that someone like me can't inhale all your fabricated Lies!

Well I didn't create a thread to give Credence to my Hubby...I only commented on a Thread that provided a platform to share my personal experience...
If you feel jealous about the Credence, wait till you get Married. I love my Hubby, im Happily Married, earn well, and a mother at that..so i wonder what hidden agenda i have on a blog like NL.
Not looking for Date...Married
Not Seeking for a Job....Employed
Not In Need of Children... A Mother
Learn To Trust People...Not everyone has an hidden agenda.

FTBOY:
but, boss, on a more serious note, that's the only sure way. marrying her is not enough.......she can drop the ring in her handbag. but with the pregnancy, niggas would stay clear off her. it's even a favour for her coz she'd be enjoying special treatments from lecturers and fellow students

You no do NYSC wey married women dey fling ring inside bag! My brother, the surest way na belle! If not, OYO lo wa o.

Sunnypar:

Rubbish!!! Unilag! Met a guy in service who told me, if he ask the girl which school she attended and she mentions Unilag...... na run him go run..... Truth be told, just few girls are decent in Unilag....... I think about 3% are decent the remaining 97% are club girls. I drove in one night and I had a one night stand with a girl I gave a lift....smh!!!

LOL! we're saying the same thing

Faith111:
Op is ur girl not normally entitled to monthly allowance and basic upkeep? If yes simply increase her alawee to like 30 or 40k and let her do with watevr she wishes with it...I'm sure she'll naturally sort out herself this way and still have a raised shoulder and high self esteem be4 evry1.. The Word TRAIN can be out of ur HEAD since she will necessarily not come to you asking for fee or dues....
If she decides to sacrifice Brazilian for Books with d alawee good for her..

On the other hand knowing her background is what makes u think you gonna train her...If she pretends to be 1 big babe and at the end of the Month calls you for 50k to buy clothes and other stuff, I know you will naturally make immediate transfer to her and tell her to manage it..while the babe will just use the cash to sort her sch Bill..
The problem is Guys don't value Real girls..They prefer Pretenders..

A girl is not "Entitled" to anything save love and concern from her man. And the man is also not "Entitled" to anything save love and respect from his lady. The Word ENTITLEMENT is the problem here. Anything you see as your Entitlement, you'll never be grateful on it; simply because you think its your right.
Any lady or man should be "Appreciative" if her man gives her anything. A woman that not a gold digger will appreciate things done by her sweetheart and not demand it of him. As a man, I learnt NEVER to allow my lady see me as her ATM machine (thank GOD, she's even a bunch on her own). But, sincerely, the fundamental thing a man owes his lady (before she become his wife) is to ensure she reach her full potential not sex, money or such material or ephemeral things.

Faith111:


Calling a Married Woman who gives credence to her hubby the Creature of bitch really means you are mean..You didnt spend a dime on me and you have the courage to type such rubbish. What would you have done if you were the one who sponsored me??I see why you can't have a sincere girl as a date...Seriously, i don't blame guys like you who have no regard for Ladies, i blame the Ladies who are too mean to open their legs cheaply for guys like you...

You can state your opinion without being Rude. TaThanks

I don't remember quoting you..... IDGAF what you think.... U ain't paying my bills

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

every step we take in life is a risk, if u have the money help her, no matter what you we be her hero for life. As for you marring her is 50/50.

FTBOY:
i love her, that's why i've obliged to pay her school fees, but she has to love me back by taking my dick on the regular and bearing my seed

I'm not suprised.

Sunnypar:

You no do NYSC wey married women dey fling ring inside bag! My brother, the surest way na belle! If not, OYO lo wa o.

yeah, but young girls with husbands hardly identify their marital status in public.......so dat dem go fit twist waist and fvck the fine boys around. IRANU!

kaziblake:
I'm not suprised.

I never intended to surprise you, honey

FTBOY:
boss, even UNILAG join....sorry to say this. i've toured that school....u can hardly find a decent girl there. in fact, i've never met a decent girl from UNILAG

FTBOY:
I never intended to surprise you, honey

ok.

Cammo:

That's the problem. I hope to marry her.

Bro abeg, there's no way you would help her and your mind won't be there so, it's either you don't attach your feelings to the help or tell her your plans for her before making any decisions and hear what her reply would be. But you can help her in this case not that you become the one paying her fees all the time. God help you bro!

Toks2008:


Since you are not sefless enough to help her regardless of marriage then marry her first then help her.

Married people go to school but just try to prevent pregnancy.

she would definitely hide that ring. pregnancy can't stop her from learning

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

If you are sure there's mutual love between you and the girl and you are well to do. The best advice I can give you is to propose to her, while you sponsor her. Or you can sponsor her for God's sake. But hoping to marry her because of the sponsorship is actually what nobody, no even her can guarantee you as life is prone to change.

emerged01:
Help her if you have the resources but don't be hopeful you will marry her. Don't do it for her,do it for God. Just don't expect anything good from her in return to prevent heart attack.

exactly. Your head dey there.best advice of the week.just exactly my thought + experience. What a candid advice. Do it and forget what follows.if you end up marrying her,fine.if not, althoug very painful but cool and be wise.Above all,do it for humanity sake and don't stop being good.

bigskygold:
omo don't dream of it
i just finished one now and got the biggest shocker of my life the mother said she can not allow her marry from where i come from ijebu to be precise and she was aware all this while after wasting time and money i don't even know where to start now all my age mate are getting married

so the mom didn't know u were ijebu when u were spending money on her daughter

dahmie2013:
Op, I'm glad u're even contemplating helping her. But pls, don't do it with d objective of marrying her, do it with d objective dat God will reward u in return. D truth is if u don't help her, God will raise sumone who will&u will in turn loose out of d blessings. In dis life, its not always abt us, we shud also help ppl around us if we have d means. A giver's hand is always on top.
I had a personal experience. I was dating a guy den, he works with an oil coy, but I come 4rm a poor home & just finished uni. I have 3 siblings&dey were all still @ skool, so a lot of responsibilities. But cos of d difficulty in gettin a job on time, d guy left me&things were so tough. But I thank God he provided a job 4 me & used me 2 liberate my family. No outsider can come & say but 4 me u ppl wud have suffered bla bla bla. D only person dat takes such glory is God. I must confess it was tough, I made a lot of sacrifices&I'm still making dem, but I tell u it was worth it. Since I started it, I have not lacked anything good, God has been blessing me & I owe my existence&survival 2 him&him alone. I'm not doing it with d obj dat my siblings will be worshiping me or I expect dem 2 be giving me money wen dey start working. I did it, cos I know God will bless me, I saw it as an opportunity 2 be blessed. Don't 4get I'm also not obligated to help dem, I can choose not 2 cos dey are not my responsibilty, dey're my parents'&dey're still alive. I've heard of ppl in my shoes dat chose demselves over deir siblings. All d same, I thank God.
All d best Op!

You can't fault the guy ma'am . You can't! He only decided against shouldering the responsibilities of a whole family which ended up making you a better woman. I'll tell you, if he had decided to shoulder you and your families problems, you guys would have hated each other and you won't be a better you as you have now.
I once dated a lady and her mom floated the idea that her daughter must shoulder the responsibility of her younger siblings and I was unhappy that with my meager salary then someone will table an agenda that will make my prospective future family a recipient of some people's anger when their "Entitlements" are not done (even if we had a huge financial responsibility). In all honesty, I was still ready to go ahead despite that red flag but the young lady also wanna "bargain" for her own terms and conditions both psychological and material apart from that floated by her mom. Interestingly, I gave her an option to be permanently committed( No sex before marriage rules) but she capitulated and the relationship ended. I would have willingly do many things but whenever my "help" is seen as my "duty", I don't take it as duties are compulsory while helps are necessary.

Faith111:
Please! Please!! Please!!!
I am a graduate today because of my Hubby....
He trained me from purchasing my jamb form to my final year project WITHOUT EVER HAVING SEX WITH ME talk less of pregnanting me...
Today I'm pillar in his house and that singular act makes my home a heaven...We've been married for 4yrs nd very soon we'll be counting 3kids..but it all looks like we got married yesteday..Since we got married, things have turned around for both of us...I am now that classical wife even young boys trip 4..I work and earn very well...He earns very well too. Today, I'm proud of him. together we can acquire assets, pay bills and plan as 1...
My hubby gave me the rent his bros gave him so he could hussle for job for my year1 fees n slept in an uncompleted apartment, his salary was 40k and he gladly sends me 25k having nothing but Tfare and a little to eat from the bukka..He would never buy clothes nor shoes for my sake..But today we can give 40k to a needy without itch..
Op please Love believes all things...
My hubby's friends and family envy him and wish they had me 4 a wife without knowing what sacrifice he made in the past...
Follow ur HEART

hmmmm,you are right but dont generalize it oooooo,girls....or people's reliability has dropped to zero these days,op,u urself is the one who can tell abt d type of love existing between you people,if you ar certain(i mean dead certain cos people can pretend,ennnh?,especially wen they are searchin for an "awin ebaoo...." she loves u.you can initiate marrying her now but if she no greed,oyocracy is your caseooo

No risk sir,when she leaves you for the next guy,na dia the risk dey lol!

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

Is there any risk in giving to charity? I tell you there is absolutely no risk. But don't ever think for a second that contributing to her education entitles you to anything if you do that'd be the death of you.

So if you are going to do it at all do it like you would to your biological sister with absolutely no strings. Otherwise you'll just be setting yourself up for "stories that touch" if not high blood pressure.

kaziblake:
I'm not suprised.

why are you surprised? Would you date a man without demanding? Please be truthful.

PLEASE I BEG YOU, DO NOT TRY IT O. I WAS A VICTIM. IF YOU DO IT, YOU WILL NOT ONLY LOOSE AN ELECTION,YOU WILL LOOSE ERECTION.

Sunnypar:

You no do NYSC wey married women dey fling ring inside bag! My brother, the surest way na belle! If not, OYO lo wa o.

He's probably a learner. I can see a snake & stand still but If a woman tell me to wait/stand, I will run wit my legs touching my head.

FTBOY:
so the mom didn't know u were ijebu when u were spending money on her daughter

no mind them,na so my elder bro.,meet one the other time,spent money and time ,everyone don dey hope only for her to start misbehaving afta he paid for her final project,ma brother and every were shocked to deir bile,tell her abt it,if she cant agree to marriage and pregnancy now,oh boy waka,guys don too wakeup to dey form one kind beast of burden for ladies.if u r familiar with ladies we suldnt be telling u all these.

Olabestonic001:


You can't fault the guy ma'am . You can't! He only decided against shouldering the responsibilities of a whole family which ended up making you a better woman. I'll tell you, if he had decided to shoulder you and your families problems, you guys would have hated each other and you won't be a better you as you have now.
I once dated a lady and her mom floated the idea that her daughter must shoulder the responsibility of her younger siblings and I was unhappy that with my meager salary then someone will table an agenda that will make my prospective future family a recipient of some people's anger when their "Entitlements" are not done (even if we had a huge financial responsibility). In all honesty, I was still ready to go ahead despite that red flag but the young lady also wanna "bargain" for her own terms and conditions both psychological and material apart from that floated by her mom. Interestingly, I gave her an option to be permanently committed( No sex before marriage rules) but she capitulated and the relationship ended. I would have willingly do many things but whenever my "help" is seen as my "duty", I don't take it as duties are compulsory while helps are necessary.

More money to your pocket........ Smart move..... I dated a girl like that, that refused to work and wanted me to shoulder her schooling responsibilities.... I adviced her to get a job, she rejected a minimum wage salary, I suffered to do her resume, opened her an email address....I did a lot but unfortunately she did not see it as anything..... As I dey now, even if you want me to help I would refer you to your aunty, uncle and relatives

sukkot:
genesis 24 vs 67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; << SLEPT WITH HER AND SHE BECAME HIS WIFE. SLEEPING WITH A WOMAN YOU DROP A PART OF YOU IN HER THAT STAYS WITH HER FOREVER. YOUR DNA-ANTIGENE-ANTIBODY. THATS THE SEAL. THATS HOW GOD CREATED IT, WHICH IS WHY WOMEN WHO HAVE SE-MEN OF SEVERAL MEN IN THEM ARE CURSED ( MEN ARE CURSED TOO ) UNTIL THEY REPENT AND CHANGE THEIR WAYS. MANY WOMEN ARE WALKING AROUND WITH THE ANTIGENE OF SEVERAL MEN PERMANENTLY ENCODED IN THEIR DNA. THIS WHY THEY LOOK OLD FASTER CUZ ITS CONSTANTLY FIGHTING IN HER SYSTEM

That moment you see a troll quoting the scriptures

kaziblake:
why are you guys discouraging him?

Discouraging or telling him the fact?

I swore in my life time never to date, talkless of marrying a student. My guy, this is how it will end; she will keep giving excuses as to why she can't come home; u will not be able to get her on phone because she will claim her phone ain't good; or that an urgent excursion came up etc. My guy, I have seen it all, I am also a victim. I beg u!!!! Don't try it!! Just end that relationship now and friendzone her. If u want to help her then, no wahala. But still there are some good and faithful ones out there but it's like trying to pick out just a tiny stone among 10,000 bean seed. Thank me later.

TeOwl:
I would help you... you are NOT my friend so I would forget about your case.

I have helped some of my friends that are UniAbuja students without expecting anything... they are guys, I don't even call them.

It is COMPLETELY different when you are in love with a girl and you are spending money with the EXPECTATION that in the future you would marry her and she would be faithful to you.

*Expectation* That's the keyword. There's nothing more heartbreaking that disappointment from a lover