drnairalov:
still remember this topic ,one of the well written topic on Nl killjoy i sight u

killjoy:

brainwash you say? such a poor choice of words

killjoy:



please read the book, if not to gain knowledge about the schemes and wiles the "matriarchal system employ in 'stretching a man's balls'", then read it for it's erudition, originality and humor.

I assure you, you won't regret the time spent.

slim49z:
Great post! I had to break up with my gf(now ex) because she's always nagging about getting married.

The only thing she talks about each time we're together is how this suitor and that suitor is coming for her.

At last I couldn't take it any longer and told her to go get married to her damn suitors and leave me alone and that marriage is the last thing on my mind now.

Who the hell wants to get married anyway when the time could be spent making more money huh?

LordReed:


Getting married didn't stop Zuckerberg from becoming a billionaire. This is just a lame excuse, there are better reasons.

slim49z:
Great post! I had to break up with my gf(now ex) because she's always nagging about getting married.

The only thing she talks about each time we're together is how this suitor and that suitor is coming for her.

At last I couldn't take it any longer and told her to go get married to her damn suitors and leave me alone and that marriage is the last thing on my mind now.

Who the hell wants to get married anyway when the time could be spent making more money huh?

killjoy:


there is this type of fallacy you guys are guilty of time and time again. it's called:

Survivorship bias – when a small number of survivors of a given process are actively promoted while completely ignoring a large number of failures.

don't act like there are not millions of men out there who are far from productive "because they are married". if you can spend the rest of your life with a selfish nagging creature who thinks only of herself and can still make it in life, by all means, go ahead. good luck

LordReed:


LoL who told you to hang out with selfish nagging creatures? The female billionaires who are married are not making money abi?

LoL I point out a couple of role models for your "I want to make money" bs and you hide your head under "survivorship bias", isn't it obvious your problem is not marriage?

LoL anyway keep deceiving yourself that it is marriage that will be your only obstacle to wealth.

killjoy:



when a woman starts nagging about marriage, it shows, most of the time, how tired she is of taking responsibility for herself and how she can't wait to push all her problems on her unsuspecting prey. for better for worse indeed.

slim49z:


I'm gonna tell you a lil story..

I got me this friend of mine working some peanut job and the gf then too is working some job of around 50k per month.

Then suddenly the gf starts getting a boatload of suitors..the rich and the poor, the lame and the wise..

My friend gets cold feet and feels he's about to loose the girl..I told him so what?..I know you love her and shit,but if she wants to get married then let her.

He said no that he cant let her go that he would marry her then, afterall she's working too and they can always combine. Poo talk!

He talk it over with her gf and they agree to get married. They got married eventually, but the guy lost his peanut job not long afterwards..too bad.

Then he starts asking the girl(now wife) for money while he hunts around for another job.

Know what the wife told him onetime? That if he thinks she's gonna be sharing her salary with him, then he had better think again! So much for better for worse..nonsensical nonsence!

The worst part is that each time he hangs out with us 'singles' where we discuss business plus pleasure, the wife asks him why he's hanging out us, that he shouldn't be useless, that he should be useful by looking for job. Another Poo talk!

So tell me Lordreed, what do you make of this real life story?

LordReed:


The only thing this validates is there are shitty people in this world. I don't have the patience to pull up the many stories from women who supported their husbands when the going was bad only to be abandoned when it got good. There are shitty drivers who cause accidents so do you propose we stop driving all together or is there a better way to solve that dilemma?

Ruq:
Killjoy if you do eventually have a child or children how do you suppose they be raised?

slim49z:


Way to solve this dilemma? Life is much more less complex and freer when you don't commit to a particular woman.

What drives me nuts is the African mentality that every man is supposed to get married.

I think the high time men starts making marriage decisions based on how they feel and not how the society feels, the better for everybody.

LordReed:


Which is why I said the "l won't marry because I want to make money" is a rubbish reason. Don't get married because you don't feel it is right for you. That is great marriage is not for everyone. But don't deceive yourself that marriage is the barrier to your becoming rich which is a rubbish reason.

slim49z:


The thing is, when you get married, you start playing careful. You don't take as many risks as you would normally when it comes to making money if you were single.

In addition, marriage can certainly make a man unhappy..look around you. The number of failed marriages is much more greater than the number of successful ones.

What most men do these days is get marrield to satisfy the societal urge, then keep a lot of mistresses outside to keep their sanity in check. Believe me, marriage can really drive someone crazy.

LordReed:


I really don't like arguing with statistics as a basis but here read this:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2015/04/02/dont-be-a-bachelor-why-married-men-work-harder-and-smarter-and-make-more-money/

slim49z:


I read your statistics. Married men become more responsible..blah blah blah..but does that account for why many men detest going home to their 'lovely' wives after work? No or you got a statistics for that one too? I'd be happy to read!

killjoy:



when a woman starts nagging about marriage, it shows, most of the time, how tired she is of taking responsibility for herself and how she can't wait to push all her problems on her unsuspecting prey. for better for worse indeed.

slim49z:


The thing is, when you get married, you start playing careful. You don't take as many risks as you would normally when it comes to making money if you were single.

In addition, marriage can certainly make a man unhappy..look around you. The number of failed marriages is much more greater than the number of successful ones.

What most men do these days is get marrield to satisfy the societal urge, then keep a lot of mistresses outside to keep their sanity in check. Believe me, marriage can really drive someone crazy.

Allboiz:
Guys... go and read "The Manipulated Man" by Villar Ester and see how we are being maniputed to do what women want. It was written by a female as u can see. Enjoy and Learn!!!

andromida:


Like any venture in life some people will succeed and many will fail.

Anything can drive anyone crazy. Being broke can drive one crazy, being ill can break your spirit. Losing someone you care about can break your heart. Many happenings in life can drive you crazy. Marriage is just one of them.

Anyway I see no reason why anyone should marry if they don't want to people should stop blaming society it's the urge within themselves that drives them to marry.

slim49z:


You think the society don't push a man to get married? No swthrt, our African soceity does, quite unlike what's obtainable in the Western world. I have lived in Europe before, so I should know.

LordReed:


I am sure you do but that was not the point. Let's see if I can be clearer.

1. Marriage is not a barrier to financial wealth.

2. You don't have to marry if you don't want to.

Are these 2 points clear enough for you?

slim49z:


Marriage is not a barrier to Financial wealth in its entriety, but somehow it does. Look at it this way; You got a once in a lifetime opportunity that requires you spending at least 2 yrs or more outside the country. Being a single dude, I can just jet off in the next available flight, but married?...

LordReed:


Not a very good example. I know of no country where you legally get a job and will refuse your spouse entry. Heck even terrorists have used it as a means to get across borders.

Listen let's be honest there is no human relationship system that isn't froth with advantages and disadvantages. I get it, marriage to you is one big disadvantage. No problem, don't marry. But here is the rub no need to cook up the disadvantages that are frankly very subjective. Google "singles are more prone to suicide" so you know that what you are advocating isn't without its risks. But all of that is just words because each person must decide how their life will be lived. You want to be single, go ahead it's your life. Don't allow another person's experience be the sole determinant for what you are going to be and do.